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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To them it obviously is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose it depends wat they look like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had the no kissing rule at first but dropped it after our first meet, it seemed a bit mechanical without it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We had the no kissing rule at first but dropped it after our first meet, it seemed a bit mechanical without it"

I agree with that

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By *W69Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Kissing - Depends what everybody is comfortable with and doing, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?"

Well there must be rules before it starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth"

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?"

To some people it is yes. We reserve passionate, sensual kissing for each other however I won't allow anyone to cum in my mouth either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple."

Totally agree. For me, kissing is about relationship and love - having cum in my mouth is just about sex, though not something that I'd do often...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

To some people it is yes. We reserve passionate, sensual kissing for each other however I won't allow anyone to cum in my mouth either. "

Actually I do agree , I have been swinging for many years and there's has to be something special for the couple , that as a guest you are not party too

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By *ighlandguy1000Man
over a year ago

Inverness

To me kissing comes naturally when it comes to sex. But everyone hss thier own boundaries which I would respect. No means no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple."

I would respect that but to me it seems strange that's all

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple.

I would respect that but to me it seems strange that's all"

Intimacy means different things to different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't understand this one kissing is the catalyst to great sexual experience.

I think it's a bit hypocritical to then allow the person to cum in your mouth. can't get any more intimate than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't understand this one kissing is the catalyst to great sexual experience.

I think it's a bit hypocritical to then allow the person to cum in your mouth. can't get any more intimate than that. "

When I was here as a single, I didn't get it either

Now I am here as part of a couple, I do

We don't rule it out, but don't actively encourage it either.

It depends a great deal on the guy, the dynamics, the location and the scenario

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple."

...in a nutshell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

If you can't understand or don't accept someone elses boundary then you're not suited to each other. It honestly is that simple.

Totally agree. For me, kissing is about relationship and love - having cum in my mouth is just about sex, though not something that I'd do often...

Ditto. I never have a meet cum in my mouth or on me though...only my man can do that

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

exactly. If a man said no kissing on his profile then I'd move onto the next. We're all allowed preferences and boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

exactly. If a man said no kissing on his profile then I'd move onto the next. We're all allowed preferences and boundaries

Are there single men (meeting single women) that state they don't/won't kiss?

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

exactly. If a man said no kissing on his profile then I'd move onto the next. We're all allowed preferences and boundaries

Are there single men (meeting single women) that state they don't/won't kiss?

S x "

I met one man a few years ago that didn't like kissing. He never said anything before we met and it kind of ruined the meet for me. This is now the reason I have on my profile that I adore kissing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I can't understand this one kissing is the catalyst to great sexual experience.

I think it's a bit hypocritical to then allow the person to cum in your mouth. can't get any more intimate than that. "

Hypocritical because you have a different idea of what is intimate than another person? Just because you don't

understand someone elses boundaries doesn't make that person a hypocrite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

exactly. If a man said no kissing on his profile then I'd move onto the next. We're all allowed preferences and boundaries

Are there single men (meeting single women) that state they don't/won't kiss?

S x

I met one man a few years ago that didn't like kissing. He never said anything before we met and it kind of ruined the meet for me. This is now the reason I have on my profile that I adore kissing

Ah okay. We only kiss each other on meets - always have done and make it clear on our profile. I think singles meeting singles, should definitely kiss. The only reason I can see for them not feeling comfortable doing so, is that they're most likely already attached/have issues regards intimacy. Just proves how intimate kissing actually IS. It's quite easy to go through the mechanics of sexual intercourse - kissing means so much more IMO. It really is the language of love

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

exactly. If a man said no kissing on his profile then I'd move onto the next. We're all allowed preferences and boundaries

Are there single men (meeting single women) that state they don't/won't kiss?

S x

I met one man a few years ago that didn't like kissing. He never said anything before we met and it kind of ruined the meet for me. This is now the reason I have on my profile that I adore kissing

S x"

Ahhhh I've been using the word clinical, and been criticised for it, but going through the mechanics of sex sounds better and exactly right. Ta

To be fair, now that I've got that bit in my profile all my meets have taken note and I've had some verrrrrrry sexy kissing sessions

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I am struggling with the assertions on this thread that other people should be playing a certain way just because they fulfill a certain criteria. As long as in the discussion stage everyone is clear what's the problem?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I love kissing, so to me it's a hard thing not to do. There's only been one guy I wouldn't kiss because I didn't want to.

