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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure about "recommending" people on the site. I have been asked for opinions by people "paper trailing" verifications from or to people I have met.

Worse still is guys who have been knocked back by ladies I have met who have then messages me asking to out a word in for them....dream on.

Hence the comment in my profile not to ask....and a similar one in the verification I gave to a special friend when she re-joined the site. Also why I don't display verification from her.

This annoying behaviour was part of the reason she left previously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure about "recommending" people on the site. I have been asked for opinions by people "paper trailing" verifications from or to people I have met.

Worse still is guys who have been knocked back by ladies I have met who have then messages me asking to out a word in for them....dream on.

Hence the comment in my profile not to ask....and a similar one in the verification I gave to a special friend when she re-joined the site. Also why I don't display verification from her.

This annoying behaviour was part of the reason she left previously."

Had a couple of messages saying nice profile have similar interests who have you met that were good swingers? We thought odd and our likes may not been others? Wondered if others had such approaches?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?"

We'd say bugger off and do your own research

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Personally I wouldn't directly recommend someone to another person but we have verified as genuine all those we've met.

I see lots of verifications that say they recommend people etc but I don't see how you can know another persons tastes so I discount them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?

We'd say bugger off and do your own research "

or words to that effect. I really wouldn't appreciate meets discussing me with others. It's happened in the past and I was just ever so slightly pissed off - to say the least

Everyone is different. One persons great meet is another's disaster

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?

We'd say bugger off and do your own research

or words to that effect. I really wouldn't appreciate meets discussing me with others. It's happened in the past and I was just ever so slightly pissed off - to say the least

Everyone is different. One persons great meet is another's disaster "

Yes had a meet nice couple, trustworthy turned up but not us. They asked for verification which reflected social meeting no problem. Thought they may have reciprocated but no rude and angry msg.

Blocked them but sad they could not grasp we were not interested. If asked about them would not put them down but would not offer recommendation on grounds of rude response.

Finding the right sort is research, contact, meet, like then play....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck no!!! That's one thing I hate about some swingers, the lack of discretion and privacy.

I hate the verification system when it's used as some sort of scoring system.

Why can't people just judge for themselves who they want to meet.

I think it's about attraction and compatibility. One great fuck may be someone else's shit shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding the right sort is research, contact, meet, like then play.... "

I agree. I've met men socially and I didn't want to take things further, yet they had great verifications from others who obviously did. I quite like reading previous verifications to see what of person they meet but I still make my own decision based on chats and banter I have with them myself.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Fuck no!!! That's one thing I hate about some swingers, the lack of discretion and privacy.

I hate the verification system when it's used as some sort of scoring system.

Why can't people just judge for themselves who they want to meet.

I think it's about attraction and compatibility. One great fuck may be someone else's shit shag. "

Allegedly

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I wouldn't recommend anyone, not because they aren't nice people but because not everyone you meet is everyone else's cup of tea and I wouldn't want to be held responsible for someone having a bad time on my say so

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

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can't see no harm in it as long as its not Fred & Rose

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?"

Bit like swinging advisor lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

can't see no harm in it as long as its not Fred & Rose "

Fred's Dead...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

can't see no harm in it as long as its not Fred & Rose "

Fred's Dead...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?

We'd say bugger off and do your own research

or words to that effect. I really wouldn't appreciate meets discussing me with others. It's happened in the past and I was just ever so slightly pissed off - to say the least

Everyone is different. One persons great meet is another's disaster "

That does happen show your verfiactions and people will msge how was such and such etc I don't like it think it's too much show my verfiys fuck off meet thme and find out yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recommended people but only when I'm face to face. So can chat properly. Xx

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

A few times we have thought that a single/couple we have met/chatting to, would be ideal for an other single/couple we know. However we would never act on it...It's not our place to get involved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't do it as that's my business.... You get messages with little innuendos asking questions who you've met... Nah you don't put discreet then blab!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Fuck no!!! That's one thing I hate about some swingers, the lack of discretion and privacy.

I hate the verification system when it's used as some sort of scoring system.

Why can't people just judge for themselves who they want to meet.

I think it's about attraction and compatibility. One great fuck may be someone else's shit shag. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...but what we do tend to do is consider who we know who might get on with others when considering who to invite to our parties...lots of further liaisons have occurred following a carefully considered guest list!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I would not recommend. I'd (at most) introduce if I happened to know there was established "mutual" interest (ie, both parties did not know the other had spoken to me about them).

