FabSwingers.com forum: Verification v non verified

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i find it quite interesting in the fact that you need to be verified to be contacted by most members on here but those that you have met cannot be bothered to verify you, it's a bit elitist and like the old cliche that you can't work here unless you have experience but can't get experience unless you have worked here.

Yes I understand that there are those that choose not to answer but in general it is a sort of classism where we have the toys and decide who will join in our games. There are the double standards whereby you get criticised for not displaying a face pic,(when I always reply with a face pic)and the people who do the criticising have no face pic either, just a bland ass shot or crotch shot, looks go both ways you know. There are also the complainers who put so many restrictions in their posts that you would need to be an X man to fulfill them and then theses people complain that their meet never showed. For heavens sake people, look at your own profile before critising mine and remember what it was like when you joined this site. I expect I will get grief for posting this but hey ho, some people's attitudes need addressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Swinging is supposed to be fun. If you dont like no one is forcing you to stay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Swinging is supposed to be fun. If you dont like no one is forcing you to stay."
i have been swinging for four years and know it is fun but there are elements on here that treat it as a special service for them only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Swinging is supposed to be fun. If you dont like no one is forcing you to stay. i have been swinging for four years and know it is fun but there are elements on here that treat it as a special service for them only.

Well if you have been swinging for years you know the score and won't have any problem getting verified. Carry on doing what you have been doing. Other sites are the same and this one will not change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

I am not expecting the site to change, peoples attitudes need changing. an Adult swing club is what it says, not a site for petulant people who decide policies like our government. and Yes, I have been swinging for years and no I do not treat it like a private consortium, all I am saying is if you meet you should get verified and not have it hung over your head like a carrot to a donkey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

I decide my own policies (I prefer to call them preferences) does that make me petulant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Good luck.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I have been in the scene 10 years but on here for 5, though I still keep in contact with swingers who did not move here by social networks as they have droppedof scene.

I have a few veri's but that it because I tend to onky go clubbing every couple of months rather than all the time, which works for me. If I do meet someone in a club I do try and leave a veri if I can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been in the scene 10 years but on here for 5, though I still keep in contact with swingers who did not move here by social networks as they have droppedof scene.

Thank you for reading and replying. It seems on here that some members take it as their own personal store front and DO NOT live up to their own demands. I think that this sometimes needs addressing so others get a proper chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll leave the same answer as on your other identical thread.

When I first joined being unvarified didn't matter.....I just got on till I found a meet and it was all very wonderful...and of course o I got my veri.....that's when I got a phone call, welcoming me into the fab elite! I was taken to a ceremony in London that only the verifieds could attend and I was given the choice of ten maidens that very night ans in celebration the verifieds loosed their clothes and there was a tumultuous orgy beyond description that night....even the site supporters came down from their thrones and joined the throng of sweating heaving bodies (giving myself a hardon writing this) untill all were thrashing and flailing upon a floor of female ejaculate and semen.......it was a glorious night and now I only share sex with those of the green tick.

Or alternately......I got my veri and it made no difference at all and I still have to work just as hard at meeting people.....

You pick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow.....I was a lot more sarcastic on this thread than your other one hey....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you mean live up to their own demands?

Bear with me...I haven't slept yet...but an example would be cool?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris. ... Trip Advisor for shags.. we have them , don't display them. Sometimes we leave them oftentimes we don't and vicky vircka. . Sometimes they get left and sometimes they don't. Who gives a rat's ?

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By *ighlandguy1000Man
over a year ago

Inverness

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Swinging is supposed to be fun. If you dont like no one is forcing you to stay."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the person you met found the meet memorable . . You'll generally get a veri. Maybe yours just aren't always anything to write home about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the person you met found the meet memorable . . You'll generally get a veri. Maybe yours just aren't always anything to write home about "

Perhaps theirs weren't either,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay little attention to veris. I hate explicit ones, they kind of put me off, so do hundreds. To me, they are to say the person is who they say they are, not a review of someone's sexual performance. I've been mucked about by well verified people and had great meets with non verified people. At the end of the day, I'll make my own mind up about a person.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Just because you meet someone that doesn't give you an automatic pass for a verification.

