FabSwingers.com forum: Are we rude if.....

By *layerz OP Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

We don't accept all the friends requests we get? We don't get that many but we do get a few.

Now we aren't chooses except that we tend to stick with people we've actually met or people who are close and verified BT friends we've already met.

What. Methods do others use to choose which requests to accept and which to not accept. We also prefer that they are in a reasonably close proximity?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope! Your profile, your rules

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My method. If they cant be bothered to send a message beforehand, I dont accept

Well maybe if they are not online, accept, have a look at friends pics and then delete if not intetested

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Not at all. We only accept if we've spoken and then not always.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only accept after chatting and agreeing to meet which is why I only have 6 on my list.

I've been criticised for this in the past but I have my face picture in my friends only album so it's my decision who to add

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accept any unless I'm interested in the person sending the request. A lot of people ask before requesting,the ones sent by people I haven't spoken to are ignored

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol no your not being rude,,i get hundreds, loads everyday,,i rarely accept unless they,ve bothered to chat 1st and I feel their fun or I fancy em.

but random folk wanting to be m friend,,nah

they are the rude ones not talking 1st before asking to be friends.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accept any unless I'm interested in the person sending the request. A lot of people ask before requesting,the ones sent by people I haven't spoken to are ignored "

hey how come we,re not friends

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We do the same as you; we only have people on our friends list who we've met or who we intend to meet in the future.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My method. If they cant be bothered to send a message beforehand, I dont accept

Well maybe if they are not online, accept, have a look at friends pics and then delete if not interested"

i do this ^^ .. but all on my friends list are people ive met to have fun with ,,and i never accept random invites ,, w

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accept any unless I'm interested in the person sending the request. A lot of people ask before requesting,the ones sent by people I haven't spoken to are ignored

hey how come we,re not friends"

We are

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accept any unless I'm interested in the person sending the request. A lot of people ask before requesting,the ones sent by people I haven't spoken to are ignored

hey how come we,re not friends

We are

aint we just,xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all says in our profile if they send without chatting ignored don't delete they can send again in a month lol we got loads un accepted lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've just woken up! But no I still wont accept weirdo's lol x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get more unsolicited friend requests than we do winks or messages, and always delete them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is up to you, but I don't see how someone you don't know could think you rude for not accepting a friend request. My friends are people I have chatted to and get on with, have met or hope to meet (and ideally are all 3!)

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just woken up! But no I still wont accept weirdo's lol x

don't blame ya

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I've just woken up! But no I still wont accept weirdo's lol x

don't blame ya

Are you saying you are one?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've just woken up! But no I still wont accept weirdo's lol x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ancblue28Man
over a year ago

manchester

"We don't accept all the friends requests we get? We don't get that many but we do get a few.

Now we aren't chooses except that we tend to stick with people we've actually met or people who are close and verified BT friends we've already met.

What. Methods do others use to choose which requests to accept and which to not accept. We also prefer that they are in a reasonably close proximity?"

If they didn't ask before sending a friend request then no need to worry

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accept any unless I'm interested in the person sending the request. A lot of people ask before requesting,the ones sent by people I haven't spoken to are ignored

hey how come we,re not friends

We are

aint we just,xxx

BFFs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all , your profile your rules. I get loads of requests from people who dont even say hello. I only invite people ive met or intend to or are good to chat with.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We accept about 1 in 20 invites we get and the ones we do accept are from people we intend to meet for a social at least.

It is your profile so do whatever you are happy with.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not rude why should it be. If you had every double glazing guy install windows your house would be like Kew gardens.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Absolutely not! There's some folk you won't like around here, that's human nature, you don't have to accept a friends request from anyone.

Our rule: Add those we are interested in meeting. Those we know we will never meet then it's poitnless, however, if we have a convo with some and all is good and still we don't intend to meet which both parties know we will still add them as there is a mutual raport even though both parties know nothing sexual will develop from it, we have a few friends like that. We know some wouldn't entertain our last part but the whole point is it's frankly up to you, just don't feel obliged to do anything it's your experience, try to make it as positive for you as possible. Good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *allSlimOneMan
over a year ago

Worcester

I am honoured to be your friend

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsolicited friend requests blocked. Clearly states so on my profile.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

If I have fucked them, or want to fuck them, they go on my friends list

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I have fucked them, or want to fuck them, they go on my friends list

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like to meet I keep my self to meet my self but am all yours

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Even if they message you first, i think, for most of them, the main reason is to look at your 'private pictures'.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't accept all the friends requests we get? We don't get that many but we do get a few.

