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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

even just to say not their type what do u think ? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

You have been here long enough, you know why already.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

You should start a thread about it

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Too busy reading FAQ's and site rules I imagine, their good like that

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Because I can't be arsed with being asked why

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just think it would be polite to as we have messaged you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get back to people because I cant make up my mind if I will like them or not. I do most of the time though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

surly its just politeness right ? x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I just think it would be polite to as we have messaged you x "

But we didn't ask you to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surly its just politeness right ? x "

maybe, a lot of men aren't polite when you meet them or after you have met them though, so why should I worry about them so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surly its just politeness right ? x "

It's also polite to read peoples profiles and not message them if you don't fit their requirements.

But lots of guys seem unable to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say no thank you to everyone I'm not interested in. Some reply back with thanks for getting back to me,I then reply no problem. I've done this hundreds of times over the years,it can be done but it detracts from the time I'm spending doing what I want to be doing on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think it would be polite to as we have messaged you x "

So you reply and then get another message asking why....

Or as the other day after saying 'thanks but no thanks' he sent a message that said 'piss off then slut'

Can't win.....rude if don't reply but craps like that if do

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By *thletic Fella!!Man
over a year ago

Wigan

I'm guessing that couples and single fems get tonnes of messages everyday. Even if they start with good intentions it would soon get tiresome after a while. Replying to messages just to say no. I agree that would be the polite thing to do, but it's not going to happen, learn to accept it and carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why waste their time to get back to everyone if the majority abuse that politeness?

I'm just going off comments / previous threads, not my experiences though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

Just saying no promps

its no! "But why not"

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

I'm sure they have better things to do

than pander to blokes on here.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surly its just politeness right ? x "

And you reply to all spam and unsolicited mail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x

Just saying no promps

its no! "But why not"

its no! "But why not""

Yer but why not

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Unfortunately as others have stated it starts a chain of

"Why not messages" though if it has been a nicely put together message and it is clear they have read my profile then I always respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont always reply to emails i get especially if the person doesnt interest me.

Im not being rude, just making life easier cus often i then get more emails asking why i dont want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few profiles surely uses pseudo members to tease them, especially the hot pics one lol

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

On here No reply = No thanks.

It's plain practicality not to reply as it should be interpreted as a no and wastes nobody's time...then move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not getting a reply speaks volumes anyway!

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

"surly its just politeness right ? x "

It's also polite to read the profile and not bother people who obviously have no interest in you but that doesn't stop most guys!

Some would also say it's polite to read the site FAQ's for guidance on not replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you reply to every item of junk mail you get through your letterbox telling them ' I'm not interested?'

I suspect not, yet by your reckoning everyone should answer every unsolicited mail they receive?

Leave people to choose how they deal with their received mail and just get on with talking to the people who DO reply.

In the words of a crappy BBC presenter 'how hard can it be?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply means they're not interested. I would think that's fairly obvious?

I will always reply to a message....but then I only get a very small percentage compared to single females and couples.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

I think 'they haven't got back to me'.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

I think its safe to assume you're not there type if they don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think it would be polite to as we have messaged you x "

No one asked you to message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think it would be polite to as we have messaged you x

No one asked you to message them"
How else would u meet someone if u don't try and message them?lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hardly anyone on here isn't my type, i block anyone who is and let anyone else re-message me another time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site FAQs should tell you all you need to know on this subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete your sent message then move on to the next victim

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By *ikkixxWoman
over a year ago

northampton

I do try to reply, but as I say on my profile I dont always reply, nothing personal but all f on here get swamped with messages, and you just don't have time to reply and get into the ins and outs of why im not interested

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By *icarage ManMan
over a year ago

South Shields

I very often dont get a reply back off a lady.. I isnt very nice..

I would always reply with a thank you.. But no thanks..

Just common sense and politeness..

I send a lot of time wording my messages with just about the right amoint of humour/sexytalk..

I suppose I could say their loss… .

Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I could say their loss… .

It's not really their loss though, is it? Because they don't want to have sex with you so they've not lost anything.

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By *IDNIGHTMADNESSMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

I never "expect" a reply so am never disappointed when I don't, I just assume there's such a choice available to couples and singles ladies that they can afford to be extra choosy, and why not when you're considering getting intimate!! I do read profiles fully and those I do message I make sure I'm precisely what/how they described, I find if you do that and be polite you actually get a response quite often..

If it's a NO don't be a dick and ask why!!!!

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By *IDNIGHTMADNESSMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very often dont get a reply back off a lady.. I isnt very nice..

I would always reply with a thank you.. But no thanks..

Just common sense and politeness..

I send a lot of time wording my messages with just about the right amoint of humour/sexytalk..

I suppose I could say their loss… .

Michael"

Sure they will get over the loss lol

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By *IDNIGHTMADNESSMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

I suppose I could say their loss… .

