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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

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By *couser83Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

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A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike arrogant people a lot. Saying that, given the disproportional number of single men here no wonder some couples/women sound arrogant in their profiles.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


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So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

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No, it's theirs do with as they wish, it would just make me smile and click next....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type. "

Would in inbox full of 'no thanks your not my type' improve your fab' experience more than having them deleted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people simply cant communicate effectively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to ignore these profile and concentrate on the ones that appeal to me. It's their profile to do with as they please and its not skin off my nose. I am also selective of the people I wish to chat with so this just helps my personal filters.

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By *couser83Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type.

Would in inbox full of 'no thanks your not my type' improve your fab' experience more than having them deleted?"

Yes because at least you know they have at least read your message instead of bulk deleting without even reading

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By *ill1948Man
over a year ago

lincoln

I find most of them are OK and if they like what they see on profiles they get back and meet and are happy most will be lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

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....... however... I would hope that the men would have enough self respect to walk on by.....

the demand dont work if no one answers then...... but no one is holding a gun to their heads making them want to....

as long as there are people willing to comply to demands... its not going to stop.... thats the long and short of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although it can be a tad annoying reading a woman's/couple's profile at times, I 100% understand why they may list demands or be so clinical with who they'll speak to.

As a guy, I even get a few messages from men whose messages are simply dire. One line drivel. Now if I were a couple or woman, multiply that number by 100! I reckon it's a right pain in the ass.

Being super clear and strict with what they are after helps with just filtering out all those unnecessary, time-wasting messages. Even I read those guidelines at times and it stops me from messaging. (Although not everyone reads them, haha.)

As for if women and couples can be arrogant too, sure. As with a guy though, if they are, I'd just ignore them, not message them or move on. Not too difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there looking for a certain thing I don't mind . I do find it Easyer if they put at top no single men .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

....... however... I would hope that the men would have enough self respect to walk on by.....

the demand dont work if no one answers then...... but no one is holding a gun to their heads making them want to....

as long as there are people willing to comply to demands... its not going to stop.... thats the long and short of it"

Exactly this Fabio!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saw one the other day that had a capital letter at the start of every word

Must Have Taken Ages To Type It

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

No, it's theirs do with as they wish, it would just make me smile and click next...."

This shows more about them than me, why would i want to meet someone like that

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I very rarely message anyone and certainly wouldn't waste my valuable time on a profile I decided was arrogant. Though it would be tempting to send a 'fancy a fuck?' message just for my own ironic amusement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dislike arrogant people a lot. Saying that, given the disproportional number of single men here no wonder some couples/women sound arrogant in their profiles."

i personally do not think that all because there are a large number of men on here that's any excuse or reason to be arrogant and rude

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

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I just block and move on saves reading it again

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By *urreyloverMan
over a year ago

Guildford

This site is very eclectic; you'll find people across the socio-economic spectrum. There is something for everyone. Some put looks over personality, others the other way round and I believe their profile gives an indication where they are on that spectrum. You'll just have to accept that it is just a reflection of society. Not everyone will float your boat. Each to their own. Accept and move on.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

In general, if a profile tells me more about what is NOT wanted than what is, I'll probably be moving on pretty swiftly.

Even single men have criteria...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a problem that perpetuates itself.

A couple may start of with a nice profile but as they get more and more messages that are unwelcome their solution is to evolve their profile rather than look at other functions the site has to offer.

Eventually they end up with an arrogant and shouty profile about what they don't like and what you must do for them, to a certain extent it will put some of the messagers off but for the most part the type that send the one liners or the copy and paste messages rarely read a profile in the first place.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a problem that perpetuates itself.

A couple may start of with a nice profile but as they get more and more messages that are unwelcome their solution is to evolve their profile rather than look at other functions the site has to offer.

Eventually they end up with an arrogant and shouty profile about what they don't like and what you must do for them, to a certain extent it will put some of the messagers off but for the most part the type that send the one liners or the copy and paste messages rarely read a profile in the first place."

100% agree with you. You've put part of what I've said into an eloquent way. Time and familiarity shapes the user, mostly for the best (even if to an observer, it seems 'harsher').

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"Some people simply cant communicate effectively. "

I have tried. It hasn't worked. I no longer care if my profile comes across as arrogant, because I know I'm not in reality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs"

It's bloody handy having the block button after all as we all have an idea of who and where we would like to meet. I wouldn't call that demanding its just having a preference.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs"

it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to change my profile to ask people to introduce themselves. I had been receiving some rude one liner messages. I try to acknowledge all messages but not those that don't have the decency to be polite.

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By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove

Hahaha swinging is a woman's world and us "single guys" are considered 'walking dildos'... And so what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dislike arrogant people a lot. Saying that, given the disproportional number of single men here no wonder some couples/women sound arrogant in their profiles.

i personally do not think that all because there are a large number of men on here that's any excuse or reason to be arrogant and rude"

I agree. We're all entitled to have preferences but I prefer to list mine in a way that's polite and hopefully in a way that will result in polite messgaes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!!"
yes. I agree with this. I guess the demandy profiles match the personality of the user so I would use it as a good filter.....there are other ways of getting what you want.....reminds me a bit of Aesop's fable about the competition between the wind and the sun....

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

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It's likely to put off the guys they'd be interested in and attract the guys that the profile is intended to put off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of arrogant people about in the real world. Just avoid them and don't factor them into your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I find the longer, more demanding profiles quite interesting.

Essentially, these people are outlining exactly what gets them going and turns them on whilst clearly explaining what doesn't.

If I had been lucky enough to received hundreds of messages from individuals outside of my catchment criteria i'd most likely be more more specific on my profile...

Having a long list of preferences makes it much easier to decide if this person/couple is what you desire and certainly makes it easier to construct the introductory message as you have some interests to talk about.

Following instructions makes all things easier in the end...

My 2p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You often just have to ignore rude people and not waste your time and energy on them... good and bad un everyone i suppose. It is frustrating how some profiles suggest you have to have 5 degrees,be able to recite poetry for initial contact purposes, cook, clean, look like a model be a virgin who has a white horse and silver plated armour lol...

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Personally, I find the longer, more demanding profiles quite interesting.

Essentially, these people are outlining exactly what gets them going and turns them on whilst clearly explaining what doesn't.

If I had been lucky enough to received hundreds of messages from individuals outside of my catchment criteria i'd most likely be more more specific on my profile...

Having a long list of preferences makes it much easier to decide if this person/couple is what you desire and certainly makes it easier to construct the introductory message as you have some interests to talk about.

Following instructions makes all things easier in the end...

My 2p"

Oh, and another 'demand' of mine is that I don't 'do' headless guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol.you only technically need one lol ill let you decide which

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My local area is pretty much full of this. I just have given up on the idea of friends or meets around here now. I don't think it will happen or is worth it.

There appears to be a lot of drama associated with this site.

