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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So im 22 newly married husband is 26 and we have only been on for a week or so. Alot of messages we get are from older guys and i kinda think thats sexy, whats everyones opinion of how big the age gap should be? x

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

How big the gap should be is your personal choice, nobody elses.

Decide what's right for you and why, and you won't go far wrong.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

recall hearing somewhere that men shouldn't have gfs younger than half their age plus 7 years, so if a man was 50 the woman should be 32 or older. think this is rubbish though, most of us have experimented with older partners when young, and younger when old - as long as you are happy and over the legal age, then don't worry!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i agree it is personal choice but i was wondering what everyone elses personal choice is i guess to see if im a freak! I've never heard my friends say oh that 57yr old is hot, but in a place like this website im finding alot of them very attractive just confusing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest age gap doesnt bother us,we have met men 20 years older than me(mrs).. We have met couples in their early 20's to me there has to be some attraction but its personality too x

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By *ouple2playCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

We just love to meet up and have fun with much older men (and the odd older couple) than us. Just feels so much naughtier, and we're in this to be naughty!

Got a few friends who we met when we were in mid 20's and even though we're older and the gap the same the fact they're older too just turns us on more.

But that's just us lol

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By *ortyandniceCouple
over a year ago

east london

congrats to you both and hope you had a lovely wedding day.

I'm 26 partner is 48, I find guys that are older attractive and sexy. I don't look at people and see their age, I like to see what their personality is.

After all age is a number :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i seem to like the 2 ends ,,much youunger or much older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age gap is entirely up to you and who you feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why dont you put younger or older or age gap in the forum search, this subject has been done 5 times over the last 3 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really look at people in terms of age, just whether I fancy them or not, older or younger.

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

at first I would not have picked older couples but the second couple we met were older than we first though before swinging and it was amazing so I would say don't set an age as of yet so you can see how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is nothing but a number, my partner is 44 i'm 21, he's hornier than me lol, waconstantly, it's me that begs for a rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im 22 newly married husband is 26 and we have only been on for a week or so. Alot of messages we get are from older guys and i kinda think thats sexy, whats everyones opinion of how big the age gap should be? x"

As big as your comfortable with. I find my preferences change though from week to week. Young lads appeal sometimes and others i can't be doing with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal choice - age has nothing to do with it. If you find the person attractive then surely that is all that counts?

I've been with girls half my age and very slightly older but I'm lucky, I still look 'young' and keep myself very fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So im 22 newly married husband is 26 and we have only been on for a week or so. Alot of messages we get are from older guys and i kinda think thats sexy, whats everyones opinion of how big the age gap should be? x"

As long as it covers me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal choice - age has nothing to do with it. If you find the person attractive then surely that is all that counts?

I've been with girls half my age and very slightly older but I'm lucky, I still look 'young' and keep myself very fit."

You are wrong, age has everything to do with it for me and that is personal choice

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Age has alot to do with it for me too i don't like men younger than 25 or older than 55 but like you said all personal preferance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is a good guideline but I still think it is the physical and mental attraction that counts. True, I rarely fancy women older than myself - but there are exceptions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal choice - age has nothing to do with it. If you find the person attractive then surely that is all that counts?

I've been with girls half my age and very slightly older but I'm lucky, I still look 'young' and keep myself very fit."

errrr if you find the person attractive haven't you made a personal choice regardless of thier age ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is a good guideline but I still think it is the physical and mental attraction that counts. True, I rarely fancy women older than myself - but there are exceptions!"

Well said, am definatly with you on the physical and mental attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although there are possibly some very attractive older people on the site I do have to admit that Roger being a young 'un hiself would not usually entertain anyone older than his mum! He just doesnt think its right. I myself am only 5 years younger than her! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of attractive

couple"s in there 50s on this site

and a lot in better shape than some

of the younger 1s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and my wife are early 30s and she only meets guys in there 40s and 50s and shes been that way since early 20s,you know what your getting with the older guy and you dont get text msgs and phone calls 24/7 like you do with some of the younger guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a young couple in there twenties, and we have a good time, there rules lots of fun and games, all works very well, age don’t come in to it just having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally dont like a to big age gap between me and the people i meet, but thats only my choice, i dont think theres anything wrong with people meeting someone 30 years older or younger then themselves, all because its not for me dont mean i think its wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't like a big age gap in fact as 40yos' we try for 35-50, but thats just us. Whatever works for you, works.

