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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why is it so hard on here ? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How proactive are you though? do you message people regularly? do you guys go to clubs or socials? It takes a little bit of work, especially when you are looking for a single fem, as they are few and far between.

You should definitely go out to a local social to get to know some people, and make the trip to a local club, as a lot of single fems prefer to meet somewhere like that as its safer.

Your profile doesn't have any pics of Mr, but you are asking a fem to meet you both, so surely she'd want to know what he looks like too? Also, you could maybe try elaborating a bit on what you're looking for, and adding what you can offer to someone you meet. You have to sell yourselves, and at the moment your profile tells me nothing about you whatsoever apart from that you want a bi fem.

Hope my advice helps a little.

Juicy xx

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

We not quiet into the club scene but love socials. A great way of meeting lots if sexy peeps. Unfortunately we can be a little slow approaching people especially with the right subject of meets lol but we have made loads of friends one way or another through socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take a very relaxed approach to here. Tend to do a social meet and if anything happens fantastic. I've never been here to try and shag everyone. After all I know I'm not to everyones liking. So I relax chat and see where it leads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it so hard on here ? x"

Did you expect it to be easy? You're one of ten zillion couples looking for a female. Your upper age limit is 42, which must rule out at least half the single women on here, and you say practically nothing about yourself on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it so hard on here ? x

Did you expect it to be easy? You're one of ten zillion couples looking for a female. Your upper age limit is 42, which must rule out at least half the single women on here, and you say practically nothing about yourself on your profile."

Yes we thought the same, why some profiles moan about what they don't want and what they demand instead of being positive about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol."

I've always thought of myself as similar to a lottery win

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol."
we're never that lucky either lol but we have fun either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol."

Even with a six pack like van damn ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol. we're never that lucky either lol but we have fun either way "
lol neither me. Been trying few years and now given up on the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol.

Even with a six pack like van damn ? "
yes even with that lol. Most women are not into it. But good for the beach on holidays lol.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

It's not that hard. But take an objective look at your profile. No pictures of the male. Nothing about what you are looking for. Soft swap? Full swap? Fun between the females and no touching of the male? All your profile is a whine about what you don't do. It doesn't exactly come across well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read your profile and it had one positive line and 6 lines of negativity

If I'm honest, I wouldn't bother messaging you cause you don't sound a barrel of laughs

Admittedly your nut searching for a single male so I wouldn't message you anyway but if there is a single female out there, you're not promoting yourself very well

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Helps if you're insanely good looking. ( unfortunately I'm not lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't hard

Some folks just make it that way

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs


"Helps if you're insanely good looking. ( unfortunately I'm not lol)"
and your also not a single fem pmsl sorry

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Helps if you're insanely good looking. ( unfortunately I'm not lol) and your also not a single fem pmsl sorry "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really is only as hard as you make it .

You don't even say whether it's both of you that want the elusive female !

What's in it for her ?

Make your profile your selling point and describe the scenario you both seek .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

F knows lol

i think fab attracts a certain group of people predominantly and if you dont fall into that group it lowers your odds

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"why is it so hard on here ? x"

I don't find it difficult to meet people.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"why is it so hard on here ? x

I don't find it difficult to meet people. "

Although I'm finding it very difficult to find a bi male, a lady fuck buddy and a trustworthy couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it so hard on here ? x

Did you expect it to be easy? You're one of ten zillion couples looking for a female. Your upper age limit is 42, which must rule out at least half the single women on here, and you say practically nothing about yourself on your profile."

and you have no pics of the male on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chat to people and be interested in them - we seriously have so many people who want to meet us and vice versa just need another few days in each week - its about how much effort you put in and being sincere - well it works for us so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"chat to people and be interested in them - we seriously have so many people who want to meet us and vice versa just need another few days in each week - its about how much effort you put in and being sincere - well it works for us so far"

This

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

that's the best answer I have heard well done and so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol.

I've always thought of myself as similar to a lottery win "
Yes and you are a good price too lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol."

Which reminds me must check ticket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it so hard on here ? x"

I don't think it's just here. But you just have to keep trying.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

With every one I meet, the question I ask before I contact/arrange to meet is "What's in it for them?". So, without wanting to sound too critical but I did have a quick peek at your profile, ask yourself, "What's in it for her? What do you have on offer? Why should she meet you?"

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"why is it so hard on here ? x"

many reasons, being too fussy we have found isn't good......

only get out what you put in....... our end of term report reads; must try harder!

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"Because finding a woman here is like winning the lotto lol."

disagree mate... there are loads on here its just finding the right one and fitting in..... we are really fussy and have been told by a few we are punching above our weight but ay ho! we know what we want and like.... nowt lost if it dosn't happen.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

You're an unverified couple looking for the bi-sexual or bi-curious women?

Just a suggestion but you might have more luck finding that elusive woman in a couple.

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