FabSwingers.com forum: Unexpected tenderness

By *ruit OP Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I met someone a short while ago and when he kissed me he cradled my face in his hands and kisses me as if I was the most precious thing ever.(my legs turned to jelly lol)

Needless to say we are meeting again and cant wait to kiss more.

What has happened to other people when something unexpected happens that knocks you for six and leaves you breathless emotionally.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Had a meet recently too and i was blown away when the guy produced bubbly and nice flute glasses was just such a nice touch should be more men like him xxxx you know who you are sexy man xxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had a guy do something like cradle my face all sloppy and it freaked me out. It was the way he did it, way to intimate for my liking thats boyfriend stuff not meet stuff to me

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By *pecial bbCouple
over a year ago

london

The first time i met up with BB i had this thought -'how great must it feel to be fucked by him if he loved you '

Never ever had that thought come into my head ever before during a first fuck, let alone play. That was over a year ago and i still cant get enough of him and love the bones of him.

long may it continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's really sweet, never even got that in my marriage!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

hubby gives me that feeling when he nibbles my back.

we have already met some lovely people on hear. that feeling is wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i run!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"i run!!

I know....

calling you "tango princess" is a term of affection.... honest!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think thats so lovely ,,,,,,, you was made to feel specile not just like a peace of meat there for sex ,,,,,,, some men do stand out from others your right and i am glad you had a lovely time. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

omg same here it was so romantic as opossed to horny but wow it was different and felt very special for a little while lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same sort of thing last night but its the fourth time we have met. Its lovely and he always arrives with a bottle of wine. Its great to be treated respectfully and not like a piece of meat. Enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i run!!

PMSL!! Oh trust you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i run!!

PMSL!! Oh trust you!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I like to think all the guys i meet treat me with respect and not a piece of meat but it doesnt mean i want them getting all soppy with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely would not be meeting him again, this is a swinging site is it not?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I love a bit of horny kissing but its just that....horny kissing

As far as im concerned its for that moment only during play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when did swingers not kiss ?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Since when did swingers not kiss ?"

Oooh we hav'nt had a kissing vs no kissing thread for aaaaaages on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I love to kiss and the more tender the better.

Just because we swing doesen't mean that we can't kiss !!!

Plus the fact I happen to be pretty good lol !!! well so I have been told ...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Since when did swingers not kiss ?"

When you both agree you want to keep kissing just for yourselves.

When you don't want to.

When you don't feel the need for it.

And there are plenty of swingers who don't

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing"

Look above you!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Since when did swingers not kiss ?

Oooh we hav'nt had a kissing vs no kissing thread for aaaaaages on here

Ssshuuurrrupp you............. or I'll bite you black and blue

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Since when did swingers not kiss ?

Oooh we hav'nt had a kissing vs no kissing thread for aaaaaages on here

Ssshuuurrrupp you............. or I'll bite you black and blue

pmsl......im now a predatory nipple biter that goes round assaulting people..........its been a good day for me in here

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing

Look above you!

pmsl you got your kissing thread radar alert working then lol

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing

Look above you!

pmsl you got your kissing thread radar alert working then lol"

Tis always working when I'm fucked off and fed up.........!

And......... you're coming..... do you hear me you mad old bat????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing

Look above you!

pmsl you got your kissing thread radar alert working then lol"

MMMMMWWWWWWAAAAAAAAHHHHH TO YOU ALL AND WITH TONGUES LOL

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing

Look above you!

pmsl you got your kissing thread radar alert working then lol

MMMMMWWWWWWAAAAAAAAHHHHH TO YOU ALL AND WITH TONGUES LOL"

Bollox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant see anywhere on this thread where anyone said anything about not kissing

Look above you!

pmsl you got your kissing thread radar alert working then lol

MMMMMWWWWWWAAAAAAAAHHHHH TO YOU ALL AND WITH TONGUES LOL

Bollox

wellllll who am i to say no lol

go right ahead really tender and please do not forget the tongue mmmmm

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By *asochrisMan
over a year ago

cardiff

"Since when did swingers not kiss ?"
LOL I need to kiss for my bits to work

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By *ruit OP Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Wow so many messages about this. I am meeting him again as we had great chemistry in and out of the bedroom.

