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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

no problem with married men x its up to them but bet plenty of women on here married too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree been honest is best to be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best be honest about it, although to be fair it's usually obvious when guys are married and playing without permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there aren't that many men I fancy on here, so if a man is married I will have sex with him, but would prefer not to know if he is married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would only meet a married guy which we have if we had other halves ok with it to make sure this is for fun not possible hassle cheating on others behind there back is not pleasant at all

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Being married doesn't bother me but I would rather his wife knew.

I am always worried about his wife finding out. My hubby also has a single profile on here that he meets through which I dont mind.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'd never meet someone married unless they had permission, however, you need to be honest in order to allow people to make a choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know? "

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I am assuming you mean 'married and his wife doesn't know' as opposed to 'polyamorous' or 'open'.

(Although the amount of men that tell me they are poly, but their wives just don't know yet...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

100% this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no problem with married men x its up to them but bet plenty of women on here married too x"

I enjoy sliding into a woman knowing her hubby does not know- I also enloy knowing my wife is being fucked by a married man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me."

Agree 100% as when the partner finds out guess who will get it in the neck not the married/attached guy you'll have some mad woman baying for your blood best stick to unattached guys I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather fuck the wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer my wife fucking married men. Less issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd rather fuck the wife "

I would enjoy watching her and you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer my wife fucking married men. Less issues."

Except when his wife finds out and causes hell?

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me."
agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

I agree with that too, but just because a guy isn't cheating on his partner doesn't mean he is going to respect you either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I agree with that too, but just because a guy isn't cheating on his partner doesn't mean he is going to respect you either."

No, but I'd rather start out not knowing either way that he's a complete shit. At least then there's a chance he'll be decent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?

I agree with that too, but just because a guy isn't cheating on his partner doesn't mean he is going to respect you either."

Of course. Best to look out for other indicators of integrity as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I agree with that too, but just because a guy isn't cheating on his partner doesn't mean he is going to respect you either.

No, but I'd rather start out not knowing either way that he's a complete shit. At least then there's a chance he'll be decent."

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to my works Xmas do last week and spent most of the night being bored by a married man in my office asking me why I dont trust men. He went on to tell me that not all men are cheats, blah, blah, blah then later in the night he tried to kiss me and told me what room number he was in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's deffo a conflict for me I think as long as I m totally convinced there's no comeback then it's ok I think lol

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me."

I whole heartedly agree!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex. "
If you found out she was meeting having sex not telling you would you be ok .? could you cope her finding out and not liking and giving you the boot .?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex. "

Welcome to my life few and far between with my wife i love her however my sex drive is thru the roof

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm a,widow and married men do nothing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you fellas with wives who have really low sex drives don't do it for your wives anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and on here - my wife knows. We both enjoy the lifestyle and swing as a couple but also as singles, it's sometimes easier that way. We are open about everything we do and who we meet. We tell all our playmates. If they don't like it simples, move on. We're not breaking the law or cheating.

Be upfront always is my advice

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex. "

there are many complex reasons for why one partner feels that seeking comfort outside the relationship is necessary and we wont judge however others will who may have been in similar situations themselves before and were hurt by such actions..

the word 'honest'applies also to the partner not just those who are potential meets..

for us when any partner 'does down' publicly their OH as a justification then that is a line crossed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you fellas with wives who have really low sex drives don't do it for your wives anymore "

I gave my ex permission to go play he felt insulted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex.

Welcome to my life few and far between with my wife i love her however my sex drive is thru the roof "
You see family and life get in the way at times of sex and at times you just need to work on things together and see what makes things work again for you both . Sex is not everything in life .. You never know what you got until its gone and then its to late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you fellas with wives who have really low sex drives don't do it for your wives anymore "
yes boring so they need to work on doing new things to turn them on again .

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

I love reading these threads when they appear weekly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex.

Welcome to my life few and far between with my wife i love her however my sex drive is thru the roof You see family and life get in the way at times of sex and at times you just need to work on things together and see what makes things work again for you both . Sex is not everything in life .. You never know what you got until its gone and then its to late."

I guess thats why life is so interesting however it works both ways

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Apart from the tiny fact that a married man has made a commitment to another woman, they tend to be difficult to meet. Not only are they very rarely available when I am, but the meets tend to be short and furtive. I'm usually told where and when to meet, whether I can wear perfume or not, and fit in with him.

Not to mention the fact that some married men can get very possessive. I'll always remember the one that stood me up because I'd been verified by another guy. More trouble than they're worth I'm afraid.