There is one thing that Mr sometimes does when he kisses me, and that's all him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had the no kissing rule at first but dropped it after our first meet, it seemed a bit mechanical without it"

Found this a few times with couples I have met. Started with a no kissing...I find it odd but accept it. The rule lasted about 2 minutes before she started hoovering my face lol.....the throws of passion do odd things lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me kissing is a big part of sex and I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

It is their choice and I am fine with it but I will only be meeting with people who do kiss.

Personal choice goes both ways and there are plenty of people on here to suit both choices so we can all be happy

exactly. If a man said no kissing on his profile then I'd move onto the next. We're all allowed preferences and boundaries

Are there single men (meeting single women) that state they don't/won't kiss?

S x

I met one man a few years ago that didn't like kissing. He never said anything before we met and it kind of ruined the meet for me. This is now the reason I have on my profile that I adore kissing

S x

Ahhhh I've been using the word clinical, and been criticised for it, but going through the mechanics of sex sounds better and exactly right. Ta

To be fair, now that I've got that bit in my profile all my meets have taken note and I've had some verrrrrrry sexy kissing sessions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am struggling with the assertions on this thread that other people should be playing a certain way just because they fulfill a certain criteria. As long as in the discussion stage everyone is clear what's the problem?"

You must know ny now that preferences are only ok when they match your own

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You must know ny now that preferences are only ok when they match your own"

I should do really shouldn't I! I'll keep my sticky beak out in future

...like that's ever gong to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love kissing and regard it as part of playing but we don't kiss others exactly the same way as we kiss each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We love kissing and regard it as part of playing but we don't kiss others exactly the same way as we kiss each other. "

Well you are right there's kissing and then there is KISSING!

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"I can't understand this one kissing is the catalyst to great sexual experience.

I think it's a bit hypocritical to then allow the person to cum in your mouth. can't get any more intimate than that. "

cumming in a mouth is not intimate in anyway, its an act of pure sex, theres a difference between sex and intimate love making.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?"

You know, I still don't get how kissing is more personal that oral, but in my fab journey, I'm beginning to get my head around the fact that sex is just like everything else, one person's likes are another person's dislikes and vice versa. personally wouldn't want to meet without kissing though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

Well there must be rules on a meet and if no kissing was one of them would you say no to a lady who you found very attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to kiss another woman's partner during sex. I do feel it's more intimate than mouth to genitals and wouldn't want to do it. In a one to one situation if a man won't kiss me I feel used. Strange how our minds work

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course it is to some people - not to us though we love to kiss as its a huge turn on - some kisses make us melt

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

To me, I need to fancy people to enjoy kissing with them. I don't need to fancy them to enjoy sex with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had the no kissing rule at first but dropped it after our first meet, it seemed a bit mechanical without it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?"

To me kissing is something I do with somebody I'm emotionally attached to, yes sex without kissing isn't as it would be with a lover but unless kissing is the only thing that turns you on I think it's best saved for somebody you're connected with.

Just my opinion and what I'm about.

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Sound ridiculous. You can open up your leg give a blow-job.but no kisses. Because you reserved it for your man as a pride.get real

I know everyone have his or her own boundaries. Kissing should be one of them. To me .

I won't advocate you kiss every tom dick and harry you meet on fab. But ruling it out completely whenever you meet someone will not appeal to majority of people who intended meeting up with you.

Never mind. I respect your decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us kissing is just for us and if people can't deal with that we don't play with them simple really our choice and we know our reasons and don't need anyone else to explain to us how we are going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sound ridiculous. You can open up your leg give a blow-job.but no kisses. Because you reserved it for your man as a pride.get real

I know everyone have his or her own boundaries. Kissing should be one of them. To me .

I won't advocate you kiss every tom dick and harry you meet on fab. But ruling it out completely whenever you meet someone will not appeal to majority of people who intended meeting up with you.

Never mind. I respect your decision. "

I'm not sure describing someone's choices as ridiculous and suggesting they get real is that indicative of respecting someone's decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us kissing is just for us and if people can't deal with that we don't play with them simple really our choice and we know our reasons and don't need anyone else to explain to us how we are going wrong "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?"

