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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

After the sex how long is it polite to hang around, and when are you outstaying your welcome.

Lets assume you have met at their house!

Personally i love staying as long as possible and love a post sex chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they've turned the lights out and gone to bed leaving you alone in the dark

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

The lights don't get turned out when im about, unless its for good reasons...

that almost rhymed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you can tell when it's time to leave usually.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If I have to push you out the door, you've outstayed your welcome.

It depends on the meet actually. Some I like to chat to (never know, there might be a round two or more), some I am happy if they piss off asap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After the sex how long is it polite to hang around, and when are you outstaying your welcome.

Lets assume you have met at their house!

Personally i love staying as long as possible and love a post sex chat!

"

If your still there mate that's to long

Him

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

Is there not an element of being used if you just piss off afterwards.. Or does that not really matter

Id probably be happy to be used.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Is there not an element of being used if you just piss off afterwards.. Or does that not really matter"

Don't care. I am on here for several different types of meet, and sometimes a short sharp shag is all that's needed.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is there not an element of being used if you just piss off afterwards.. Or does that not really matter

Id probably be happy to be used."

You need to judge each meet on its own merits.

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

short shag... im your man


"Is there not an element of being used if you just piss off afterwards.. Or does that not really matter

Don't care. I am on here for several different types of meet, and sometimes a short sharp shag is all that's needed."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm your man........am sure that was a song from the 80's?

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Depends if conversation is flowing both ways then it`s ok to stay if it dries up then it`s time to go

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I don't mind a little chat but once the fun and games are over then I'd say half an hour max. There have been occasions in the past where I've had to say 'I'm going to have to throw you out because I've got to get sorted then go out myself soon ', in a jokey way not a threatening one might I add. There was one occasion where I deeply regretted having informed the person in question that I was free all day. I could not get rid! (not from this site)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there not an element of being used if you just piss off afterwards.. Or does that not really matter

Id probably be happy to be used."

I don't really meet by myself but Lee and I differ completely on this... For me in the past when I've met guys as soon as they have cum I would be edging them out the door... I want no physical contact after.. (it's worth noting that till recently I just did gsngbang type meets)

Where as Lee likes to chat and maybe even cuddle up before leaving and doesn't rush out ...

When we meet couples it kinda depends on who, where and the meet itself but you can normally tell when its time to leave x

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

my god 30 to 60 minutes post sex chat... thats not long.

What about relaxing, having some wine and a chat and then going again. I like to carry that scenario on all night, drink sex, drink more sex drink more sex.. where possible obviously

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"my god 30 to 60 minutes post sex chat... thats not long.

What about relaxing, having some wine and a chat and then going again. I like to carry that scenario on all night, drink sex, drink more sex drink more sex.. where possible obviously "

as I said, tailor it to the specific meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stayed for 3 and a bit yrs... still there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wait to be asked to leave, just politely bugger off shortly after the action's over

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

I think its certainly something that has to be agreed before hand. I have had a meet where it was sex and go, and a meet where it was the opposite, sex and stay for breakfast.

Enjoyed both for different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After the sex how long is it polite to hang around, and when are you outstaying your welcome.

Lets assume you have met at their house!

Personally i love staying as long as possible and love a post sex chat!

"

For us stay long enough to have a coffee, your welcome to shower if you feel the need. But unless we've arranged to put you up overnight once the coffee cups empty say goodnight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its certainly something that has to be agreed before hand. I have had a meet where it was sex and go, and a meet where it was the opposite, sex and stay for breakfast.

Enjoyed both for different reasons. "

I don't think you can plan that... As surely it depends on how it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually when they start looking at their phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its certainly something that has to be agreed before hand. I have had a meet where it was sex and go, and a meet where it was the opposite, sex and stay for breakfast.

Enjoyed both for different reasons. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my god 30 to 60 minutes post sex chat... thats not long.

What about relaxing, having some wine and a chat and then going again. I like to carry that scenario on all night, drink sex, drink more sex drink more sex.. where possible obviously "

We dont drink and usually Im getting up early for work the next day so half an hour after is pushing it. If somebody was still hanging around an hour after finishing Id be starting to get blunt with them

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think you just know, sometimes I've already decided I'm leaving as soon as they have cum while we're still shagging if after sex conversation does now flow naturally it's time to go

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

I am slightly surprised as alot of people say about the connection before they will jump into bed, yet that connection seems irrelevant once the sex is over.

I like the connection to be there both before and after, unless its a particular scenario that means it cant happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am slightly surprised as alot of people say about the connection before they will jump into bed, yet that connection seems irrelevant once the sex is over.

I like the connection to be there both before and after, unless its a particular scenario that means it cant happen."

suppose it depends what your looking for, not everyone are after friendship but all because they just want sex that does not mean they don't want to like who they are shagging but once the sex is over that's it, where are some after after more than just sex

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I am slightly surprised as alot of people say about the connection before they will jump into bed, yet that connection seems irrelevant once the sex is over.

I like the connection to be there both before and after, unless its a particular scenario that means it cant happen."

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By *oger That OP   Man
over a year ago

essex

Yeah fair enough, this is why i ask the question. ther eis clearly a balance to find. Obviously it will depend on each individual meet, but its just ive found personally i like the friendship as much as the sex...

And im not talking weird desperate friendship, i have friends. I mean a bit of a laugh and banter friendship.


"I am slightly surprised as alot of people say about the connection before they will jump into bed, yet that connection seems irrelevant once the sex is over.

I like the connection to be there both before and after, unless its a particular scenario that means it cant happen.

suppose it depends what your looking for, not everyone are after friendship but all because they just want sex that does not mean they don't want to like who they are shagging but once the sex is over that's it, where are some after after more than just sex "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it depends on the situation, if there's an acknowledgement that it's going to be a one off then soon as. If you're good friends then it's nice to revel in the glow and have a chat or a drink maybe something to eat. I don't think there's any hard and fast rules.

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