FabSwingers.com forum: Dilemma

By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.

I am going out on Friday with the girls and guys from work after we finish for the holidays. I have a nice new black lace top and am wondering whether to wear a bra under it or not. It is kind of see through but a pet hate of mine is seeing bras under clothing and I am not a great lover of wearing bras anyway.

Would this be just a bit too much?

I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

Babydoll xxx

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm not a fan of visible underwear - bra straps showing etc. I wonder if a slinky, strappy top would be the answer.

Preserve your modestly yet allow people to realise you're bra less?

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

PS Jackie Bird wore one reading the news tonight.

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol

Babydoll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol

Babydoll "

Why ask the question if you have already made up your mind? Just wear the top and enjoy your night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol

Babydoll "
go bra less if ur comfy x

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol

Babydoll

Why ask the question if you have already made up your mind? Just wear the top and enjoy your night."

I have decided to wear the top it is wether to go braless or not

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol

Babydoll "

I meant under the lace one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.

Would this be just a bit too much?

I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

Babydoll xxx"

Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.

A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.

Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.

Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!"

Yes i will feel comfortable braless, I dont wear them that often

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.

Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!

Yes i will feel comfortable braless, I dont wear them that often"

There you are then! Go bra less and enjoy the evening.

I always wear one when I'm out because I'd have somebody's eye out if I didn't.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea."

Me too. Go for a flesh coloured one or a bright snazzy colour so it doesn't detract from or enhances the lace.

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.

Would this be just a bit too much?

I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

Babydoll xxx

Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.

A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea."

We all know what the men would think it is more about the bitchiness from other women

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.

Would this be just a bit too much?

I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

Babydoll xxx

Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.

A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea.

We all know what the men would think it is more about the bitchiness from other women"

I think on Christmas evenings out the clothing is often a bit more revealing than normal I'm sure the women will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bra or no bra? Where's the dilemma?

Jokes aside, if you feel comfortable and you're happy then go with it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Have re read the op. How sheer is the lace?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not cattiness....it's called jealousy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.

Would this be just a bit too much?

I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

Babydoll xxx

Wear what you feel comfortable with. Not sure why you're more worried about what the women think than the men.

A suggestion has been made that you wear a slinky top underneath rather than a bra, I thought that was quite a good idea.

We all know what the men would think it is more about the bitchiness from other women"

Some men would actually be embarrassed if a woman in the vicinity is wearing something too see through. Not being bitchy, but going off personal experience of having a cousin who used to wear see through lace stuff a fair bit.

I like the idea of a vest top too, think they look nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its a work do wearing see through clothing wouldnt be the best idea. Bosses see things like that as you representing the company. I also think a thin strappy top underneath would look more classy.

Stu

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Have re read the op. How sheer is the lace?"

It is not that sheer but nipples are clearly visible. It will be worse if disco lights are on lol

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"If its a work do wearing see through clothing wouldnt be the best idea. Bosses see things like that as you representing the company. I also think a thin strappy top underneath would look more classy.

Stu"

Its not a works do, it is just some of the workers going for a night out as we are finished for a fortnights holiday. There will be no bosses there

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have re read the op. How sheer is the lace?

It is not that sheer but nipples are clearly visible. It will be worse if disco lights are on lol "

My honest opinion not based on cattiness, jealousy or bitchiness is that showing your nipples at a works do is probably not a great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather see a bra through a sheer top than a womans nipples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your nipples will be visible you will be stared at all night. If you don't mind that then leave the bra at home. Is it a usual thing that women do where you go?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh just seen that it's not a works do.

Go ahead!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go how you want to, not others, if you feel sexy, do it

her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never wear a bra - not shy of showing a hint of nip but wouldnt show a full on see through top if i was with people it might embarass - if youre comfy wear it without

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Do what you are comfortable with... I would have a clingy lycra vest top under as inwouldnt reveal my nipples in a non swinger's club environment... You should do what works for you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can get little flesh coloured nipple covers I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh just seen that it's not a works do.

Go ahead! "

I thought it was a works do too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can get little flesh coloured nipple covers I think "

elastoplast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love going out without my sports bra.

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

Thanks for all your thoughts. I have decided to go without but a suggestion that was made in a pm was to take a bra with me in my bag which is what I will do

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Oh just seen that it's not a works do.

Go ahead!

I thought it was a works do too."

No it's just work friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love going out without my sports bra.

brave man

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By *ighlandguy1000Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Hpoe I meet up with you babydoll. I am out in Dingwall on Friday eith your hubby. County Tsvern?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I am looking for peoples thoughts on my dilemma.

Would this be just a bit too much?

I am not worried what men would think about it but more about the cattiness from other females.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

Babydoll xxx"
send me a pic with and without and will let Yer know

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By *ighlandguy1000Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Meant to say Babydol I think no bra he he

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Me personally would go without as its xmas and who cares

If you are comfortable braces then I'm sure yoh will decide for yourself whatever our opinions

Enjoy your evening and be careful not to get black eyes

Xxx

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Me personally would go without as its xmas and who cares

If you are comfortable braces then I'm sure yoh will decide for yourself whatever our opinions

Enjoy your evening and be careful not to get black eyes

Xxx"

I am comfortable with it as I go braless most of the time and the hubby is ok with it, in fact I think he is quite excited by it lol.

