FabSwingers.com forum: Are we too tame? We want soft swap/same room/FF

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm the Mrs and I've had some experiences with a woman and definitely want more (not for hubby's sake either lol).

We're not looking for full swap as we're a couple and want to keep full penetration to just ourselves.

We find there's still lots of fun to be had

We have put this on our profile but some message us asking what we mean by soft?

What do you think in here? Do you think we're too tame for most? Is our profile vague or to the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm the Mrs and I've had some experiences with a woman and definitely want more (not for hubby's sake either lol).

We're not looking for full swap as we're a couple and want to keep full penetration to just ourselves.

We find there's still lots of fun to be had

We have put this on our profile but some message us asking what we mean by soft?

What do you think in here? Do you think we're too tame for most? Is our profile vague or to the point?

Your profile is fine but different folk have different definitions of soft swap. Maybe just a sentence explaining what you mean by it?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Seems quite clear to me, but the legal disclaimer at the bottom is completely pointless... even the FAQs on the site say so.

You seem to be doing ok by the veris. Its maybe a narrower market for what you seek, but there are others looking for the same.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks both. Updated the profile. What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are trying their luck basically, the know what soft means no daubt.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Reads fine and no you are not too tame. It's noones business what you want, so long as you are happy.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

You mention "with couples" what you are looking for... but not for single females... is it only fem-fem play for them too?

Perhaps more of a "We are looking for" rather than a with couples... make it very clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we started out as a soft play couple - everything bar penetration with anybody but each other- this was because we weren't sure of our feelings seeing each other with other people - prepare to be surprised we have now even played with a straight couple - times and boundaries change but nothing wrong in it at all xx have fun is why we are here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You mention "with couples" what you are looking for... but not for single females... is it only fem-fem play for them too?

Perhaps more of a "We are looking for" rather than a with couples... make it very clear."

Thanks ladybee, changed it again lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we started out as a soft play couple - everything bar penetration with anybody but each other- this was because we weren't sure of our feelings seeing each other with other people - prepare to be surprised we have now even played with a straight couple - times and boundaries change but nothing wrong in it at all xx have fun is why we are here "

Yes, I love seeing him with another woman knowing how good it is what he's doing to her

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I love seeing him with another woman knowing how good it is what he's doing to her

lol"

was surprisingly easy to play with a single fem - im never sat back watching him and her as we always play as a 3sum

but was a hug step to play full with another bloke in the mix - was special friends that we took that step with

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Your profile is good as is your attitude. Not too far out at all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, I love seeing him with another woman knowing how good it is what he's doing to her

lol

was surprisingly easy to play with a single fem - im never sat back watching him and her as we always play as a 3sum

but was a hug step to play full with another bloke in the mix - was special friends that we took that step with"

I've never sat back and watched him with a woman, we've always been two couples together so when I saw him doing what he was doing, I was, ahem, busy at the time too lol

I'd like some alone time with a fem though so him wanting to watch works for us too lol. I find that in a foursome scenario I can't really concentrate on the woman as the men's hands are everywhere lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only soft swap and ff too. Do what is best for you. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only soft swap and ff too. Do what is best for you. Xx"

It's all about fun and feeling comfy if this is what your happy with dont change to accommodate others ? If they like your profile they will come lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We only soft swap and ff too. Do what is best for you. Xx

It's all about fun and feeling comfy if this is what your happy with dont change to accommodate others ? If they like your profile they will come lol x"

Sounds like Field of Dreams lol

" Build it and they will come "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you're asking for is really quite a common preference. It's a shame that some who want to go further will try and imply that you're not 'serious' or that people like you are an annoyance. (If so, we are too).

What's also clear is that many will just go with the flow and the extent of play is just an organic thing at that time. After all even full swap couples can bail out whenever they want, it's called consensual.

I think to put this in perspective, we've been to clubs a dozen times now and we see just as many couples playing solely with their own partners as we do any full swapping. Exhibitionists, voyeurs, group sex, soft play and full swapping, all looking for people just like them. Just have faith that they're out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only soft swap and ff too. Do what is best for you. Xx

It's all about fun and feeling comfy if this is what your happy with dont change to accommodate others ? If they like your profile they will come lol x

Sounds like Field of Dreams lol

" Build it and they will come ""

Exactly no one will chat if they don't like what your after lol x

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