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By *undebigaryMan
over a year ago

dundee


"So im 22 newly married husband is 26 and we have only been on for a week or so. Alot of messages we get are from older guys and i kinda think thats sexy, whats everyones opinion of how big the age gap should be? x"
I think if your attracted to somebody then it shouldnt matter about the age gap.my exgf was 12 years younger than me,an we were together for 7 year,an age gap was never a problem.and for meeting an older man on here just remember older men are better in bed,its not just a rumour i started.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" just remember older men are better in bed,its not just a rumour i started.lol"

Oh dunno ive met some older guys that have been usless in bed lol

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Age doesn't bother me. But I respect that others have age limits.

I just wish it wasn't usually 2 years under my age

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By *undebigaryMan
over a year ago

dundee


" just remember older men are better in bed,its not just a rumour i started.lol

Oh dunno ive met some older guys that have been usless in bed lol "
Well dont tell anybody,cos im doing my hardest to make the rumour true.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

met my 43yr old hubby 11 yrs ago,,im 27,, 16yrs between us,,,YES i was 16 when we met,,lucky him? or lucky me? we both r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal choice - age has nothing to do with it. If you find the person attractive then surely that is all that counts?

I've been with girls half my age and very slightly older but I'm lucky, I still look 'young' and keep myself very fit.

You are wrong, age has everything to do with it for me and that is personal choice "

yes i agree age has everything to do with it for me too

When i meet someone im looking for more than to meet up and jump into bed, i like to go for a drink, have a chat etc and i find if they are to young i dont really have that much in common with them, and if someone cant stimulate me mentally its never going to happen physically, same with older, if thees to much of a age gap people tend to just have totally different interests and life styles, and i know its swinging but i dont see men i meet as just a cock i like to connect with the whole person

I think men and women will just differ on this one, i have notcied most men say no it dont matter, i think because most are just looking for sex, where as most women say it does because genrally women look deeper into who they meet, even if it is just for sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heard it said that to women "sex is the whole thing"

But to mens its "just the hole"

To some men it must be and they would say so if honest.

Women tend to like a little more than "just a shag"

Hence whn meeting someone way younger, there may be no connection.

AND same with someone way older.

Straight down the middle works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 50 today, and my wife is 36 later this year, so 14 yrs of a difference, makes no difference to us x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I am 50 today, and my wife is 36 later this year, so 14 yrs of a difference, makes no difference to us x"

Happy birthday, my beloved is 23 years older than me and it bears no relavence to our relationship whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" just remember older men are better in bed,its not just a rumour i started.lol

Oh dunno ive met some older guys that have been usless in bed lol "

I did ask you not to tell anybody about me, anyway you got the full 2 minutes what ya moaning about, I had fun

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"So im 22 newly married husband is 26 and we have only been on for a week or so. Alot of messages we get are from older guys and i kinda think thats sexy, whats everyones opinion of how big the age gap should be? x"

As a young, sexy, newly married couple, am I the only one thinking shouldn't you two be too busy shagging each other into a frenzy to have time to surf the net for advise on the ages of prospective additional sex partners?!

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh


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As a young, sexy, newly married couple, am I the only one thinking shouldn't you two be too busy shagging each other into a frenzy to have time to surf the net for advise on the ages of prospective additional sex partners?! "

Are there rules and when you are allowed to start swinging that I've missed? All power to them!

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"

As a young, sexy, newly married couple, am I the only one thinking shouldn't you two be too busy shagging each other into a frenzy to have time to surf the net for advise on the ages of prospective additional sex partners?!

Are there rules and when you are allowed to start swinging that I've missed? All power to them!

"

Hell no. Nothing wrong with it, and who said anything about rules?! Maybe it was just us, but we were too busy with each other when we were young newlyweds.. perhaps that didn't apply to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

As a young, sexy, newly married couple, am I the only one thinking shouldn't you two be too busy shagging each other into a frenzy to have time to surf the net for advise on the ages of prospective additional sex partners?!

Are there rules and when you are allowed to start swinging that I've missed? All power to them!