Its there choice dont like the no kissing rule dont meet em aint it ??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yep! Never explain, never justify. If someone doesn't like it and subsequently comes up with all sorts of reasons why you are wrong for having a personal preference why on earth would you want to spend any time arguing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

Its there choice dont like the no kissing rule dont meet em aint it ?? "

sorry grammar police maybe about their not there I apologise in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never meet anyone that has a no kissing rule

But as said before everyone is different

Auds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had two couple's that were 'okay' with our no- kissing - then tried to disregard it on the meet. Bless 'em, think they wanted the 'challenge'. They failed miserably. We just upped and left

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only atm I like is the cash machine.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I love threads like these.

The outside world thinks swingers are this crazy up for anything bunch of pervs but the reality is they are just as judgemental and like to force their views on each other, as much as the most vanilla prude.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Sound ridiculous. You can open up your leg give a blow-job.but no kisses. Because you reserved it for your man as a pride.get real

I know everyone have his or her own boundaries. Kissing should be one of them. To me .

I won't advocate you kiss every tom dick and harry you meet on fab. But ruling it out completely whenever you meet someone will not appeal to majority of people who intended meeting up with you.

Never mind. I respect your decision. "

You say you respect it, but your words show you have no respect at all.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Sound ridiculous. You can open up your leg give a blow-job.but no kisses. Because you reserved it for your man as a pride.get real

I know everyone have his or her own boundaries. Kissing should be one of them. To me .

I won't advocate you kiss every tom dick and harry you meet on fab. But ruling it out completely whenever you meet someone will not appeal to majority of people who intended meeting up with you.

Never mind. I respect your decision. "

So you supposedly respect it yet call it ridiculous? Yeah right.

For me, I can separate love and sex. - Fucking someone can purely be an act of lust rather than love and I don't have to love them to fuck them, whereas I feel NO inclination to kiss anyone I don't love or have feelings for.

So yes, kissing IS more personal than sex for me and anyone who doesn't like or respect or preferences can move on to the next profile, just as we would do with anyone who INSISTS on kissing.

We may not agree with it but wouldn't put anyone down for their preferences.

- Amy. x

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?"
. I just listen to the rules and adhere to them. Different people have different rules and if I am their guest , it is not for me to question the logic behind the rules .

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I think everyone's boundaries should be respected, no matter how daft others perceive them to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't understand this one kissing is the catalyst to great sexual experience.

I think it's a bit hypocritical to then allow the person to cum in your mouth. can't get any more intimate than that. "

So if someone kisses on the mouth, they are being hypocritical if they then won't let someone cum in their mouth?

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

"Sound ridiculous. You can open up your leg give a blow-job.but no kisses. Because you reserved it for your man as a pride.get real

I know everyone have his or her own boundaries. Kissing should be one of them. To me .

I won't advocate you kiss every tom dick and harry you meet on fab. But ruling it out completely whenever you meet someone will not appeal to majority of people who intended meeting up with you.

Never mind. I respect your decision.

You may disagreed with someone view point. Also you must learn to respect it as well.

You say you respect it, but your words show you have no respect at all."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from my pov, having a cock inside your wife is more intimate than kising. so i dont agree with the 'no kissing but will fuck others'..dont get it lol but hey ho

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

No kissing wouldn't work for us. It's a great turn on

Wd40

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By *urycpl14Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"We had the no kissing rule at first but dropped it after our first meet, it seemed a bit mechanical without it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally feel kissing is for my partner and my partner agrees. We don't have an issue with kissing the body, or a friendly peck on the lips. We would never feel comfortable with passionate kissing/tongues though. It would feel wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

Well there must be rules on a meet and if no kissing was one of them would you say no to a lady who you found very attractive?"

You know, wierd as it may sound, I would say no, sex without kissing for me just doesn't work, and whilst I'm not looking for a relationship (above fwb's) it would be a little bit too clinical for me. I understand that not everyone feels the same, just preference I guess

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

Well there must be rules on a meet and if no kissing was one of them would you say no to a lady who you found very attractive?

Kissing is one thing that people seem to struggle to accept that anyone can have a preference for or against. I don't find it any more weird that you wouldn't want to meet somebody who didn't want to kiss than somebody not wanting to kiss......as you say not everyone feels the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it has started quite a debate which is good it's seems that it's different for everybody. As it goes the couple in question where from Brazil and when her hubby left the room she started kissing me like a woman possessed .