I have been kissed many ways before as many people have. From total lust and rampant desire,all frantic and then to the opposite which was such tenderness.

Looking forward to seeing other ways to kiss with him.

Yes it is a swinging site but some people have met(friends of mine I know of) on a swinging site. I guess with them something special has happened and they have become fuck buddies or even real partners as in a couple. They still swing and guess some do not.

Just becauses this is a swing site doesnt mean if something more happens then running should come next.

I think that is for each individual person.

I have been on a vanilla dating site for some time but actually meet more people from here(as we have had more in common eg the swinging scene) but has never been with a view to meet someone for life as never expect that to happen.

See what happens but cant wait to introduce him to tingle lube mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i met someone off here who totally blew me away and still does with his kisses. the most intimate thing for me is kissing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think after chatting for a while with a person you can just "get a feeling" for whether they're looking for delicious intimacy(long gentle lingering kisses)or animal passion (tends to be more hard, fast, passionate kissing, digging fingers into each others skin, perhaps even biting) Some people actually want both. I quite enjoy both, so either works for me if I'm honest.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

When someone turns out to be a great kisser, I just assume..... they kiss EVERYONE that way.... may be not family members or their boss.... but every meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See a guy regularly who makes me feel the most important and sexy woman in his world when we're together. Then he goes home.....perfection lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to think all the guys i meet treat me with respect and not a piece of meat but it doesnt mean i want them getting all soppy with me"

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

got to say i love kissing ,only adds to the passion ,puts me off when people say no kissin befor they even meet ...should go with the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"got to say i love kissing ,only adds to the passion ,puts me off when people say no kissin befor they even meet ...should go with the moment

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See a guy regularly who makes me feel the most important and sexy woman in his world when we're together. Then he goes home.....perfection lol

SNAP....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"got to say i love kissing ,only adds to the passion ,puts me off when people say no kissin befor they even meet ...should go with the moment

Totally agree"

Thats why i dont really meet couples as most have a no kissing rule, i cant do clinical sex and to meet someone and just get straigh down to it without the kissing is just way to cold for me

I adore kissing its my biggest turn on, i just couldnt have sex without it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is such a turn on. I find if I dont enjoy the kissing then usually dont enjoy the sex. For me kissing is a big part of the fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on my profile that I will kiss at my discretion, always end up kissing, hard not to really. Usually their cock but hey ho!

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By *ruit OP Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I can never understand the no kissing thing.

Some have said that it is just for their partner(so saving something back I guess) but then why wouldnt you save the actual penetration for just them and not the kissing for just them.

I agree that it would feel very clinical to me too to not kiss.

For me its all or nothing I guess. Kissing and damn good saucy fun or nout.

A great kisser is something else. I do know a man who is a very good kisser, probably the best ever for me but do know that he has that connection with everyone too judging by his comments which is lovely.

But I know it isnt exclusive but of course that is only the case if your not swinging as exclusivity is not the situation.

Cant wait for more kisses.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

yeah i find it a bit strange when people have on their profile no kissing cause they find it to personal yet will shag ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say if i wasnt kissed then i couldnt shag , for me kissing starts the sexual arousal , so no kissing no sex , simple.

Nothing wrong with a bit of romance in swinging , wine , candle light , music all helps sets the mood for me and have never had anyone complain, I think the meet , get ur knickers off and shag is way too smutty , but we all have personal opinion and preferences , as long as both parties have a good time , each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a guy do something like cradle my face all sloppy and it freaked me out. It was the way he did it, way to intimate for my liking thats boyfriend stuff not meet stuff to me"

I agree, not decrying anybody else, but for me the tenderness and emotional intimacy is what I do with my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kissing is such a turn on. I find if I dont enjoy the kissing then usually dont enjoy the sex. For me kissing is a big part of the fun xx"