Some people don't put verifications for many reasons, one being they would rather not put anything as the meet was rubbish etc.

How many people would show verifications if they wasn't shown in a good light??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure being a verified single man on here helps more than not being one. Therefore if you're finding it a bit of a catch 22 then use fabs in conjunction with a club / social meet. That way you can be verified as genuine and build up a social network at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First guy we had a threesome with was terrible: he fucked for - quite literally - two minutes, so hard and badly that he made Jane bleed - then came and left.

He asked for a verification.

He didn't get it: that wouldn't have seemed right for other Fab members

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First guy we had a threesome with was terrible: he fucked for - quite literally - two minutes, so hard and badly that he made Jane bleed - then came and left.

He asked for a verification.

He didn't get it: that wouldn't have seemed right for other Fab members

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a couple of unverified guys over the time I've been here. I can't verify them, they can't verify me, doesn't seem to be a problem to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've arranged to meet unverified members before, not just single guys, a couple too. They didnt turn up, therefore we now only meet those verified by a meet. Still not a sure thing, and we get abuse by some for it, but it's our choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care about verifications that much. And not bothered about the whole verified thing.

But what intrigues me is this whole giving people a chance thing? If people want to use the site in a certain way that works for them why be bothered about it?

Are you able to explain what you mean by giving chances? Do you mean by this for people to lower their expectations from a meet?

We have certain standards but nothing out the ordinary rules of attraction and will never take one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a couple of unverified guys over the time I've been here. I can't verify them, they can't verify me, doesn't seem to be a problem to be honest."

Same here. I would have missed a few great meets if I'd stuck to verified guys only.

Maybe some people just use it as a way of reducing the number of messages they receive or a convenient way of letting someone down gently. Which is fine too, it's how they want to do things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't care about verifications that much. And not bothered about the whole verified thing.

But what intrigues me is this whole giving people a chance thing? If people want to use the site in a certain way that works for them why be bothered about it.

Are you able to explain what you mean by giving chances? Do you mean by this for people to lower their expectations from a meet?

We have certain standards but nothing out the ordinary rules of attraction and will never take one for the team.

Please do not get me wrong, there are quite a few of the ladies and couples on here that will not entertain anyone without verification, therefore is it not a reasonable request or expectation that you will get a verification somewhere along the line or do we just become the whim of someone who just wants you to be there for them?, if couples or Ladies expect you to have a veri then they should be prepared to do this for others as well.It is just a point of observation,

I am sorry that some disrespectful people abuse this but they should be reported to FAB and either be banned or warned about their conduct.

I do not and never have expected anyone to do anything for the team or against their will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a profile with verifications. Now I have a new profile with no verifications. It doesn't make any difference other than the inability to contact certain members. So what though? You're still the same person behind the profile so what's the big deal?

Some people think being verified makes you safer, or a better bet because they think you're legit. Other don't. I personally don't.

One meeting with one person could be good, but I've met verified members who were awful, dull, self satisfied, unpleasant etc but had great verifications from other people = everyone is different and should be taken at face value.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont just meet anyone why would I, seeing as I have made that mistake in the past and have learned from it so now I only meet men with verifications only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to have a profile with verifications. Now I have a new profile with no verifications. It doesn't make any difference other than the inability to contact certain members. So what though? You're still the same person behind the profile so what's the big deal?

Some people think being verified makes you safer, or a better bet because they think you're legit. Other don't. I personally don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care about verifications that much. And not bothered about the whole verified thing.

But what intrigues me is this whole giving people a chance thing? If people want to use the site in a certain way that works for them why be bothered about it?

Are you able to explain what you mean by giving chances? Do you mean by this for people to lower their expectations from a meet?