It is a shame

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type. "

replying/not replying has nothing to do with politeness.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Hahaha swinging is a woman's world and us "single guys" are considered 'walking dildos'... And so what? "

so not true lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count. "

what a good idea..and a delete all replied mail..

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count. "

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this.

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

Who gives a flying futch each to there own move on to the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count. "

I wouldn't use this. I don't see why I should waste my time sending No thank you messages to anyone that obviously hasn't bothered reading my profile to see what I'm looking for in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

I wouldn't use this. I don't see why I should waste my time sending No thank you messages to anyone that obviously hasn't bothered reading my profile to see what I'm looking for in the first place."
isnt a deleted message a no thank u ? Or have I got that wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type. "

That is fair enough if you did not know you are not their type.

But if their profile is clear, like ours is, and states quite clearly who we want then maybe they shouldn't even be contacted by the wrong type?

We do agree manners and politeness cost nothing, but it has to be both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I see something I don't like it tells me I don't want to meet them. When someone I don't know doesn't reply to a message, it tells me they weren't interested in my unsolicited junk mail. In both cases I just move on and talk to people who I do like and are interested in talking to me. It's simple really

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

What I do find annoying are the people that say if you jump through hoops x, y and z and meet our other criteria that they will reply yet low and behold they still delete the messages without replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, my first requisite is physical attraction, my second is a nice person, if either are missing, I'm not interested. I know sex is a physical thing but, she could be the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, If she's a pig on the inside, my cocks staying in my pocket.

I have to add, if you wade through the mire of primadonnas, there are lots of beautiful and very very special people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

came across a rather lengthy one like this the other day by a single fem - i actually read it all with my jaw dropping further with every sentence - by the end of it i was like 'well good luck to you then missy' -- been on a while and not verified - hope she gets what she wants and dont blame her for taking anything less but sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I see something I don't like it tells me I don't want to meet them. When someone I don't know doesn't reply to a message, it tells me they weren't interested in my unsolicited junk mail. In both cases I just move on and talk to people who I do like and are interested in talking to me. It's simple really "
very true if you don't like the profile dont try and make contact.... being a visually driven male tho some sexy pictures of women on here require super human restraint

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

Don't see the point in replying to messages if the answer is no . Basic common sense means no reply means no interest . If concerned about non members , all you have to do is pay your fee and join . Too many people expecting something for nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preferences dont make people arrogant. I find it more arrogant that men wont read my profile in full. I ask for local guys only yet I get guys message me 100+ miles away. I dont reply to every message either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" my cocks staying in my pocket.

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You can put your cock in your pocket? I really need to make a road trip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watched a program on tv forget it's name it was about the kit man at Stoke city , his philosophy is to be nice to everyone and they will be nice back ,if there not nice back, then he will find someone else to be nice to !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" my cocks staying in my pocket.

You can put your cock in your pocket? I really need to make a road trip "

Oh please, I'll show you when you get here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type.

Would in inbox full of 'no thanks your not my type' improve your fab' experience more than having them deleted?

Yes because at least you know they have at least read your message instead of bulk deleting without even reading "
I would do that if there wasn't the follow up message asking why.

Often a quick read of my profile holds the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type.

Would in inbox full of 'no thanks your not my type' improve your fab' experience more than having them deleted?

Yes because at least you know they have at least read your message instead of bulk deleting without even reading "

If they've deleted your message, they're not interested in you. It's really that simple...you and not need to know any more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preferences dont make people arrogant. I find it more arrogant that men wont read my profile in full. I ask for local guys only yet I get guys message me 100+ miles away. I dont reply to every message either."
yes thats true i noticed i get people from miles away and couples friend requesting.... when i send a message asking why the request i never get a reply whats that all about???! Id say that was rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are several profile styles that I dislike from the blank to the almost dictatorial.

Whatever works for them tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i speak for myself as I am a single male and im really not arrogant

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a poisoned chalice in some ways, for example, a couple join and have a reasonably wel written profile. They get loads of messages. Too many to answer as they have a life away from fab. The ones they don't manage to answer, for whatever reason generates another 'why havent you answered?' message and so on. Ad nauseum. Most of their messages are from men and are one liners so they send a 'thanks but no thanks' message which generates another 'why not?' message. Quite often a no results in abuse. The couple get fed up with all this as it's not as much fun as they thought it would be so they create a more detailed list of likes/wants/dislikes/doesn't wants which is ignored as many men don't bother reading the profile and just send a cut and paste generic message. Some men will simply say what the couple have said in their likes even if they don't like it simply to get a meet. The couple start making demands and capitals on their profile. Does it ever stop the changers? Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely message anyone and certainly wouldn't waste my valuable time on a profile I decided was arrogant. Though it would be tempting to send a 'fancy a fuck?' message just for my own ironic amusement. "

It's like a red flag to a bull. NO TIMEWASTERS. NO TIMEWASTERS. NO TIMEWASTERS. Ooooohhhhhh

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type. "

From Fab FAQ

"It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry if we do have to shout sometimes, but this site does tend to make you hard after a while...

Honestly, if you saw the tone of the "average" messages that we get, then you'd understand - we shout and are blunt because we have to be!

A constant stream of "Luv ur tits - wanna shag?" messages eventually become de-humanising, and after while you begin to ignore more and more, just to remain sane and retain some dignity...

So please don't shout at us - some of us have been shouted at too much already!

Thank you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type.

Would in inbox full of 'no thanks your not my type' improve your fab' experience more than having them deleted?

Yes because at least you know they have at least read your message instead of bulk deleting without even reading "

It wouldn't be so bad sending a no thanks resulted in people being able to leave it a that

I gave up because people come back with abuse or why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!! yes. I agree with this. I guess the demandy profiles match the personality of the user so I would use it as a good filter.....there are other ways of getting what you want.....reminds me a bit of Aesop's fable about the competition between the wind and the sun...."

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I watched a program on tv forget it's name it was about the kit man at Stoke city , his philosophy is to be nice to everyone and they will be nice back ,if there not nice back, then he will find someone else to be nice to ! "

Love that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a local couple moaning because there friends wasn't talking to them unless they sent the first message , so not being in my friends list I thought I'd send them a message ........ They ignored me, how rude

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs

it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!!"

I hear what you are saying but I don't call my demands, preferences

A preference would be that I prefer a guy to be taller than myself but will also meet guys shorter than myself

But I state that the man MUST be taller than me and therefore, it then becomes a demand

However, guys who are 6' or over hardly ever read that as a 'demand'; I wonder why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs

it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!!

I hear what you are saying but I don't call my demands, preferences

A preference would be that I prefer a guy to be taller than myself but will also meet guys shorter than myself

But I state that the man MUST be taller than me and therefore, it then becomes a demand

However, guys who are 6' or over hardly ever read that as a 'demand'; I wonder why "

I wonder what booking a hotel within 3 miles of you sounds like

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By *earsidecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

The more "unfriendly" your profile is, the more you will alienate the good friendly people. You will then only attract the arrogant dickheads and so the spiral down goes. We get a lot of messages like most couples. We reply to most if it's not a one liner and they have included a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a local couple moaning because there friends wasn't talking to them unless they sent the first message , so not being in my friends list I thought I'd send them a message ........ They ignored me, how rude "

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block people who's profile I don't like

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs

it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!!