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By *aymackCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if the husband has a really high sex drive and the wife refuses sex or has a low/non exist ant labido. The husband and wife have kids and love each other, yet the lack of sex drives him insane. Should he leave his wife who he loves or just have the odd sexual encounter and gratification from a total stranger who also just wants sex.

Welcome to my life few and far between with my wife i love her however my sex drive is thru the roof You see family and life get in the way at times of sex and at times you just need to work on things together and see what makes things work again for you both . Sex is not everything in life .. You never know what you got until its gone and then its to late.

I guess thats why life is so interesting however it works both ways "
yes if she is doing the same thing it do ... work both ways your right .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're up-front about being married so a lot will pass you by, but the same people might have met you had you lied. Ignorance is bliss in the swinging world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you fellas with wives who have really low sex drives don't do it for your wives anymore "
Or they get bored to pound the same pussey everynight and need variety. I would get bored as well if I was married lol

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By *aymackCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site. "

Your life, your relationship, your call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pina Coladas song comes into my head a man who never really new his lady s needs.lol So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place

I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face

It was my own lovely lady and she said, "Oh, it's you"

And we laughed for a moment and I said, "I never knew

That you liked Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain

And the feel of the ocean ...... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site. "

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no problem with married men x its up to them but bet plenty of women on here married too x"

I have a regular playmate who is married. He knows about it tho....that's the difference!

The dishonest ones aren't swinging they're cheating....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation."

Wow thats a very brave move on your part. This happened to me and my wife beat the ever loving shit out of the lady

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site. "

It wouldn't take long for us to work out you're married, what with married men's' meeting restrictions.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation.

Wow thats a very brave move on your part. This happened to me and my wife beat the ever loving shit out of the lady "

Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like the idea of fucking a married man, knowing its naughty and we shouldnt be doing it makes it really hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation.

Wow thats a very brave move on your part. This happened to me and my wife beat the ever loving shit out of the lady

Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating. "

My wife looks at as it takes two too tango

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating. "

Sounds like a really wonderful relationship... a husband who cheats and a wife who beats people up.

Stay classy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation.

Wow thats a very brave move on your part. This happened to me and my wife beat the ever loving shit out of the lady

Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating. "

Because some people don't want to know the truth and will 'shoot the messenger'

Which is why it's not a good idea to hunt someone down and tell them!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation.

Wow thats a very brave move on your part. This happened to me and my wife beat the ever loving shit out of the lady

Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating.

My wife looks at as it takes two too tango "

And did she kick your arse too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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And did she kick your arse too?"

That would be domestic violence... I hope that both him and the other victim called the police and his wife got arrested.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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And did she kick your arse too?

That would be domestic violence... I hope that both him and the other victim called the police and his wife got arrested."

Ditto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site.

If I had sex with you under false pretence then discovered you were cheating on your wife... I'd find her and tell her. She deserves to know the situation.

Wow thats a very brave move on your part. This happened to me and my wife beat the ever loving shit out of the lady

Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating.

My wife looks at as it takes two too tango

And did she kick your arse too?"

No she wasnt happy with me for a few months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a woman was asking the same question it would be a lot diferent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the general feeling is that I should just probably lie on my profile as women don't like married men. Men are not difficult we just want an easy life. I have come to the conclusion that I should not be open and honest on my profile, as i would get more success with a non judgemental profile and just withhold the truth. After all it's one off sex, although the women I met the other week off here was stunning and I would love to meet again I should just go for the easy option and have a straight forward dishonest profile like probably a high number of existing users of this site. "

So you're willing to lie to people to get what you want? What a stand up guy!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I think if a woman was asking the same question it would be a lot diferent lol "

My opinion is the same whether the cheating person is male or female.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok I have a plan for you men ... Tomorrow get to Ann summer you need sex toys and some nice things and say I have a gift for the bedroom to spice up our lives .. lol if cant get there get whipped cream and strawberries and champagne .. and lick and eat from body parts .. popping candy too. See where there is a will there is a way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge."

No... my intention would be to meet someone honest and ethical who didn't lie to me. If it turned out they lied to me, then sure, I feel it appropriate to inform the other people that they're lying to about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if a woman was asking the same question it would be a lot diferent lol

My opinion is the same whether the cheating person is male or female."
That's good and your right too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge."

OP, this subject crops up on a weekly basis have a look in previous forum threads to see _iews.

There are people that will meet you and people that won't. There are successful marrieds on this site who just get on with it.

If you ask for an opinion on an emotive subject such as cheating in a forum you will more than likely not receive the response you were probably hoping for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge."

