FabSwingers.com forum: Tip - Successful First Message

By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Tip - Successful First Message

It's totally my personal biased opinion

Objection, suggestion or modification all welcome

In three to five paragraphs of three to five sentences each, provide basic information like

WHY YOU MESSAGING,

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT,

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU,

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

Don't bog readers down, but rather entice them to want to know you more. As with any good first impression, your message should hook and invite further inquiry, like a really good story is about to unfold. Not give too little, not too much. Be specific, not vague.

Online attention spans are very short so you have to do whatever is necessary within a brief period of time to convince anyone who may like what they see to slow down and take a longer look. Always strive easy to read and understand for anyone who has any interest whatsoever in learning more. A poorly worded presentation can cost you big.

Good luck

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By *ait88Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

But if you're a single male, 25-years-old, handsome, six feet tall, muscular, have 8+ inches, and can accommodate, you only need to write three words: "want a fuck".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess that rules out the 'hi, how ha doin' message

Honestly, for us, as long as the message is polite, makes some reference to what we're looking for, and we can see a few decent pics, then we're happy. Doesn't mean we'd meet them, but at least we'd take it seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree.

The first message doesn't really matter if the profile is good. If I get sent a first message that is longer than a couple of sentences I will put it to one side and may never get round to replying as I don't always have the time.

There really is little point in trying to give others tips on how to write a message. If they can't work out how to send a first message then they are going to struggle to keep the conversation going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree.

Plus there is not really any such thing as a 'successful' first message with me, as I'd never agree to meet someone based on a first message alone. It could be the best message and the best profile ever, but if they subsequently turn out to be a bit of an arse or we just don't click then I'm not going to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it boils down to the kind of person you're looking for. I prefer the more verbose articulate person looking to be sociable and meet. Anyone who doesn't want to read 5 sentences isn't going to be for me, no matter how great they look

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"But if you're a single male, 25-years-old, handsome, six feet tall, muscular, have 8+ inches, and can accommodate, you only need to write three words: "want a fuck"."

I see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me shallow but it's all about the face pic, the profile and the message means diddly squat if you don't look at the face pic and think 'phwoaaar'.

Nobody ever has a wank over a nice personality!

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I think it boils down to the kind of person you're looking for. I prefer the more verbose articulate person looking to be sociable and meet. Anyone who doesn't want to read 5 sentences isn't going to be for me, no matter how great they look"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me shallow but it's all about the face pic, the profile and the message means diddly squat if you don't look at the face pic and think 'phwoaaar'.

Nobody ever has a wank over a nice personality!

Says it all

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I disagree.

My point was, if the first massage won't be read, no future communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Call me shallow but it's all about the face pic, the profile and the message means diddly squat if you don't look at the face pic and think 'phwoaaar'.

Nobody ever has a wank over a nice personality!

I agree this, as I'm very selective about appearance and body shape

But I'd like good looks and good manner in one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

Exactly this. I've had guys that have messaged me one line and have captured my interest. Everyone is looking for something different, so the OP has outlined what they are looking for in a first message. That is great, but not everyone wants that. That was my point. To everyone writing a first message....do what the hell you like and you will find someone to suit you. Not a group of people on the forum.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

My personal take on messages make the message personal interesting and unique to the person you're messaging, that can be one sentence or a few paragraphs depending on the profile. First impressions count for a lot, for things to progress to skin on skin for me there has to be an attraction as well,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good well written approach is good. As a couple we get lots of single guys who still do hi what you looking for.

A bit more is better but fact is not enough spare time to meet all the good potential.

As for face pictures it's a pain with the demands. If the person has a pretty face but unkempt body it will not happen for some.

If you post genuine body shots tgat look good. Should be enough up to the point of arranging a meeting when a face shot is hand to meet the right people in a pub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

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absolutely spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst are the "copy and paste" types!! Especially when you receive it more than once!!!!! I agree with what someone else said, the profile does most of the talking!!