We have certain standards but nothing out the ordinary rules of attraction and will never take one for the team. "

We dont care much for verifications either.

But we use them to filter people from messaging us.

Most meets/fun time have come by way of club and parties - tbh we've found sites like this are very hard to get actual meets from.

We use it more for keeping in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only allow verified men to contact me. It's a filter that the site provides for everyone to use if they wish. I have my own reasons for using this filter and I'm not about to change that for anyone and I don't feel the need to explain why either.

If people are really that worried about not being verified then why not ask the people you have on your friends list to meet for a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people have been on here for a few weeks and have no veris then fair enough. However, if they've been on for a year and still don't have any veris (or meets) I tend to be a little more cautious, but would still chat.

I met a couple a while ago who had been on over a year but didn't have any meets, however, after chatting to them it became clear why. We met and had a brilliant night!

Communication is the key for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only allow verified men to contact me. It's a filter that the site provides for everyone to use if they wish. I have my own reasons for using this filter and I'm not about to change that for anyone and I don't feel the need to explain why either.

If people are really that worried about not being verified then why not ask the people you have on your friends list to meet for a social."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care about verifications that much. And not bothered about the whole verified thing.

But what intrigues me is this whole giving people a chance thing? If people want to use the site in a certain way that works for them why be bothered about it?

Are you able to explain what you mean by giving chances? Do you mean by this for people to lower their expectations from a meet?

We have certain standards but nothing out the ordinary rules of attraction and will never take one for the team.

We dont care much for verifications either.

But we use them to filter people from messaging us.

Most meets/fun time have come by way of club and parties - tbh we've found sites like this are very hard to get actual meets from.

We use it more for keeping in touch."

Same here we have two veri's to prove we are real and leave it as that. Primarily use it to stay in touch and arrange club meets or parties. When we patiently explain this to people it's often met with a volley of abuse about how we should not be on here as it's not Facebook or that it's not fair if people who we have never met before can't come to a party and why not give people a chance???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see no point in veris these days - most men leave explicit details of meets, and that's a turn-off to me, and there are some men who will verify new women even without meeting in the hope they might get some action because of it.

Perhaps the veri system would work better without the ability to leave long essays about what blokes did to women on meets...Me? I ignore them, not that arsed about whether I collect them or not - and women with pages of them are definitely a turn-off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care about verifications that much. And not bothered about the whole verified thing.

But what intrigues me is this whole giving people a chance thing? If people want to use the site in a certain way that works for them why be bothered about it?

Are you able to explain what you mean by giving chances? Do you mean by this for people to lower their expectations from a meet?

We have certain standards but nothing out the ordinary rules of attraction and will never take one for the team.

We dont care much for verifications either.

But we use them to filter people from messaging us.

Most meets/fun time have come by way of club and parties - tbh we've found sites like this are very hard to get actual meets from.

We use it more for keeping in touch.

Can see that.. it's why we removed all our pics, interests and "looking fors".. by doing that we hardly appear on any site searches.

We rarely get messages now.. but when we do they are usually for a good reason from friends re club meets or parties, than just random "testing the water" type messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i find it quite interesting in the fact that you need to be verified to be contacted by most members on here but those that you have met cannot be bothered to verify you, it's a bit elitist and like the old cliche that you can't work here unless you have experience but can't get experience unless you have worked here.

Your attitude would be a good place to start.

6 weeks in and if the site isn't working how you expect it, then maybe the problem is as much you as other people.

Al my meets have been fantastic, and I have been left great verifications. Somehow I manage to charm ladies who would otherwise be out of my league, only meet locals, don't meet married men etc etc. I haven't got platinum membership so I don't have the instashag pass that you seem to expect.

re-align your expectations. If you were a woman with hundreds of horny guys chasing your ass, I suspect you would become more discerning and would use the site as you saw fit to sort the wheat from the chaff.

As an experiment, change your profile to bi and see how many blokes flood to your door, then determine the best way to deal with it.