The world would be boring without a few of them physco's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sure a lot on here are married but are just not honest. As the odds are already stacked against us men. Would be different if this was a dating site, but the fact is it's a site for people to meet and have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP some here have been on the end of a cheat and will never see it as being right as been hurt from it all . Its your life you do as you wish and be open, but some no matter how you dress it up will never like it as know the pain they felt.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge."

Have you tried arranging a meet with the woman you have at home? Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've already tried this approach it lasts a day or too. Then back to the same old too tired. I assure you it's not me I run 3-5 times a week and play football twice a week. I can last for ages, it's just I never get the chance to get tired before the old are you done yet pops up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge."

Are many women on here just looking for an hour long 'quick fuck'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge.

Have you tried arranging a meet with the woman you have at home? Just a thought."

Yes i try at least 3 to 4 times a week hell i even bought sexy lingerie all i get is honey i just dont have the sex drive i use to have and yes i still try every chance i get

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"it's just I never get the chance to get tired before the old are you done yet pops up. "

Lol, well that should get the ladies moist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've already tried this approach it lasts a day or too. Then back to the same old too tired. I assure you it's not me I run 3-5 times a week and play football twice a week. I can last for ages, it's just I never get the chance to get tired before the old are you done yet pops up. "
it must be boring for her poor thing ... spice it up and she will be gagging for more ... step out the box do something different .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've already tried this approach it lasts a day or too. Then back to the same old too tired. I assure you it's not me I run 3-5 times a week and play football twice a week. I can last for ages, it's just I never get the chance to get tired before the old are you done yet pops up. "

Whether you run or not is irrelevant. Do you do what she likes in bed? Do you get her off before you stick your dick in? Doesn't sound like she's enjoying it much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i try at least 3 to 4 times a week hell i even bought sexy lingerie all i get is honey i just dont have the sex drive i use to have and yes i still try every chance i get "

Maybe she's lying to you because she knows that you're a cheat. Just a thought. People aren't stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've already tried this approach it lasts a day or too. Then back to the same old too tired. I assure you it's not me I run 3-5 times a week and play football twice a week. I can last for ages, it's just I never get the chance to get tired before the old are you done yet pops up.

Whether you run or not is irrelevant. Do you do what she likes in bed? Do you get her off before you stick your dick in? Doesn't sound like she's enjoying it much!"

I honestly dont think i am the problem believe me when she is in the mood its awesome her face and chest turn a little red and she has that glow in her eyes but once a month just isnt enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i try at least 3 to 4 times a week hell i even bought sexy lingerie all i get is honey i just dont have the sex drive i use to have and yes i still try every chance i get

Maybe she's lying to you because she knows that you're a cheat. Just a thought. People aren't stupid."

No need to be bitter now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I massage her for an hour get her all ready then do oral till she finishes, then fuck her till she gets bored. That satisfies her for 2 weeks not a sniff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I massage her for an hour get her all ready then do oral till she finishes, then fuck her till she gets bored. That satisfies her for 2 weeks not a sniff. "
And you say can we do that tomorrow I will give you 2 hours massage mmmmmmmmmmm now you see .. your doing something for her too not just you .. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating.

Sounds like a really wonderful relationship... a husband who cheats and a wife who beats people up.

Stay classy!"

Sounds like fabric idle to me...who in their right mind would go near such a lovely couple!

And the two to tango? Cheating husband and unsuspecting lady?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes I massage her for an hour get her all ready then do oral till she finishes, then fuck her till she gets bored. That satisfies her for 2 weeks not a sniff. "

You shag every two weeks? I don't get it that often! Maybe lower your sights a tad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why in hell is she beating up the woman? It wasn't her fault you were cheating.

Sounds like a really wonderful relationship... a husband who cheats and a wife who beats people up.

Stay classy!

Sounds like fabric idle to me...who in their right mind would go near such a lovely couple!

And the two to tango? Cheating husband and unsuspecting lady?"

Hey we all cant be rule models like yourself in this wonderful world of swing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Every 2 weeks I could do it every day. This is why I'm here at last. I just have a really high sex drive, she doesn't. You say be open I do tell her I'll find it elsewhere although she thinks I'm joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every 2 weeks I could do it every day. This is why I'm here at last. I just have a really high sex drive, she doesn't. You say be open I do tell her I'll find it elsewhere although she thinks I'm joking "

Maybe you need to recognise that perhaps you need a different partner? I get it two-three times a day almost every day... it's pretty good to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every 2 weeks I could do it every day. This is why I'm here at last. I just have a really high sex drive, she doesn't. You say be open I do tell her I'll find it elsewhere although she thinks I'm joking

Maybe you need to recognise that perhaps you need a different partner? I get it two-three times a day almost every day... it's pretty good to be honest."