It's not really their loss though, is it? Because they don't want to have sex with you so they've not lost anything."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I replied to every message I receive on here I wouldn't be able to do anything else!

I come on here to have fun so I don't want it to feel like a chore having to reply to people who quite clearly haven't read my profile. I've put in the header now ~ no reply means no thanks ~ still doesnt get read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very often dont get a reply back off a lady.. I isnt very nice..

I would always reply with a thank you.. But no thanks..

Just common sense and politeness..

I send a lot of time wording my messages with just about the right amoint of humour/sexytalk..

I suppose I could say their loss… .

Michael"

No offence meant here, but if you were chatting to several people a once already that you'd chosen to talk to, as well as several potential meets, as well as people you've already met and talked to, random 'butt ins' to those conversations aren't really welcomed and it is easier to just delete the. On the rare occasions i've not got a full inbox and not chatting to loads of people i will say no thanks and then they think that's an invite to carry on chatting with you...like your manners are an excuse to try and persuade you to change your mind.

Doubt you would be able to handle messaging everyone back, i don't even attempt to and nobody has to do that anyway, its the risk you take when you message someone you don't know and doesn't know you, they might not message you back.

I often see the phrase manners cost nothing, well they cost time and sometimes cost us conversations we were already having because those people will go offline, i already wasted too much time in here explaining as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really simple - the site has way too many men on it, and half of them don't read profiles properly, reply to anyone they like the look of, don't bother to write anything legible, sensible, or in any way personal to the person they're replying to, and as a result a lot of women get a huge amount of mail from people they have no interest in whatsoever.

If they replied to everyone, they'd have to give up their jobs and do this full time. Why is this so hard for people to understand on here?

Reply to the people you actually fit, and you might have more of a chance of receiving a suitable response. Oh, and don'y just say, hi fancy a fuck? Or how you doing? Nobody wants to read this - be imaginative, be creative, be personal, write proper English and don't just blanket-email every woman on here in the vain hope that you might get laid because you own a penis.

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By *icarage ManMan
over a year ago

South Shields

But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael "

Fair enough, but it's still no guarantee. I don't get a reply all the time either, but you just move on and accept that the person didn't find you attractive for whatever reason - whether it be physically, or what you wrote.

You have to be thick skinned to be a guy on here. Suck it up, and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's not reply take that as a polite thanks but no thanks and move on. I was chatting with one lady and she experimented here with a similar thread and said to the guy that in the time she had the chance to reply to his thread that she had 20 new messages.

It’s a full time job for the ladies if they wanted to reply to all the messages they receive and when they do reply it’s another message back say why what’s wrong with me.

I very rarely message ladies unless I can see we will match up on what we both require. Personally for me not an issue about no reply back I just think so be it I will carry on chatting to my friends.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "
I politely answered an unsolicited message earlier today saying no thanks. The person had no pictures, a small generic profile, and asking me to go to a club tonight. This person had never previously contacted me. When I declined I got back a message spouting bile and vitriol - reported and blocked! Some people can't take rejection

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael "

And you have every right to be offended. Just as others have every right to not reply if they so choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael "

Well it's nice that you take the time to do so & I'm sure it's pretty disheartening when you don't get a reply. However on here no reply is no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael "

I also think it's fair enough as well.

Not trying to invalidate your feelings, just saying you won't get it your way and your way isn't common sense to those of us who have to deal with loads of messages or are having loads of conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x I politely answered an unsolicited message earlier today saying no thanks. The person had no pictures, a small generic profile, and asking me to go to a club tonight. This person had never previously contacted me. When I declined I got back a message spouting bile and vitriol - reported and blocked! Some people can't take rejection

And those are the people who ruin the site for literally everyone else. There's a cross-section of society on here, and unfortunately a lot of people are not very bright, and can be quite unpleasant, especially when it comes to the pursuit of sex as recreation. Idiots.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always used to reply,however after several months i now usually just delete...as has already been said, the majority of messages are from men who haven't read my profile,and constantly reply with stupid remarks like 'but im only 15 miles away!'..or are downright abusive..and plenty of men seem to take any reply as a sign i can be worn down by more endless messages...i do wonder, if out on the town and offering to buy a woman a drink...if turned down, do they keep reappearing at the bar asking ' are you sure?..ive got 9 inches'...

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY

". Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael "

me think its time you got over your own bloated ego.... ffs personal? you are on a shag strangers site how the fuck can you take it personally if they don't answer you.... they are too busy getting cock elsewhere.. get over yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And those are the people who ruin the site for literally everyone else."

They don't ruin the site for me, so you are wrong.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

On behalf of the decent guys on here(obviously me)

Please accept an apology as were not all like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And those are the people who ruin the site for literally everyone else.

They don't ruin the site for me, so you are wrong.

You know what I mean!