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

" First impressions count for a lot, for things to progress to skin on skin for me there has to be an attraction as well,

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look."

Bugger, I believe I'm verbose, I'm the Norris Cole of 1st messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look.

Bugger, I believe I'm verbose, I'm the Norris Cole of 1st messages. "

We met him once. He was rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look.

Bugger, I believe I'm verbose, I'm the Norris Cole of 1st messages.

We met him once. He was rubbish

Lol, I bet he swept up after himself though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go with what the OP said.

Something to indicate that they had read my profile is a great start. Something other than 'have big penis, want to fuck?' is generally a winner. Something that shows they can find the shift key and be articulate about something is great.

Because, you know, I like to think that there are enough men on this site that I don't just have to 'put up' with one in order to have sex. I like to think I could actually find people that I can get on well with as friends too...

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look."
I couldn't agree more. Well said guys. J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm crap at writing first messages! There is no magic formula, as what has worked with some does not work with others.

I have spent a fair amount of time on my profile and I get around the forums. Some like me, some don't.

If it is meant to be, it all comes together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd go with what the OP said.

Are you suggesting that people that don't write long detailed first messages or that don't necessarily wish to receive them are just putting up with others and aren't making friends as well as having sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you're a single male, 25-years-old, handsome, six feet tall, muscular, have 8+ inches, and can accommodate, you only need to write three words: "want a fuck"."

Which suggests how little you know about the way women's minds work!!

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look."

It's possible to write a good first message without it coming across as a job application!! First messages count for a lot with me personally, if the message captures my interest I will look at the profile, if not I don't bother any more. I have been swayed in favour of meeting someone I would not initially have found attractive based on the exchange of messages so it's not always about instant physical attraction.

Which just goes to prove I guess that we all know what we want and its very much a case of different strokes for different folk, there is no "one size fits all" approach which guarantees success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if you're a single male, 25-years-old, handsome, six feet tall, muscular, have 8+ inches, and can accommodate, you only need to write three words: "want a fuck".

Which suggests how little you know about the way women's minds work!!

Verbosity is not attractive. We don't expect someone to write as if they're applying for a job. Good pics and a polite first message is enough to get us to take a closer look.

Which just goes to prove I guess that we all know what we want and its very much a case of different strokes for different folk, there is no "one size fits all" approach which guarantees success

Very true xx

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

I find very hard to say “no thanks“ to the ratter. Especially sincere message. Usually we ended up chatting without meet

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'd go with what the OP said.

Thank you

Now I know my tactics work at least two women at Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets be honest here! Whether its a simple hi or your life story doesn't matter to the woman on here. Its looks that count. Otherwise why is every woman is wrapped up in asking for a face pic on first message even though there is rarely one of them! How does it go no face pic no reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think the second message that you send is the most important. You have sent a first message, inc face pics and introduced yourself as the OP has described. You have received a reply. Now is your chance to impress or balls up big time. You have the ladies/couples attention. Don't blow it!! So many fall down at this stage.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I think the O.P. gives some sound advice, that first message is so very, very important and needs to hold peoples attention to be successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant make everyone happy. You cant be everyones cup of tea. What one woman like another hate.

First message should just be your self. One line or ten if she likes you youll get a message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think the second message that you send is the most important. You have sent a first message, inc face pics and introduced yourself as the OP has described. You have received a reply. Now is your chance to impress or balls up big time. You have the ladies/couples attention. Don't blow it!! So many fall down at this stage."

You make it sound like an audition!!! Whatever happened to just having a chat???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make it sound like an audition!!! Whatever happened to just having a chat???"

