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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

I think it must be just me who gets most first messages deleted without even so much as a "no thanks!"

I don;t send crude messages, I oofter reference the sendee's profile, and I ALWAYS try to be as polite as possible.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about the fact I'm being knocked back - I've pretty thick skin; I just find it just frustrating and a bit rude to just delete without even looking at my profile or saying anything!

Politeness goes a LONG way dudes! I will ALWAYS reply to messages, even if I'm not interested. I have a fair few interest from guys (even though it states on my profile I'm not interested in guys) , and will always strike up a conversation, even if it is to say "no thank you, I'm not interested".

Just my two penneth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG - your photos are seriously scary!!!!

Are you really surprised that people keep away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OMG - your photos are seriously scary!!!!

Are you really surprised that people keep away?

"

I'm afraid I have to agree

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

We always reply but then we don't get hundreds of messages like some do. I don't think I'd want to devote half an hour a day copy and pasting 'no thanks' just to appear polite just to get half of them come back with 'why not?' or some childish insult. Just accept a no-reply as a no-thanks. Think of it this way - do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your door with 'thanks for your offer of half price soffits but I'm not interested'?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"OMG - your photos are seriously scary!!!!

Are you really surprised that people keep away?

"

Jeepers I just looked and agree 100%. *runs for the hills*

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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

But I wouldn't class it as "junk mail". I accept that some emails ie: "fancy a fuck" etc. aren't good opening ones, but if someone has taken the time to write a polite email, be it two lines or twenty two, then it's only polite to say no thanks.

And if you're worried about getting abuse back, then that's what the block button is for!

As for my photos being "scary", they aren't really though, are they!

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By *1paljungMan
over a year ago

Richmond


"OMG - your photos are seriously scary!!!!

Are you really surprised that people keep away?

I'm afraid I have to agree"

He he they are funny but slightly disturbing, I'd throw the top five in the recycle bin and keep the rest, funny though and tightly shocking.

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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

HAHAHA!

It helps to out the people who aren't like-minded!


"OMG - your photos are seriously scary!!!!

Are you really surprised that people keep away?

Jeepers I just looked and agree 100%. *runs for the hills* "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I like them

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Try smiling and looking more fluffy wuffy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well first off, I'm as straight as they come, now I have that bit out of the way....I think your photos are brilliant although very unique

No cock shots just fun pictures and I think in the mind of some, that would highlight you as possible a fun person to be with all be a little crazy, don't be too hard on him guys and gals, I think he has been bold enough to try something different and he deserves credit for that !

This has to be my longest post to a guy ever lol

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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile.

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By *1paljungMan
over a year ago

Richmond


"Try smiling and looking more fluffy wuffy"

He does smile, well grin in some.

Would take the Hate bit out of the profile text as the rest is good.

So delete the following

'Ok then, well erm...I HATE these things!

Anyways, here I go...'

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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

HA!

Thanks dude! I appreciate it. I'm fine with getting railed on etc. I've been doing this shit long enough to realise that the crap I get is only online. I'm not sure if anyone remembers the heyday of "Bondage.com" about 10 years ago - you know, when it was good!

Anyway, As I said, it s out the peeps who won't be interested in me!


"Well first off, I'm as straight as they come, now I have that bit out of the way....I think your photos are brilliant although very unique

No cock shots just fun pictures and I think in the mind of some, that would highlight you as possible a fun person to be with all be a little crazy, don't be too hard on him guys and gals, I think he has been bold enough to try something different and he deserves credit for that !

This has to be my longest post to a guy ever lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile. "

The issue for me is....

Current avatar pic & user name would be enough for me to delete.

if you sent a face pic I would probably look at your profile & then have a mild freak out at the photos...!!

delete and possibly block......

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile. "

But you can't possibly know if they've looked or not. They may have chosen to _iew profiles and not show on 'looked at me' lists

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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

But it's quite obviously a FUN piccie!

If you deleted and BLOCKED on the basis of a stupid piccie of a pink fluffy sock with eyes and a santa hat on my little buddy, then we quite obviously don;t share the same sense of humour and therefore my pictures are doing their job!


"The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile.

The issue for me is....

Current avatar pic & user name would be enough for me to delete.

if you sent a face pic I would probably look at your profile & then have a mild freak out at the photos...!!

delete and possibly block......"

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By *rShinyKnickers OP   Man
over a year ago

BARRY

I didn't know that was an option, but be that as it may, it's still polite for a no thanks to a genuine (non spammy/copy and pasted) email.

I guess some peeps think they're above others!


"The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile.

But you can't possibly know if they've looked or not. They may have chosen to _iew profiles and not show on 'looked at me' lists"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile.

But you can't possibly know if they've looked or not. They may have chosen to _iew profiles and not show on 'looked at me' lists"

I've found most women on here have that option selected, otherwise you get all the 'I see you _iewed my profile...' messages....I generally always look at the profile first to decide whether to read or reply to a message.

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By *1paljungMan
over a year ago

Richmond


"The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile. "

Could it be the profile pic?

As you state you're into American Muscle cars so fluffyv8 kind of works

Change the profile pic to a back and leg shot or portrait and you're in, NOT the sand which one!!!

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But it's quite obviously a FUN piccie!

If you deleted and BLOCKED on the basis of a stupid piccie of a pink fluffy sock with eyes and a santa hat on my little buddy, then we quite obviously don;t share the same sense of humour and therefore my pictures are doing their job!

The issue isn't with the pictures though. In fact most people who I'm in correspondence with - regardless of who initiated the communications love them. This isn't a "look at me" thread, or a way to get advice or validate my profile/piccies etc. I'm quite happy with it all, thanks!

No, the issue is deleting emails that aren't rude/dodgy/crude etc. without even LOOKING at my profile.

The issue for me is....

Current avatar pic & user name would be enough for me to delete.

if you sent a face pic I would probably look at your profile & then have a mild freak out at the photos...!!

delete and possibly block......"
lol I must say I love your avatar and pics. I'm a bit of an arty farty surrealist nut though so not sure if that helps ha ha

S x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I think it must be just me who gets most first messages deleted without even so much as a "no thanks!"

I don;t send crude messages, I oofter reference the sendee's profile, and I ALWAYS try to be as polite as possible.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about the fact I'm being knocked back - I've pretty thick skin; I just find it just frustrating and a bit rude to just delete without even looking at my profile or saying anything!

Politeness goes a LONG way dudes! I will ALWAYS reply to messages, even if I'm not interested. I have a fair few interest from guys (even though it states on my profile I'm not interested in guys) , and will always strike up a conversation, even if it is to say "no thank you, I'm not interested".

Just my two penneth! "

Admin advise that people take no reply to be the same as a polite 'No thanks'. That way you'll probably enjoy the site more....

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