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

On behalf of the decent guys on here(obviously me)

Please accept an apology as were not all like that"
Thank you

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"And those are the people who ruin the site for literally everyone else".

Everyone else? Really?

I don't find that to be true at all...

It's no use blaming other people on here for not getting replies or meets...

It's down to you and nobody else.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

On behalf of the decent guys on here(obviously me)

Please accept an apology as were not all like that Thank you

My pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're worse than hitler, I don't know how they can sleep at night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And those are the people who ruin the site for literally everyone else. There's a cross-section of society on here, and unfortunately a lot of people are not very bright, and can be quite unpleasant, especially when it comes to the pursuit of sex as recreation. Idiots.

"And those are the people who ruin the site for literally everyone else".

Everyone else? Really?

I don't find that to be true at all...

It's no use blaming other people on here for not getting replies or meets...

It's down to you and nobody else.

Please don't take my quote quite so literally - if you read up you'll see I'm not complaining at all, far from it, I'm offering advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the point in case a lady trying to be nice and then getting abuse for doing so. Sorry to hear this, its awful you have experienced this and I hope it hasn't tainted your opinion to much of the other guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from what ive heard some guys give the rest of us a bad reputation, i suppose its up to the lady if she wants to reply or not?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's really simple - the site has way too many men on it, and half of them don't read profiles properly, reply to anyone they like the look of, don't bother to write anything legible, sensible, or in any way personal to the person they're replying to, and as a result a lot of women get a huge amount of mail from people they have no interest in whatsoever.

If they replied to everyone, they'd have to give up their jobs and do this full time. Why is this so hard for people to understand on here?

Exactly. If I received a well-worded message from someone who fitted my criteria I am highly likely to reply. Sadly I have only learned through direct experience that the best way to avoid a negative comeback is to delete without reply. That's not lack of manners on my part, just self-protection!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The day i let a face less profile bother me ill leave fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get far too many messages to reply to them all so I look for interesting witty messages with a face pic attached if no visable pics delete if they've sent cock pics delete if they send boring message delete simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surly its just politeness right ? x "

Not if they've got an inbox full of messages and demanding a reply isn't very polite, oh and don't call me shirly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

". Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael

Harsh

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

The day i let a face less profile bother me ill leave fab

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Good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

Here we go again!!!

Just face the fact's ...it was never going to last!!!

...so stop playing the Bridget Jones music, take off your big knickers, dry your eyes ( you can use the big knickers for this) and get over it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x

Here we go again!!!

Just face the fact's ...it was never going to last!!!

...so stop playing the Bridget Jones music, take off your big knickers, dry your eyes ( you can use the big knickers for this) and get over it!!

"
+1 woman get so many messages u can't expect them to get back to everyone !

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"surly its just politeness right ? x "

not at all, no one owes you a reply, do what the site faq's say and take no reply as a no thank you, afterall do you ring every takeaway or company that drops a menu/leaflet through your door to say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

That comes across a bit scary.

Michael "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you say no thanks and wish them luck and then get a mail saying fat bitch, slut etc sadly as much as I would like to say no thanks it's not worth it anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of replying to people your not interested in that's what the block button is for, also that way they can't keep messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surly its just politeness right ? x

It's also polite to read peoples profiles and not message them if you don't fit their requirements.

But lots of guys seem unable to do that."

^ this^

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

You really want an inbox full of messages saying you're not their type?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But I am sending somebody a personal message that is worded to them ..

I dont cut and paste like a lot of people do…

So when I see my message deleted.. Or read but not replied.. Then I do take a little offence.

Simples

Michael "

So you'd rather have an inbox full of messages carefully crafted to say they're not interested in you? I never get the logic of this, seriously...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you say no thanks and wish them luck and then get a mail saying fat bitch, slut etc sadly as much as I would like to say no thanks it's not worth it anymore "
i never say that back I norm say thank for ur reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it always women singled out for this

their not the only one's not to reply

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"surly its just politeness right ? x

It's also polite to read peoples profiles and not message them if you don't fit their requirements.

But lots of guys seem unable to do that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x

Just saying no promps

its no! "But why not"

its no! "But why not""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would it really, genuinely make you feel better to get 'no thanks' messages from all the women who normally delete or ignore? I really don't understand the difference it makes. Either way they aren't interested and aren't going to be persuaded otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

I'd think they weren't interested, just like the single guys and couples that don't reply, and move on to the next victim rather than dwelling on something that I can't change.

As well as the abuse for saying no, one reason I don't reply is so that it gives the screen when messaging again that says I didn't reply last time and advising you not to waste your time messaging again... Amazing how many ignore that but expect a reply to a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure how no thanks is going to make you feel better if you don't get a reply you can always just think it was deleted accidently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

no reply is a no without the reply lol

dry ur eyes and keep 'er lit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even just to say not their type what do u think ? x "

I think I'm not their type. Otherwise they would write back to me

Hope that helps

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