Audition? Well I suppose it is in a way. My time is precious and I'm not here to just chat with everyone who messages me if it leads nowhere. Yep my profile.My way if doing things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but I can't imagine the kind of person who gets interested on by a 'wnt 2 fuk' or 'im bi' first message is exactly looking for intelligent conversation and long lasting friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pressure then

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Tip - Successful First Message

It's totally my personal biased opinion

Objection, suggestion or modification all welcome

In three to five paragraphs of three to five sentences each, provide basic information like

WHY YOU MESSAGING,

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT,

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU,

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree. As long as the first message isn't 'fancy a fuck' or 'free now?' and as long as they're my type, a simple 'hi' will suffice.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I kind of see this as if you were in a social situation, you need something to perk interest, something that enables the other to engage with.

I diatribe of "look at me" doesn't do that in my book.

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By *ouseCarlMan
over a year ago

Walton on Thames

A good thread, thank you.

The replies are just as informative.

The minimum requirement from the OP was 3 paragraphs of 3 sentences each...

If I were to write such a short message to any woman and she lacked the wit, or attention span to read it; Obviously she's not going to respond. Nor would I want her to!

Some women want nothing but location and Cock pics.

Some want a full and suggestive biography.

what's a man to do; go figure?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I kind of see this as if you were in a social situation, you need something to perk interest, something that enables the other to engage with.

I diatribe of "look at me" doesn't do that in my book.

Oh and leave an open question...

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I agree. Sometimes second message suddenly drop the standard, as if talking to different person. In that case, first message must be pre written and very well adjusted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

I find very hard to say “no thanks“ to the ratter. Especially sincere message. Usually we ended up chatting without meet

Giving the guy false hope then. Yeah lets string him along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no "one size fits all" approach. Some people want a well explained approach to the initial message. Others want a physical attraction.

Everybody is different, but what you need to do, regardless, is make sure that whatever brought you to the dance is what you are representing.

If you are a good lucking guy/gal, then sure, perhaps that's all you need.

If you are a less of a looker, but maybe more attentive or have more to offer than just looks, that's your hook too.

And some people will look at a message and think, what an annoying twat, whereas somebody else will shout "here, here!"

Its all perspective...

But at least give a good account of yourself, one way or another, and that's the best "first message" you can give.

In my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ladies and couples aswell take note. Not just the rats of fab...single guys

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"A good thread, thank you.

The replies are just as informative.

The minimum requirement from the OP was 3 paragraphs of 3 sentences each...

If I were to write such a short message to any woman and she lacked the wit, or attention span to read it; Obviously she's not going to respond. Nor would I want her to!

Some women want nothing but location and Cock pics.

Some want a full and suggestive biography.

what's a man to do; go figure?

Thank you

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Giving the guy false hope then. Yeah lets string him along

No, I don't give anyone false hope. I make myself very clear that “no possible meet“. But some want to carry on chat. That their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giving the guy false hope then. Yeah lets string him along

No, I don't give anyone false hope. I make myself very clear that “no possible meet“. But some want to carry on chat. That their choice.

Good for them

Myself on the other hand would rather give the ladys that wanna meet my full attention and block the just chatters no meets. Saves wasting both persons time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY YOU MESSAGING.

Good afternoon,

I am replying to your post as I enjoy a mental challenge. Having read your profile, I may well fall short in some areas, however I find that the thrill of the chase, the anticipation of the reply, the investigation of how another person thinks and feels can be as rewarding as physical interaction.

I seek nothing more than correspondence, a meeting of minds. Anything physical is, as always, an added and most welcome bonus. Nothing is expected, anticipated or demanded.

"WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT"

The social interaction within the lifestyle fascinates me. The opportunity to explore beyond the social circles I normally inhabit. There are elements of sexuality I wish to explore, but the giving of pleasure to others is my focus. Your profile strikes me as someone I could develop a bond with.

"WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU"

I have a tremendously giving nature. I like to put a lady at ease and the centre of attention. For the right person, nothing is too much trouble.

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

I see you as a lady of mystery, quite clear on what you seek, but with so much potential to unlock.

So how would that go down?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Tip - Successful First Message

It's totally my personal biased opinion

Objection, suggestion or modification all welcome

In three to five paragraphs of three to five sentences each, provide basic information like

WHY YOU MESSAGING,

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT,

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU,

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

Good luck

Yep, that will work for me as long as he is the kind of guy who will interest me in the first place

Otherwise, what is the difference between the 100 messages I will get tomorrow and another 100 the day after

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

Bingo!!!!!

Writing a reply shouldn't be like writing some sort of templates

Just like writing a profile shouldn't be like writing a template either

I like the way it is now in that it's a lot easier to work out who doesn't get or up to a point understand what they're doing and what they are trying to get across.... And that is going to be very individual

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

Bingo!!!!!

You shout numbers at them?

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Good for them

Myself on the other hand would rather give the ladys that wanna meet my full attention and block the just chatters no meets. Saves wasting both persons time

Agree

When I send “thanks but no thanks“ reply, I always ask “block me and move on please“. Some say “no need to block“, some block me. I don't mind chatters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY YOU MESSAGING.

Good afternoon,

I seek nothing more than correspondence, a meeting of minds. Anything physical is, as always, an added and most welcome bonus. Nothing is expected, anticipated or demanded.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU

I have a tremendously giving nature. I like to put a lady at ease and the centre of attention. For the right person, nothing is too much trouble.

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

I see you as a lady of mystery, quite clear on what you seek, but with so much potential to unlock.

So how would that go down?"

Could I ask your opinion on this?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"But if you're a single male, 25-years-old, handsome, six feet tall, muscular, have 8+ inches, and can accommodate, you only need to write three words: "want a fuck"."

Sorry mate, you'll just come across as cocky doing that

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Please stop giving my competition useful advice........

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

WHY YOU MESSAGING.

Good afternoon,

I seek nothing more than correspondence, a meeting of minds. Anything physical is, as always, an added and most welcome bonus. Nothing is expected, anticipated or demanded.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU

I have a tremendously giving nature. I like to put a lady at ease and the centre of attention. For the right person, nothing is too much trouble.

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

I see you as a lady of mystery, quite clear on what you seek, but with so much potential to unlock.

So how would that go down?

In my option, it is good template you've written but slightly rigid and long. Adding a little personal taste, witty remark and affectionate makes nicer I think.

I guess it's not for me, is it?

If so, you are asking me a reply, nothing more.

So it's over when I reply.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

I find that responding to something in the recipients profile or status is usually the most successful opener, and a bit of humour doesn't go amiss if it's appropriate.

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Please stop giving my competition useful advice........

Sorry but don't worry, no one follow, that the point on my post

Actually this put your competitors off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I don't think guys are doing any bad because people want different things and they tend to get too fussy,which is just off putting lol.

As regards essays,i think i would give credence to some guy genius on here because no amount of word content or cheesy lines that can get you a meet not that you are not hitting the right words but because ladies have got more than 100 choices to pick from

Just do your own thing and you might never know as someone else's tea is another person's vodka......

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Please stop giving my competition useful advice........

Sorry but don't worry, no one follow, that the point on my post

Actually this put your competitors off

Ahh yes; I forgot! They don't like reading ore than 3 lines of text do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ladies and couples aswell take note. Not just the rats of fab...single guys

Love that, the rats of fab. Sounds like the making of a new clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tip - Successful First Message

It's totally my personal biased opinion

Objection, suggestion or modification all welcome

In three to five paragraphs of three to five sentences each, provide basic information like

WHY YOU MESSAGING,

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT,

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU,

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

Good luck

To be honest I think that's too long hun. I currently have 500 unread messages. Tbh I think one good paragraph, preferably witty, with a smiling face pic and a torso pic is enough to get a response if the lady finds you attractive enough! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can send a 3 word message or a 2000 worded message but if theres no attraction there both useless.

Bingo!!!!!

