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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who else prefers a social meet prior to a fuck meet? We have always prefered a meet in a pub/resturaunt first (except clubs) as feel it would be awful to turn up and look at the other party and think oh crap lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally. There's no point if no attraction at all lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Totally. There's no point if no attraction at all lol x "

Exactly if were sharing a bed would like to know that we can have a giggle aswell think u relax more

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Totally agree. Needs to be some attraction & connection there, otherwise I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Totally agree. Needs to be some attraction & connection there, otherwise I'm not interested."

Snap if i cant hold a covo it wont go any further

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By *R and BlondieCouple
over a year ago

Bebington, wirral

We always do a no pressure social then can go away and talk about it. Then can plan a play meet knowing all 4 people are totally up for it and feel totally relaxed that all parties are happy !

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I've had too many people turn out not to be exactly as they represented themselves, so always have a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet people socially first, without any pressure or expectations to play. If we all 'click' then we are happy to play on first meet. Being able to hold a conversation with the people we play with is important to us. That's why we like going to our local club, we can meet people, chat and socialize over a few drinks and then the facilities are there if we want to play.

Juicy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With us not wanting a multitude of people to join us we are looking mainly for someone we get on with and can be easygoing and comfortable with from the word go. We would rather take a little extra time to be sure at the beginning than end up endlessly having to try explain and understand loads of people. After that it's all gravy and a certain trust and friendship emerges. Then the fun can happen much easier haha. X plus it's good to make em squirm first lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always like to have a social meet first, less pressure and if one of us doesn't want to take things further then we'll have had a chat and a drink and no hard feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's gotta be a social first for us. It's not enough just to look great when we meet, we also have to find a mental connection before we can have sex with them so we take some time getting to know playmates before we go to the bedroom.

If we're feeling naughty and fancy something more immediate then we'll go to a club where getting to know people isn't as big a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With us not wanting a multitude of people to join us we are looking mainly for someone we get on with and can be easygoing and comfortable with from the word go. We would rather take a little extra time to be sure at the beginning than end up endlessly having to try explain and understand loads of people. After that it's all gravy and a certain trust and friendship emerges. Then the fun can happen much easier haha. X plus it's good to make em squirm first lol x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with all the posts so far .

Same for me re socials first but it seems being a single (and bi) lady, I often get replies of "oh, so you're looking for a relationship?".

Not been to a club yet though but plan to soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Not been to a club yet though but plan to soon "

Great if you just need to scratch an itch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather just book a room and get down to business. In my experience the longer the social the more I dislike someone and it doesn't happen. Rather fuck then fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Agree with all the posts so far .

Same for me re socials first but it seems being a single (and bi) lady, I often get replies of "oh, so you're looking for a relationship?".

Not been to a club yet though but plan to soon "
maybe go to a club with a coupleu are confortable with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just cant imagine anything worse than a quick meet in a hotel getting there and there not what is expected ie they say clean shaven but have a rain forest lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree with all the posts so far .

Same for me re socials first but it seems being a single (and bi) lady, I often get replies of "oh, so you're looking for a relationship?".

Not been to a club yet though but plan to soon maybe go to a club with a coupleu are confortable with?"

Sounds great but finding said couple has proved quite difficult so far.

One for 2015 I guess

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"We like to meet people socially first, without any pressure or expectations to play. If we all 'click' then we are happy to play on first meet. Being able to hold a conversation with the people we play with is important to us. That's why we like going to our local club, we can meet people, chat and socialize over a few drinks and then the facilities are there if we want to play.

Juicy x"

Meeting in a vanilla venue without knowing in advance that if all agree you will go somewhere else for a meet seems too convoluted for us plus if the other couple don't turn up you are in a pub or wherever when you could have been in a club.

Some of our first meets are with no solid expectations but they are always in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always prefer a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a social meet in a neutral place as I feel it gives everyone the chance to relax and see how we all get on. They can be time consuming though, but I'd rather that than turning up and any of us thinking…oh dear!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I won't meet guys alone without a social first, and sometimes it's difficult for both of us to meet a couple for a social so I'm happy to go alone to that.

If arranging a quick outdoor meet it's different - a quick chat, swap pics and off we go, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a few social meets maybe just a coffee or a nice meal. I'm a strong believer in connecting on a cognitive level before going further. However we are all lead by our passion and have had occasion to be at it like rabbits within ten minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like dating, not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find meeting at my house or someone else's house fine. We chat and after a while everyone is asked if they want to play. No one has ever walked out although they can if they want with no recriminations. After agreeing to play we each say what we like and don't like so there is no embarrassing moments later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very spontaneous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to do a social first. I find the sex is infinitely better if I know someone a bit first.

It's not dating. I don't think a married couple meeting another couple for a drink first means we are dating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I like to have a few social meets maybe just a coffee or a nice meal."

This is dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if were meeting a couple then yeah we'll have a social first as we have had awkward moments before in the past were weve had an 'early night' so to speak lol

if meeting a male the fem will go an meet him herself and let her make a decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer to meet socially first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer social before playing except if im at a club or party

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We prefer to meet socially first off as there has to more than just physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to pick my meets wisely so I know exactly what I'm getting. My time is so limited if I met for a social first I'd never get any sex!! I haven't had any nasty surprises yet so I must be doing something right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rather just book a room and get down to business. In my experience the longer the social the more I dislike someone and it doesn't happen. Rather fuck then fuck off."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Agree with all the posts so far .

Same for me re socials first but it seems being a single (and bi) lady, I often get replies of "oh, so you're looking for a relationship?".

Not been to a club yet though but plan to soon maybe go to a club with a coupleu are confortable with?

Iam sure there are plenty of couples would happily take u ??

Sounds great but finding said couple has proved quite difficult so far.

One for 2015 I guess "

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I get quite a lot of abusive message because I will only meet for a social first time round

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always have a social meet in a neutral place as I feel it gives everyone the chance to relax and see how we all get on. They can be time consuming though, but I'd rather that than turning up and any of us thinking…oh dear! "

Iam the same would rather have 20 social meets and walk away than a all expectaion meet and cringe lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like dating, not swinging."

I think the word is sensible i wouldnt do something with any1 i have no connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting another couple then social first but we've only met couples so far in clubs. Just to make sure everyone clicks and is happy to proceed. Single guys we tend to just get to the point unless gingers planning on meeting alone then always a social first for her safety.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meeting another couple then social first but we've only met couples so far in clubs. Just to make sure everyone clicks and is happy to proceed. Single guys we tend to just get to the point unless gingers planning on meeting alone then always a social first for her safety."

We get ppl block us daily when we say we meet socialy for first time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to meet people socially first, without any pressure or expectations to play. If we all 'click' then we are happy to play on first meet. Being able to hold a conversation with the people we play with is important to us. That's why we like going to our local club, we can meet people, chat and socialize over a few drinks and then the facilities are there if we want to play.

Juicy x"

Same for us xx

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