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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london

So if every message you send someone gets read and deleted or comes back with a response of sorry not for me.

Does that mean you're basically punching too high above your weight or should you try messaging people who are more likely to message back?

discuss.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

or look at the message and see if there is a way of improving upon the wording and making it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try messaging people whose criteria you think you actually meet instead of the common tactic if carpet bomb style of messaging everyone within 50 miles and hoping for 1 yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

which would suggest youre messaging people you think are unlikely to message back?

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Try messaging people whose criteria you think you actually meet instead of the common tactic if carpet bomb style of messaging everyone within 50 miles and hoping for 1 yes."

And if you've carefully selected those members before messaging them then what? ( just playing devils advocate here)

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

You should definitely target the people most likely to message back, although if we knew how to do that....

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"You should definitely target the people most likely to message back, although if we knew how to do that...."

Hello stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try messaging people whose criteria you think you actually meet instead of the common tactic if carpet bomb style of messaging everyone within 50 miles and hoping for 1 yes.

And if you've carefully selected those members before messaging them then what? ( just playing devils advocate here)"

If you have and they still get rejected then maybe a rethink of how the content of the messages come across to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a pawg?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be all manner of reason why they have been read a deleted. It might be that your just not what they are looking for at that time, they might be to busy to think about meets and don't see the point in responding.

Why change your criteria of the people you want to meet just to get a meet? Stick to your guns and your luck will change.

Maybe visit a few socials and get yourself better known that way and with in the forums. Good Luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand the concept of 'punching above your weight'

Using that principle, good looking people would only meet other good looking people, fat people only other fat people, ugly people only meet other ugly people, young meeting young, old meeting old etc

Attraction is totally subjective and taste is personal.

If you like the look of someone, you fit their criteria, you fit theirs, send them a well constructed and considered message.

See where it leads

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"What's a pawg? "

its a porn term, probably from the states .

means, phat arsed white girl..

I think..

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"What's a pawg?

its a porn term, probably from the states .

means, phat arsed white girl..

I think.. "

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

does not mater what you put on your profile or what you right mate

when you send message have a look at what they have met in the passed and you can see there profiles lots have not got any pics or nothing on it but still had meet or they only just joined the other week so lots on here are fake

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You don't get rejected if you don't message anyone. It makes for a stress free fab experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if every message you send someone gets read and deleted or comes back with a response of sorry not for me.

Does that mean you're basically punching too high above your weight or should you try messaging people who are more likely to message back?

discuss."

i stopped mailing guys first, I used to but I have never had a single reply to anyone I have mailed first, I concluded from this i was punching above my weight so I simply stopped mailing guys

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Maybe read the profile.. see if those things match your own. Look at the fotos make sure you have decent text and pics of your own. send a face picture. Be bright and funny. choose your words carefully .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe read the profile.. see if those things match your own. Look at the fotos make sure you have decent text and pics of your own. send a face picture. Be bright and funny. choose your words carefully . "

i personally do not think it matters what you put in a message, you can read profiles, fit everything they are looking for, age, likes, location etc and send a nice polite message but if they don't like the way you look you've shot it, so you may as well just send a hi with some nice pics and hope they fancy you

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"does not mater what you put on your profile or what you right mate

when you send message have a look at what they have met in the passed and you can see there profiles lots have not got any pics or nothing on it but still had meet or they only just joined the other week so lots on here are fake "

has it taken you four yrs to come to that opinion..?

I tend to disagree with you, do wonder why you would still be here if that's what you really think?

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

try writing something original and make sure you actually read the persons profile before you contact them

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