I think we found the perfect woman here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't buy this mismatched sex drives stuff. Why are many men happy to have sex with their wives when it's possible and masturbate the rest of the time. Surely that satisfies sex urges?

I think cheating is usually more about a lack of intimacy or a need for external validation due to low self esteem. Neither of which need to be about sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every 2 weeks I could do it every day. This is why I'm here at last. I just have a really high sex drive, she doesn't. You say be open I do tell her I'll find it elsewhere although she thinks I'm joking

Maybe you need to recognise that perhaps you need a different partner? I get it two-three times a day almost every day... it's pretty good to be honest.

I think we found the perfect woman here "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you fellas with wives who have really low sex drives don't do it for your wives anymore "

Yes I can understand that with some men who take ages, a quicky now and then is never good enough for them and they do exactly the same things everytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?

Pretty much sums it up. Never knowingly play with married people of either sex. Just would feel bad for the other person which would spoil the experience.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

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"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are reasons sometimes men play although married, I am married but circumstances mean we are happy in every other way.

Does it mean I should live without a sex life ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own."

I agree. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are reasons sometimes men play although married, I am married but circumstances mean we are happy in every other way.

Does it mean I should live without a sex life ?"
Some here think if that's gone its over as sex is everything... You could meet a woman for just a shag and it turn into love and everything that's missing from your life ...and go ... or you could get HIV or something and she gets it too and find out that way. There is risks in all things its if they are worth taking .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just think of this 1 -

She/he finds out and stands in front of your house door screaming and shouting... Enjoyable ? Nope..

And this is not just a fictional question, but out of real life.

So married people if not playing together tabu for us

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"no problem with married men x its up to them but bet plenty of women on here married too x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm and there was me thinking it was a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own."

A marriage can be perfect in every way except for sex, so why break up a otherwise good marriage just because one (albeit important) aspect is missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own."
let's hope you do not meet someone you fall in love with and there cheat behind your back . I have had it done to me and it hurts

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

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Each to their own i say !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own.

A marriage can be perfect in every way except for sex, so why break up a otherwise good marriage just because one (albeit important) aspect is missing"
So what your saying is .......... We should all say ooo go a head and cheat and lie if it keeps your cock happy.? What about her feelings in this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own.

A marriage can be perfect in every way except for sex, so why break up a otherwise good marriage just because one (albeit important) aspect is missingSo what your saying is .......... We should all say ooo go a head and cheat and lie if it keeps your cock happy.? What about her feelings in this ... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own. let's hope you do not meet someone you fall in love with and there cheat behind your back . I have had it done to me and it hurts "
YES IT HURTS LIKE HELL if you love them. xx kisses you. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not hide the fact I'm married its on my profile.

The meets ive had have all been aware and I play safe.

Don't get many because I'm married which makes those I do even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own. let's hope you do not meet someone you fall in love with and there cheat behind your back . I have had it done to me and it hurts YES IT HURTS LIKE HELL if you love them. xx kisses you. xx"
24 years of marriage my house and had to leave my kids because of a cheat. So no one tell me it's ok to cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know?

No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

Exactly, lying to and deceiving a spouse says something about the sort of person a man (or woman) is and they're not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not hide the fact I'm married its on my profile.

The meets ive had have all been aware and I play safe.

Don't get many because I'm married which makes those I do even better "
From kissing you can get things .........from oral too, not just sex. Why is it people say I play safe, There is no thing as safe in this game it high risk. Your wife still could pick up things sorry but go to Gum and ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing "

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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"It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing "

I broadly agree however I really hate to see the absent party discussed and blamed without the right to reply...disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own.

A marriage can be perfect in every way except for sex, so why break up a otherwise good marriage just because one (albeit important) aspect is missing"

It's missing for a reason! Treat the cause not the symptom. Ask yourself why she doesn't want sex?

Are you doing what she likes? Are you appreciative and complimentary? Has she had changes to her body you need to assure her you still find her sexy? Are you looking after yourself (manky teeth, showering only once a day)? Is she overworked? Tired? Worried about money? Is there a medical problem (get to docs)?

So many guys are crap and/or selfish in bed, it's no wonder their wives don't want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not hide the fact I'm married its on my profile.

The meets ive had have all been aware and I play safe.

Don't get many because I'm married which makes those I do even better From kissing you can get things .........from oral too, not just sex. Why is it people say I play safe, There is no thing as safe in this game it high risk. Your wife still could pick up things sorry but go to Gum and ask."

