FabSwingers.com forum: Disabled swingers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Strange question but, crossed my mind.

Would or have you declined a meet or swap due to the fact that the other person had some form of physical impairment.

Only reason I ask is that I haven't seen any pics of people on here with any physical disability ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps their disability is not immediately apparent ?

I'm sure there are, and to be honest being sexy is largely a state of mind and approach not just about a physical status?

I'm sure anyone can enjoy consensual, healthy sex and that's good.

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By *ysticmykeyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

It doesn't invalidate, or answer, your question, but not every physical disability would show up on pics. Mine don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are people, all of us are different in one way or another...

We all have our needs...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are people, all of us are different in one way or another...

We all have our needs... "

Exactly my point, I just wondered if people still discriminate

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a couple where the lady is disabled. Had a great time . A little care needed on positions (she has hip/knee problems) but still sucks like a hoover and has a very accommodating pussy.

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

I think it would depend on the disability.

Some disabilities aren't apparent from pics but are mentioned in profile text. Some are mentioned in messages after initial approach.

I know of a profile on here where the guy isn't able to achieve an orgasm and (I believe) an erection but enjoys soft play. For me that would not be enough - I enjoy penetration to much - and I would therefore decline a meet if asked. However, verifications show that others enjoy his company and meeting with him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it would depend on the disability.

Some disabilities aren't apparent from pics but are mentioned in profile text. Some are mentioned in messages after initial approach.

Fully understand x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A "disability" covers many different aspects and I know several people on here who are technically classed ad disabled. Some you would never know in the bedroom. Mobility problems etc.

Could be as simple as a hearing loss etc.

Judge each person on their merits....which will include personality and, yes, attractiveness. But not on a "disabled" label.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A "disability" covers many different aspects and I know several people on here who are technically classed ad disabled. Some you would never know in the bedroom. Mobility problems etc.

Could be as simple as a hearing loss etc.

Judge each person on their merits....which will include personality and, yes, attractiveness. But not on a "disabled" label."

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"People are people, all of us are different in one way or another...

We all have our needs...

Exactly my point, I just wondered if people still discriminate "

Once again, missuse of the word "discriminate". this is a site for sex and so people choose to meet based on what they want. It is no more discriminatory to refuse to meet someone in a wheelchair that it is to not meet a black or indian guy.

Please don't throw such words around without thought, it's offensive.

To answer your question, it would depend on the disability. There is a world of difference between, say, someone who is paralyzed from the waist down and someone born with a malformed left hand.

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By *uilty pleasurersCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Not being judgemental in any aspect of meeting people, it don't matter about age, (over legal age tho) sex disability ethic orgin as long as we all get on

Attractiveness come from inside and that makes play time so much more fun

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have no problem meeting someone with a physical disability as long as we where comparable. For practical reasons I couldn't meet a wheelchair user as most of my meets are at home and its not wheelchair friendly

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By *mandaboundTV/TS
over a year ago

Newton Le Willows

Would not stop me generally. More about the personality. Some very attractive disabled people in the public eye I certainly would like to get involved with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules of attraction apply. Disability doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are people, all of us are different in one way or another...

We all have our needs...

Exactly my point, I just wondered if people still discriminate

Please don't throw such words around without thought, it's offensive.

To answer your question, it would depend on the disability. There is a world of difference between, say, someone who is paralyzed from the waist down and someone born with a malformed left hand."

Discrimination is action that denies social participation or human rights to categories of people based on prejudice. This includes treatment of an individual or group based on their actual or perceived membership in a certain group or social category, "in a way that is worse than the way people are usually treated".

I stand by my wording, thankyou x

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"A "disability" covers many different aspects and I know several people on here who are technically classed ad disabled. Some you would never know in the bedroom. Mobility problems etc.

Could be as simple as a hearing loss etc.

Judge each person on their merits....which will include personality and, yes, attractiveness. But not on a "disabled" label.

Totally 100% agree with this, i like to know the persons personality and go from there because anyone disabled not disabled can be a good / bad meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone does not want to meet another on the grounds of them having a disability then who are we to judge.

The waffle that some people spout because they feel a perceived injustice because someone exercises their right to have a choice is baffling.

