FabSwingers.com forum: When does bi curious become bisexual

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have seen on many women's profiles on here that they are bi curious and when you look at their varis, they have been with quite a few women, so at what point does the curiosity stop and they come out as bisexual? Surely after 2 or 3 experiences you know if it's your thing or not, when I first came out over 20 years ago, you never really heard the term bi curious, you were either straight, bi or a lesbian. Is it just me or has anyone else wondered about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I would call myself bi-adventurous but we don't have that choice. The age old problem comes up, if you put bi-sexual it is assumed that you will play with the woman even if you don't fancy her.

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

My stand on this might be a bit different and misunderstood but I class myself as bi-curious or I love the phrase 'bi-adventurous'. I wouldn't form a loving relationship with a woman, I wouldn't want to be in a 'proper' relationship with another woman but I am attracted to some in sexual situations and really enjoy playing.

To class my self as 'bi' to me would be an insult to genuinly bi people who are attracted to both sexes on more than just as sexual level.

Bi-adventurous - LOVE IT!

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

We both considered we were bisexual when we had tried it, liked it, and intended to do it again.

Not sure about the assertion that you have to want to do any more than have sex with someone me the same gender to justify the label - it's a description of sexual activity not life partnership isn't it?

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

OF, not Me! Bloody predictive text!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My stand on this might be a bit different and misunderstood but I class myself as bi-curious or I love the phrase 'bi-adventurous'. I wouldn't form a loving relationship with a woman, I wouldn't want to be in a 'proper' relationship with another woman but I am attracted to some in sexual situations and really enjoy playing.

To class my self as 'bi' to me would be an insult to genuinly bi people who are attracted to both sexes on more than just as sexual level.

Bi-adventurous - LOVE IT!

Bisexual does not mean that you want to form a relationship with someone of your own gender, or that you want anything more than a sexual relationship, it relates to your sexual preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you become a bi-sexual when you choose to consider yourself one.

I hate labels - they are so limiting. We're all on a complex spectrum of orientation so why do we have to consider ourselves as one thing or the other?

Inevitably people will judge you on what you call yourself. E.g. Some blokes in a couple won't go near another single if there is the slightest suspicion that guy is bi. That's a shame, and the reason many men hide the fact they are bi on here.

But that's why I have a problem with the labels. I have played with other men and will do again. But that does mean I want to jump on every guy I see and suck them off. Far, far from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when you've done something same sex and actively *want* to do it again (as opposed to I'll do it if the chance comes up in some way) then you are bi sexual.

I also think that having a same sex relationship counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well I would call myself bi-adventurous but we don't have that choice. The age old problem comes up, if you put bi-sexual it is assumed that you will play with the woman even if you don't fancy her.

I'm bi sexual to the point were we don't meet couples with straight women.

I love having sex with women,however I couldn't ever have sex with a woman I don't fancy just because I'm bi!

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have experienced mff a couple of times now, really enjoyed it, did find the other female a turn on and want to experience it again. ive been asking myself if i fancy men and women then am i bisexual or just bi curious? what do other people think? lynne

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

"i have experienced mff a couple of times now, really enjoyed it, did find the other female a turn on and want to experience it again. ive been asking myself if i fancy men and women then am i bisexual or just bi curious? what do other people think? lynne"

Using our measure, above, we think you're bisexual now Lynne. Others will disagree, possibly, but whatever label you like, use it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you fancy men and women, enjoy your experiences with with both and want to carry on Hun, then I would say you are bisexual

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

"well I would call myself bi-adventurous but we don't have that choice. The age old problem comes up, if you put bi-sexual it is assumed that you will play with the woman even if you don't fancy her.

I'm bi sexual to the point were we don't meet couples with straight women.

I love having sex with women,however I couldn't ever have sex with a woman I don't fancy just because I'm bi!

XXX"

I had this very problem this weekend with a guy desperately trying to get me to play with his wife so he could watch. Their boundaries were she could play and he couldn't, which isnt my thing...plus she was a little "hyper" to say the least, certainly to the point where i could not have been sure that she was 100% aware of what he was setting up.

his view was a woman is a woman is a woman...the fact you're bi should be enough - no need for chemistry or attraction etc ! And even more so because he " was only going to watch" ...so that made it all ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am bi but never for a relationship , just for the sex , so maybe thats bi or bi adventurous certainly not curiouse , but i prefer women , just cant bloody get one , so the guy is the next option , is it cause us guys a easier for other guys to get ,that it works ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both considered we were bisexual when we had tried it, liked it, and intended to do it again.

That's what I would have thought!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always looked at us being bi adventurous. Bisexual to me signals someone who enjoys both men and women sexually. I wouldnt ever have a sexual experience with a woman outside of the swinging scene. If we're in a club on bi night and a woman licks me, or a guy sucks my guy we enjoy the experience, the naughtiness of it all, but its just lust on the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I feel I am neither bi curious as I have enjoyed bi fun but the I don't feel I am totally bisexual as despite enjoying bi fun I am not interested in just MM bi fun with no others, well not currently anyway. So I always go with bi playful to describe myself. If others are bi and likeminded then let the games begin!

If they are straight then I can restrain myself from sucking their lovely hard throbbing cock oops got carried away there! lol

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

In one context you're right with that point but mine being that there are 'proper' bi people who DO have relationships with both genders, come out as being bi and everything that comes with it. I don't think my play with a woman when swinging is on the same level.

I have no problem with being lablled as 'bi' if so nessecary I just think it undermines the openly bi people living a bi life that goes beyond a sexual encounter once a month with a woman in a swinging situation.

I suppose I just have issue with labels as such! The bi FF part of swinging was and still is one of the major attractions for me so I'll go with bi-adventurous lol.

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By *leaminglarssonCouple
over a year ago

ruslington

well gleams classes her self as bi- freindly so there another one to add to the list lol

dosnt mind the touch of a woman but perfers the cock of a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

T says she's bi-nosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when you stop having shifty eyes when you do it

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