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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We like to know we can hold a convo with a couple prior to arranging a meet, are we the only ones? Simple chat not 1 liners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried I had one from last year then he moved to Swindon finding one on here is a needle in a haystack tell me about it. Most meets have been one offs never see them again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just general chat seems imposible, i am a chatty woman not interested in 1 word replies its not the most relaxing way to start and y do people make out to be something their not? Like your not going to notice lol swinging should be fun and exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like talking about nothing so find it really easy to have conversations on here, some guys i've been talking to for months now and not met them, some only for a few hours, depends really.

don't think i make a good friend coz i talk to too many people at once sometimes and end up neglecting a few regular chatters in the process but they always come back the next day or later on to talk to me luckily.

dunno if it would be harder for couples though coz you might not know what the other partner was talking about or want to talk about? single people it seems easy enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think having a raport with someone you want a more lasting 'relationship' with is extremely important. Makes sex much better as well. Especially if you are wanting a fuck buddy, I believe it should be more than just stick it in and out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd prefer to find a couple we can just chat with sometimes, good friends=even better sex then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just prefer to fuck them, no convo = fuck and go friends

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd like a friend with benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup that's why we like meeting at clubs. We can have a sit down and chat over a few drinks before deciding to play and if not we have a look around and a play on our own using the facilities of the club. Or meet someone else there!

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I'm put off when I can't communicate well with my meet partners. When we have a few things in common the atmosphere totally changes, and things get a lot more fun. So finding someone you get on with so much that you can meet regularly would be awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We'd prefer to find a couple we can just chat with sometimes, good friends=even better sex then. "

agree.We've found upto now though once you've met them the chat isn't there anymore ie. everyday not sure whether it's us but as soon as you are looking for another meet they are back all nic and chatty again not exactly what you want, still staying in touch every now and then wouldn't hurt....not only when they want a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not finding it that difficult. Those that just send one liners we say no thank you too and don't meet. Those that send several good messages and we get to know we arrange a social with. If the social goes well we take it further at future meetings. There are some lovely people on here who we have clicked with enough to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as long as they don't ask me for money to pay the gas and lecky bills..etc I have no qualms about shagging woman friends who are on the dole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We'd prefer to find a couple we can just chat with sometimes, good friends=even better sex then.

agree.We've found upto now though once you've met them the chat isn't there anymore ie. everyday not sure whether it's us but as soon as you are looking for another meet they are back all nic and chatty again not exactly what you want, still staying in touch every now and then wouldn't hurt....not only when they want a shag "

Fancy a shag though?

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"We like to know we can hold a convo with a couple prior to arranging a meet, are we the only ones? Simple chat not 1 liners"

You are not the only ones. We want to know that we can talk to someone before getting them in to our bed. It's interesting watching it with Tigs, there are a few people she is talking to and conversing with and its really nice to see then you get the "want a fuck luv" message and I shake my head in shame for them. Has this every actually worked? Even outside of fab when I was single, i had to put a little effort in when on the pull in a club

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

try being a single female! I seem to attract the most disrespectful messages and they wonder why I don't respond favourably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a fab phone and ring them

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I know it's ultimately a sex site but for us the conversation has got to be there too. We get plenty of people who just reply and don't ask questions so the conversation is one sided or just dies.

We'd love to meet a couple that we get on with in and out of the bedroom as sex would get better the more you played.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know it's ultimately a sex site but for us the conversation has got to be there too. We get plenty of people who just reply and don't ask questions so the conversation is one sided or just dies.

We'd love to meet a couple that we get on with in and out of the bedroom as sex would get better the more you played.

I think personally if u want my tits out i need banter lol iam a friendly easy going person but i also have respect for myself and my hubby, a quick shag isnt what i am after plus i need to express boundries and respect both parties miscomunication can cause unwanted issues that are avoidable be it a single person, couple or group we all have no go area's lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like making friends and if we happ en to fuck all the better x.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Snap we like to know the person/couple as every1 has different wants and needs some can be explored but if u dont discuss what u do and dont want its easy to turn into a bad experiance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts us off when you cant have chat and banter in messages leading up to a meet. Makes us wonder how your gonna communicate face to face if they cant do it on a message. So far we've met 3 couples we chat well with online and face to face but since meeting 2 of them cut back to only asking when we were meeting again and seem to think its no longer important to chat

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I like to think most of my contacts are friends with benefits (I've been lucky that way), am not a fan of "one offs": if the meet was so good, why not repeat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have many multiple meets....but would not necessarily call them friends with benefits.

I do, however, have one wonderful friend from here...with whom I spend a great deal of time at weekends, just the two of us in her caravan. She was the reason why Louise minx called me a slush......think she meant slut but was a typo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to make solid friendships rather than just have someone to fuck occasionally

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"We like to know we can hold a convo with a couple prior to arranging a meet, are we the only ones? Simple chat not 1 liners"

I have a few couples i meet and chat with on a regular basis so much better when you know people outside the bedroom as well as in it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We feel friendship makes for beeter play lol

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By *andJ2227Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote

We would love to find a local couple or even better couples for fun and friendship in and out of the bedroom. Nothing better than getting to know each other better. Makes for more enjoyable play times and great social times with like minded people. Such a shame there aren't more people that feel the same!

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush


"We would love to find a local couple or even better couples for fun and friendship in and out of the bedroom. Nothing better than getting to know each other better. Makes for more enjoyable play times and great social times with like minded people. Such a shame there aren't more people that feel the same! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snap it's not just about the sex having a friendship means a lot.x

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By *andJ2227Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote


"Snap it's not just about the sex having a friendship means a lot.x"

It definitely does! I understand its not for everyone but it really plays a huge part for us! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the deal breaker for me if you cannot chat and have a laugh with possible play partners then the go from being possible to no chance.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"Snap it's not just about the sex having a friendship means a lot.x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Iam so glad weere not alone

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By *BW100Couple
over a year ago

Suffolk/Norfolk border

I/we prefer to chat first & get to know the person & have a laugh as it makes the sex better. When I answer a message I always ask questions & get a one word reply with no effort from them which is so unhelpful. If guys want to meet they need to start getting better at their messages & a photo always helps. The sex usually gets better the more you meet the person rather than a one off fuck

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I prefer too have some banter with future and past meets, sometimes its not returned. Ive spoke to a couple for upto 2years...... Strung along with promises, then nothing. I agree with a few on here that a one sided conversation isn't a real conversation

Messages/texts can be read in a few different ways and can often be misconstrued

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me friendship is not what im after I do have to get on with someone though, if I can't have a chat and a laugh then they are not for me

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By *andJ2227Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote


"Iam so glad weere not alone"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Snap it's not just about the sex having a friendship means a lot.x

It definitely does! I understand its not for everyone but it really plays a huge part for us! X"

Yeah us too Hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like someone I can have a conversation with, stimulation of the mind is just as important for me. Maybe not as much for one-offs, but definitely if you want a friend with benefits

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