Writing a reply shouldn't be like writing some sort of templates

Just like writing a profile shouldn't be like writing a template either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY YOU MESSAGING.

Good afternoon,

I seek nothing more than correspondence, a meeting of minds. Anything physical is, as always, an added and most welcome bonus. Nothing is expected, anticipated or demanded.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU TO DO IT

WHAT'S UNIQUE OR SPECIAL ABOUT YOU

I have a tremendously giving nature. I like to put a lady at ease and the centre of attention. For the right person, nothing is too much trouble.

and briefly,

WHAT THE PERSON MEANS TO YOU.

I see you as a lady of mystery, quite clear on what you seek, but with so much potential to unlock.

So how would that go down?

In my option, it is good template you've written but slightly rigid and long. Adding a little personal taste, witty remark and affectionate makes nicer I think.

I guess it's not for me, is it?

If so, you are asking me a reply, nothing more.

So it's over when I reply.

Excellent critique and feedback.

I tried to stick within your guidelines, following the advice that you gave. I was attentive and tried to hook into your profile.

But yet I still got it wrong.

It took me about 15 minutes to write, edit, spell check etc. For me to do this would result in me sending four speculative messages. Only to get a thanks but no thanks.

I can understand why single guys end up going for the fancy a fuck option. If you carpet bomb enough ladies, one may reply eventually.

I believe women read profiles. My profile is a truer reflection of my personality, but unless you read my profile before reading the message, you are unlikely to give me a second look.

We are told to:

Stand out.

Be original.

Read the profile.

Be witty.

Draw you in.

You don't have time to read every message, so why offer advice then move the goalpoats?

But what would I know. I'm a distinctly average guy just trying to have fun with the friends I have and the friends I have yet to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women should go looking. See how they like it when they have to send the first message. And get no response, or some rude obnoxious reply.

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over a year ago

"Women should go looking. See how they like it when they have to send the first message. And get no response, or some rude obnoxious reply.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

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over a year ago

"My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

Grab your coat.

Err I mean

You could have looked at my profile first, I'm not a piece of meat blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please stop giving my competition useful advice........

Its only good advice if you want to meet the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women should go looking. See how they like it when they have to send the first message. And get no response, or some rude obnoxious reply.

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over a year ago

"My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

I didn't get it...think there's a problem with the mail system

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *ana Stephanie OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Its only good advice if you want to meet the op

Exactly

It's for very narrow pinspot selective target

Success rate must be extremely low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we don't fancy 'em, no matter how well crafted the message, they aren't getting a response.

'Hi' and an attached face pic works just fine for us.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

Grab your coat.

Err I mean

You could have looked at my profile first, I'm not a piece of meat blah blah

This is what I get for my efforts; a pervert who wants sex with my coat

That is it; no more sending messages

So, what is wrong with my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

Grab your coat.

Err I mean

You could have looked at my profile first, I'm not a piece of meat blah blah

This is what I get for my efforts; a pervert who wants sex with my coat

That is it; no more sending messages

So, what is wrong with my profile?

another look at me post

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

Grab your coat.

Err I mean

You could have looked at my profile first, I'm not a piece of meat blah blah

This is what I get for my efforts; a pervert who wants sex with my coat

That is it; no more sending messages

So, what is wrong with my profile?

another look at me post

yours or mine? i could do with a tad less; only 52 weekends in a year

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree.

I agree. Lots of women and couples have said when they get a message before they read it they look at the persons profile. If the profile interests them they read the email.

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over a year ago

"My first message:

"wanna fuck?"

Well, that wasn't too difficult

Grab your coat.

Err I mean

You could have looked at my profile first, I'm not a piece of meat blah blah

This is what I get for my efforts; a pervert who wants sex with my coat

That is it; no more sending messages

So, what is wrong with my profile?

another look at me post

yours or mine? i could do with a tad less; only 52 weekends in a year

Definately mine! I'm an attention junkie...

did I post that to the forum instead of pm it?

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