I hear what you are saying but I don't call my demands, preferences

A preference would be that I prefer a guy to be taller than myself but will also meet guys shorter than myself

But I state that the man MUST be taller than me and therefore, it then becomes a demand

However, guys who are 6' or over hardly ever read that as a 'demand'; I wonder why

I wonder what booking a hotel within 3 miles of you sounds like "

It sounds like that I have never needed to travel further than that to meet anyone, so why should I?

And the day, I find that I need to travel further than that to meet someone, one of the two things will happen:

1) I will travel further than 3 miles to have sex

2) or more likely, I will delete my profile and stop meeting people for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't under stand why people get so upset

Use it as filter to avoid and move on to appealing profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs

it's not the case of having a preference.. i suppose it is the way that preference is expressed that would turn me off even if i was the type of person they were looking for.....

i think it is all the demands other than the preference that most people are talking about...

MUST do this... MUST do that.... as if you're jumping thru a hoop like a proforming seal!!!

I hear what you are saying but I don't call my demands, preferences

A preference would be that I prefer a guy to be taller than myself but will also meet guys shorter than myself

But I state that the man MUST be taller than me and therefore, it then becomes a demand

However, guys who are 6' or over hardly ever read that as a 'demand'; I wonder why

I wonder what booking a hotel within 3 miles of you sounds like

It sounds like that I have never needed to travel further than that to meet anyone, so why should I?

And the day, I find that I need to travel further than that to meet someone, one of the two things will happen:

1) I will travel further than 3 miles to have sex

2) or more likely, I will delete my profile and stop meeting people for sex"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't under stand why people get so upset

Use it as filter to avoid and move on to appealing profiles"

Yes I agree like ours pmsl

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By *earsidecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I don't under stand why people get so upset

Use it as filter to avoid and move on to appealing profiles"

Or just block the type of person you don't want contact from such as "single men"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I block people who's profile I don't like"

Phew!

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this."

I agree that a no reply is no thank you / not interested but I can't see any harm in actually having a button that explicitly says 'No thanks'. Then there is absolutely no room for doubt.

Although I doubt it would stop some of the guys writing a shitty message back.

As for writing a no thanks message, I think that is probably the worst option to take. If I get no reply I normally just move on but if I get any reply, even one saying 'no thanks' I feel I have to reply even if just to say 'fair enough, catch you in the rooms sometime'.

So, unless a 'No thanks' button becomes available the best response to being not interested is to do nothing.

Just my 2 quids worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

"

It does yes, but as a single guy I get chuffed when I get a reply or a pic fabbed lol

Its sad being a single dude lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's their profile at the end of the day - they can write that which they wish.

Like i say - i don't jump through hoops to meet. May cost me a lot of meets but i'm not too bothered by it. Not the end of the world.

My profile isn't exactly the best either - doesn't get me any meets or messages but i'm thinking of going all arrogant to see the what the effect may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be? "

Nope just makes me realise I am not their thing although my fave are ones who demand perfect bodies then have no pics to prove they are gym bunnies themselves its the hypocrite profiles that make me giggle most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't under stand why people get so upset

Use it as filter to avoid and move on to appealing profiles

Yes I agree like ours pmsl "

Wank night.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's their profile at the end of the day - they can write that which they wish.

Like i say - i don't jump through hoops to meet. May cost me a lot of meets but i'm not too bothered by it. Not the end of the world.

My profile isn't exactly the best either - doesn't get me any meets or messages but i'm thinking of going all arrogant to see the what the effect may be.

"

I'm tellin' ya dude, ya face pic needs to be shown upside down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this.

I agree that a no reply is no thank you / not interested but I can't see any harm in actually having a button that explicitly says 'No thanks'. Then there is absolutely no room for doubt.

Although I doubt it would stop some of the guys writing a shitty message back.

As for writing a no thanks message, I think that is probably the worst option to take. If I get no reply I normally just move on but if I get any reply, even one saying 'no thanks' I feel I have to reply even if just to say 'fair enough, catch you in the rooms sometime'.

So, unless a 'No thanks' button becomes available the best response to being not interested is to do nothing.

Just my 2 quids worth "

2 quid??? Most folk settle for 2 pence worth lol

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this.

I agree that a no reply is no thank you / not interested but I can't see any harm in actually having a button that explicitly says 'No thanks'. Then there is absolutely no room for doubt.

Although I doubt it would stop some of the guys writing a shitty message back.

As for writing a no thanks message, I think that is probably the worst option to take. If I get no reply I normally just move on but if I get any reply, even one saying 'no thanks' I feel I have to reply even if just to say 'fair enough, catch you in the rooms sometime'.

So, unless a 'No thanks' button becomes available the best response to being not interested is to do nothing.

Just my 2 quids worth

2 quid??? Most folk settle for 2 pence worth lol"

Yet but I'm a rich, greedy bastard. £££ €€€ $$$ ¥¥¥

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this.

I agree that a no reply is no thank you / not interested but I can't see any harm in actually having a button that explicitly says 'No thanks'. Then there is absolutely no room for doubt.

Although I doubt it would stop some of the guys writing a shitty message back.

As for writing a no thanks message, I think that is probably the worst option to take. If I get no reply I normally just move on but if I get any reply, even one saying 'no thanks' I feel I have to reply even if just to say 'fair enough, catch you in the rooms sometime'.

So, unless a 'No thanks' button becomes available the best response to being not interested is to do nothing.

Just my 2 quids worth

2 quid??? Most folk settle for 2 pence worth lol

Yet but I'm a rich, greedy bastard. £££ €€€ $$$ ¥¥¥"

Did you say, rich? As in, wealthy?

Where have you been? xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always try to be nice and reply however sometimes we miss some which is our bad.

Don't reply to the rude knobbish ones though.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this.

I agree that a no reply is no thank you / not interested but I can't see any harm in actually having a button that explicitly says 'No thanks'. Then there is absolutely no room for doubt.

Although I doubt it would stop some of the guys writing a shitty message back.

As for writing a no thanks message, I think that is probably the worst option to take. If I get no reply I normally just move on but if I get any reply, even one saying 'no thanks' I feel I have to reply even if just to say 'fair enough, catch you in the rooms sometime'.

So, unless a 'No thanks' button becomes available the best response to being not interested is to do nothing.

Just my 2 quids worth "

a no thank you button would just have the same ones moaning that they got an automated no thanks rather than a personal message, if people cant understand that no reply is not ignorant, rude or anything else its been called, and is simply a not interested, then thats there problem not the sites.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It makes sense that people who are in demand should express some idea of their preferences on their profiles, hopefully in a positive tone.

