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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

when profiles say they do not want one liners, what natural messages do they want as a first message?

"Hi" is now an abominable word. "how are you?" is now equivalent to "fuck off"

Do you want a 100 word essay as an opener? To me, hi is as good an icebreaker as any.

Cpls and single fems, do you also abide by the same first message code?

Just in case i may be wrong, folks, can you please donate a few good first time messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple hi is fine with me as a first message i reply depending on if I like their pics not on what they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We want a message that introduces you and tells us a bit about you.

There's only so many times one can put up 'hi, how are you?' Snorefest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem with hi how are you....if I like the profile I'll respond..if not, I wont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Do you want a 100 word essay as an opener?

"

absolutely not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We want a message that introduces you and tells us a bit about you.

There's only so many times one can put up 'hi, how are you?' Snorefest"

Do you do the same though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each person is different. I won't reply to 'how are you' but I also won't reply to a generic copy and paste.

I prefer something that shows they have read my profile and also shows some of their personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like something a bit more than just Hi, Hows you, Nice Legs and I say so on my profile. I certainly don't need a 100 word essay though or any of those boring cut and past rwtch. Just a few more words to show they've read my profile would be nice

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"I like something a bit more than just Hi, Hows you, Nice Legs and I say so on my profile. I certainly don't need a 100 word essay though or any of those boring cut and past rwtch. Just a few more words to show they've read my profile would be nice "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We want a message that introduces you and tells us a bit about you.

There's only so many times one can put up 'hi, how are you?' Snorefest

Do you do the same though? "

Not gonna divulge our message contents but it's safe to say they do a little bit more than just say hi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me". "

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get a bit sick wen you try to put a bit of effort into a message then some ignorant sod deletes without reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me". "

The flip side to that analogy is...

Would you buy an expensive telly from the internet without first finding out a bit about it before committing to buy?

Would you buy that telly, from someone that said ' this is good, have it'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere "

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me". "

Hello, good morning, good afternoon or good evening are all options. Follow that with a bit about yourself followed by what attracted you to the profile, commenting on a point made in the profile also helps.

Hi how are you is just plain lazy and shows little or no effort and is totally dependant on the mood and how busy the recipient is as to you getting a response.

Your first message needs to grab them and make them want to look at your profile and reply to you.

You don't need an essay to do that just a paragraph.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you get a bit sick wen you try to put a bit of effort into a message then some ignorant sod deletes without reading "

Because you probably did not start with the code work, "popcorn" or "ladybird"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?"

You asked a question in your OP, you've been given answers which you obviously don't agree with.

I answer men who send me interesting messages, catch my eye and carry on an interesting conversation. If all goes well this will result in a social meet and hopefully a further meet where I will wear considerably less clothes.

Do you catch my drift?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

Hello, good morning, good afternoon or good evening are all options. Follow that with a bit about yourself followed by what attracted you to the profile, commenting on a point made in the profile also helps.

Hi how are you is just plain lazy and shows little or no effort and is totally dependant on the mood and how busy the recipient is as to you getting a response.

Your first message needs to grab them and make them want to look at your profile and reply to you.

You don't need an essay to do that just a paragraph."

Well said!

The flip side to that is when, after all that effort, you are hit with, "user has blocked your sex" Winner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You asked a question in your OP, you've been given answers which you obviously don't agree with.

Anything wrong with that, miss?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

If I'm honest about it I've come to the conclusion that it doesn't really matter what you put in an opening message, it's probably not going to work anyway. I've found that generally it's better to chat in the chat rooms and post in the forums, get to know people a bit through there then go to a few socials and parties and take it from there.

And finally, take your time. If you want an instant shag there are probably better and quicker ways of getting one than from what is really a social site for swingers.

And that's not a criticism because I'm actually really enjoying myself on here now I understand it all a little better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can say Hi just not on it's own.

I like to get messages that are either introductions- Hi I'm xxx from xxx. I like xxx. etc

or messages that pick up on a point in my profile and tell me why they like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have a standard type message but always try and put something in it personal to who we are sending it - whether its a commment on a status they put up or something off the profile - not difficult - only get a few deleted -

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By *000_6ftMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Hi is a tried and tested method of starting a conversation. It's the reply that counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi is a tried and tested method of starting a conversation. It's the reply that counts. "

if we got a message that just said hi - we wouldnt take a whole heap of notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind one liners as I am pretty shallow and tend to go on the pictures alone.

