FabSwingers.com forum: Misconceptions.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Firstly this is an observation and not a moan. I love this site, having much fun n frolics etc. made loads of friends and many more contacts.

However, reading the forums as I have often the past year or so I have noticed a common theme. What I feel is a disjoin.

The guys who moan about no meets. And the women who moan the most about single guys.

This does NOT apply to all...but to a fair sized chunk.

Guys who seem to think this is a free fuck, sex site. That have an entitlement to sex with very little effort. Think women are on here just so they can fuck their brains out. (A lot of these guys "strangely" can't accommodate either!)

Women who confuse the site with a dating site. Who are looking for "the one". Not a fuck buddy...just a special one to keep to themselves. (Have come across a few of these in my time here). Obviously they will have no time for the kind of guys above. Similarly the guys will then think of these ladies as time wasters?

Like I said...not true of so many lovely peeps.....but anyone else think this is true of a sizeable minority? Opinions/ideas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it seems that way with some men, the ones who say can they see me today, when I have got on my profile heading, can meet Thursdays or the ones who you have blocked in the past, said no thanks to yet they keep sending messages even when you have ignored the last one. Yes some think we women are gagging for it and desperate.

Then you see on some womens profile how much they liked the man they had met and say they would like to keep him to themselves, that puts me off meeting them. Im married so prefer not to keep seeing the same men, think it can get a bit complicated, as you say not all people are like this on here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly this is an observation and not a moan. I love this site, having much fun n frolics etc. made loads of friends and many more contacts.

However, reading the forums as I have often the past year or so I have noticed a common theme. What I feel is a disjoin.

The guys who moan about no meets. And the women who moan the most about single guys.

This does NOT apply to all...but to a fair sized chunk.

Like I said...not true of so many lovely peeps.....but anyone else think this is true of a sizeable minority? Opinions/ideas?"

Very good post op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, there are a few on here that might have joined the site with expectations that will make things difficult!

having high expectations is fine, as long as they put the effort in to get what they want, moaning after a week can get a bit much at times

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

I think it's getting worse , I was here a few years ago and had a lot of fun . But in my time here this time 50% of my messages say . Can I come and fuck you now , or words to that effect. I am not sure why it's changed so much but a lot of men are seaming to think this is a free escort site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's getting worse , I was here a few years ago and had a lot of fun . But in my time here this time 50% of my messages say . Can I come and fuck you now , or words to that effect. I am not sure why it's changed so much but a lot of men are seaming to think this is a free escort site . "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the support folks. Maybe it's not just me noticing this then.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

You are right, it isn't everybody but it does happen - managing expectations is the key to it, particularly for some men, you get the impression they joined with a guarantee of sex within 72 hours or something.

I am not sure on the numbers, but membership must have increased significantly over the last two years (when I joined) but I always wonder how, who markets this place and where - where are all the people who have the wrong impression about this place, actually finding out that this place exists? And why are their expectations so high?

I can be stats geek at times (I blame work) and would be interested to see how the membership has evolved over time on this place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you are spot on op some mail we get is terrible ,lack of respect or manners on behalf of many of them well done

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

Comp in agreement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfectly put. And yes....I think this is much more prevalent since I rejoined. Much less of this thing a couple of years ago.

Spot on OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good observation OP, pretty much got it in one really.

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By *eorgy26Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Spot on OP.

I'm still suprised that a lot of guys complain of how hard it is to get a meet.

They don't seem to realise that's the odds are so stacked against that you are more likely to meet someone on a night out and acting like a genuine human being than messaging random people with "Hey bb u wnt sum fuk" in here.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't think this behaviour is prevalent just on Fab. I have defected from another site because of the same problem(s).

Unfortunately, it would seem that a lot of the folk from that particular site have also jumped ship.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"You are right, it isn't everybody but it does happen - managing expectations is the key to it, particularly for some men, you get the impression they joined with a guarantee of sex within 72 hours or something.

Yup I asked the question a while back - why are they all arriving here with entirely the wrong idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You forgot about the massive sense of entitlement as well those who think they can just turn up and take a piece of pie. And whine and cry about fairness and all the other balls that comes with rejection.

Good post op.

Now stop whining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come across men looking for the one. They don't state it on their profile and only mention it after you have swapped numbers or are in bed. They don't want a gf,just someone to have sex with who is not having sex with anyone else ,so they can safely have unprotected sex. Oh,and the occasional bi mff please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did have someone say to me recently,I just want sex,it's not a dating site. All I had said was I have to chat to see if there's a connection before agreeing to swap numbers

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