Hell no. Nothing wrong with it, and who said anything about rules?! Maybe it was just us, but we were too busy with each other when we were young newlyweds.. perhaps that didn't apply to you?"

There arent rules but there are regular forums posters on here who, whenever a thread is started by a young'un (ie 20s) they immediately pipe up with "shouldn't you be getting it from other places" and such bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there should be no age gap just an attraction SIMPLES

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh


"

Hell no. Nothing wrong with it, and who said anything about rules?! Maybe it was just us, but we were too busy with each other when we were young newlyweds.. perhaps that didn't apply to you?"

We got married 2 years ago at 24. We'd lived together for ages, been together for 6 years and of course we were all over each other but it's not like we only discovered what it was like to have sex with each other on our wedding night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* not implying Little-Miss-Muffet is one of them, wanted to buy: edit button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi there age doesnt matter its all about you feel with the other person and also how relaxed you feel with the other person or personsxxxxxxxxxmark and sheila

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"

Hell no. Nothing wrong with it, and who said anything about rules?! Maybe it was just us, but we were too busy with each other when we were young newlyweds.. perhaps that didn't apply to you?

We got married 2 years ago at 24. We'd lived together for ages, been together for 6 years and of course we were all over each other but it's not like we only discovered what it was like to have sex with each other on our wedding night!

"

You weren't a blushing virgin? Tsk.. and I bet you wore white...

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"* not implying Little-Miss-Muffet is one of them, wanted to buy: edit button."

Lol

Is ok, know exactly what you mean... I think..

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

Hell no. Nothing wrong with it, and who said anything about rules?! Maybe it was just us, but we were too busy with each other when we were young newlyweds.. perhaps that didn't apply to you?

We got married 2 years ago at 24. We'd lived together for ages, been together for 6 years and of course we were all over each other but it's not like we only discovered what it was like to have sex with each other on our wedding night!

You weren't a blushing virgin? Tsk.. and I bet you wore white... "

I bet she did.

tsk, tsk - we don't want that sort of thing on here.

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Oh yes, I wore white, simply becuase it looked better in the photos!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Oh yes, I wore white, simply becuase it looked better in the photos!"

Dirty, dirty girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally dont like a to big age gap between me and the people i meet, but thats only my choice, i dont think theres anything wrong with people meeting someone 30 years older or younger then themselves, all because its not for me dont mean i think its wrong "

My sentiments exactly!

If only those that think "age is but a number" get on with it and not try to convert us to their way of thinking like religious zealots!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" just remember older men are better in bed,its not just a rumour i started.lol

Oh dunno ive met some older guys that have been usless in bed lol

I did ask you not to tell anybody about me, anyway you got the full 2 minutes what ya moaning about, I had fun "

and it was the best two minutes of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems were a bit slow getting here on this post...

Our choice is that age isnt a major prob for both of us. We did in all honesty always think we wouldnt go over 45 and under 25 but that went out of the window with a mature couple we met of 52/50 a month or so ago. Both looked after themselves and felt as amazing as they looked too.we had a rather top nite allround and wouldnt hesitate to meet a mature couple again.

Then on the other end of the age side, weve met a couple of single women recently of which both were only 23 and 21.Same outcome again. So, our age limits as they were, just mean bugger all to us now depending on the attraction, etc etc....

I think though with the young ladies, mr.dd has been spoilt.Being a man though, after having all that attention from both myself and them young ones,his appetite has set off a defo wanting to meet with a couple of say, anything from 18/21. Not in a perverse way,more a energetic spark,attentiveness and the way they wanted us so much.

Oh well,at least they are over 16 so i dont have to worry bout him in that respect.lol

Age? = everyones personal choice. Not a rule. not pervy to want younger, nothing worse for wanting mature. Its how comfortable you'd feel either way of the age spectrum in our opinion.

You'll know if you want to meet them anyway when you talk and find there is or isnt a click there whatever age they are.

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By *orthernlad57Man
over a year ago

Bolton

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By *orthernlad57Man
over a year ago

Bolton

theres 15 years between me and my partner

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I married a child bride

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

if someone is sexy,and fit.age doesnt matter.we have been with people,much older,and much younger.we have had fun with them all.the main thing for us is,do we fancy them,and are they up for it.then let the fun begin,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 34 and was seeing a 20 year old,we got on well.I feel that some younger are mature minded eager to please with a 'old enough to know better,too young too care' attitude which makes them fun/adventurous.