Whining on the forums doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they should be scrapped, they seem to cause more problems than anything else. Some seem obsessed by them, too many, not enough, desperate to get one etc. Maybe there should just be a tick box to say someone has met you and confirms you're who you say you are and there is just the meet summary on display.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i am looking to meet i tend to only meet people who are verified,as i use this as another filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think they should be scrapped, they seem to cause more problems than anything else. Some seem obsessed by them, too many, not enough, desperate to get one etc. Maybe there should just be a tick box to say someone has met you and confirms you're who you say you are and there is just the meet summary on display."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't care about verifications that much. And not bothered about the whole verified thing.

But what intrigues me is this whole giving people a chance thing? If people want to use the site in a certain way that works for them why be bothered about it?

Are you able to explain what you mean by giving chances? Do you mean by this for people to lower their expectations from a meet?

We have certain standards but nothing out the ordinary rules of attraction and will never take one for the team.

We dont care much for verifications either.

But we use them to filter people from messaging us.

Most meets/fun time have come by way of club and parties - tbh we've found sites like this are very hard to get actual meets from.

We use it more for keeping in touch.

We do that too (on our couples profile). Rarely meet people from here, we prefer real life parties and clubs.

I'm crap online anyway, I always say something dumb and put people off. He does the mailing for meets.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I have left the first verifications for guys who I have met in clubs. Well, for most of them anyway

The ones I did not verify are not because they do not exist. But because I thought it was better not to say anything than to say something not quite so nice

I however agree with the last poster. Verifications should simply verify the sex of the member. This applies mostly to females and to a certain extent, to couples as there are not many women prentending to me men here. Other than that, I can't see what difference a verification makes. What I think was a heavenly experience might be rubbish for someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me too last year, met and fucked someone of here and they didn't leave a veri. I gues she was married and wanted to be discreet lol, but yes I agree they should scrap the how many you meet and veris here, it would be a nicer place all in all

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Not everybody leaves me a veri but it doesn't bother me at all, and I don't start imagining it to be a sign of double standards or whatever it is that seems to be bothering the OP.

The same applies to sending messages and getting no reply....that's the way the site operates. Deal with it.

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

We've set our filters to block any non verified people. That's photo verified. We don't insist on verified by meet as we understand everyone has to start somewhere. We've met quite a few guys/couples at clubs who weren't members on here but joined soon afterwards, we verified them as soon as they joined and don't always get one back in return. Doesn't bother us in the least, we have enough

We meet most fortnight's but haven't got a veri since Sept but we're not bothered about that either.

Being verified by meet doesn't prove who you are and what you're like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the person that counts not what a nameless person has supposedly typed about them that counts.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I haven't had a new verification in ages although I have had some lovely meets in the last few months. I never think to ask for one plus I kind of like floating under the radar in terms of who I've met. I exist. Surely that's all anyone needs to know. And I too have met unverified people. Everyone has to start somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show mine as I don't really like people being able to see who I'm meeting. But hopefully the summary indicates I'm probably real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't show mine as I don't really like people being able to see who I'm meeting. But hopefully the summary indicates I'm probably real. "

I agree. As I said earlier, I think the summary is all you need. I never read people's veri's anyway, prefer to make my own mind up about a person.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Interesting to note that the people without verifications are unanimous in saying the verification system should be abandoned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have preferences because it's what they want, generally guys don't read profiles anyway therefore think they know best,and from our experience everyone we've met we've verified, maybe there's a reason why they haven't verified you. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting to note that the people without verifications are unanimous in saying the verification system should be abandoned.

I have 10 and think they should be got rid of, the summary is all you need, just a tick box to say you've met and verify they are who they say they are.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've met many non-verified men and been their first verification. In fact I've verified them and not got one back, thus enforcing my thought that they only met me to get their verification.