What surprises me (the male of this couple) are the profiles where the arrogance towards single males is nothing short of breathtaking, but still they have tons of veris from single male meets. Personally, purely out of self-respect, I wouldn't want to meet these profile holders, even if they were the last people on the planet - I'd rather be celibate.

Clearly there are plenty of men who don't feel the same way and, yes, it's their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a relatively new member I struggle with this one.. The volume of messages simply makes it unfeasible to reply to every one. However I have no desire to come across rude or arrogant so I tried and I managed this for the first week, but it was literally taking hours a day to keep up! Now sadly I have to stick to replying to a handful each day as only log on for a brief time .. This does mean I could be perceived as arrogant but really not as as quite frankly just an average Jo trying to find my feet so not arranging 'proper' meets yet anyway.

Would love an 'apologies but not for me' or 'just can't keep up' button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people simply cant communicate effectively. "

Nail on head springs to mind ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm arrogant. Get over it. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol its like going shopping.... They want exactly what it says on the tin lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a relatively new member I struggle with this one.. The volume of messages simply makes it unfeasible to reply to every one. However I have no desire to come across rude or arrogant so I tried and I managed this for the first week, but it was literally taking hours a day to keep up! Now sadly I have to stick to replying to a handful each day as only log on for a brief time .. This does mean I could be perceived as arrogant but really not as as quite frankly just an average Jo trying to find my feet so not arranging 'proper' meets yet anyway.

Would love an 'apologies but not for me' or 'just can't keep up' button "

If you take men off your 'looking for' list it takes your profile off the searches and stops most of the mail. That way you can go looking for people you'd like to meet. Mail filters also help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a relatively new member I struggle with this one.. The volume of messages simply makes it unfeasible to reply to every one. However I have no desire to come across rude or arrogant so I tried and I managed this for the first week, but it was literally taking hours a day to keep up! Now sadly I have to stick to replying to a handful each day as only log on for a brief time .. This does mean I could be perceived as arrogant but really not as as quite frankly just an average Jo trying to find my feet so not arranging 'proper' meets yet anyway.

Would love an 'apologies but not for me' or 'just can't keep up' button

If you take men off your 'looking for' list it takes your profile off the searches and stops most of the mail. That way you can go looking for people you'd like to meet. Mail filters also help. "

Ah thank you may try this for a while cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it puts me of them profiles that looks like an arrogant shopping list lol who are they? the prime minster? don't think so lol.. I just move along to the nicer profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one can message me and there's nothing on my profile. I used to have a list of demands for example, penis size and height but then I realised I don't even want to meet anyone, I just dip my toe in the forums now and again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single man, my profile is awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have anything ranty or capitalised on my profile. I do spend time talking to men and explaining myself to them but I expect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I see something I don't like it tells me I don't want to meet them. When someone I don't know doesn't reply to a message, it tells me they weren't interested in my unsolicited junk mail. In both cases I just move on and talk to people who I do like and are interested in talking to me. It's simple really very true if you don't like the profile dont try and make contact.... being a visually driven male tho some sexy pictures of women on here require super human restraint "

Therein lies the problem, so many men are visually driven and look at a set of pictures, decide based on that alone to message and hey presto ...... yet another message from a single guy who does not meet preferences. I do not think there is any call for arrogance or rudeness but that cuts both ways, if you are interested at least take the time to make sure I might be before messaging!!! If not you deserve to have your message deleted unread.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"As a relatively new member I struggle with this one.. The volume of messages simply makes it unfeasible to reply to every one. However I have no desire to come across rude or arrogant so I tried and I managed this for the first week, but it was literally taking hours a day to keep up! Now sadly I have to stick to replying to a handful each day as only log on for a brief time .. This does mean I could be perceived as arrogant but really not as as quite frankly just an average Jo trying to find my feet so not arranging 'proper' meets yet anyway.

Would love an 'apologies but not for me' or 'just can't keep up' button

If you take men off your 'looking for' list it takes your profile off the searches and stops most of the mail. That way you can go looking for people you'd like to meet. Mail filters also help.

Ah thank you may try this for a while cheers "

I do this. It does help a little. Other posters may be right about the visual aspect too; I get a flurry of messages whenever I post a new photo so now only tend to that when I know I'll have time to deal with the ensuing post. I also added a paragraph to my profile to try and make it crystal clear I don't meet regularly but tried not to make it all shouty and ranty. At least I feel I have the 'well, I did say so already' option as a result.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

I'd like to think my profile is welcoming

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By *in with a GrinMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

If someone puts up the the equivalent of 'I am an arsehole' on their profile its great as I really dont want to meet arseholes so I can avoid from the start its all good for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's be absolutely clear now.

Anyone can put exactly what they want in their profile.

It is theirs pure and simple.

To us, the arseholes are the ones who ignore it, don't read it, or want to comment on it.

After all, it is their personal profile, if anyone looking at it doesn't like it, well so what?

Why can't everyone be left to do as they wish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's be absolutely clear now.

Anyone can put exactly what they want in their profile.

It is theirs pure and simple.

To us, the arseholes are the ones who ignore it, don't read it, or want to comment on it.

After all, it is their personal profile, if anyone looking at it doesn't like it, well so what?

Why can't everyone be left to do as they wish?"

Didn't you know that everyone has to follow the fab forum profile template???

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I don't mind people who have, er, blunt profiles, but they're not for me, so I won't get in touch. That's how this all works, right? Finding people you're compatible with as well as attracted to sexually?

Sometimes the profiles are appealing, but when I contact them, the messages are very brief and cutting, symptomatic of someone I likely won't get on with.

But that's fine, plenty more fish in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I see something I don't like it tells me I don't want to meet them. When someone I don't know doesn't reply to a message, it tells me they weren't interested in my unsolicited junk mail. In both cases I just move on and talk to people who I do like and are interested in talking to me. It's simple really very true if you don't like the profile dont try and make contact.... being a visually driven male tho some sexy pictures of women on here require super human restraint

Therein lies the problem, so many men are visually driven and look at a set of pictures, decide based on that alone to message and hey presto ...... yet another message from a single guy who does not meet preferences. I do not think there is any call for arrogance or rudeness but that cuts both ways, if you are interested at least take the time to make sure I might be before messaging!!! If not you deserve to have your message deleted unread. "
i guess that was the logic behind the wink... but then i hear people dont think its a helpful system.. for me its a green light to initiate conversation... each to their own though....

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


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So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

No, it's theirs do with as they wish, it would just make me smile and click next...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I see something I don't like it tells me I don't want to meet them. When someone I don't know doesn't reply to a message, it tells me they weren't interested in my unsolicited junk mail. In both cases I just move on and talk to people who I do like and are interested in talking to me. It's simple really very true if you don't like the profile dont try and make contact.... being a visually driven male tho some sexy pictures of women on here require super human restraint

Therein lies the problem, so many men are visually driven and look at a set of pictures, decide based on that alone to message and hey presto ...... yet another message from a single guy who does not meet preferences. I do not think there is any call for arrogance or rudeness but that cuts both ways, if you are interested at least take the time to make sure I might be before messaging!!! If not you deserve to have your message deleted unread. i guess that was the logic behind the wink... but then i hear people dont think its a helpful system.. for me its a green light to initiate conversation... each to their own though...."

