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"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?" Agreed. Plus women can get it any time they want, men have to try harder. | |||
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"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters? Agreed. Plus women can get it any time they want, men have to try harder." But then men generally want it more. | |||
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"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?" And they are always shocked when women aren't flinging themselves at them. | |||
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"Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this? As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun? Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it? Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?" I think the ratio proves your wrong and the majority of women would rather have sex in a relationship. Same reason there are way more female prostitutes than male. | |||
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"Were the guys in the mmmf bi? If not they each only had sex with one person but you had it with 3. Naughty girl lmao " They were horrible to me. After I let them fuck me. I was only around 21 or 22 at the time. So I still don't find it funny now. | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. " Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add). Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to! | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. " . This from society, from men here, and else where. And I say men as I've never experienced women calling me a sex related insults (slut, whore, slag, etc), even though I've had women not approve, it's always Because they found it worrying or risky behaviour, and not had high sex drives themselves to *get* it. I think women can have just as high/ higher sex drives, just not as many do perhaps. Also, I only discovered mine, after I had great sex, and then knew how good it can be... | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add). Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to!" How many women join then leave after the abusive messages from guys on here? From full on crap porno style first messages to the seriously nasty post-decline messages? | |||
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"Were the guys in the mmmf bi? If not they each only had sex with one person but you had it with 3. Naughty girl lmao They were horrible to me. After I let them fuck me. I was only around 21 or 22 at the time. So I still don't find it funny now. " Well your still on here now so clearly the vile pigs have not put you off enjoying your life. Fair play to you for moving past it and carrying on doing what you enjoy. | |||
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"Chatting to guys on here, a lot were told about this place by their mates. I can't ever imagine either being told about this place by a female friend.. or suggesting it to a female friend. Society says we are all kinds of bad things if we want sex with random guys. I've even been called names the morning after an MMMF, by the guys from that meet! (Not from Fab.) Why have sex with someone and then call her dirty and a slut and all sorts of names the next day? Surely they had as much sex as I did? Why was what I did different? Whereas men get to hi five themselves with how much of a "man" they are just because they had sex. It's ridiculous. And it makes me angry. Grr. This is why I have been reluctant to explore this side of life again for a long, long time." Sounds like you had a horrible experience. I'm not surprised you were reluctant for a while to explore this side of life. They sound like they were horrid. Maybe the ratios are different because females do worry about safety, plus many will have children at home etc. All makes it difficult. Plus like posters above have said, society has certain expectations and we are conditioned that we should behave a certain way. We are lead to believe that sex with different people is not the standard way to behave. Society is very judgemental too unfortunately!! | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add). Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to! How many women join then leave after the abusive messages from guys on here? From full on crap porno style first messages to the seriously nasty post-decline messages? " Actually the first time I joined I was on here about 8 weeks, got bombarded with messages before I even put a pic up, I hadn't figured out the filters and wasn't prepared for it at all. I was messaging a guy not far away, he seemed nice, good pics. Set a date. In chit chat on whatsapp I sent him a selfie messing about and he sent one back. He looked nothing like his pics they must of been 20 years old!! I ditched my account that day. Then I started up a new one a few weeks later after chatting with a friend who has been on here years. I was much more clued up that time! | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add). Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to! How many women join then leave after the abusive messages from guys on here? From full on crap porno style first messages to the seriously nasty post-decline messages? Actually the first time I joined I was on here about 8 weeks, got bombarded with messages before I even put a pic up, I hadn't figured out the filters and wasn't prepared for it at all. I was messaging a guy not far away, he seemed nice, good pics. Set a date. In chit chat on whatsapp I sent him a selfie messing about and he sent one back. He looked nothing like his pics they must of been 20 years old!! I ditched my account that day. Then I started up a new one a few weeks later after chatting with a friend who has been on here years. I was much more clued up that time! " I too had a female friend tell me about the site and support me through the first few weeks and horrible messages, or I'd have not stayed myself. | |||
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"I think new women coming on here get inundated with messages and get scared off. Finding the filters is essential! Then do your own searching. It has been suggested that the site owners default all filters so women have control from the outset. Excellent idea. Unless something is done the ratio will get worse. Us females that do stay know the score, take no prisioners and enjoy the site with like minded people. " Oh tthat's a good idea, wonder if they will do that | |||
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"I think new women coming on here get inundated with messages and get scared off. Finding the filters is essential! Then do your own searching. It has been suggested that the site owners default all filters so women have control from the outset. Excellent idea. Unless something is done the ratio will get worse. Us females that do stay know the score, take no prisioners and enjoy the site with like minded people. " | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. " Sad but oh so true. The religious and social programming against sex for pleasure is very strong. | |||
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"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters? Agreed. Plus women can get it any time they want, men have to try harder." Do they have to try harder for exactly the point the OP was making? | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. Sad but oh so true. The religious and social programming against sex for pleasure is very strong. " Though I have just had a text from a very "close" lady friend ....calling me a "slut"..,,..harrumph! | |||
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"Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this? As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun? Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it? Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?" Double standards and entitlement issues (see Elliot Rodger case) | |||
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"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here. " | |||
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"Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with " I know lots of women who just give up and get a horse! ! | |||
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"And the ratio is probably worse than you think with all the single female and couples profiles that are really guys pretending. " Well noted added to that men generally tend to be more voyeuristic so look at pics more? | |||
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"We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay S" Don't understand what guys hope to gain by sending nasty messages? Surely they just get reported and banned?? | |||
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"Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with " Of course they do Debs. And thank fuck for that lol | |||
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"We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay S Don't understand what guys hope to gain by sending nasty messages? Surely they just get reported and banned??" Some people just can't handle rejection especially when it on the internet it suppose to be so much easier and standards are different People won't always report easier to ignore and block | |||
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"Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with " | |||
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"Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this? As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun? Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it? Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?" There are a lot more men up for and able to play away. | |||
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"We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay S Don't understand what guys hope to gain by sending nasty messages? Surely they just get reported and banned?? Some people just can't handle rejection especially when it on the internet it suppose to be so much easier and standards are different People won't always report easier to ignore and block" Personally we just block as everyone is here for a bit of craic and some fun so we don't let anyone change that as for the females that left think they just thought they didnt need to take crap off anyone and it got to the point where it happened a lot so just left | |||
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