I keep my face pics private because I want to. I choose who I meet from how they look and how they write their profile. If we then click then bonus! But I'm not meeting one on one as much anymore. If I get horny I go to a club - less likely to get let down there (although not 100% certain of a shag at a club either these days).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veri review trip advisor it's all the same you say you've met and not got a veri politely ask for one if its a no think back to that nigh/day and ask yourself how you think it went ?

Everyone is different a veri is generally used as a guid line not a 100%factual representation of the person

So pick your toys up stop stamping your feet and get on with it all your doing hear is ranting and raving about how stuck up people are not a good look

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

carshalton

I generally don't do veri's, and I no longer do clubs (chronically shy and find them a little cliquey) but some of the points raised by OP have been fully borne out by some of the replies.

It can be a frustrating game when you think you find someone who might be perfect for you but you can't message them due to age/skin colour/restraining orders etc. Such is life, their loss, be magnanimous and move on. There is a much higher percentage of rude and arrogant people on fabs than on other site, it's free after all.. It pains me to say it but if it's winding you up, move on.

My mantra would always be as per my current status 'Be nice to people, it's free' We can't all be 'keepers'

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very fussy about who I meet but what someone does with someone else might not be what they do with you. I've met many non verified people in the past and most have been great meets. I chat a lot to a potential meet first to get to know them a bit then have a social so I know we'll get on if we get to the fun bit. I prefer to make my own mind up about someone, not be guided by what some stranger on a website says about them. I guess you'll never please everyone so do whatever works best for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm extremely fussy. So I'd much rather make my own mind up, not go off what someone else I don't know says, so I ignore what they've written and judge for myself in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm extremely fussy. So I'd much rather make my own mind up, not go off what someone else I don't know says, so I ignore what they've written and judge for myself in person."

I'm glad I'm not alone in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you would be wasting a lot of time meeting people you didn't like though, how can you tell what they are like if you havnt seen their verifications and seen the ones they have left for others. its ok if your not fussy about who you meet I suppose."
So what your saying is that you wont fancy the same person, if he don't got a veri, then if he did have a veri? They are still the same person lol

No veris don't make you less genuine than someone with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, but lots of men will seem nice when you meet them, doesn't mean they are though.

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

carshalton

Half the veri's I read seriously put me off the person I'm viewing, a 'likes' tick box a'la face book would suffice. I really don't wanna know if the beautiful woman I am viewing sucks like a dyson, or is wetter than a bucket of fish. I'm a grown up, I'll decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, but lots of men will seem nice when you meet them, doesn't mean they are though."

And just because someone you don't know and have never met that has probably only met them once says they're nice doesn't mean they are. If someone meets a guy for a social or for fun just the once and says they're nice, they might not be, same thing, but by reading their veri you will meet them based on it.

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

carshalton

'Ok, but lots of men will seem nice when you meet them, doesn't mean they are though.'

Same applies to women I'm afraid, can we just say 'people' and not differentiate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, but lots of men will seem nice when you meet them, doesn't mean they are though.

Yes I know but you get an idea about someone by reading the verifications they have left for others, it wouldn't matter so much if I was meeting people at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also i like to see who they have met before me because i don't want to meet men who have met certain people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can talk all night long about verified, non verified, prefrences ect ect. We have had meets from

verified non verifiend ppl does not make a diffrence in the slightest.Would be more to the point that if we like what we saw then you can only ask. If the people/person u ask then are not intrested for whatever reason ie, prefrence, what you look like,blah blah blah then move on and dont take it too seriously. My rant or whatever you would like to call it is over.

P.S This msg is not aimed at anyone just our view have fun or keep talking about not having fun much love to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are just one 'tool' people use in deciding on who to meet. The rationale behind this being that those who are verified are more likely to be genuine than those that have no one.

Yes this is a flawed system but is better than nothing, the only comment we would have on this are webcam verifications which just indicate that the person exists but does not indicate that they are swingers, they could just be exhibitionists and as such we think these verifications should be discontinued.

What we find disturbing is the idea that the OP states that certain people on here need their attitudes addressing.

Who does the OP think he is, why should he be the arbitrator of peoples attitudes?