If someone does not want to meet someone who is disabled it's their choice discrimination does not have to come into it! You are not entitled to swing with someone under any legislation. Although I bet some people on here would secretly want it that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone does not want to meet another on the grounds of them having a disability then who are we to judge.

The waffle that some people spout because they feel a perceived injustice because someone exercises their right to have a choice is baffling.

Maybe wrong terminology , point taken

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I stand by my wording, thankyou x

Does that mean that you are unfairly discriminating against older people as you are only looking to meet up to the age of 55?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mean to have a dig OP as we would happily meet someone with a disability if the spark is there. I feel I had to make the above comment on the flip side because everybody has the right in this society to have a choice. Yes that choice impacts on others but where do you draw the line!!

No offends intended.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't mean to have a dig OP as we would happily meet someone with a disability if the spark is there. I feel I had to make the above comment on the flip side because everybody has the right in this society to have a choice. Yes that choice impacts on others but where do you draw the line!!

No offends intended. "

None taken, its an interesting debate that's all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disability is such a broad term these days.

Let's say we were asked to meet by a male with severe mental impairments such as psychosis then no bloody way - life is complicated enough!! These impairments may not be apparent but it doesn't scream sexiness to me however harsh that maybe.

In 2014, disability may well cover long term sufferers of anxiety and depression and we may well have swung with such people without realising. If we were given an informed choice then we'd most likey avoid as it could lead to further complications, neediness or worse.

I'm terms of physical disabilities then if we had a planned meet then it would unlikely to be with somebody who is deaf or have a limb missing. We may sound like cold hearted bastards but swinging is something we do every month or two and usually in clubs. If it was a more private meet then disabilities are not likely to gain our interest for sex.

Away from sex and swinging is a completely different story and we are happy to be friends and not judge. Swinging is a state of mind requiring you to be turned on.

Just to add to my post, we have both worked for over a decade with vulnerable adults so probably associate sex less with people who have disabilities then what may be deemed acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd happily play with a disabled woman. Perfect height when sitting in wheel chair for a bj and if the meet goes bad I could let her tyres down and leave without worrying she was following

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strange question but, crossed my mind.

Would or have you declined a meet or swap due to the fact that the other person had some form of physical impairment.

Only reason I ask is that I haven't seen any pics of people on here with any physical disability ? "

My disability isn't apparent in my photos but I do mention in in my profile text so I am upfront and totally honest before I meet. I don't go into detail until I am asked. I suffered two strokes in 2012 and left with, memory issues, speech problems, confusion if things are explained properly, slight weakness in limbs which can result in me using a walking stick. I haven't had any potential meet finding this a problem though. I myself wouldn't have a problem meeting anyone with a disability, if I fancy them then that's enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I just add that I actually do have a slight disability following the removel of a brain tumour and when I have shaved my hair off you would only ever know due to scaring how ever if I leave my hair to grow you would never of known so I don't think it makes any difference weather your disabald or not in regards of being a swinger as each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet recently.the chap didnt mention he had ms.he turned up on crutches.a bit deceitfull i thought.wasnt my cuppa tea anyways.but with the illness and his body size.i really dont know how we could of played.dont shoot me.i guess he could have a wonderfull tongue ,but it wouldnt of been enough for me.

So i guess i am saying no,i wouldnt meet a person who couldnt fully play.

Shallow maybe.but honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a couple where the lady was blind ,never stopped her having a good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet recently.the chap didnt mention he had ms.he turned up on crutches.a bit deceitfull i thought.wasnt my cuppa tea anyways.but with the illness and his body size.i really dont know how we could of played.dont shoot me.i guess he could have a wonderfull tongue ,but it wouldnt of been enough for me.

So i guess i am saying no,i wouldnt meet a person who couldnt fully play.

Shallow maybe.but honest"

Nothing wrong with that at all. Completely your right to choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rules of attraction apply. Disability doesn't matter. "

Exactly my view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So i guess i am saying no,i wouldnt meet a person who couldnt fully play.