Me too, I lurve kissing and snogging, I know some like to keep that for their partner and stuff like that but for me it sets the scene as it were!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do love kissing, i love all aspects of sex, i dont think im clinical in the least, maybe im not good at explaining things but there are certain things that im most definetly not comfortable with a meet doing, the way this guy cradled my face at chams really freaked me out big time, nothing else has freaked me out like that but there are definetly certain things i do not want a meet doing. I can have sex, give blow jobs to anyone (that i like) i never in my entire life associated sex and love my head just doesnt associate the two. But touches and cuddles and little tender things i do associate with love. Maybe someone needs to analyize me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently too and i was blown away when the guy produced bubbly and nice flute glasses was just such a nice touch should be more men like him xxxx you know who you are sexy man xxx

should we go to the effort? As per my post in the lounge about 'tonight may just slip by' I went to the trouble of laying on a beautiful biter suite, even had 2 double in it in case

a) 1 got too wet or b) didn't feel too comfortable

got some nice sparkling wine

some nibbles

& even some nice fresh shower gel

drove 3 hours to be closer as the midway point hotels where full & not as nice. Could have chosen a cheaper hotel too but wanted the bed option.

Only to be let down!

Why should I bother. Because I want to make things that little bit special I suppose

would I do it again - probably but I'd be more cautious & not as readily

everyone has the right to feel special - even us guys!!!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Thats why i dont really meet couples as most have a no kissing rule, "

Don't know where you get this from! We have only ever been contacted by three couples who didn't kiss! We have met a couple of them but still prefer a good old fashioned snog!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing no sex , Thats my rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No kissing no sex , Thats my rule."

Try and stop me kissing! Mmmmm head to toe for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, kissing but it's ok to do the most intimate act of intercourse? What about pussy of cock kissing, could that be out too. Bldy ell, my brain urts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love kissing but the tender cupping face bit is just enough to have me runnin! i have comittment issues and to me doing the cupping thing is just over stepping the mark a bit! yes im weird i know but thats just me!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"i love kissing but the tender cupping face bit is just enough to have me runnin! i have comittment issues and to me doing the cupping thing is just over stepping the mark a bit! yes im weird i know but thats just me!

xx"

Your not weird as thats exactly how i feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must and not met anyone that hasn't enjoyed my kisses yet

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feeling something extra is down to you more than the other person. It's just allowing yourself to engage emotionally with the sex.

I've let myself go beyond pure lust before and the kissing becomes electric and the sex mind blowing.

I think you have to be careful just how much emotion you want to put into swinging though. But no strings, doesn't have to mean no emotion. Just need to watch the balance.

As for the kissing in general, I think I've gone over the top several times. It's difficult to judge with couples as the husband may be quite happy to see his wife having sex with someone else, but kisses which make her spine tingle may be a bit too intimate.

I've been asked to do LESS kissing before, but never asked not to do it at all. Swingers aren't robots, so it's natural to allow yourself to enjoy it on more than just the physical level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one of these moments today.

The nice gent behind my local sandwich place where I have been going since it first opened nearly 2 years ago, gave me my change and held my hand a little longer than necessary. Very subtle, however, it made me smile, and he noticed I smiled.

And he watched me going out and said goodbye.

He does not do any of these to his other customers for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What has happened to other people when something unexpected happens that knocks you for six and leaves you breathless emotionally."

Although this seems to have become more about kissing, and I'm sure someone, somewhere will feel the need to bulldoze me, I actually have something from my past which, which not as intimate as kissing, gave me this feeling and I have never forgotton it. So, here you are:

Xmas 2001.

I've been divorced from my wife for 6 months, I've been seeing a co-worker and although we are happy, she has resigned a few weeks ago, she is going travelling - I encourage it, although I'm sad.

As it's xmas and I have literally nothing better to do, I'm housesitting for my parents as they go away. It's me, the cat and the TV.

25th, early afternoon. The doorbell goes - weird, but hey, maybe neighbours as they do know me.

It's my girlfriend.

Just standing there, smiling, such an honest smile.

She'd put off her flight for a week, without telling me, driven 200 miles, without telling me, just to knock on my door to suprise me, so I wouldn't be alone at xmas - even though she knew that xmas means little to me.

I tell you, in 40 years, nothing has come close to that feeling I had right then, that second. My legs didn't go weak - everything did.

I didn't know what to say, what to do, I swear I forgot to breath for a while

In the end, and I remember so clearly, she said "so... can I come in maybe?".

hehe

Sorry if it's not up to a passionate swinging sensation, but that split second was one of the most important of my entire life.