Now we aren't chooses except that we tend to stick with people we've actually met or people who are close and verified BT friends we've already met.

What. Methods do others use to choose which requests to accept and which to not accept. We also prefer that they are in a reasonably close proximity?"

We are very similar. We generally only accept friends from some one we have met and the odd occasion we have accepted it of they have met good friends of ours.

Everything can still be done without being friends. If people ask we normally tell them that we won't accept it but hot list us as it is pretty much the same thing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I get very few after putting all my friends pics in private.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the thinking behind sending an unsolicited friend request, other than wanting to see your private photos.

I never accept them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I only accept friends requests from people I know (usually that I've met, socially or privately).

Yes, sometimes I get single females or couples out of the blue send me friends invites, and when I reject it they block me.. usually after a nasty email about how arrogant I am, it being my loss, and they would never want to meet me. To which I think "Okay.. so what did I lose out on, as I did not know you existed 2 minutes ago?"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *1paljungMan
over a year ago

Richmond

"My method. If they cant be bothered to send a message beforehand, I dont accept

Well maybe if they are not online, accept, have a look at friends pics and then delete if not intetested"

This

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornysxcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

We find it rude when people send a request but don't have the decentcy to message or wink first. Most are way outside our prefered travel distance an as such can only assume they want wank material an have no interest in us as people or potential meets

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We only accept from those we would like to meet so unsolicited invites simply get deleted followed by blocking

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what the advantage of just being friends with someone you are not going to meet or never meet, however

The only reason to be friends, is to quickly find them, see their status and perv the friends only pictures.

Of course I could have missed something...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends are exactly that. People i have met...or at least spoken to (not just on fab) and have a likelihood of meeting.

Any request from randoms i consider the sender of the request to be tge rude one.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one the other day,

I sent a message saying I don't accept friend requests of people I haven't chatted to first, I was blocked before I could even read/look at there profile

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My method. If they cant be bothered to send a message beforehand, I dont accept

Well maybe if they are not online, accept, have a look at friends pics and then delete if not intetested"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. We only accept if we've spoken and then not always."

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only friends if we have asked if it s ok to send invite or vice versa - apart from the odd one where they have been on the hotlist and out of the blue send an invite-maybe a week or so after our first message - will admit some we look at when offline just to perv pics then delete

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

We only accept friends requests from people we've chatted with quite alot and actually would like to meet.

Anyone that we haven't had a good conversation with and clicked with is a no.

We delete all others

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I rarely look at my friends requests. Doesn't bother me if anyone sends a request or not. It is easy to ignore them. I don't feel the need to block them or send them a message asking why they sent the request.

I just see it as a way to see your friends only pictures. Or for me to see theirs. No big deal.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

It's not face book. We are not here to collect thousands of friends. We only accept requests from people we've met or played with. It make our friends list a little more personal we think. Besides why give some stranger/s we are never likely to meet access to our personal photos??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I only accept invites to people i have spoken to or have been verified genuine by others, i have 2 from woman this week who have no pics (not even body shots) or veri's so you know straight away they are fake.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Also get pissed when someone has sent a friends invite and when you look at their profile its hidden...why even do that lol.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also get pissed when someone has sent a friends invite and when you look at their profile its hidden...why even do that lol."

Yeah, this...... Why?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only accept after chatting and agreeing to meet which is why I only have 6 on my list.

I've been criticised for this in the past but I have my face picture in my friends only album so it's my decision who to add

Absolutely, I've had pics stolen in the past, if we haven't chatted, met, then we're not really friends

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wander if anyone has stolen any of ours

how did you find out some one had stolen them ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people on our friends list are ones we have met. And we keep it that way. Anyone who sends us a random friend request without having met go straight to block list. At least we know the people on our friends list aren't time wasters and we know we can arrange another meet with them easily

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread