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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this?

As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun?

Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it?

Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too busy ironing and sorting the kids out whilst hubby plays on here on his phone

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

And the ratio is probably worse than you think with all the single female and couples profiles that are really guys pretending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some women have responsibilities that don't allow them to meet up with strangers.

i remember being stuck home with my kids and wishing i could just go out and fuck anyone i wanted, obviously couldn't do that, i can now they're older.

so there's one reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because batteries are cheap!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

LOL - didn't say I was going to charge them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?"

Agreed. Plus women can get it any time they want, men have to try harder.

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?

Agreed. Plus women can get it any time they want, men have to try harder."

But then men generally want it more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Want it more? Not sure about that.

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Good tread.

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

This is Imed at singkw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?"

And they are always shocked when women aren't flinging themselves at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As tastes like sugar said - double standards are still rife in society and this would put many women off - coupled with the fact that many have never heard of swinging/swingers clubs in it's current form. I'd never heard of it/them until this feb - and i've never looked back! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With reference to those guys who have given you abuse on here then I would suggest that they are quite possibly very dangerous men!. I dont think it's a case of double standards with those particular men but rather a need to treat woman badly . Something very very sinister about guys like that and women especially need to be vigilant about who they are meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this?

As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun?

Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it?

Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?"

I think the ratio proves your wrong and the majority of women would rather have sex in a relationship. Same reason there are way more female prostitutes than male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatting to guys on here, a lot were told about this place by their mates.

I can't ever imagine either being told about this place by a female friend.. or suggesting it to a female friend.

Society says we are all kinds of bad things if we want sex with random guys.

I've even been called names the morning after an MMMF, by the guys from that meet! (Not from Fab.)

Why have sex with someone and then call her dirty and a slut and all sorts of names the next day? Surely they had as much sex as I did? Why was what I did different? Whereas men get to hi five themselves with how much of a "man" they are just because they had sex.

It's ridiculous. And it makes me angry. Grr.

This is why I have been reluctant to explore this side of life again for a long, long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were the guys in the mmmf bi? If not they each only had sex with one person but you had it with 3. Naughty girl lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were the guys in the mmmf bi? If not they each only had sex with one person but you had it with 3. Naughty girl lmao "

They were horrible to me. After I let them fuck me. I was only around 21 or 22 at the time. So I still don't find it funny now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

"

Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add).

Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to!

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

"

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This from society, from men here, and else where. And I say men as I've never experienced women calling me a sex related insults (slut, whore, slag, etc), even though I've had women not approve, it's always Because they found it worrying or risky behaviour, and not had high sex drives themselves to *get* it. I think women can have just as high/ higher sex drives, just not as many do perhaps.

Also, I only discovered mine, after I had great sex, and then knew how good it can be...

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add).

Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to!"

How many women join then leave after the abusive messages from guys on here? From full on crap porno style first messages to the seriously nasty post-decline messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were the guys in the mmmf bi? If not they each only had sex with one person but you had it with 3. Naughty girl lmao

They were horrible to me. After I let them fuck me. I was only around 21 or 22 at the time. So I still don't find it funny now. "

Well your still on here now so clearly the vile pigs have not put you off enjoying your life. Fair play to you for moving past it and carrying on doing what you enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chatting to guys on here, a lot were told about this place by their mates.

I can't ever imagine either being told about this place by a female friend.. or suggesting it to a female friend.

Society says we are all kinds of bad things if we want sex with random guys.

I've even been called names the morning after an MMMF, by the guys from that meet! (Not from Fab.)

Why have sex with someone and then call her dirty and a slut and all sorts of names the next day? Surely they had as much sex as I did? Why was what I did different? Whereas men get to hi five themselves with how much of a "man" they are just because they had sex.

It's ridiculous. And it makes me angry. Grr.

This is why I have been reluctant to explore this side of life again for a long, long time."

Sounds like you had a horrible experience. I'm not surprised you were reluctant for a while to explore this side of life. They sound like they were horrid.

Maybe the ratios are different because females do worry about safety, plus many will have children at home etc. All makes it difficult. Plus like posters above have said, society has certain expectations and we are conditioned that we should behave a certain way. We are lead to believe that sex with different people is not the standard way to behave. Society is very judgemental too unfortunately!!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I expect it's because in the majority of cases when a relationship breaks down the woman has primary care of the kids especially if they are very young. If you don't have anyone that you can rely on for baby sitting and paying for a sitter costs a bloody fortune. Having people into my home with my son here isn't an option so the chance for me to meet is slim!

My circumstances were slightly different when I first joined which allowed me more freedom. If my situation was as it is now back then I wouldn't of considered joining somewhere like this as there wouldn't be any point.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add).

Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to!

How many women join then leave after the abusive messages from guys on here? From full on crap porno style first messages to the seriously nasty post-decline messages? "

Actually the first time I joined I was on here about 8 weeks, got bombarded with messages before I even put a pic up, I hadn't figured out the filters and wasn't prepared for it at all. I was messaging a guy not far away, he seemed nice, good pics. Set a date. In chit chat on whatsapp I sent him a selfie messing about and he sent one back. He looked nothing like his pics they must of been 20 years old!! I ditched my account that day. Then I started up a new one a few weeks later after chatting with a friend who has been on here years. I was much more clued up that time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think new women coming on here get inundated with messages and get scared off. Finding the filters is essential! Then do your own searching. It has been suggested that the site owners default all filters so women have control from the outset. Excellent idea. Unless something is done the ratio will get worse. Us females that do stay know the score, take no prisioners and enjoy the site with like minded people.

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

Ok - i think you definitely have a point here - but then again this is a site that offers some degree of anonymity- it's not like all your mates/ work colleagues are going to know your shagging a different bloke every night etc. whereas as if you took a new guy home every night from the pub - then I could see why the reputation issue could arise and be a factor (not that it should I might add).

Hence why you'd think a site like this would be the outlet that women would also flock to!

How many women join then leave after the abusive messages from guys on here? From full on crap porno style first messages to the seriously nasty post-decline messages?

Actually the first time I joined I was on here about 8 weeks, got bombarded with messages before I even put a pic up, I hadn't figured out the filters and wasn't prepared for it at all. I was messaging a guy not far away, he seemed nice, good pics. Set a date. In chit chat on whatsapp I sent him a selfie messing about and he sent one back. He looked nothing like his pics they must of been 20 years old!! I ditched my account that day. Then I started up a new one a few weeks later after chatting with a friend who has been on here years. I was much more clued up that time! "

I too had a female friend tell me about the site and support me through the first few weeks and horrible messages, or I'd have not stayed myself.

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea


"I think new women coming on here get inundated with messages and get scared off. Finding the filters is essential! Then do your own searching. It has been suggested that the site owners default all filters so women have control from the outset. Excellent idea. Unless something is done the ratio will get worse. Us females that do stay know the score, take no prisioners and enjoy the site with like minded people. "

Oh tthat's a good idea, wonder if they will do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think new women coming on here get inundated with messages and get scared off. Finding the filters is essential! Then do your own searching. It has been suggested that the site owners default all filters so women have control from the outset. Excellent idea. Unless something is done the ratio will get worse. Us females that do stay know the score, take no prisioners and enjoy the site with like minded people. "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I helped a friend of mine join and turned all the filters on. To be honest she says she is really turned off by all the cock pics lol!!

Yes, I think most women would rather have sex within a relationship, I would too, I have no drive to see multiple partners, and actually do not want me notches on the bedpost. The few good friends I have told I am on here, liberated single-again ladies say 'Ooh no I couldn't do that.'

I think most men are far more open to casual sex even if they are looking for a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has been mentioned, women are sometimes told they are wrong for wanting sex even when guys are given a pat on the back. When as a girl you're conditioned to think that you're a 'slut' for wanting sex it's hard to get over that.