I am aware and don't need to check, thanks for the information though for those who don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own. let's hope you do not meet someone you fall in love with and there cheat behind your back . I have had it done to me and it hurts YES IT HURTS LIKE HELL if you love them. xx kisses you. xx 24 years of marriage my house and had to leave my kids because of a cheat. So no one tell me it's ok to cheat "
people always think grass is greener until its to late .. and 9/10 its not . Sex is a small part of real life .. family come first in my book not my need for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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(Although the amount of men that tell me they are poly, but their wives just don't know yet...)"

yet some claim this is poly LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own. let's hope you do not meet someone you fall in love with and there cheat behind your back . I have had it done to me and it hurts YES IT HURTS LIKE HELL if you love them. xx kisses you. xx 24 years of marriage my house and had to leave my kids because of a cheat. So no one tell me it's ok to cheat people always think grass is greener until its to late .. and 9/10 its not . Sex is a small part of real life .. family come first in my book not my need for sex."
Mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather find a married couple who both swing. Then there's no awkwardness about cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't knowingly meet a married man, last thing we would want is a scorned wife knocking on our door if she found out, you can normally spot them after a couple of messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something that each of us has to follow our own conscience on - and perhaps be realist...

I do feel guilty if I meet somebody who is married, but I'd much rather that they be honest about it.

And perhaps it's better that they release their frustrations through some no-strings fun with me rather than go off and stupidly have a full-blown affair with somebody!

But I play it by instinct, and try to sense if it's somebody who needs something outside of a non-sexual but otherwise sound marriage, or just a chancer who only wants a bit on the side..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just politely asking opinion on the situation as every one can have one. All I was wanting to offer was myself to the single lady looking for sex with no commitment. Which she would recieve from a married man no questions. Seems that you would be happier pursuing a man just to take revenge on someone you've met for an hour for a quick fuck. Maybe it's best to be honest as to not be hunted down by a physco intent on revenge.

No... my intention would be to meet someone honest and ethical who didn't lie to me. If it turned out they lied to me, then sure, I feel it appropriate to inform the other people that they're lying to about me."

I admire your integrity; I trust therefore that you also vet them to ensure that they don't drug deal, drink and drive, steal... These things too wreck lives and whilst I'd meet with a married women on here, I'd not touch them with a barge pole if I knew that they did any of the above - and if I did, it wouldn't be the husband that I'd be telling it would be the police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing

I broadly agree however I really hate to see the absent party discussed and blamed without the right to reply...disrespectful."

I agree with you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own.

It's a medical reason

A marriage can be perfect in every way except for sex, so why break up a otherwise good marriage just because one (albeit important) aspect is missing

It's missing for a reason! Treat the cause not the symptom. Ask yourself why she doesn't want sex?

Are you doing what she likes? Are you appreciative and complimentary? Has she had changes to her body you need to assure her you still find her sexy? Are you looking after yourself (manky teeth, showering only once a day)? Is she overworked? Tired? Worried about money? Is there a medical problem (get to docs)?

So many guys are crap and/or selfish in bed, it's no wonder their wives don't want it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet married men. All of my playmates adore their wives. The thing i like about married men is they really appreciate me. They are attentive because they know that you will be back for more. The last two single men i arranged to meet couldn't even be bothered to get out of their respective pits and answer the door to me. Each to their own.

It's a medical reason

A marriage can be perfect in every way except for sex, so why break up a otherwise good marriage just because one (albeit important) aspect is missing

It's missing for a reason! Treat the cause not the symptom. Ask yourself why she doesn't want sex?

Are you doing what she likes? Are you appreciative and complimentary? Has she had changes to her body you need to assure her you still find her sexy? Are you looking after yourself (manky teeth, showering only once a day)? Is she overworked? Tired? Worried about money? Is there a medical problem (get to docs)?

So many guys are crap and/or selfish in bed, it's no wonder their wives don't want it."

It's a medical reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always been up front about being married from the start. But 9 times out of 10 its a deal breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you've said she's tired.

How about helping her out more around the house and with the kids? Also you are doing all this exercise but is she?

Find a way to get her doing some exercise she likes? Take dancing classes together? Or swimming? A fun activity you can enjoy and reconnect with.

And pay for her to go be pampered, new clothes, hair, nails while you tidy and clean the house.

I was/am that woman with a low sex drive.

Because I was KNACKERED! Sex was just yet another job on my list. And I got hassled for it. Which doesn't make you want to do it, let alone enjoy it!

And I can tell you RIGHT NOW that telling her if she doesn't give you sex, you will get it elsewhere will just make her feel even more crap about herself and less likely to want to feel even slightly sexy.