But yeah, the verification system: I hide mine now until such a time Fabs put up the means to hide the verifiers name, or it all shows as "anonymous" save for (M/F/MF,...)

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I've been 'recommended'. Really annoyed me. I'd met a couple at a party, had some fun, thought nothing else of it. Couple of weeks later gets a message from a guy saying the male half had recommended me to him. Was fuming. Didn't meet the single guy and blocked the couple.

I'm not here to be recommended or rated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this from a couple. We basically translated it as "we're not interested in playing with you... but do you have any sexy friends?" i.e. we we're pretty insulted by it and cut off communications at that point.

I think it's fair to seek advice from people you've played with; to see if you can explore each other's swinging circles... perhaps even together with them. But even then you'd have to be sensitive about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had this from a couple. We basically translated it as "we're not interested in playing with you... but do you have any sexy friends?" i.e. we we're pretty insulted by it and cut off communications at that point.

I think it's fair to seek advice from people you've played with; to see if you can explore each other's swinging circles... perhaps even together with them. But even then you'd have to be sensitive about it."

Do people really have 'swinging circles'? I find that just as bad. It's kind of incestuous.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"We had this from a couple. We basically translated it as "we're not interested in playing with you... but do you have any sexy friends?" i.e. we we're pretty insulted by it and cut off communications at that point."

What is the deal with that? Several times I get emails form a few couples along the lines of "coming to London, can you find us a few guys for a gangbang?", and I'm thinking, "WTF? Since did I become find-a-shag?". And ofcourse its people I never spoke to so I just block them.

Imagine me emailing a girl asking her to find me a different girl for a meet?? What sort of twat would that make me?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

can't see no harm in it as long as its not Fred & Rose

Fred's Dead..."

Oh I'm sure there are a few necrophiliacs lurking in the wings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently had messages from exs of guys on here who i have left verifications for. I tell them i don't want to get involved in any gossip every time but the longer i'm on here the more messages i seem to get. It's quite sad.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

I've never had anyone ask me tbh...I have to say I wouldn't "recommend "anyone as all have different tastes and I wouldn't be so indiscreet either. I think you have to meet someone socially and see if there is that mutual attraction and then take it from there on your own judgement. I have had friends on here tell me if there was someone they met or a profile they have seen that they thought would be my type of guy but that's about it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been 'recommended'. Really annoyed me. I'd met a couple at a party, had some fun, thought nothing else of it. Couple of weeks later gets a message from a guy saying the male half had recommended me to him. Was fuming. Didn't meet the single guy and blocked the couple.

I'm not here to be recommended or rated."

I've been 'recommended' by couples to other couples and single males too - many times! I've also been used as 'bait' twice by couples who wanted to entice 'attractive' people to their parties. As you can imagine - on both occasions I felt like I was being 'pimped out'!

ps - I know there are many, many lovely couples on fab too - i'm not anti-couples! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did get asked once about a guy i'd met, but it was more from a safety point of view. The other guy was after a first time meet and was interested in the guy but was worried about maybe being pushed into something he maybe would want to change his mind about.

There are lots of stories about women thinking certain guys are ok, but as soon as they say they aren't up for a meet, the guys turn nasty/abusive. I think it's only being cautious asking about before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's are peoples thought's about recommending people they have met?

Yes verifications can be read but how do folks feel about getting messages asking if the have any recommended persons on the site?"

Hiding to nothing doing this easier to let people pick their own meets

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford


"I've been 'recommended'. Really annoyed me. I'd met a couple at a party, had some fun, thought nothing else of it. Couple of weeks later gets a message from a guy saying the male half had recommended me to him. Was fuming. Didn't meet the single guy and blocked the couple.

I'm not here to be recommended or rated.

I've been 'recommended' by couples to other couples and single males too - many times! I've also been used as 'bait' twice by couples who wanted to entice 'attractive' people to their parties. As you can imagine - on both occasions I felt like I was being 'pimped out'!

ps - I know there are many, many lovely couples on fab too - i'm not anti-couples! Xx"

your pics do the recommending on their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been 'recommended'. Really annoyed me. I'd met a couple at a party, had some fun, thought nothing else of it. Couple of weeks later gets a message from a guy saying the male half had recommended me to him. Was fuming. Didn't meet the single guy and blocked the couple.

I'm not here to be recommended or rated."

We would recommend a pub or restaurant, a car, a good book. But we're people, and so is everyone else on here, not a "product" or service! So yes, if we came across that situation, the block button would get a battering!

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