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By *ntuneMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Ive had this discussion with a number of people off this site...of course the disproportionate number of males to females is at the heart of this problem so will steer away from that

Another idea that might help is subdividing the site into sections (for want of a better word) so people who are after bondage don't get messages from guys after a quick shag...prob a bad example but you get the idea I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when profiles say they do not want one liners, what natural messages do they want as a first message?

"Hi" is now an abominable word. "how are you?" is now equivalent to "fuck off"

Do you want a 100 word essay as an opener? To me, hi is as good an icebreaker as any.

Cpls and single fems, do you also abide by the same first message code?

Just in case i may be wrong, folks, can you please donate a few good first time messages? "

A couple of lines about why your messaging us, which part of thw profile attracted you to us and what do you feel you can offer us. Yes we do follow our own rule when we message others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

"Hi" works far better in person than it does online. I don't think an essay is required, but just a little bit about why you're messaging couldn't hurt.

A really bad one liner is something crass and presumptuous. I just got

"Toss me off I'm gagging for it lol"

sometimes I wonder if this site is for me...

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I've taken notes and will be applying many of these suggestions in future messages. Can't but help. Thanks girls. xxx

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

A number of things I think a lot of people do not consider (from the male perspective):

1) A message introducing yourself effectively duplicates what your profile should be doing.

2) Considering the number of guys out there, and assuming a humble 5 ways per guy that instinctively come to mind, are there literarily 1 million ways of starting an email message without saying "Hi"?

3) You don't want it to be a snore fest - we all know most females and couples scan their inbox for just the first line, so the email a guy says is effectively a joke written backwards, ie, punch line first.

4) You're competing against so many other guys.. even with your best effort, another 30 emails will most likely arrive after yours, forcing your work of art further down the recipients inbox

5) And by the time they get to it, the moment may have passed

6) Or worse, they decide you're not what they're looking for and delete without reply

7) Or (cheeky bit) they send a reply.. a one liner!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?"

Shop assistants are paid to find out what people want all day...

Do you catch my drift?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?

Shop assistants are paid to find out what people want all day...

Do you catch my drift? "
if it's a male shop assistant I usually say excuse me mate or woman excuse me luv .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?"

Yeah but we're not serving you or trying to sell you something...We always introduce ourselves, tell them something about us that isn't in our profile but connects with something in theirs and attach face pictures...then it's up to them...We don't even look at the profile of the "hi" messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

Hello, good morning, good afternoon or good evening are all options. Follow that with a bit about yourself followed by what attracted you to the profile, commenting on a point made in the profile also helps.

Hi how are you is just plain lazy and shows little or no effort and is totally dependant on the mood and how busy the recipient is as to you getting a response.

Your first message needs to grab them and make them want to look at your profile and reply to you.

You don't need an essay to do that just a paragraph.

Well said!

The flip side to that is when, after all that effort, you are hit with, "user has blocked your sex" Winner. "

There's a little clue on the profile...when it says "not looking for single males" they're not looking for single males...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No problem with hi how are you....if I like the profile I'll respond..if not, I wont"

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, how are you" with "Hi" in the title block is used by 50% of men trying to make contact. It is boring and unimaginative so often gets them ignored.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


""Hi, how are you" with "Hi" in the title block is used by 50% of men trying to make contact. It is boring and unimaginative so often gets them ignored.

"

Just for argument sake (ie, assuming i did not know).. what would you open with?

I ask as its all well and good all these threads with posts of what not to do, what not to say, what not to type, what not to wear.

Enough of the "Don'ts", lets see some practical "Do's", cause, if I had to count the number of couples that send me one liners of "How big is your cock", I'd be rich!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never really know what to type as all women are diferent, so usually, "hey fancy a shag tonight", will do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A simple hi how are you two with a name & a face pic fine by us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi is fine as an icebreaker as the minimum effort gets the minimum result. 'Hi. How are you?' 'Great thanks and you?' 'Great. Fancy a fuk?' 'No' ......And block. Welcome to the exciting side of FAB!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We want a message that introduces you and tells us a bit about you.

There's only so many times one can put up 'hi, how are you?' Snorefest"

Isn't that why we've got profiles? I normaly get 1 liners with a pic, if I like the look, I check the profile, if it doesn't frighten the crap out of me, I'm interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?"
But we're not here to "help" you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No problem with hi how are you....if I like the profile I'll respond..if not, I wont"

I tend to read the profile before I even open the message... If that hasn't put me off with negativity or offensive statuses then I'll read the message. If there's something in either to spark an interest I'll reply, if both are void of detail or any kind of pic (not necessarily face although it's preferred) then I delete. So guess what I'm saying is if you're just gonna say hi then make sure your profile does the selling for you

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By *in with a GrinMan
over a year ago

Carlisle


"when profiles say they do not want one liners, what natural messages do they want as a first message?

"Hi" is now an abominable word. "how are you?" is now equivalent to "fuck off"

Do you want a 100 word essay as an opener? To me, hi is as good an icebreaker as any.

Cpls and single fems, do you also abide by the same first message code?

Just in case i may be wrong, folks, can you please donate a few good first time messages? "

It doesn't matter what you send some people they just don't read them anyway.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"when profiles say they do not want one liners, what natural messages do they want as a first message?

"Hi" is now an abominable word. "how are you?" is now equivalent to "fuck off"

Do you want a 100 word essay as an opener? To me, hi is as good an icebreaker as any.

Cpls and single fems, do you also abide by the same first message code?

Just in case i may be wrong, folks, can you please donate a few good first time messages? "
. It would need to be a couple of lines minimum in order to indicate that you have read the profile of the person that your are replying to and to summarise the key points about yourself . A one line hi is meaningless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just writing " hi or hey" bores me, any one liker does though, i just think oh you cant be bothered why should i.

A couple of sentences , maybe start a giggle off, but no an autobiography is not needed.

Her

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


""Hi" works far better in person than it does online. I don't think an essay is required, but just a little bit about why you're messaging couldn't hurt.

A really bad one liner is something crass and presumptuous. I just got

"Toss me off I'm gagging for it lol"

sometimes I wonder if this site is for me..."

I once got "Wank/suck fun?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends really what mood i am in or what one of us reads the mail i (jo) often reply with a massive waffle going on about any old shit that normally sends them on there way. nick will normally fire back with something really sarcastic and funny again a lot vanish . i dont expect a life story as a first mail but for the first mail to be meet .... anal .... fuck .... like we seem to be getting tonight takes the piss and the genuine shock when they work out they got no chance is mind blowing . i can fully understand how some get stuck for things to say not everyone are social gurus so i can handle the hi how has your night been or hi how are you first mails but as i say the 1 word ones do bug me

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"it depends really what mood i am in or what one of us reads the mail i (jo) often reply with a massive waffle going on about any old shit that normally sends them on there way. nick will normally fire back with something really sarcastic and funny again a lot vanish . i dont expect a life story as a first mail but for the first mail to be meet .... anal .... fuck .... like we seem to be getting tonight takes the piss and the genuine shock when they work out they got no chance is mind blowing . i can fully understand how some get stuck for things to say not everyone are social gurus so i can handle the hi how has your night been or hi how are you first mails but as i say the 1 word ones do bug me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it depends really what mood i am in or what one of us reads the mail i (jo) often reply with a massive waffle going on about any old shit that normally sends them on there way. nick will normally fire back with something really sarcastic and funny again a lot vanish . i dont expect a life story as a first mail but for the first mail to be meet .... anal .... fuck .... like we seem to be getting tonight takes the piss and the genuine shock when they work out they got no chance is mind blowing . i can fully understand how some get stuck for things to say not everyone are social gurus so i can handle the hi how has your night been or hi how are you first mails but as i say the 1 word ones do bug me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when profiles say they do not want one liners, what natural messages do they want as a first message?

"Hi" is now an abominable word. "how are you?" is now equivalent to "fuck off"

Do you want a 100 word essay as an opener? To me, hi is as good an icebreaker as any.

Cpls and single fems, do you also abide by the same first message code?

Just in case i may be wrong, folks, can you please donate a few good first time messages?

It doesn't matter what you send some people they just don't read them anyway. "

One liners don't need to be opened to be read. Look at profile, if they have put as much effort into that as they have message ' just delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anybody had the experience of trying to tell a shop attendant what you are actually looking for?

Hardly anyone says a thing without openings like, "hi" or "excuse me".

But surely you say something other than Hi to a shop assistant or you won't get anywhere

At this point, shop attendant smiles and also says "hi, how may i help you" etc and then u answer back .....

Do you catch my drift?But we're not here to "help" you... "

We know you are just here to get naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to say I prefer a little more than a one line both sending and receiving. Yeah sometimes you can look at the photos to see if there is an initial attraction but I need to be able to chat with them to and find a common connection or it just will not work for me.

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