FabSwingers.com forum: Meet not going to plan, getting out of control

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am very curious about how people are up for meeting strangers for some very intimate sexual fun.

I wondered if anybody had meet where things got out of control and did not go smoothly. Where they had to bring the meeting to an abrupt end?

I myself have not been on meet on here but part of the reason for this post is to see if things do go wrong and to hear from people experience and learn how to protect yourself when meeting.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We make a judgement on the initial meet over a drink if we don't feel comfortable we don't go any further x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once met a couple who were scruffy, d*unk and about 20years older than their pics.

I pretended I'd left my wallet in the car got out of their and drove home at break neck speed to a barrage of text abuse!!!

Been a bit more cautious since!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Once met a couple who were scruffy, d*unk and about 20years older than their pics.

I pretended I'd left my wallet in the car got out of their and drove home at break neck speed to a barrage of text abuse!!!

Been a bit more cautious since!!"

Unless you were buying something I dont think you needed your wallet

but yeah it must have been a nightmare when people use old pics of themselves

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

I think having a 'social' meet first would offer some protection if you required it.

You could state that on your profile ... agree to meet for a drink/chat to see how you get on and then play on second meet. I've chatted to people on here who take that approach and it works for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people do prefer or even insist on social first. I always suggest or offer as an option...and have said no a fair few times to people not like their profile at all. Generally I'm polite about it...and happy to have a coffee etc still. Sometimes, however, you just have to be blunt....worse case scenario is you are blocked by someone you have already decided you don't want to meet....no loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of play meets go wrong even after a social. I made my excuses and left. I'm not a huge fan of drama and so tend to take it all with a pinch of salt.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

" it must have been a nightmare when people use old pics of themselves"

At least they had pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a couple of play meets go wrong even after a social. I made my excuses and left. I'm not a huge fan of drama and so tend to take it all with a pinch of salt. "

Agrees even after a social all can go wrong - other side husband gets jealous or they don't turn up as a couple.

So quick excuse and ask to leave is the best opinion no drama and no fuss...

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I am very curious about how people are up for meeting strangers for some very intimate sexual fun.

I wondered if anybody had meet where things got out of control and did not go smoothly. Where they had to bring the meeting to an abrupt end?

I myself have not been on meet on here but part of the reason for this post is to see if things do go wrong and to hear from people experience and learn how to protect yourself when meeting.

Thanks."

Never had a meet 'go wrong'. But if either party decides it's not right - be honest and say no/stop. That should be accepted by either party(ies) without question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do a social first, I've avoided some embarrassing situations like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had 1. Met a couple at theirs; durin the initial chat an drinks then headed to their room. Her fella had waay too much to drink and couldn't get it up. He then got pissed off and pissed off with his wife for gettin it on with me. So she took him downstairs to chill, then we heard rows; then it went silent. So we stayed put till about 1 am an we bolted for the door lol #awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One guy tried to fuck my wife without a condom, and I mean REALLY tried. Scared her of meeting for a couple of months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have read some horror stories but we have been lucky - had a couple of meets where we have thought later that wasnt quite what we thought but we intercepted the flow and things never got out of hand - still all had a good time though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy tried to fuck my wife without a condom, and I mean REALLY tried. Scared her of meeting for a couple of months.

is why i wont meet alone - terrified of mot being able to stop someone with W there i know im safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the good things about cheap hotels with thin walls, easy to shout through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had it happen a couple of times, but just followed my instinct...

No messing about, no trying to be polite, or they'll think that there's a chance that they can change your mind.

Put on a cold but firm face that says very clearly: "You're not getting anything here!" Then quietly but firmly say that it's not working for you, throw on your outer clothes and walk out of the situation as quickly as possible - before they have time to think about it and react.

Never mind any nasty messages etc that follow - they can't do you any physical harm.

Quiet and firm is the answer - not being polite, not shouting - just be cold and get out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy tried to fuck my wife without a condom, and I mean REALLY tried"

I'm not an easily riled kinda person, but this kind of behavior seriously p*sses me off!!! Grrrr...!!

Hope your subsequent meets have been massively more enjoyable...

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