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By *tlovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

Soooo. .someone explain this to me. I like rough/dirty sex and like a bit if verbal abuse in right circumstances.

Turns me on being called a slut. However, the other week a guy called me 'a dirty slag' during play and it offended and upset me..what's that about? Why am I ok with slut but not with slag?

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By *J SuffolkMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Different perspective I suppose.

Slag is any ones, slut is a lover of all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slag sounds more like your being paid for it while slut is more suttle to your ears even thou there technically the same. I wouldn't be offended being called a slag 1 because I am bwhahaha

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

maybe it was who said it, and in what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say because the way the words are used is different, slut is a sexually adventurous person, a slag is someone who just fuck's anyone and anything

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"I would say because the way the words are used is different, slut is a sexually adventurous person, a slag is someone who just fuck's anyone and anything"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My special lady friend has called me a slut several times......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say because the way the words are used is different, slut is a sexually adventurous person, a slag is someone who just fuck's anyone and anything

+1 "
+2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock slut or cock slag..... Give my the former any day. Sounds amazingly horny whereas the latter is just rough

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

its all about who says and with what (perceived) intent

racist language is very powerful in a sexual context too

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham


"I would say because the way the words are used is different, slut is a sexually adventurous person, a slag is someone who just fuck's anyone and anything

+1 +2"

+3

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By *tlovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

Yeah..Thanks everyone. I think somehow slut is in roleplay/fun...I think maybe slag made me think of 16yr old lads calling some poor girl and judging her (it brought out the feminist in me! Ha ha)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe the person crossed the line with a word you had said you didn't like.

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By *iM4kinkMan
over a year ago

San Antonio


"maybe it was who said it, and in what way?"

Absolutely agree, being a bi s/D switch ive always luved dirty talk as well as giving and recieving verbal abuse. But definately isn't welcome from all partners nor do i give it unless with certain partners. Timing, degree and level of excitement have everything to do with how much it turns me on, as well as the sex going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo. .someone explain this to me. I like rough/dirty sex and like a bit if verbal abuse in right circumstances.

Turns me on being called a slut. However, the other week a guy called me 'a dirty slag' during play and it offended and upset me..what's that about? Why am I ok with slut but not with slag?"

Because your a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's down to what the words mean to you.

To us a slut is a person who loves there so life and being down and dirty.

Where a slag sleeps with every and anything

Just our 2p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo. .someone explain this to me. I like rough/dirty sex and like a bit if verbal abuse in right circumstances.

Turns me on being called a slut. However, the other week a guy called me 'a dirty slag' during play and it offended and upset me..what's that about? Why am I ok with slut but not with slag?"

Hard to say but you can't blame the guy unless you told him specifically not to use some words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo. .someone explain this to me. I like rough/dirty sex and like a bit if verbal abuse in right circumstances.

Turns me on being called a slut. However, the other week a guy called me 'a dirty slag' during play and it offended and upset me..what's that about? Why am I ok with slut but not with slag?"

I'm the same...can't stand the word slag. Think it is because of it doesn't sound as nice as the word slut (slaaaag!) but also because of my past with the word. I've been called a fat slag in my younger days, but not a fat slut...think I put the word fat in front of it in my own head when I hear it so instant turn off.

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By *tlovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

The guy didn't know I even liked rough or sub stuff. Was first time..I was planning on some vanilla kissing and groping..He launched straight in to calling me a slag (bit rude I thought! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit of a rough one but I don't think I would ever use the word slag... Some that tend to come out are as you say dirty slut, filthy whore, and if I'm being nasty then I may go as far as a skanky bitch but that's usually when we fall out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it was incredibly rude OP. Maybe he misunderstood your submissive side and misinterpreted the situation.

I don't like sexual insults, I would stop the meet if it happened. Obviously lots of people enjoy being called names but you would of thought that people would be intelligent enough to have the conversation beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I didn't finish - the guy should never have just come out with those words without checking expectations and limits beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I "Mr kink" was lost in the moment a few days ago and came of with a cross between a slag and a slut.......

I called Mrs kink a dirty....

.....slug. haha it ruined the moment but gave us a laugh

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Soooo. .someone explain this to me. I like rough/dirty sex and like a bit if verbal abuse in right circumstances.

Turns me on being called a slut. However, the other week a guy called me 'a dirty slag' during play and it offended and upset me..what's that about? Why am I ok with slut but not with slag?"

Need to be a shrink to answer that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well only the op would know why really lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both the same to me either way being called a slut or a slag would land you a slap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They both mean the same its on google women of low moral values.

We hate either terms and guys using it in mails are blocked and during meets are shown the door no messing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They both mean the same its on google women of low moral values.

We hate either terms and guys using it in mails are blocked and during meets are shown the door no messing"

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By *tlovers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Warrington


"I "Mr kink" was lost in the moment a few days ago and came of with a cross between a slag and a slut.......

I called Mrs kink a dirty....

.....slug. haha it ruined the moment but gave us a laugh "

Now being called a dirty slug would definitely have made me laugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The guy didn't know I even liked rough or sub stuff. Was first time..I was planning on some vanilla kissing and groping..He launched straight in to calling me a slag (bit rude I thought! ) "

This what we meant, back to bdsm school for the gentleman involved.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I "Mr kink" was lost in the moment a few days ago and came of with a cross between a slag and a slut.......

I called Mrs kink a dirty....

.....slug. haha it ruined the moment but gave us a laugh "

Hope that doesn't mean mrs kink leaves a slime trail behind her lol

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

My own personal view of the two words is that a slut loves sex but is still selective and classy.

I picture a slag as someone who is happy to shag anyone and everyone down some piss-drenched alleyway after a few White Lightnings in town.

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By *rikki1967ukMan
over a year ago

peterborough

Accidentally called my fwb slut and now she has decide we friends only.didnt realise i did it or that it would upset her hard way to learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My own personal view of the two words is that a slut loves sex but is still selective and classy.

I picture a slag as someone who is happy to shag anyone and everyone down some piss-drenched alleyway after a few White Lightnings in town."

Your free to interpret as you wish but the dictionary has them as the same.

Maybe Oscar pistorious didn't murder his girlfriend maybe he just enjoyed firing his gun into a bathroom, use of words that's all

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"My own personal view of the two words is that a slut loves sex but is still selective and classy.

I picture a slag as someone who is happy to shag anyone and everyone down some piss-drenched alleyway after a few White Lightnings in town.

Your free to interpret as you wish but the dictionary has them as the same.

Maybe Oscar pistorious didn't murder his girlfriend maybe he just enjoyed firing his gun into a bathroom, use of words that's all "

errm - that's why I put 'my personal view'. It's also a fairly common perception that there's a subtle difference between the two words regardless of what dictionaries might say.

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