Shallow maybe.but honest"

I dont think you being shallow as he hadnt been honest. I have MS. I dont mention it in my profile but I do mention it when I am chatting to people. Thankfully it doesnt affect me that much. Just weakness in my left leg which does ache if in the same position for a while. And viagra is a good friend to me lol. My point is if that you are up front and honest

people can then make an informed decision whether to meet you or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know what I love this thread because Iam disabled but no you would never guess unless I said to you! I have spina bifida and in no way does this effect me (not in the bedroom anyway) lol I do have a lump on my back but tbh it's like one of you said "who are you to judge a book by its cover" I have grown up and always worried my self over the way I looked and special doing p.e in school I hated that, but when I ment the Mr he have made me realise that it don't matter at all.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you know what I love this thread because Iam disabled but no you would never guess unless I said to you! I have spina bifida and in no way does this effect me (not in the bedroom anyway) lol I do have a lump on my back but tbh it's like one of you said "who are you to judge a book by its cover" I have grown up and always worried my self over the way I looked and special doing p.e in school I hated that, but when I ment the Mr he have made me realise that it don't matter at all.x "

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By *tumpy guyMan
over a year ago

dewsbury

im disabled and do mention in my profile have only been disabled in last 4 years I did have lots of meet before when I could travel have found it a lot harder to get meets since but I am still getting meets also I do have my profile pic shows my disability but always up to meet if anyone would like to try me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not stated mine as I'm no different from anyone els.. I do everything the same as everyone on here. Just a lump on my back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are people, all of us are different in one way or another...

We all have our needs...

Exactly my point, I just wondered if people still discriminate

Please don't throw such words around without thought, it's offensive.

To answer your question, it would depend on the disability. There is a world of difference between, say, someone who is paralyzed from the waist down and someone born with a malformed left hand.

I stand by my wording, thankyou x

I'm sorry, but which human right exactly is covered by not meeting people for sex from a swinging site?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"People are people, all of us are different in one way or another...

We all have our needs...

Exactly my point, I just wondered if people still discriminate

Please don't throw such words around without thought, it's offensive.

To answer your question, it would depend on the disability. There is a world of difference between, say, someone who is paralyzed from the waist down and someone born with a malformed left hand.

I stand by my wording, thankyou x

So your hubby will have to have gay sex otherwise he is discriminating against homosexuals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was/is a guy on Fab who had lost both his legs. He was a hell of a charecter and did not seem to have much difficulty funding meets subject to the attraction rule.

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH

"If someone does not want to meet another on the grounds of them having a disability then who are we to judge.

The waffle that some people spout because they feel a perceived injustice because someone exercises their right to have a choice is baffling.

agree

tabitha xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people wouldn't declare it. I'm classed as disabled, I have M.E. and Fibromyalgia. Unless it's going to impact on the meet (which it sometimes does if i'm having a bad day and my flexibility is poor) then I don't mention it. If I was going to get into a long relationship then of course they'd need to know but if it's just a fling then sometimes it's nice to feel 'normal' for once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most people wouldn't declare it. I'm classed as disabled, I have M.E. and Fibromyalgia. Unless it's going to impact on the meet (which it sometimes does if i'm having a bad day and my flexibility is poor) then I don't mention it. If I was going to get into a long relationship then of course they'd need to know but if it's just a fling then sometimes it's nice to feel 'normal' for once.

PS There was one lovely guy who I told and I think he thought I was made of glass - he even asked if it would hurt my legs if he got on top (bless him, so sweet and considerate) but it did make me giggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Strange question but, crossed my mind.

Would or have you declined a meet or swap due to the fact that the other person had some form of physical impairment.

Only reason I ask is that I haven't seen any pics of people on here with any physical disability ? "

There are a few though a lot will tell you in pm rather than on their profiles for obvious reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I was attracted to them and they were attracted to me, there would be no issues at all

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

"Rules of attraction apply. Disability doesn't matter. "

This!

Ive met a guy with a metal leg. Him and his girlfriend were lovely, and then there was a girl on the train in a wheelchair that I'd have had no problems dating if I had the chance.

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By *iggerooooCouple
over a year ago

Conwy

I (him) wear a hearing aid, to my knowledge ... I've only ever had one person in my lifetime give that as a reason to not be interested in me ... That was in my teenage years though.

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