I agree with you with regard to winks, its a very simple way to show an interest - I would far rather receive a wink than a box full of messages from guys I have no interest in. If I return the wink however I expect the sender to follow it up with a message, if he cannot be bothered neither can I!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It puts me off big time. Got a message from a couple saying the wife has chosen me to fuck her. Like I'd won the lottery. No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count. "

Easy to remedy, join up it isn't expensive!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"...

But that's fine, plenty more fish in the sea "

Maybe a longer rod might help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......replying/not replying has nothing to do with politeness."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

"

Certainly does.

The number of female and couples profiles I see without pictures - or saying 'single males we'll find you'

How presumptuous.

The arrogance of a lot of people who are of the _iew that us single guys have no right to be selective ourselves or that we should consider ourselves lucky, or fortunate if we get an offer.

Fortunately, I have only ever received two insults in reply to a polite message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be fucking arsed sending message's, I get them coming to me.

Me arrogant or big headed ?? Noooo haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......or saying 'single males we'll find you'

How presumptuous."

Not sure that is arrogant or presumptive?

I think you guys need to remember who holds the trump cards in this lifestyle, like it or not it's the ladies who are in charge.

When single guys start on the calling couples and single ladies arrogant, rude etc it makes me laugh! If you'd seen some of the messages from single guys we have you wouldn't go near any of them again. I would say the boot is on the other foot and it's a case of the pot calling the kettle black!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It puts me off big time. Got a message from a couple saying the wife has chosen me to fuck her. Like I'd won the lottery. No thanks."

I suppose it's an approach that's worked for them in the past.

They also might not realise how up their own arses they sound lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you guys need to remember who holds the trump cards in this lifestyle, like it or not it's the ladies who are in charge."

Really? What a great attitude to have.

So we're lucky for what we get are we, and should be grateful?

Sorry, but while I accept that in terms of numbers, the ladies have far greater choice, but as far as i'm concerned, there still has to be mutual attraction.

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By *ilbobsMan
over a year ago

middlesex


"I have been called arrogant by short guys because my 'demand' is for guys taller than myself

I have been called the same by some guys because I 'demand' that we meet in a club or hotel bar close to me

Same thing when I 'demand' that I first see them on Skype

I suppose I could make my profile sound less arrogant and settle for anything with one or two arms and/or one or two legs"

That would be very much appreciated

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

A little bit, but what's worst is when you send a message to someone and it doesn't have to be sexual and they don't even say hi back. Even if am not what they are looking for its polite just to say your not my type.

Would in inbox full of 'no thanks your not my type' improve your fab' experience more than having them deleted?"

A lot of people are quite explicit in what they are/are not seeking and get irked at an inbox full of messages from guys who clearly haven't bothered to read, just enjoy their 'hot' pics.

Perhaps if a lot of people actually read what people seek and targeted themselves accordingly, they could be more successful.

Also, a simple 'no thanks' often elicits further messages of wanting to know why.

So delete and move on is very often much easier for all concerned.

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over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The great thing about profiles that shout they're not suitable for you is that you haven't wasted more than a few moments of your time. It's a blessing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you guys need to remember who holds the trump cards in this lifestyle, like it or not it's the ladies who are in charge.

Really? What a great attitude to have.

So we're lucky for what we get are we, and should be grateful?

Sorry, but while I accept that in terms of numbers, the ladies have far greater choice, but as far as i'm concerned, there still has to be mutual attraction.

"

It's a fact, never said that you should be greatful for what you get they were your words! However you should feel privileged to be invited to join a couple.

Of course there has to be a mutual attraction, again never suggested otherwise.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Its not easy / possible to reply to every message as non members are limited in how many they could send. It would be better for all if there was a 'no thank you' button that didn't count towards your daily count.

a no thank you button has been discussed many times before and it was clear that it wouldnt be a good idea, a no reply is a no thank you/not interested, its people that struggle to understand this.

I agree that a no reply is no thank you / not interested but I can't see any harm in actually having a button that explicitly says 'No thanks'. Then there is absolutely no room for doubt.

Although I doubt it would stop some of the guys writing a shitty message back.

As for writing a no thanks message, I think that is probably the worst option to take. If I get no reply I normally just move on but if I get any reply, even one saying 'no thanks' I feel I have to reply even if just to say 'fair enough, catch you in the rooms sometime'.

So, unless a 'No thanks' button becomes available the best response to being not interested is to do nothing.

Just my 2 quids worth

2 quid??? Most folk settle for 2 pence worth lol

Yet but I'm a rich, greedy bastard. £££ €€€ $$$ ¥¥¥

Did you say, rich? As in, wealthy?

Where have you been? xxxxx

"

augh well, J, I'd love to meet you to. (is this reply more than a 'one liner' yet? If I add these it should be. )

LOL

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"As a relatively new member I struggle with this one.. The volume of messages simply makes it unfeasible to reply to every one. However I have no desire to come across rude or arrogant so I tried and I managed this for the first week, but it was literally taking hours a day to keep up! Now sadly I have to stick to replying to a handful each day as only log on for a brief time .. This does mean I could be perceived as arrogant but really not as as quite frankly just an average Jo trying to find my feet so not arranging 'proper' meets yet anyway.

Would love an 'apologies but not for me' or 'just can't keep up' button "

I really won't worry about it. All the reasonable guys on here understand that no reply means 'not interested' and don't think it's rude. You're here to enjoy yourself self, not to pander to the insecurities or emotional frustration of others. If you try to keep up replying to them all you'll eventually find it too much, not really enjoy yourself here and possibly end up leaving.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I am always friendly,helpful and easy going and if i get a knockback which happens more now as I'm over the dreaded 50 i just think "oh well" and move on.

The arrogant ones dont last long on here and i believe in Karma...what goes around comes around, enjoy the site as there are more more nicer than nasty people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A lot of people are quite explicit in what they are/are not seeking and get irked at an inbox full of messages from guys who clearly haven't bothered to read, just enjoy their 'hot' pics.

Perhaps if a lot of people actually read what people seek and targeted themselves accordingly, they could be more successful.

Also, a simple 'no thanks' often elicits further messages of wanting to know why.

So delete and move on is very often much easier for all concerned. "

Actually we couldn't have put it better ourselves!

To be honest, we have HAD to shout on our profile because of the sheer numbers of single guys who look at the photo and not the profile.

Is it arrogant and rude that we reply sharply, or does that rudeness stem from the guy who contacts us without reading our profile.

We are strong believers in respect, but we refuse to give it if we don't get it, and if someone contacts us without reading our profile is that respectful??

It is enough to make you want to SHOUT!!

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By *earsidecoupleCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Regarding the "no thanks" button mentioned a few times. On a well know gay dating site, there is a "no thanks" button with a tick box next to it called "block this user". It's brilliant, you can reply nicely, at the same time as blocking them to stop the "are you sure" replies back.