If you don't like something move on, keep looking until you do.

Everyone is free to choose how they want to behave on here. Live and let live, don't try and change others to suit your own ideals, even if they appear to contradict themselves.

Just have fun and if you aren't having any, keep trying until you do.

To complain about something like this appears to us as a waste of energy that could be put into finding the fun you are after.

Be nice, as the saying goes, you will catch more flies with sugar than shit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what works for you and let others do the same. No point stressing about things that are outside of your control.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Many thanks to everyone for their comments,

it certainly is a split and it does go some way to show that verifications are not necessarily a given requirement.

I hope you all have fun and wish you a Happy New Year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Half the veri's I read seriously put me off the person I'm viewing, a 'likes' tick box a'la face book would suffice. I really don't wanna know if the beautiful woman I am viewing sucks like a dyson, or is wetter than a bucket of fish. I'm a grown up, I'll decide

Going to add that to my profile.

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

carshalton

Going to add that to my profile.

Oh please do, I love some humour on this frumpy up itself site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to add that to my profile.

Oh please do, I love some humour on this frumpy up itself site

Frumpy! Adding that too...

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By *entleBeastMan
over a year ago

carshalton

" Frumpy! Adding that too..."

I know loads of words I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to add that to my profile.

Oh please do, I love some humour on this frumpy up itself site

you say frumpy and up itself like its a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to add that to my profile.

Oh please do, I love some humour on this frumpy up itself site

you say frumpy and up itself like its a bad thing.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

if you meet you should get verified."

I have been using this site for seven years. Never in my life have I needed the opinion of total strangers to decide who to take to bed. I use my own judgment.

I've met many "like minded" people: those unverified having a blast. Being verified doesn't mean automatically everyone is going to be queueing up to shag you!

I don't ask or seldom give verifications. As an aside, I met my partner on Fab a year ago...unverified!

This site is for finding fun playmates. The fact you think people MUST verify says more about your sense of entitlement than anything.

Get over yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you meet you should get verified.

I have been using this site for seven years. Never in my life have I needed the opinion of total strangers to decide who to take to bed. I use my own judgment.

I've met many "like minded" people: those unverified having a blast. Being verified doesn't mean automatically everyone is going to be queueing up to shag you!

I don't ask or seldom give verifications. As an aside, I met my partner on Fab a year ago...unverified!

This site is for finding fun playmates. The fact you think people MUST verify says more about your sense of entitlement than anything.

Get over yourself!

Very well said.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Interesting to note that the people without verifications are unanimous in saying the verification system should be abandoned.

I'm verified and think they should be got rid off. This was the first site I encountered with such a system. People on other sites manage to meet without it funnily enough!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

One mans meat...

Years ago I met a man with glowing verifications. I met him socially. He walked ahead of me into the pub and didn't hold the door for me. He strode to the bar and ordered himself a drink. When I tackled him about it, his response? This ain't a date love!

Needless to say I didn't stay and he had the nerve to text me asking what he did wrong!

Taking the opinions of total strangers is ludicrous and lazy. Do your own research and formulate your own opinion.

I personally can't see the correlation between using other peoples opinion to using your own as not being fussy.

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over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I pay little attention to veris. I hate explicit ones, they kind of put me off, so do hundreds. To me, they are to say the person is who they say they are, not a review of someone's sexual performance. I've been mucked about by well verified people and had great meets with non verified people. At the end of the day, I'll make my own mind up about a person."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well we all know verifications are just a guide to give you some idea about a person, and that men aren't the same with everyone they meet because they may not like you as much as their last meet and their last meet may have been easily pleased.

One of the best things about fab swingers is the verification system so I hope they don't get rid of it.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"well we all know verifications are just a guide to give you some idea about a person, and that men aren't the same with everyone they meet because they may not like you as much as their last meet and their last meet may have been easily pleased.

One of the best things about fab swingers is the verification system so I hope they don't get rid of it."

