FabSwingers.com forum: I don't get it.... Literally!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can someone please advise.... I'm unsure why I am doing wrong...

I read people's profile fully, sometimes twice. I make sure im in there age bracket... And I send very unforward, polite messages and always attach a face photo.

I then get blocked... With no explaination.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they don't like the look of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say be a little more descriptive in your profile...it sounds to me that as long as they are discrete then your happy to meet and shag anyone lol

Attend socials, don't try and arrange meets with the intention of having naughty fun, explore the social side and the rest will come

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By *himaeraWoman
over a year ago

near derby.

And better pics?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I'm a female within your age range (well let's face it, every female is) and local to you. If you messaged me, I probably delete without reading. I, and many others on here read profiles before messages and yours is, well a bit crap.

Take some different photos. We all know what a cock looks like.

Expand your text a bit. You can't accommodate or travel, how are you expecting to meet? Do you not drive and can only meet local? Say that.

It doesn't matter how well presented your goods (messages) are if your shop window (profile) is shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say be a little more descriptive in your profile...it sounds to me that as long as they are discrete then your happy to meet and shag anyone lol

Attend socials, don't try and arrange meets with the intention of having naughty fun, explore the social side and the rest will come"

This man has given you very good advice here

I have lost count of the amount of blokes send me a pic and expect my pussy to be dripping and ready to go meet them it doesn't work like that chat nicely if all going well picture maybe move onto instant message then social meet then who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most message recipients will check out the profile of the sender before even getting to the message so ya gotta make sure you're doing all you can to stand out from the bunch.

Ask yourself 'am I doing the best I can with the tools fab' has to help me?'

If your messages are being deleted and your being blocked, the chances are that you're not.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Can someone please advise.... I'm unsure why I am doing wrong...

I read people's profile fully, sometimes twice. I make sure im in there age bracket... And I send very unforward, polite messages and always attach a face photo.

I then get blocked... With no

explaination.

Thanks

Would an explanation from them help? What if their explanation was "your profile is boring and I'd rather eat dog vomit". That doesn't help, does it? The only person you can help you is...you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women here, on receiving a message, first click on the profile. That, I reckon, is where your problem lies. It is brief, far too general;as has already been said here...looks like you will fuck anything? Also just one cock pic..... A big no no for many!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont get it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A question on this...I wonder if it is worth an thread on the lines of single guy profiles that are ok or might make you take a second look...I might set one up if people thinks it's worth it...I'm always open to advice on writing my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it wrong if I start taking bets on nothing changing no matter how much good advice is dispensed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha !

Thanks guys

I think I get the point now lol!

Selling yourself is harder then I thought, it's nice to eat what your profile reads like from outsiders point of view..

Will get on it right away!

Thanks again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hear*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been given some great advice in this thread already, the best bit of advice ..... take it!!! Don't join the realms of single men who post here asking advice on how to improve their chances and then ignore it.

In addition, lower your expectations, just because this is a site for swingers it does not mean that people will want to have sex with you. Get to know people, interact here, via messages or attend organised socials/have social meets and consider anything else a happy bonus.

Enjoy

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"A question on this...I wonder if it is worth an thread on the lines of single guy profiles that are ok or might make you take a second look...I might set one up if people thinks it's worth it...I'm always open to advice on writing my profile"

Crap profiles act as a filter to many people. If people are too lazy/stupid/unaware to create a good profile then they reap what they sow - zilch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally delete messages from:-

shadow avatars

user names that make me think eeeeuuww (yours is fine btw)

that's before I've looked at the message or profile.

so my advice would be get yourself a sexy torso (for example) avatar pic for starters.

have a few more public pics which aren't cock ones.

expand your profile text.

Don't take being blocked to heart, it helps filter out people that aren't right for them & stops you wasting your time messaging them again at a later date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone please advise.... I'm unsure why I am doing wrong...

I read people's profile fully, sometimes twice. I make sure im in there age bracket... And I send very unforward, polite messages and always attach a face photo.

I then get blocked... With no explaination.

Thanks

You have only one picture on your profile and that is of your cock.

That is probably the reason for most blocks regardless of what you have written on your profile - which of course, isn't much.

I've lost count of how many profiles i've read that make comments along the lines of 'if the only pictures you have are of your dick, then I will assume that YOU are a dick'

Let's be frank here. All men have one.

Is it really your most outstanding feature?

If you go down the pub, would you walk up to a woman to introduce yourself with your cock out and a bag over your head?

I think not.

Look at your profile objectively.

I know it's difficult to see things from a woman's point of view, but think of what you would think of a profile that is presented in the same way as yours is now.

Would you be interested in them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha depends what pub I go to!

That made me laugh!

I've changed me profile text now.... It's probably not perfect still but I think its better and more honest...and informative.

Just need to get snapping with the camera when in feeling a little note photogenic..

Thanks again guys! You've all made sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your bit about travel accom.. Doesn't answer the wont accom wont travel.

Where are u going to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So - you live by yourself and have been driving for years....?

Yes, that really explains why you can't accommodate or travel....!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Changed it!

This profile writing milarky isn't easy you know

Ha don't normally struggle... But this......

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Changed it!

This profile writing milarky isn't easy you know

Ha don't normally struggle... But this...... "

The avatar is really good, I'd leave the cock pic for friends only and get a wider

selection of pic up and your profile text

is a huge improvement but you need to

tweak the can't accommodate can't travel bit because that always makes me think you'll only shag standing up on your front door step.

Well done you for taking notice from more experienced swingers.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Seems alright mate apart from the bit...i want a woman in good shape.

From my experience every women whatever shape she is hates something about themselves just as us guys do, you can meet all shapes/ages on here and believe me they are all fun.

Being to particular will make them think are they good enough to meet you...if you get my drift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Changed it!

This profile writing milarky isn't easy you know

Ha don't normally struggle... But this...... "

Avatar pic is great, very sexy

As Steve has mentioned, put a few more public photos up and tweak the cannot travel part to can travel ~ you can always add to your profile text a radius of how far you would go.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Much better profile. I'd be more inclined to message you now.

Still need a little work on the pictures though.

Good luck.

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