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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me : message

Her : reply

Me : reply with face pic

Her : reply with face pic

Me : reply

Her : reply

Me : reply

Her : read no reply

Me : 2 days later reply again

Her : 3 days later not even read

i wish there was a handbook to the woman's mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me : message

Her : reply

Me : reply with face pic

Her : reply with face pic

Me : reply

Her : reply

Me : reply

Her : read no reply

Me : 2 days later reply again

Her : 3 days later not even read

i wish there was a handbook to the woman's mind "

lol, we know the feeling, it's not just women, but we also get this from a lot of couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying theyve clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look at the sent messages folder. It's the coolest way to use fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying theyve clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on "

That's how I view it too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Never look at the sent messages folder. It's the coolest way to use fab "

This. And only reply - don't pester. If she's lost interest then nothing you send will get it back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect that this is the point she lost interest


"Her : read no reply

"

And this is the point she decided to start ignoring you


"Me : 2 days later reply again

Her : 3 days later not even read "

Not that difficult to work out really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Actually - wasn't 100% expecting a reply at that first point as had said I would chat to her later in the week. So she may of perhaps replied - but it wasn't needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to comment without knowing what the messages said (thats not me asking just my view) i have stopped replying to men i have quite liked simply because the conversation has been hard work, no point being good looking if we have that little in common we can't even keep a conversation going

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on "

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure."

I think that puts you in the minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never look at the sent messages folder. It's the coolest way to use fab "

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure."

I'm with you on this one. Decent messages get lost between the one liner jobs all the time as we both access the account

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

I usually delete messages after I send them if they reply cool if they don't I forget that I sent a message job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure."

I sometimes don't have time to reply or can't think of anything to say.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Because on the reply to which she didn't answer, did you say "that's enough chat for someone like you, either open youse flaps or do one" ?

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure."

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure."

I agree with this. It's hard to keep track sometimes. Wish there was a scroll for the received messages - currently the only way to find your old messages is to delete the new ones!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"

It's hard to keep track sometimes. Wish there was a scroll for the received messages - currently the only way to find your old messages is to delete the new ones!"

Maybe you could save any message that looks appealing or worthy of following up later..

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Me : message

Her : reply

Me : reply with face pic

Her : reply with face pic

Me : reply

Her : reply

Me : reply

Her : read no reply

Me : 2 days later reply again

Her : 3 days later not even read

i wish there was a handbook to the woman's mind "

The ladies on here can afford to be very fussy and choosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's hard to keep track sometimes. Wish there was a scroll for the received messages - currently the only way to find your old messages is to delete the new ones!

Maybe you could save any message that looks appealing or worthy of following up later.."

Of course but many messages drop off the front page before you can even read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's hard to keep track sometimes. Wish there was a scroll for the received messages - currently the only way to find your old messages is to delete the new ones!

Maybe you could save any message that looks appealing or worthy of following up later..

Of course but many messages drop off the front page before you can even read them.

"

Clear from the OP that it WAS read......but presumably deemed unworthy of a further reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it is only messaging, there is no obligation to keep on messaging, read messages, or go through with meeting.

I see no point in stressing over it, and it clearly had bothered you as your counting up messages, checking, posting in forum etc. There is nothing to understand, if people stop messaging that's it, done, over.

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By *emonWoman84Woman
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Maybe she has a life outside of fab and hasn't been on? Or hasn't had time to reply?

Maybe she has read it and marked it as unread and just hasn't got back to you yet?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure.

I think that puts you in the minority "

Maybe so but others have agreed. If it happened to me I might send a message saying 'Did you forget to reply or shall we leave it there? ' No harm in that. If that gets no reply then yes, forget it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have done this - look at a message and think - you know what just cant be arsed with this one any more - more often than not we are more polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i wish there was a handbook to the woman's mind "

Oooh - since when did men start reading Handbooks...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab should have a "thanks, but no thanks" quick reply button. I'd much rather get that than no reply.

On the rare occassion that I do get that kind of reply or if I see my message has been deleted usually block them, not out of spite but just so I don't waste time contacting tuem again i the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes stop messaging as they clearly don't know how to have a conversation .

Example:

Them : We're looking for a bi woman to join us. Would you be interested.

Me: Sure, I'm always happy to chat and see how we get on.

Them: That's great.

And then that's it? If you don't know how to hold a conversation then we're not going to click!

OP, perhaps think about the content of your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its even worse when they say they fancy you and will meet. Better offer or im a stop gap while the guys they really wanna meet get back intouch with them after chasing other ladys. Happens both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes stop messaging as they clearly don't know how to have a conversation .

Example:

Them : We're looking for a bi woman to join us. Would you be interested.

Me: Sure, I'm always happy to chat and see how we get on.

Them: That's great.

And then that's it? If you don't know how to hold a conversation then we're not going to click!

OP, perhaps think about the content of your messages."

Convo is a 2 way thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why reply again when youve had no reply??? If somebody stops replying they've clearly lost interest for whatever reason so forget and move on

No I disagree, I quite often get distracted or forget to reply, or just have a bit of a glut one day and get overwhelmed. I wish everyone who I answered a couple of times WOULD just check and make sure.

I think that puts you in the minority "

me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because on the reply to which she didn't answer, did you say "that's enough chat for someone like you, either open youse flaps or do one" ?"

LOL - perhaps I should try this route - being nice doesn't seem to work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cold feet?

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

I admit I've done this a couple of times when its clear that we are the ones putting effort into our replies, it's not to be nasty however the conversation has simply run its course. somehow with 'thanks but no thanks' further into a message people seem to think you dont really know your own minds, when really you've just made it up!

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