But instead of all that you want to cheat because it's a quick fix. A fix that will break your marriage in the long term even though you say you love her?

Do her a favour and leave and let her find a guy who is willing to put the effort in to make a marriage work.

Or try the above suggestions. And don't expect that to be a quick fix either.

It's a regular thing, I am always knackered and my husband knows I need extra help and support and pampering to feel sexy. And nights out. And when we come home to the kids having thrown up all over our bed, accept that kind of killed it and wait until next time.

Because that's what porn is for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not hide the fact I'm married its on my profile.

The meets ive had have all been aware and I play safe.

Don't get many because I'm married which makes those I do even better From kissing you can get things .........from oral too, not just sex. Why is it people say I play safe, There is no thing as safe in this game it high risk. Your wife still could pick up things sorry but go to Gum and ask."

iv had oral sex and kissed lots of men since I have been on here, about 5 years, never cought anything yet, maybe iv been lucky, also been going to the gum clinic ever since I have been on here.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

do your thing with people who will do their thing with you, it's the easiest way.

asking always brings a mix of responses, usually different in a lot of cases when a man asks, rather than a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't buy this mismatched sex drives stuff. Why are many men happy to have sex with their wives when it's possible and masturbate the rest of the time. Surely that satisfies sex urges?

I think cheating is usually more about a lack of intimacy or a need for external validation due to low self esteem. Neither of which need to be about sex."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never the woman's fault. I'm so glad I'm not a man,I can't do anything wrong for trying

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's never the woman's fault. I'm so glad I'm not a man,I can't do anything wrong for trying "

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket


"It's never the woman's fault. I'm so glad I'm not a man,I can't do anything wrong for trying "

Such a true statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never the woman's fault. I'm so glad I'm not a man,I can't do anything wrong for trying "

It is the womans fault sometimes though, or could be both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's a matter of someone's fault, and certainly not woman's! Things are just as they are... people want to play and like playing. Good horny erotic meet? Why not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing "

People shouldn't be so quick to assume and judge why some people decide to cheat on their partners - live and let live. Walk a mile in their shoes and see if you would do anything different? I suspect many would of course, say that they would, but every person and situation is different. I can only empathise to those who have been cheated upon.

Iis much better to be honest about it on profiles to give propective meets the informed option to play or not to play, even though may restrict on the number of meets one may get.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never the woman's fault. I'm so glad I'm not a man,I can't do anything wrong for trying

It is the womans fault sometimes though, or could be both. "

Yes Hilda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing

People shouldn't be so quick to assume and judge why some people decide to cheat on their partners - live and let live. Walk a mile in their shoes and see if you would do anything different? I suspect many would of course, say that they would, but every person and situation is different. I can only empathise to those who have been cheated upon.

Iis much better to be honest about it on profiles to give propective meets the informed option to play or not to play, even though may restrict on the number of meets one may get.

P"

I was cheated on for most of my marriage and blamed for it. I don't judge anyone who has sex behind a partners back. I live my life how I want,they live theirs

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By *ollipop77Couple
over a year ago

Dubai ( / Manchester)

Don't mind a married man as long as I get to have the wife also

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By *uslaffMan
over a year ago

manchester


"

Sounds like fabric idle to me...who in their right mind would go near such a lovely couple!"

Is that like lazy linen ?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?"

I found out my has been cheating on me for years and I never so much looked at another woman - even without any sex for several years.

When I found out, I decided to enjoy the missing part of my life again - not for revenge - for ME!

Life is complicated, kids need bringing up, divorce is expensive, which is why I assume she still lives in the same house as me.

It's not always about cheating, you see??? I don't have permission to play, but nor does she, and she is - so why can't I?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"OP, you've said she's tired.

How about helping her out more around the house and with the kids? Also you are doing all this exercise but is she?

Find a way to get her doing some exercise she likes? Take dancing classes together? Or swimming? A fun activity you can enjoy and reconnect with.

And pay for her to go be pampered, new clothes, hair, nails while you tidy and clean the house.

I was/am that woman with a low sex drive.

Because I was KNACKERED! Sex was just yet another job on my list. And I got hassled for it. Which doesn't make you want to do it, let alone enjoy it!

And I can tell you RIGHT NOW that telling her if she doesn't give you sex, you will get it elsewhere will just make her feel even more crap about herself and less likely to want to feel even slightly sexy.

But instead of all that you want to cheat because it's a quick fix. A fix that will break your marriage in the long term even though you say you love her?

Do her a favour and leave and let her find a guy who is willing to put the effort in to make a marriage work.

Or try the above suggestions. And don't expect that to be a quick fix either.