I have decided to go braless and take a bra in my bag.

Black eyes wont be an issue as I am not big enough for that ha

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Hpoe I meet up with you babydoll. I am out in Dingwall on Friday eith your hubby. County Tsvern?"

will probably meet up somewhere its not a big town lol. We are starting off in the Tavern but please dont get the othe half in the same state he was in last year lol

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

"Meant to say Babydol I think no bra he he"

knew thst anyway you horny devil

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just wondering if you do go bra less can I wear it instead .......... Just to keep it warm for you when you return !!!!!! honest ........ !!!!! ??

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By *allSlimOneMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Clothes they are such a pain aren't they that is the joy of naturism everyone is equal.

If it's only colleagues no bosses and you have it and are happy flaunt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was wanting to wear this top though. Not worried about modesty, it is less than is seen on a spanish beach lol

Babydoll

Why ask the question if you have already made up your mind? Just wear the top and enjoy your night."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering if you do go bra less can I wear it instead .......... Just to keep it warm for you when you return !!!!!! honest ........ !!!!! ??"

Ear muffs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bra

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By *ighlandguy1000Man
over a year ago

Inverness

"Hpoe I meet up with you babydoll. I am out in Dingwall on Friday eith your hubby. County Tsvern?

will probably meet up somewhere its not a big town lol. We are starting off in the Tavern but please dont get the othe half in the same state he was in last year lol"

Look forward to it but I am not responsible for the state he could be in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly i think its quite tastleless and if a police officer see's you technically could be done for indecent exposure so be careful on that one!

I know many bars around here wont let women in if they are dressed like that theres a difference between showing cleavage and pretty much having all your tits on display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly i think its quite tastleless and if a police officer see's you technically could be done for indecent exposure so be careful on that one!

I know many bars around here wont let women in if they are dressed like that theres a difference between showing cleavage and pretty much having all your tits on display"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends, if it's lacy and you can pretty much are your tits nipples and all then that's probably something you should confine to a swingers club.

Also, it's not clear from the photos on your profile so I'll ask the question. Will you look good braless, lacy tops don't give a lot of support. Have a good long look at yourself wearing the top in the mirror. If your happy and comfortable then don't wear a bra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I don't think I've ever seen a woman's tits obviously on display on a night out? Yes on a beach in Spain. Not on a night out with work mates.

I think a sexy bra underneath can look amazing and be more sexy than showing it all off.

(Wow I sound really old reading that back!)

But wear the shortest skirt you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you dont wear a bra, will u be comfortable? And if u dont wear a bra expect men to be looking at u, and leering at u. So wear a bra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends whether you want to be taken seriously by your work colleagues or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you FEEL COMFORTABLE without a bra all night? If yes, then go for it.

Personally, I would only go bra-less on nights where I was a 100% I wouldn't be dancing, I'm sure you know what I mean!

Yes i will feel comfortable braless, I dont wear them that often"
there's your answer I think . have fun and enjoy xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if this has been mentioned, nude colour bra with clear straps. If you can get over the sniping from The girls, let them all hang free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And having just seen your pics I'd say you'd benefit from the support of a bra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And having just seen your pics I'd say you'd benefit from the support of a bra."

have to agree, definitely some support needed, it would make you look sexier if they are lifted a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffinatley a bra, the men will think boo but it'll save you lots of cat marks from the lady's

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I have quite small, pert boobs, and I would not go so obviously braless on a works night out.

It would likely make quite a few people uncomfortable, and I'm maybe a prude but there is a time and a place.

I'd like to be taken seriously by my colleagues and not just be known as the strumpet that flashed her tits on the xmas night out.

I have a few dresses that require braless, but they do not show my whole tits. Mainly lace panels at the back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want to look nice when you go out, you wouldn't go out with out doing your make up and hair would you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems like you've made your mind up so just go out without a bra. If you get cattiness from women and you may get it from men too, then you will have to deal with it won't you.

Many girls will be out looking sexy in revealing clothes, I doubt its going to be anything that out of the ordinary, just go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go bra less and show off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have quite small, pert boobs, and I would not go so obviously braless on a works night out.

It would likely make quite a few people uncomfortable, and I'm maybe a prude but there is a time and a place.

I'd like to be taken seriously by my colleagues and not just be known as the strumpet that flashed her tits on the xmas night out.

I have a few dresses that require braless, but they do not show my whole tits. Mainly lace panels at the back."

this. (Except for the small and pert bit, that I am not!)

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

You have to work with these people after the party, you know how bitch the girls can be as you work with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Baby.. you might get talked about anyway so why not make it about something you have control over

AND NO ITS NOT JUST BECAUSE I'D WANT TO PERV

honest !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear a bra, definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never wear a bra and sometimes the closefitting cami/vest is too much - i have a couple of lacy bralets that are light weight - i dont feel that im wearing too much with one of those - still cant wait to pull the thing off though -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want your work mates to see your modesty through your Lacey top?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you wear a bra in the end?

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

No. I took a bra with me in my bag but didnt feel the need to put it on.

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Defo bra.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"No. I took a bra with me in my bag but didnt feel the need to put it on."

Good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I took a bra with me in my bag but didnt feel the need to put it on."

Sounds good to us

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