So the twist in the debate is ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Well it has started quite a debate which is good it's seems that it's different for everybody. As it goes the couple in question where from Brazil and when her hubby left the room she started kissing me like a woman possessed .

So the twist in the debate is ... "

I don't think that's a twist in the debate, that's her being disrespectful to her partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth"

Personal is what they make it. Nobody should judge that, it's their choice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have heard this a few times but fail to see how kissing can be more personal the fucking or receiving cum in your mouth

Personal is what they make it. Nobody should judge that, it's their choice."

I agree and nobody needs to see or understand someone else's preference, they just need to accept it.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"You can cum in my mouth ....

This happened to me with a "do and don't " conversation with a couple.

Is kissing more personal ?

Well there must be rules on a meet and if no kissing was one of them would you say no to a lady who you found very attractive?

It doesn't work for me either. Kissing, for me, is part of having sex. Remove kissing and you remove a big part of what turns me on and it just turns it into a guy having his fun and me feeling a bit, well, I might as well have just played with myself. I tried not kissing and it just didn't work for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So the twist in the debate is ...

I don't think that's a twist in the debate, that's her being disrespectful to her partner."

I suppose you are right however in the heat of the moment and quite a geez glasses of wine it happened do quickly

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So the twist in the debate is ...

I don't think that's a twist in the debate, that's her being disrespectful to her partner.

I suppose you are right however in the heat of the moment and quite a geez glasses of wine it happened do quickly

What did you think was the twist in the debate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The fact that as a couple it was the hubbies wish not allow kissing however it wasn't really the ladies requirement . The twist is of we say things in front of our partners to please them

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The fact that as a couple it was the hubbies wish not allow kissing however it wasn't really the ladies requirement . The twist is of we say things in front of our partners to please them "

Yes that does seem to happen with some couples but if she really wanted something but he wasn't happy with her doing it do you think she should go ahead anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lot of friends who are couples - and many of them have one thing that they don't do with anyone else! It can be kissing, anal sex, coming in the mouth, overnight meets etc etc! If it makes them feel special and more intimate with each other then that's great! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a lot of friends who are couples - and many of them have one thing that they don't do with anyone else! It can be kissing, anal sex, coming in the mouth, overnight meets etc etc! If it makes them feel special and more intimate with each other then that's great! Xx

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I don't understand even more than a no kissing rule is when couples say (as a woman) you can kiss the woman but not the man, what's that all about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont kiss others, we don't want to.

Swinging for us is very different from the sex we share as a couple. I can have oral and penetrative sex with men and maybe it is clinical in the sense that it is merely a physical thing, I don't form any emotional bond with swinging guys or couples. I can be intimate in that I'm having sex but there will always be a level of detachment. This is what swinging means to me.

I don't get any sexual thrill from kissing strangers. I get butterflies in my tummy when my partner kisses me. Therefore kissing strangers has no interest for me. Having sex with strangers only gives me a thrill if my OH is watching too.

When playing with couples others should accept and expect a certain level of detachment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We dont kiss others, we don't want to.

When playing with couples others should accept and expect a certain level of detachment

Couldn't agree more

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

I like the kissing, it helps to really turn me on even more if they're a great kisser xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We as cpl always say no kissing anything else goes but kissing is ours...but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There always seems to be a lot of threads like this. Isn't the original question simply a case of 'everyone else's preferences don't match mine and I don't like it. Can I please hear from people who agree with me so I can infer those who don't are wrong?'

Of course a forum is for whatever anyone wants to discuss but it always worries us that a lifestyle that seems to be about freedom of choice seems to attract so much discussion about bending people to the will of others.

And yes, we only kiss each other. We only like kissing each other and we like keeping that just for each other. As to what else we do with others that turns us on, well that's kind of up to us, surely? Isn't the whole point of this thread that if you ask enough people you realise there's always people out there that agree and and are suited to you. They're probably the ones you should swing with and not try and 'convert' the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There always seems to be a lot of threads like this. Isn't the original question simply a case of 'everyone else's preferences don't match mine and I don't like it. Can I please hear from people who agree with me so I can infer those who don't are wrong?'

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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Yes!

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