It's a regular thing, I am always knackered and my husband knows I need extra help and support and pampering to feel sexy. And nights out. And when we come home to the kids having thrown up all over our bed, accept that kind of killed it and wait until next time.

Because that's what porn is for."

Thank fuck you said it! I was about to say, you say she's tired and that you have kids and you have time to go running 3-5 times a week and go out and play football and are clearly able to find the time to cheat - How often does SHE get time to herself to do something for her???

We have a newborn who suffers from colic so I'm lucky if I get 3-4hrs sleep and can catch a shower. I spend most of the day walking Bubbah around the house and sleep on the sofa just to keep him upright so he can catch some sleep. My sex-drive has all but died from exhaustion and I gave Vincent permission to go elsewhere for now but he declined. Instead he comes home, takes over with Bubbah for a bit and takes the strain off me as much as possible so I can regain some energy - Which, guess what?, actually lets me GET in the mood...

Then again, some people are going to cheat either way. They just use any old excuse rather than work on the problem.

- Amy. x

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

I agree, what others do is their business, I don't want to be part of it. I've ben hurt on the other side of this. I don't want to be part of someone else's pain


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow simply amazes me the unbelievable standards some of you ladies have does not suprise me that you are single

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Wow simply amazes me the unbelievable standards some of you ladies have does not suprise me that you are single "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's a matter of someone's fault, and certainly not woman's! Things are just as they are... people want to play and like playing. Good horny erotic meet? Why not!"

So completely selfish then. All good fun until the shit hits the fan. Thankfully we have divorce lawyers and anti-depressants though eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd want people to be upfront and honest about it as I don't meet married or attached men. I am not judging or bothered why they are here, its none of my business, I just want no part in playing with someone else's partner. I don't consider it no strings, being married is a string for me."

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

So long as you are informing potential meets that you are married/attached then it is up to them wether they still want to meet you or not, there are others in the same position as yourself on here

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

KILL THEN WITH FIRE seems to be the general rule on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow simply amazes me the unbelievable standards some of you ladies have does not suprise me that you are single "

you have got a point there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?

I found out my has been cheating on me for years and I never so much looked at another woman - even without any sex for several years.

When I found out, I decided to enjoy the missing part of my life again - not for revenge - for ME!

Life is complicated, kids need bringing up, divorce is expensive, which is why I assume she still lives in the same house as me.

It's not always about cheating, you see??? I don't have permission to play, but nor does she, and she is - so why can't I?"

That's possibly the exception to the rule. I don't blame you for it.

Just sounds like a miserable situation for you all though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"No thanks. I don't want to be a deliberate part of hurting someone else. And if the guy has no respect for his partner, why would he have any respect for me?

I found out my has been cheating on me for years and I never so much looked at another woman - even without any sex for several years.

When I found out, I decided to enjoy the missing part of my life again - not for revenge - for ME!

Life is complicated, kids need bringing up, divorce is expensive, which is why I assume she still lives in the same house as me.

It's not always about cheating, you see??? I don't have permission to play, but nor does she, and she is - so why can't I?

That's possibly the exception to the rule. I don't blame you for it.

Just sounds like a miserable situation for you all though. "

The thing is some married people ask the rest of us not to judge, then ask us to make a judgement as to whether they are entitled to get sex elsewhere in certain circumstances. Its an impossible situation to decide if another person is in a situation where having sex outside their relationship is ok or not, that's the main reason we don't knowingly do it.

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon


"It is unfortunate that couples sex drives change and one goes off sex,or uses sex as a weapon to hurt their partner. The fortunate people whose partner gives up on sex no matter how hard they try are either given permission to find others or go into the world of swinging. I don't judge anyone for having extra-marital sex or sex with someone who isn't a partner. The string em up by the balls brigade have no idea why some people,not just men,have affairs or sex without the partner knowing

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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago

Ballyshannon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only reason I'm not keen on meeting attached people is I don't want to get involved in any shit if their other half finds out.

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

I think the primary thing for us on Fab is honesty here. If, like the OP, a person admits being on here as a married person. Then it is up to their potential partners here to balance the risks and benefits, physically, emotionally, and morally.

If a person is found to have lied I would say to break off contact with them, up to and including blocking them. I would STRONGLY discourage informing the liars partners. Why potentially devastate a relationship or family just to make you feel superior.