We use it all the time, and would love it on here as well. As the amount of times we get messages from a profile, we reply no thanks, then a month later we get the same Carbon Copy message "Hi....", as they have forgotten we said no to them last time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regarding the "no thanks" button mentioned a few times. On a well know gay dating site, there is a "no thanks" button with a tick box next to it called "block this user". It's brilliant, you can reply nicely, at the same time as blocking them to stop the "are you sure" replies back.

We use it all the time, and would love it on here as well. As the amount of times we get messages from a profile, we reply no thanks, then a month later we get the same Carbon Copy message "Hi....", as they have forgotten we said no to them last time."

You can add notes to a persons profile i.e. "no thanks". That way, when you get messaged again 12 months from now you can take a quick peek on their profile to see if you wrote any notes and find your "no thanks" note. I haven't started using it yet... but we're beginning to get repeats so probably gonna start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regarding the "no thanks" button mentioned a few times. On a well know gay dating site, there is a "no thanks" button with a tick box next to it called "block this user". It's brilliant, you can reply nicely, at the same time as blocking them to stop the "are you sure" replies back.

We use it all the time, and would love it on here as well. As the amount of times we get messages from a profile, we reply no thanks, then a month later we get the same Carbon Copy message "Hi....", as they have forgotten we said no to them last time.

You can add notes to a persons profile i.e. "no thanks". That way, when you get messaged again 12 months from now you can take a quick peek on their profile to see if you wrote any notes and find your "no thanks" note. I haven't started using it yet... but we're beginning to get repeats so probably gonna start "

Oh strike that...still good advice...but you have to upgrade to paid membership to use that service so, for now, I'll have to rely on my good memory instead lol

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you


"I very rarely message anyone and certainly wouldn't waste my valuable time on a profile I decided was arrogant. Though it would be tempting to send a 'fancy a fuck?' message just for my own ironic amusement. "

Ha ha you could have something there send it then block them ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely message anyone and certainly wouldn't waste my valuable time on a profile I decided was arrogant. Though it would be tempting to send a 'fancy a fuck?' message just for my own ironic amusement.

Ha ha you could have something there send it then block them ha ha "

Send them a message and then block them?

Ha ha!!

Isn't that a chicken shit way out?

Better still, if you don't like the profile and you are not what they are looking for, why bother them at all??

And then some people wonder why single guys get labelled???

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you

I also block racist so I'm an equal opportunity blocker ha ha ha

Plus like everyone on here I'm free to say and do what I want

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I can’t understand why some of the guys on here want their inbox filled with ‘Thanks, but no thanks’ messages from people who are just not interested in them. I think I’d find going through a load of rejections in my inbox every day quite depressing.

But, and feel free to ignore me, I’m not sure that SHOUTING or putting a long list of demands on a profile is really going to solve the problem of the persistent, arrogant, overly overt or aggressive male. The reality is, I think, that those guys didn’t read your profile when it was nice and friendly and still aren’t going to read it now. If they see you look hot, or just think you might be willing, they’re going to message you regardless of what’s on your profile. On the other hand, those that do read profiles and try to only pursue those they think they may have a match with could well be put off. I think that aggression attracts aggression and arrogance attracts arrogance. You could be making your original problem even worse. I’m not criticising anyone for doing it, it must be bloody annoying have to wade through loads of messages of ‘Fancy a fuck’ or ‘Guess what they need between them', just not sure it’s actually going to make that any better.

I get a few messages that I don’t want (not 100’s mind) and I honestly think the best approach is to ignore, delete and move on. If necessary block but don’t go down to their level. Just carry on being yourself.

Also, have you noticed how all the comments on this thread saying it’s rude and arrogant not to post replies back when you’re not interested have stopped. You don’t think they might have read and learned something maybe. Or am I just a hopeless idealist. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t understand why some of the guys on here want their inbox filled with ‘Thanks, but no thanks’ messages from people who are just not interested in them. I think I’d find going through a load of rejections in my inbox every day quite depressing.

But, and feel free to ignore me, I’m not sure that SHOUTING or putting a long list of demands on a profile is really going to solve the problem of the persistent, arrogant, overly overt or aggressive male. The reality is, I think, that those guys didn’t read your profile when it was nice and friendly and still aren’t going to read it now. If they see you look hot, or just think you might be willing, they’re going to message you regardless of what’s on your profile. On the other hand, those that do read profiles and try to only pursue those they think they may have a match with could well be put off. I think that aggression attracts aggression and arrogance attracts arrogance. You could be making your original problem even worse. I’m not criticising anyone for doing it, it must be bloody annoying have to wade through loads of messages of ‘Fancy a fuck’ or ‘Guess what they need between them', just not sure it’s actually going to make that any better.

I get a few messages that I don’t want (not 100’s mind) and I honestly think the best approach is to ignore, delete and move on. If necessary block but don’t go down to their level. Just carry on being yourself.

Also, have you noticed how all the comments on this thread saying it’s rude and arrogant not to post replies back when you’re not interested have stopped. You don’t think they might have read and learned something maybe. Or am I just a hopeless idealist. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The process of writing a bio that is wrote with a thesaurus or dictionary by their side people try to use big words in order to make other people feel stupid. But, in reality they just make it seem like they are simply trying hard to look smart, in other words putting up a front. Even though we use large words that doesn't change the fact that we are barbaric in nature even though we don't drag our knuckles like the supposed cavemen before us. there seem to be some "women" who love emphasizers. There are three kinds of emphasis in use, in order of popularity:

1) using CAPITAL LETTERS to make words look "louder"

2) using *asterisks* to put sparklers around emphasized words, a

3) s p a c i n g words o u t, possibly accompanied by 1) or 2) all this just to make them have a false standing over others to subconsciously make them feel the greater, infant they're the less insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah definitely, if the profile gives the indication that I'd hate the writers and wouldn't get on with them then it's a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah definitely, if the profile gives the indication that I'd hate the writers and wouldn't get on with them then it's a turn off. "

Just an opinion from a couple as opposed to a single guy.

Some profiles are constructed for the purpose of putting certain types of people off.

In our experience, it doesn't put off the couples who may be interested in meeting us and make them think our profile is aggressive, it actually attracts them more because they all understand about the uninvited and unwelcome attention.

Still, it wouldn't be needed if everyone read profiles and respected choices but it seems for some people that is a really hard task.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ANGRY ATTRACTS ANGRY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ANGRY ATTRACTS ANGRY"

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, that is what a forum is all about.

If you would call our profile angry, then in our case that statement is factually incorrect.

In actual fact, our profile attracts a LOT of couples who have had the same unwelcome attention from people who seem unable to read normally worded profiles.

Hence the big letters, maybe they can read them easier.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

"

Yes.

If I see told of capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Yes.

If I see told of capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it."

Crazy really.

If all the single guys read profiles and respected them, there would be no need for capital letters, lists of rules or repeated words would there?

Speaking for ourselves, if on opening our profile a single guy closes it because he doesn't like the above, well we guess our capital letters etc have served their purpose well.

Remember this, most people who have profiles like this have been driven to it by rude and disrespectful members.

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Yes.

If I see told of capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it.

Crazy really.

If all the single guys read profiles and respected them, there would be no need for capital letters, lists of rules or repeated words would there?

Speaking for ourselves, if on opening our profile a single guy closes it because he doesn't like the above, well we guess our capital letters etc have served their purpose well.

Remember this, most people who have profiles like this have been driven to it by rude and disrespectful members."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you off, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Yes.

If I see bold or capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it.

Crazy really.

If all the single guys read profiles and respected them, there would be no need for capital letters, lists of rules or repeated words would there?

Speaking for ourselves, if on opening our profile a single guy closes it because he doesn't like the above, well we guess our capital letters etc. have served their purpose well.

Remember this, most people who have profiles like this have been driven to it by rude and disrespectful members."

I don’t blame you at all for doing it. It must be dam annoying to have your inbox filled with unwanted request and it must make it more difficult to find the genuine requests that you are looking for and want. And then, after ignoring or replying ‘No thanks’ to be pestered by people wanting to know why! I would be tempted in your situation to do exactly what you’ve done.

Yes, it puts me off as a single guy because it says ‘no single men’; it doesn’t need to be in CAPITALS. It would be interesting to know how effective it is at putting of the guys who don’t read the profiles anyhow. To be honest with you, I think, for them, the main thing that would be stopping them contacting you is the lack of any pictures, not what you’re saying in CAPS, D.O.T.T.E.D S.P.A.C.E.S (which actually seems to make it harder to read) or any other emphasis. But I’m pretty sure all that SHOUTING would put me of if I was in a couple.

As an experiment, try adding pictures; I bet the unwanted requests will increase. Then try removing the pictures and the emphasisers; I don’t know for sure but I’d bet the unwanted requests would drop back to about the same as they are now and might even lead to an increase in the truly wanted requests.

Like I said, I don’t blame you for doing what you’ve done; I just wonder if it really helps because it does, must definitely, come across as angry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Yes.

If I see told of capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it.

Crazy really.

If all the single guys read profiles and respected them, there would be no need for capital letters, lists of rules or repeated words would there?

Speaking for ourselves, if on opening our profile a single guy closes it because he doesn't like the above, well we guess our capital letters etc have served their purpose well.

Remember this, most people who have profiles like this have been driven to it by rude and disrespectful members."

It doesn't really serve the purpose, because I would assume the rude disrespectful members wouldn't be put off by it, but the genuine guys who are up for a good time would?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you off, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Yes.

If I see bold or capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it.

Crazy really.

If all the single guys read profiles and respected them, there would be no need for capital letters, lists of rules or repeated words would there?

Speaking for ourselves, if on opening our profile a single guy closes it because he doesn't like the above, well we guess our capital letters etc. have served their purpose well.

Remember this, most people who have profiles like this have been driven to it by rude and disrespectful members.

I don’t blame you at all for doing it. It must be dam annoying to have your inbox filled with unwanted request and it must make it more difficult to find the genuine requests that you are looking for and want. And then, after ignoring or replying ‘No thanks’ to be pestered by people wanting to know why! I would be tempted in your situation to do exactly what you’ve done.

Yes, it puts me off as a single guy because it says ‘no single men’; it doesn’t need to be in CAPITALS. It would be interesting to know how effective it is at putting of the guys who don’t read the profiles anyhow. To be honest with you, I think, for them, the main thing that would be stopping them contacting you is the lack of any pictures, not what you’re saying in CAPS, D.O.T.T.E.D S.P.A.C.E.S (which actually seems to make it harder to read) or any other emphasis. But I’m pretty sure all that SHOUTING would put me of if I was in a couple.

As an experiment, try adding pictures; I bet the unwanted requests will increase. Then try removing the pictures and the emphasisers; I don’t know for sure but I’d bet the unwanted requests would drop back to about the same as they are now and might even lead to an increase in the truly wanted requests.

Like I said, I don’t blame you for doing what you’ve done; I just wonder if it really helps because it does, must definitely, come across as angry.

"

It may come across as angry to you, but believe us, if we judge it by the amount of contact we have, it is certainly not judged as angry by other couples.

Other couples have never commented on the fact that there aren't many photos, funny enough only single guys do that.

We appreciate that you say it comes over as angry to you, but to be fair you don't come in the group that we are looking for anyway, and we can assure you it helps just fine.

Take it easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Yes.

If I see told of capital letters, exclamation marks, list of rules, repeated words, then ive closed the page before Ive started reading it.

Crazy really.

If all the single guys read profiles and respected them, there would be no need for capital letters, lists of rules or repeated words would there?

Speaking for ourselves, if on opening our profile a single guy closes it because he doesn't like the above, well we guess our capital letters etc have served their purpose well.

Remember this, most people who have profiles like this have been driven to it by rude and disrespectful members.

It doesn't really serve the purpose, because I would assume the rude disrespectful members wouldn't be put off by it, but the genuine guys who are up for a good time would?"

It seems that it has finally sunk in to the rude disrespectful guys as they mostly leave us alone now.

But as for the genuine guys who are up for a good time we aren't really bothered about putting them off either as we simply do not want any single guys.

So it serves it purpose perfectly for us.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there."

The other way of looking at it,

is saves people messaging them and getting told no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there."

Are you referring to us?

We don't mention black or white.

Please do not bring race into this discussion, it is a bit low to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there.

Are you referring to us?

We don't mention black or white.

Please do not bring race into this discussion, it is a bit low to be honest."
No not yours. I meant in general you know for all.

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over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there.

The other way of looking at it,

is saves people messaging them and getting told no thanks"
Yes your right there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there.

Are you referring to us?

We don't mention black or white.

Please do not bring race into this discussion, it is a bit low to be honest.No not yours. I meant in general you know for all."

Glad you cleared that up.

We hate race issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

"

Yes, it is offputting but at the same time there's very little anyone can do about it. We all know there are lots of single men on here who muddy the waters and make life irritating for single women, and couples, but there are dreadful people on either side of the fence.

Some of the womens profiles I read just make them come across as awful, stuck up, big headed pains in the ass so I just ignore/avoid them.

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. "

hope we don't come over to arrogant we try not too... and yeah there is lots of them but single females can be some of the worst we have come across.... some single female son here are so full of shit and their own stupid self importance its unreal... ffs who do you think you are? not aimed at anyone but just a generalization of soem profile... I guess there's good and bad all round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there.

Are you referring to us?

We don't mention black or white.

Please do not bring race into this discussion, it is a bit low to be honest.No not yours. I meant in general you know for all.

Glad you cleared that up.