I can just imagine the outcry if it were seriously suggested that it might be scrapped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the best things about fab swingers is the verification system so I hope they don't get rid of it.

I can just imagine the outcry if it were seriously suggested that it might be scrapped"

Yep, all those who are constantly bragging about how many they have in a kind of look at me way would be mortified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the best things about fab swingers is the verification system so I hope they don't get rid of it.

I can just imagine the outcry if it were seriously suggested that it might be scrapped

Yep, all those who are constantly bragging about how many they have in a kind of look at me way would be mortified

Don't have to brag about them if you have photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont read veris tbh its all bullshit anyway who displays are shit veri who leaves them lol

half of them turn my stomach "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked."

I knew what you meant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked.

I knew what you meant!"

didnt mean you i removed comment adter you quoted it... But aleays get some smart arse have an opinon on how something doesnt make fuck all sense lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked.

I knew what you meant!

didnt mean you i removed comment adter you quoted it... But aleays get some smart arse have an opinon on how something doesnt make fuck all sense lol"

ahh i give up im wank at messaging on this phone lol

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked.

I knew what you meant!

didnt mean you i removed comment adter you quoted it... But aleays get some smart arse have an opinon on how something doesnt make fuck all sense lol

ahh i give up im wank at messaging on this phone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked."

Some of them are bulshit, some more bulshit than others, that's one other way of deciding who not to meet!

If someone didn't much like you, then they don't have to leave a verification.

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

And what a night it was...sorry we didn't get round to verifying you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i have been swinging for four years and know it is fun but there are elements on here that treat it as a special service for them only.

Definite elitism on the forums.

As for the verifications: You can't guarantee someone will verify you after a meet. For whatever reason... Hopefully you'll meet some genuine people that will!

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over a year ago

"Was meant to say in English lol .. I dont read veris most of them are bullshit, who leaves or displays a shit veri

Half of them turn my stomach... I dont display meet veris unless asked.

Some of them are bulshit, some more bulshit than others, that's one other way of deciding who not to meet!

If someone didn't much like you, then they don't have to leave a verification."

most of them arse kissing hoping for a second score lol

iv gt a regular meet i havent veried or been veried by doesnt bother me in slightest lol

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

" i have been swinging for four years and know it is fun but there are elements on here that treat it as a special service for them only.

Definite elitism on the forums.

As for the verifications: You can't guarantee someone will verify you after a meet. For whatever reason... Hopefully you'll meet some genuine people that will!

So it's "genuine" people that verify?

I think people don't verify for a whole range of possible reasons.. being "genuine" (whatever that means) has little to do with it.

..."there are elements on here that treat it as a special service for them only."

Not at all clear what this means either.

It's a service that anyone can use and is not just for a few so we're all possible "elements"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i have been swinging for four years and know it is fun but there are elements on here that treat it as a special service for them only.

Definite elitism on the forums.

As for the verifications: You can't guarantee someone will verify you after a meet. For whatever reason... Hopefully you'll meet some genuine people that will!

What do you mean 'elitism on the forums'??

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Swinging is supposed to be fun. If you dont like no one is forcing you to stay."

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

Stop whining like an old maid and accept that it is the way of life. If you can't get verified, even if you have met folk, then perhaps it is your attitude that's at fault? The same attitude that put up such a whinging post.

If you managed to get a reply from messaging us and we then met you, I can assure you that if you displayed a tithe of the attitude presented here, we'd not recommend you to anyone else. Because that is what a veri is, in mist cases, a recommendation which also shows you're real and believe me, we've met enough folk to know that some peoples verifications are often well awry.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

"Anything else you wanna have a moan about?

Unverified - go to a social. Enough of them about.

Swingers being elitist - it's called having preferences. Accept that and you may enjoy the site more.

No face pics on profile - How do you know they aren't set to private? Mine are and only get sent to potential playmates.

Don't like a profile - move onto the next.

I decide my own policies (I prefer to call them preferences) does that make me petulant

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