When my ex had an affair that ended up destroying our marriage. I was twisted enough to find out the guys home address and even walked past it. Thankfully I discouraged myself from that action. Looking back at it I was not proud of many of my actions then, but I have learnt from them. Now I would never inform on anyone unless there was cause to believe that there was a significant risk to someone.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't meet married men...and married men avoid me. I don't play nice: if a married man can explain the wax burns, cane marks, shaved pubes and "property of Miss Vee" tattoo on his arse to his wife and she's happy with that...not a problem.

Guess how many have agreed a meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you've said she's tired.

How about helping her out more around the house and with the kids? Also you are doing all this exercise but is she?

Find a way to get her doing some exercise she likes? Take dancing classes together? Or swimming? A fun activity you can enjoy and reconnect with.

And pay for her to go be pampered, new clothes, hair, nails while you tidy and clean the house.

I was/am that woman with a low sex drive.

Because I was KNACKERED! Sex was just yet another job on my list. And I got hassled for it. Which doesn't make you want to do it, let alone enjoy it!

And I can tell you RIGHT NOW that telling her if she doesn't give you sex, you will get it elsewhere will just make her feel even more crap about herself and less likely to want to feel even slightly sexy.

But instead of all that you want to cheat because it's a quick fix. A fix that will break your marriage in the long term even though you say you love her?

Do her a favour and leave and let her find a guy who is willing to put the effort in to make a marriage work.

Or try the above suggestions. And don't expect that to be a quick fix either.

It's a regular thing, I am always knackered and my husband knows I need extra help and support and pampering to feel sexy. And nights out. And when we come home to the kids having thrown up all over our bed, accept that kind of killed it and wait until next time.

Because that's what porn is for.

Thank fuck you said it! I was about to say, you say she's tired and that you have kids and you have time to go running 3-5 times a week and go out and play football and are clearly able to find the time to cheat - How often does SHE get time to herself to do something for her???

We have a newborn who suffers from colic so I'm lucky if I get 3-4hrs sleep and can catch a shower. I spend most of the day walking Bubbah around the house and sleep on the sofa just to keep him upright so he can catch some sleep. My sex-drive has all but died from exhaustion and I gave Vincent permission to go elsewhere for now but he declined. Instead he comes home, takes over with Bubbah for a bit and takes the strain off me as much as possible so I can regain some energy - Which, guess what?, actually lets me GET in the mood...

Then again, some people are going to cheat either way. They just use any old excuse rather than work on the problem.

- Amy. x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow simply amazes me the unbelievable standards some of you ladies have does not suprise me that you are single "

Really? Not wanted I have sex with manipulative liars is an unbelievable standard? Think its pretty standard actually. Most women prefer to meet with men they like and a lot find it difficult to like someone who is comfortable with betraying the person they promised to be faithful to for the rest of their lives.

No wonder they're single? Dearie me, us poor single women being left on the shelf because of our standards. Have you ever considered that single women, especially ones looking to swing are single by choice? This isn't Match.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So long as you are informing potential meets that you are married/attached then it is up to them wether they still want to meet you or not, there are others in the same position as yourself on here "

Exactly, people can choose but shouldn't judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So long as you are informing potential meets that you are married/attached then it is up to them wether they still want to meet you or not, there are others in the same position as yourself on here "
True if they are honest and put it on there profile. But not all do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So long as you are informing potential meets that you are married/attached then it is up to them wether they still want to meet you or not, there are others in the same position as yourself on here True if they are honest and put it on there profile. But not all do "

I not got it on profile, but very open about it when first chat via messages or chat room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female, married and cheating and it's on my profile too. I've had married men message me and when I look nothing is on their profile so I ask them if they are, answer is mainly a yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am married and I am on this site looking for things absent from my relationship. Which in every other way is perfect. I do not accept this makes me any different from anyone else on this site. We are all different some like fish some like meat perhaps a little tolerance wouldn't go amiss.

This site is called fabswingers dotcom not happyselfrighteoussingles dotcom

Can't we just enjoy life and get from it what fits best our situations in harmony xx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Personally I am married and I am on this site looking for things absent from my relationship. Which in every other way is perfect. I do not accept this makes me any different from anyone else on this site. We are all different some like fish some like meat perhaps a little tolerance wouldn't go amiss.

This site is called fabswingers dotcom not happyselfrighteoussingles dotcom

Can't we just enjoy life and get from it what fits best our situations in harmony xx "

So long as your husband knows then that's fine.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Wife!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people mind meeting married men. I know there's like a 100/1 ratio men to women, so why would you. But if all people want is sex, why not? Is it better to be honest about it? Would you rather not know? "
Other people's marriages are there responsibility not mine. I have no problem with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I wouldn't want to have fun with a female with a husband that's unaware because Id dislike it if that happened to me. Vice versa, I wouldn't do anything if I had someone!

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