Don't get me wrong though some older up to 43 at present have been equally great too,with perhaps more experience-don't get me wrong again here because some of the younger have had a lot of experience !

It's all about if you get on and are attracted to one another age is a number and the law is there for a reason. Its just wrong too !

The thought for having not just sexual relationships more friends with the benefit of added pleasures as and when required with no quibbles or worries that they want to tie the knot unless its tied by me with rope seems to be the general attitude with some of the younger.

Apparently they like the feel and experience of the older man.

Seems on here some older ladies like the feel of a much younger man inexperienced.Guess they have their reasons,some spring to mind and probably vary between each individual.

This may have been apparent with younger men messaging much older women to for the experience.Yeah I have heard about you,yeah you ! lol.So some have been tempted like many things its a 2 way thing

There's nothing wrong with it apart from the older ladies who see you with them saying "if your mother could see you now" which really does make me Pmsl.

I had met the mother who quite fancied me I later found out !

Its a generation thing too I feel and with all the equality and the world we live in now more acceptable.

Some older men are seen as sugar daddy types, but me being me, if a sugar mummy wished to buy me expensive stuff and treat me out to posh restaurants/holidays etc - I'd happily oblige as long as they didn't want to mother me and wanted me see to their natural needs in life to express my appreciation!

So my age limit is 18-46 which may be swayed if paid on the upper scale lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm 34 and was seeing a 20 year old,we got on well.I feel that some younger are mature minded eager to please with a 'old enough to know better,too young too care' attitude which makes them fun/adventurous.

Don't get me wrong though some older up to 43 at present have been equally great too,with perhaps more experience-don't get me wrong again here because some of the younger have had a lot of experience !

It's all about if you get on and are attracted to one another age is a number and the law is there for a reason. Its just wrong too !

The thought for having not just sexual relationships more friends with the benefit of added pleasures as and when required with no quibbles or worries that they want to tie the knot unless its tied by me with rope seems to be the general attitude with some of the younger.

Apparently they like the feel and experience of the older man.

Seems on here some older ladies like the feel of a much younger man inexperienced.Guess they have their reasons,some spring to mind and probably vary between each individual.

This may have been apparent with younger men messaging much older women to for the experience.Yeah I have heard about you,yeah you ! lol.So some have been tempted like many things its a 2 way thing

There's nothing wrong with it apart from the older ladies who see you with them saying "if your mother could see you now" which really does make me Pmsl.

I had met the mother who quite fancied me I later found out !

Its a generation thing too I feel and with all the equality and the world we live in now more acceptable.

Some older men are seen as sugar daddy types, but me being me, if a sugar mummy wished to buy me expensive stuff and treat me out to posh restaurants/holidays etc - I'd happily oblige as long as they didn't want to mother me and wanted me see to their natural needs in life to express my appreciation!

So my age limit is 18-46 which may be swayed if paid on the upper scale lol "

However there are some of us that prefer the experience of our own age group not the inexperience of the young lads/lassies, some of us that are not interested in them because we have kids of similar age

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales

Forgot to mention, our very first meet with a couple was a bit of an age gap. Keeping in mind this was a while ago and I would have been about 21 - she was 41 and he was 43. Both looked great for their age though, were in good shape, and certainly made us re-think our preconceptions about age gaps. The 7 year one between us seems miniscule..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age should not really make a difference, besides its a personal choice. If anyone is attracted to older or younger,(obviously legal), people then that is their own choice.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'd say each to their own... but I'd be lying. Usually I leave others to make their own choices about their preferences etc.... but there are some age things which give me the creeps (though this has only been in recent years).

People who will galdly fuck someone young enough to be their own child (and not their oldest child at that) ..... *shudders*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We really dont look that closely at ages but we do take on board the maturity of personality of people we might meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say each to their own... but I'd be lying. Usually I leave others to make their own choices about their preferences etc.... but there are some age things which give me the creeps (though this has only been in recent years).

People who will galdly fuck someone young enough to be their own child (and not their oldest child at that) ..... *shudders*"

I know what you mean...*shudders with you*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no problem with them x

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