- ze rum iz talkin.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

What has happened to other people when something unexpected happens that knocks you for six and leaves you breathless emotionally.

Xmas 2001.

I've been divorced from my wife for 6 months, I've been seeing a co-worker and although we are happy, she has resigned a few weeks ago, she is going travelling - I encourage it, although I'm sad.

As it's xmas and I have literally nothing better to do, I'm housesitting for my parents as they go away. It's me, the cat and the TV.

25th, early afternoon. The doorbell goes - weird, but hey, maybe neighbours as they do know me.

It's my girlfriend.

Just standing there, smiling, such an honest smile.

I tell you, in 40 years, nothing has come close to that feeling I had right then, that second. My legs didn't go weak - everything did.

I didn't know what to say, what to do, I swear I forgot to breath for a while

In the end, and I remember so clearly, she said "so... can I come in maybe?".

hehe

Sorry if it's not up to a passionate swinging sensation, but that split second was one of the most important of my entire life.

- ze rum iz talkin.

AWwwwwww how sweet xxxx

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

thats very sweet

my sweetest thing today was walking in town and a guy was sat asking for change as i walked past, i stopped and gave him 50odd p and carried on, then i remmbered i had half a tube/roll of sweets, turned around and gave them to him

In terms of meeting women, my favourite was a wooden flower or bunch, scented with lavender

, in there favourite colour

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By *ruit OP Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am always aware how different people kiss. As already said some are passionate kissers with all the energy and lust that comes with it in often a frantic form. Then other kisses are gentle and teasing and testing. This guy is a cradle face as if he is kissing something special. It is very likely he kisses everyone that way. I look forward to having another lady there so can watch him kiss her and me kiss her too.... horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What has happened to other people when something unexpected happens that knocks you for six and leaves you breathless emotionally.

Xmas 2001.

I've been divorced from my wife for 6 months, I've been seeing a co-worker and although we are happy, she has resigned a few weeks ago, she is going travelling - I encourage it, although I'm sad.

As it's xmas and I have literally nothing better to do, I'm housesitting for my parents as they go away. It's me, the cat and the TV.

25th, early afternoon. The doorbell goes - weird, but hey, maybe neighbours as they do know me.

It's my girlfriend.

Just standing there, smiling, such an honest smile.

I tell you, in 40 years, nothing has come close to that feeling I had right then, that second. My legs didn't go weak - everything did.

I didn't know what to say, what to do, I swear I forgot to breath for a while

In the end, and I remember so clearly, she said "so... can I come in maybe?".

hehe

Sorry if it's not up to a passionate swinging sensation, but that split second was one of the most important of my entire life.

- ze rum iz talkin.

Well that would do it for me too.

Nice story.

Of course the perfect woman would wait a while for that nice gesture to sink in, then wisper in your ear,

"the other reason I'm here is I want to to fuck me right now!"

Sensitive + horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this will not sound at all romantic, but the sweetest gesture extended to me was on a long train journey with my ex partner and needing the toilet and them being so disgusting i just refused to go in. he went to the bathroom, without me asking, and cleaned it out thoroughly for me. now that is most definitely a gesture of love.

as for what goes on with a meet, i am a tactile and sensuous person and i will enjoy a meet to its fullest.

i'm not giving my heart to them, i build up enough of a relationship with them to know what is and isnt ok for both of us and sometimes men have relayed tht whilst they love being single, sometimes they miss intimacy. i dont see the harm in sharing that as long as you are both clear on the intention behind it.

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By *ruit OP Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Dances, how sweet of the person to do that for you. And yes I agree that your not giving your heart to them but it can touch your feelings and is a reminder that your heart is well hidden but occasionally a touch/action can make it swell a touch. It is intamacy and not love. Very different. For me intamacy can be with those that you really connect with on a certain level but is your choice if you allow your heart to be touched too. Think mine has shrivvled up lol. Its been hidden for so many years now lol.

Would take one hell of a man to touch my heart and pretty sure that he wont find me on here.

Dont think my happy ever after is gonna happen but you never know. One day.(look a pig going over lol)

Intamacy is wonderful and will carry on having that occasionally.

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