We hate race issues."
Yes same here.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there."

your profile is exactly the place to say exactly what you want or dont want, there is nothing racist about stating preferences, dont see why you had to bring race into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

"

Think of it as a flag to avoid. If you find a profile arrogant you are unlikely to want to meet them so time saved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes and also for couples and single women, take a way the racist remarks saying u want white or blacks, it comes across as very rude, you can search for them urself no need to say it there.

your profile is exactly the place to say exactly what you want or dont want, there is nothing racist about stating preferences, dont see why you had to bring race into it."
I know not sure what else I would call it, maibe preference lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Think of it as a flag to avoid. If you find a profile arrogant you are unlikely to want to meet them so time saved. "
exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The process of writing a bio that is wrote with a thesaurus or dictionary by their side people try to use big words in order to make other people feel stupid. But, in reality they just make it seem like they are simply trying hard to look smart, in other words putting up a front. Even though we use large words that doesn't change the fact that we are barbaric in nature even though we don't drag our knuckles like the supposed cavemen before us. there seem to be some "women" who love emphasizers. There are three kinds of emphasis in use, in order of popularity:

1) using CAPITAL LETTERS to make words look "louder"

2) using *asterisks* to put sparklers around emphasized words, a

3) s p a c i n g words o u t, possibly accompanied by 1) or 2) all this just to make them have a false standing over others to subconsciously make them feel the greater, infant they're the less insecure. "

I use number 2..****

To separate the profile text for easier reading.

********************************************

Also used to highlight a paragraph which if actually read would save the messenger time & frustration of having their messages deleted unread.

I am no more superior or inferior to the next person on here because I choose to do this.

ps....you may want to check your auto correct when being bitchy ~ has more of an impact if the word is correct....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Think of it as a flag to avoid. If you find a profile arrogant you are unlikely to want to meet them so time saved. "

The question was whether single males would avoid such profiles, regardless of how hot the pics might be. Seems you would. In our case we only look for single males and we've yet to see an arrogant profile, funnily enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab. Some make multiple demands, some SHOUT!, and many give the impression that a single male is nothing more than a commodity.

So, single guys, doesn't this put you, regardless of how hot the pics might be?

Think of it as a flag to avoid. If you find a profile arrogant you are unlikely to want to meet them so time saved.

The question was whether single males would avoid such profiles, regardless of how hot the pics might be. Seems you would. In our case we only look for single males and we've yet to see an arrogant profile, funnily enough."

You can come & have a good look around my profile any time you like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ANGRY ATTRACTS ANGRY

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, that is what a forum is all about.

If you would call our profile angry, then in our case that statement is factually incorrect.

In actual fact, our profile attracts a LOT of couples who have had the same unwelcome attention from people who seem unable to read normally worded profiles.

Hence the big letters, maybe they can read them easier."

It was a generic comment in response to the OP and theme of the posts.

Do you think all posts are aimed at you?

I hadn't looked at your profile before. CAPITAL LETTERS ARE SHOUTY AND A MASSIVE TURN OFF. I DON'T WANT TO MEET SHOUTY ANGRY PEOPLE. I DON'T BOTHER READING THE WORDS... I JUST CLOSE THE PROFILE.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I'm not looking for men (I have my filters off in case someone from the forums wants to message me) and Fab sends an automatic warning message saying I'm not looking for men and that they may not get a reply, yet I still get randomers messaging. Why should I answer those??

When I used to reply that I'm currently not looking for men, I'd get called a fat ugly slag, so aint wasting my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some pretty arrogant profiles from couples and single females on Fab.

hope we don't come over to arrogant we try not too... and yeah there is lots of them but single females can be some of the worst we have come across.... some single female son here are so full of shit and their own stupid self importance its unreal... ffs who do you think you are? not aimed at anyone but just a generalization of soem profile... I guess there's good and bad all round."

Full of shit and own self importance!! And people wonder why there are few genuine females on here. Mine is a ranty profile. It tells people what I want. If that puts people off I really couldn't give a rats arse! They aren't the people i want to meet. I'm not here for anyone else's enjoyment but my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" ... I'm not here for anyone else's enjoyment but my own. "

A statement in itself that I have seen many a guy ripped to proverbial shreds for making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" ... I'm not here for anyone else's enjoyment but my own.

A statement in itself that I have seen many a guy ripped to proverbial shreds for making "

and anyone who isn't is full of crap! Single males, females, couples. We are all here for what we can get out of the site. Believing otherwise is v naive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ANGRY ATTRACTS ANGRY

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, that is what a forum is all about.

If you would call our profile angry, then in our case that statement is factually incorrect.

In actual fact, our profile attracts a LOT of couples who have had the same unwelcome attention from people who seem unable to read normally worded profiles.

Hence the big letters, maybe they can read them easier.

It was a generic comment in response to the OP and theme of the posts.

Do you think all posts are aimed at you?

I hadn't looked at your profile before. CAPITAL LETTERS ARE SHOUTY AND A MASSIVE TURN OFF. I DON'T WANT TO MEET SHOUTY ANGRY PEOPLE. I DON'T BOTHER READING THE WORDS... I JUST CLOSE THE PROFILE."

Excellent.

We wish more people would close our profile and move on.

That is exactly why we do it.

The people who we look to meet know exactly why we do it, in fact most of them do the same!

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" ... I'm not here for anyone else's enjoyment but my own.

A statement in itself that I have seen many a guy ripped to proverbial shreds for making

and anyone who isn't is full of crap! Single males, females, couples. We are all here for what we can get out of the site. Believing otherwise is v naive."

I am not believing otherwise, nor am I questioning its validity as a statement.

The fact does remain, however, that a guy making that statement would receive a much harsher response than a woman making the same statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ANGRY ATTRACTS ANGRY

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, that is what a forum is all about.

If you would call our profile angry, then in our case that statement is factually incorrect.

In actual fact, our profile attracts a LOT of couples who have had the same unwelcome attention from people who seem unable to read normally worded profiles.

Hence the big letters, maybe they can read them easier.

It was a generic comment in response to the OP and theme of the posts.

Do you think all posts are aimed at you?

I hadn't looked at your profile before. CAPITAL LETTERS ARE SHOUTY AND A MASSIVE TURN OFF. I DON'T WANT TO MEET SHOUTY ANGRY PEOPLE. I DON'T BOTHER READING THE WORDS... I JUST CLOSE THE PROFILE.

Excellent.

We wish more people would close our profile and move on.

That is exactly why we do it.

The people who we look to meet know exactly why we do it, in fact most of them do the same!

Have fun."

I think someone might be a little over tired

Pop your feet up and I'll get the choccy horlicks on the go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think someone might be a little over tired

Pop your feet up and I'll get the choccy horlicks on the go "

Interesting comment, however you enjoy your choccy Horlicks.

We will stick to having our say, loud and clear.

Enjoy your evening all.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think someone might be a little over tired

Pop your feet up and I'll get the choccy horlicks on the go

Interesting comment, however you enjoy your choccy Horlicks.

We will stick to having our say, loud and clear.

Enjoy your evening all.

"

A herbal tea then ?

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