I also think there are a lot of women who don't enjoy sex as much as men. Even nowadays a lot of guys don't have a clue how to make a woman cum and there are still adult women who've never had an orgasm!

Safety is also a big factor. You've got to consider how risky meeting strangers from the net can be. Women have to be very careful and the vulnerability factor puts a lot of them off I'm sure.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

That should read 'more notches' of course. I think that's an interesting point - I have an intrinsic desire NOT to get too many notches, regardless of who sees, I wonder how prevalent that is in women? Whereas I think most men don't mind how many they have.

I wonder if that is innate or a societal thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

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Sad but oh so true. The religious and social programming against sex for pleasure is very strong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because a bigger proportion of men think its easier to get sex from internet encounters?

Agreed. Plus women can get it any time they want, men have to try harder."

Do they have to try harder for exactly the point the OP was making?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

Sad but oh so true. The religious and social programming against sex for pleasure is very strong. "

Though I have just had a text from a very "close" lady friend ....calling me a "slut"..,,..harrumph!

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this?

As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun?

Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it?

Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?"

Double standards and entitlement issues (see Elliot Rodger case)

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Another reason could be that there is still a horrible double standard with alot of people on here and in the "vanilla" world. Men are seen as Jack the lad and isn't all such a laugh whereas some people's views of women acting out their desires in a similar way Can be frowned upon. Even on a swinging website I have been called names on here by men saying I should be disgusted with myself meeting strangers for sex.. and that's coming from people who have taken the time to join this site and have actively met and are still meeting women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are more likely to think they can join up and get a quick fuck. Some persevere and don't leave when it doesn't happen. Women are,in general less inclined to look for on the spot sexual gratification and stick to looking for someone special. In society it's frowned up for women to go looking for sex,so they join dating sites instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with "

I know lots of women who just give up and get a horse! !

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"And the ratio is probably worse than you think with all the single female and couples profiles that are really guys pretending.

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Well noted added to that men generally tend to be more voyeuristic so look at pics more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im gay and have guys in gangbang situations try to fuck me without a condom and without me knowing they aren't wearing protection. Men have also tried to take uninvited liberties with my wife whilst weve been involved in gangbangs and group sex. My response has been to halt proceedings and TELL them to leave before I break their jaw for them. IT NEVER FAILS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay

S"

Don't understand what guys hope to gain by sending nasty messages? Surely they just get reported and banned??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with "

Of course they do Debs. And thank fuck for that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay

S

Don't understand what guys hope to gain by sending nasty messages? Surely they just get reported and banned??"

Some people just can't handle rejection

especially when it on the internet it suppose to be so much easier and standards are different

People won't always report easier to ignore and block

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts


"Because most men are shit shags and in the end, women give up. Of course, the clever ones look for other women to play with "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok - after being on here a little while, it's plainly clear to see that there are a massively disproportionate amount of men to women (and probably couples).. But why is this?

As far as I can see, and have been told, women do get just as horny as men, so why aren't there a equal number of women in here looking for fun?

Surely they can't all be looking for long term relationships? There must be women who also want some simple no stings sex without all the relationship side of things? So where are they looking to get it?

Or am I completely wrong - and they are all looking for the long term love of their life?"

There are a lot more men up for and able to play away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spoke to a few lovely females on here but unfortunately due to single males pestering them with rude messages and nasty messages they decided to leave. Maybe if that stopped the women that do join would stay

S

Don't understand what guys hope to gain by sending nasty messages? Surely they just get reported and banned??

Some people just can't handle rejection

especially when it on the internet it suppose to be so much easier and standards are different

People won't always report easier to ignore and block"

Personally we just block as everyone is here for a bit of craic and some fun so we don't let anyone change that as for the females that left think they just thought they didnt need to take crap off anyone and it got to the point where it happened a lot so just left

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