FabSwingers.com forum: Establishing boundaries....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you approach it?

Normally, by the time I meet someone, we'd have chatted on here a bit and the ground rules will be established, but on first meet, normally sit and chat for a while just to avoid any embarrassing events when the action starts.

Usually in broad terms like, what do you like and is there anything you don't like? Do you want to be gentle? Is anything out of bounds? Then we can be spontaneous but respectful.

Then during sex, Im conscious of the response I'm getting, the sighs, the look on her face (ecstacy or horror lol).

Seems to have worked well, but curious how the rest of you do it. Are you happy discussing things openly.

One of the things I love about fab is, to a large degree, were all on the same wavelength.

Thoughts?

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk.

Talk before, during and after. Certainly you get an idea during from a woman's reactions but establishing boundaries can only happen through communication. Sometimes I take Jane to the edge and worry that I've gone further than she might like. A quick "You ok?", "Is that good?" etc during the act can reassure you that she is enjoying it, can show if things are good and also reassure you that she is enjoying it (and, in turn, heighten your enjoyment when you know she is). This can be further reinforced through pillow talk. That's my experience anyway! Matt

By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Talk.