Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Back to forum list |
Back to Swingers Chat |
Jump to newest |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think." Because they can? Because they like the idea of people looking at them? Because it is their profile and they can do what they want with it? Because ...... Because ...... Because ...... The list is endless, but why worry about someone elses choices? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think." If you dont like the pics you dont have to look at them.. People can put what they want on their profiles as long as its not breaking rules. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Oh and yes I do think some people think its facebook on here" Absolutely. Status by no. of friends on list. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Oh and yes I do think some people think its facebook on here" I found a site once... cant remeber what is was called, not that im gonna name it anyway... but it was exactly like an older version of facebook for swingers | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Raises my hand and says - I answered the question without giving the OP a hard time and wasn't tetchy at all! " yet its thursday, so what's your secret? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its thursday Zoe and people get all tetchy " Ah, forgot it was bad tempered day! Z | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Raises my hand and says - I answered the question without giving the OP a hard time and wasn't tetchy at all! yet its thursday, so what's your secret? " I am off my work on holiday just now and still smiling & in a great mood from an excellent weekend away! Oh and I never tend to get tetchy on here when it is all meant to be fun! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think. Because they can? Because they like the idea of people looking at them? Because it is their profile and they can do what they want with it? Because ...... Because ...... Because ...... The list is endless, but why worry about someone elses choices? " *Nods in agreement* | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The way we look at it,in all honesty whether your a Gold,Silver or Free member,it should be a maximum of 20 pics to each profile. Surely that should be more than enough to sell yourself. Many of the multi pic's look very similar if not identical anyway,there are only so many ways to take a pic of a cock or a cleavage. XXXX" I agree and haven't added any pictures since yesterday, well apart from those I just added I don't think people should be chastised for having pictures of choice. Be it quantity Lack of Content (within the rules) serving no purpose (close up of a cock going into a pussy) None at all It has to be personal choice | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"well here ends the discussion for me. until next time i have a thought i would like to share in here . it has been great . thanks for the participation and i respect the varying views on the topic.have a nice day" You too, take care, Z | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"As above, personal choice, we have over 60 pics and will be adding more until we have reached our max limit of 150, but don't worry we will block you so you don't have to view them by clicking on our profile not realising that we have more than you believe to be required." sasha you're a stunner - wouldnt mind being your personal snapper | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"ok well that answers my question thanks .plus to the couple above im not bothered about looking at your pics pleeeeeease get over your self .i was just making a general statement but i see it hit a nerve so i apologise was not my intent." Wey hey !, well done that man - you've become a member of the famous (or infamous ?) JedandSasha blocked club Top marks my friend, well done - Bravo | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"ok well that answers my question thanks .plus to the couple above im not bothered about looking at your pics pleeeeeease get over your self .i was just making a general statement but i see it hit a nerve so i apologise was not my intent. Wey hey !, well done that man - you've become a member of the famous (or infamous ?) JedandSasha blocked club Top marks my friend, well done - Bravo" I'm sure he's gutted | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think." why do you have nine pics | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do you have nine pics " Why do you only have one??? (and why is it so small? I keep getting noseprints on my screen) | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" and i wont say why do they do it cos someone might say bcos bcos bcos lol" Aw go on you are entitled to your own opinion, just the same as the rest of us are too! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do you have nine pics Why do you only have one??? (and why is it so small? I keep getting noseprints on my screen)" get a bigger screen | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think." Why does it matter what others do? If people want to put pictures up that will appeal to other people then they should be able to do so. That is what they are doing if you didn't get it. They are putting visual images up which will get people messaging them and they can sort through and see who they like. Is it that difficult to understand? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We often see this in these forums, why do so many seem to get upset about the questions people ask? If someone posts a question or sparks a debate there are two choices, contribute or not but why on earth get shitty about a question that no one is being forced to answer?" thank you very much they seem to attack you personally than just add to the debate. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We often see this in these forums, why do so many seem to get upset about the questions people ask? If someone posts a question or sparks a debate there are two choices, contribute or not but why on earth get shitty about a question that no one is being forced to answer?" I think sometimes it is the way opening line of "why do some people" is worded. It looks like a critisism straight away. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We often see this in these forums, why do so many seem to get upset about the questions people ask? If someone posts a question or sparks a debate there are two choices, contribute or not but why on earth get shitty about a question that no one is being forced to answer?thank you very much they seem to attack you personally than just add to the debate." I guess sometimes a question can intimidate folks, consider the question ‘why are you a swinger’ there would be a multitude of different answers but there will be those who might respond with “so you’re calling me a trollop with the morals of an ally cat!!!” Personally I think its quite interesting to get an insight into why anyone does anything. I’ve no idea why one profile might have one photo of say a motorbike and another might have 100 of pictures of sex scenes that would make the Romans look like amateurs LOL. When we first started out in this hobby it felt very naughty putting naughty pictures on public view so its fair to say it was part of the game as in sexually exciting. But in a short space of time it lost its buzz factor so now we just use a few pictures so prospective playmates have an idea of what we look like and what we like to get up too. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"i said some people so as not to make it seem like gerneralisation." I know you did. But it could still come across as a critisism and by the reponses it looks like some took it that way. There are a lot of people who use the forums as a drive by whinge or to critisise people, so maybe people rightly or wrongly thought this was the same type of post as to how it was worded and responded rightly or wrongly how they did. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We often see this in these forums, why do so many seem to get upset about the questions people ask? If someone posts a question or sparks a debate there are two choices, contribute or not but why on earth get shitty about a question that no one is being forced to answer? I think sometimes it is the way opening line of "why do some people" is worded. It looks like a critisism straight away." Fair comment but often taking offence to something or not is simply a personal choice. Personally if I read something that in the first instant seems a bit off-hand the next thing I consider is… maybe not the best phraseology but I’ve no reason to assume this person is attacking me personally. So are you suggesting the OP is being attacked for not having the best English comprehension skills, I would think there isn't enough rope on the planet to hang everyone guilty of that offence LOL. (Iits back and waits to be attacked for thread hijacking) | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We often see this in these forums, why do so many seem to get upset about the questions people ask? If someone posts a question or sparks a debate there are two choices, contribute or not but why on earth get shitty about a question that no one is being forced to answer? I think sometimes it is the way opening line of "why do some people" is worded. It looks like a critisism straight away. Fair comment but often taking offence to something or not is simply a personal choice. Personally if I read something that in the first instant seems a bit off-hand the next thing I consider is… maybe not the best phraseology but I’ve no reason to assume this person is attacking me personally. So are you suggesting the OP is being attacked for not having the best English comprehension skills, I would think there isn't enough rope on the planet to hang everyone guilty of that offence LOL. (Iits back and waits to be attacked for thread hijacking) " No, not at all. I was trying to get people to see how it looks from every angle......sadly I don't think it worked lol We are not all the same though, and some people will take it as a personal critisism or even defend the right of others to do what they want on their profile......and thats how things go downhill to be honest. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think." Everybodies profile is their own. I think it's quite good that this site is many things to many people. For some it is a kind of facebook and why not. Their current status is a running commentry on their swinging life. They enjoy it and do others no harm. Others just use it as a straightforward contact classifieds section. Some even debate on the forums. Vive le difference!! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"why do some people load up their profiles with soo many pics.even very personal ones etc marriage and others .I Think this site is treated like facebook abit lol.what do people think. Everybodies profile is their own. I think it's quite good that this site is many things to many people. For some it is a kind of facebook and why not. Their current status is a running commentry on their swinging life. They enjoy it and do others no harm. Others just use it as a straightforward contact classifieds section. Some even debate on the forums. Vive le difference!!" Too right, totally agree with you and ‘why not’ use it as the individual sees fit? And lets face it, it is a ‘Face Book’ of a type is it not? Now this is NOT a criticism just my observation, your post isn’t an answer to the question it’s a very good speculation/theory. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"the real reason for me starting the thread was to spark a debate which it has lol.for people to take offence with the phrase {some people} means it was taken personal. I never mentioned a name or names. Personally i love a good debate lol." You are complaining people have taken it personally when you are doing the same to what I was trying to explain. I was trying to stop the rot and try and make everyone see it from every side....but every person seems to be on the defensive now so I doubt it will work. I am also not defending anyone or their posts, as some were OTT. It boils down to.......maybe the people who shout "everyone is entitled to their opinion" should actually mean what they say and let people have it without rubbishing them for having one. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" quickly goes to hide pics incase Mr Man decides to out my belly or any unfettered cellulite " Can’t see your beer belly cos them fantastic tits are in the way…. Or was that Mr Honeypot posting? In that case… can’t see your beer belly cos them fantastic tits are in the way | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So to the OP… What’s your logic behind your profile photos? What do they tell me? Good fit body with a bit of a belly. Broad shoulders and muscular, body builder or a builder? Fair portion of cock, but not enough mates to take some quality pictures for you? What’s the point of the cock on bum shot, I don’t get that one. Once again, that’s not a criticism its just an observation that raises more questions than answers. " Always wonder about the self portrait profile pics particularly on verified profiles. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" quickly goes to hide pics incase Mr Man decides to out my belly or any unfettered cellulite Can’t see your beer belly cos them fantastic tits are in the way…. Or was that Mr Honeypot posting? In that case… can’t see your beer belly cos them fantastic tits are in the way " Hahahaha no its always Mrs on here but he will appreciate that anyway | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So to the OP… What’s your logic behind your profile photos? What do they tell me? Good fit body with a bit of a belly. Broad shoulders and muscular, body builder or a builder? Fair portion of cock, but not enough mates to take some quality pictures for you? What’s the point of the cock on bum shot, I don’t get that one. Once again, that’s not a criticism its just an observation that raises more questions than answers. " i took some of those pics and some are rubbish lol but im not offended if another person says they are rubbish lol.I still get good responses about them .To the other poster im not here to take things personal and i dont think things that seriously about a post where someone is stating their opinion . I dont do personal digs at people .I really dont know what you angle is .All i did was ask a question nothing more. Anything else other than answering the question is straying from the topic. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So to the OP… What’s your logic behind your profile photos? What do they tell me? Good fit body with a bit of a belly. Broad shoulders and muscular, body builder or a builder? Fair portion of cock, but not enough mates to take some quality pictures for you? What’s the point of the cock on bum shot, I don’t get that one. Once again, that’s not a criticism its just an observation that raises more questions than answers. i took some of those pics and some are rubbish lol but im not offended if another person says they are rubbish lol.I still get good responses about them .To the other poster im not here to take things personal and i dont think things that seriously about a post where someone is stating their opinion . I dont do personal digs at people .I really dont know what you angle is .All i did was ask a question nothing more. Anything else other than answering the question is straying from the topic." OH… so now you’re saying I’m hijacking your thread, I see, PUH… face bovered? You disrespecting my mum? What you said about my mum then? What’s my mum ever done to you? Yeeeeeeee Haaaaaaaaaa | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"hahaha lollo thats funny . " Yes but we got to agree with you, most of your profile pictures are shit to be honest LOL, I'm just wondering…. Was it my mum who took them? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"hahaha lollo thats funny . Yes but we got to agree with you, most of your profile pictures are shit to be honest LOL, I'm just wondering…. Was it my mum who took them? " To be honest here too, your 2 pics on show are not that great either (in my opinion) and before I get the same back I know already my pic on display is rubbish but it was taken for a reason by someone so it stays on my profile and folk on the forums now know me as guiness pants! Others may disagree and say your pics are great, but when you slag off other folks pics then expect people to be critics back on your own, your pics just don't do anything for me personally thats all! No offence meant though! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"hahaha lollo thats funny . Yes but we got to agree with you, most of your profile pictures are shit to be honest LOL, I'm just wondering…. Was it my mum who took them? " The OP pics obviously work for him as by looks of his veri's he's definatly having plenty of fun on here! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So to the OP… What’s your logic behind your profile photos? What do they tell me? Good fit body with a bit of a belly. Broad shoulders and muscular, body builder or a builder? Fair portion of cock, but not enough mates to take some quality pictures for you? What’s the point of the cock on bum shot, I don’t get that one. Once again, that’s not a criticism its just an observation that raises more questions than answers. i took some of those pics and some are rubbish lol but im not offended if another person says they are rubbish lol.I still get good responses about them .To the other poster im not here to take things personal and i dont think things that seriously about a post where someone is stating their opinion . I dont do personal digs at people .I really dont know what you angle is .All i did was ask a question nothing more. Anything else other than answering the question is straying from the topic." ok, I give up | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"lol dude im fine with what ever you say if my pics did everything for everybody i would be the most popular person on here lol. I never slagged anybody s pics off lol. you need to read what i wrote bro. I never called anybodys pics shit or rubbish on here.lol. plus you are a single guy I dont care if my pics did anything for you or not .lol " I was defending you!!! I didn't quote your post and wasn't replying to anything you had said! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So to the OP… What’s your logic behind your profile photos? What do they tell me? Good fit body with a bit of a belly. Broad shoulders and muscular, body builder or a builder? Fair portion of cock, but not enough mates to take some quality pictures for you? What’s the point of the cock on bum shot, I don’t get that one. Once again, that’s not a criticism its just an observation that raises more questions than answers. i took some of those pics and some are rubbish lol but im not offended if another person says they are rubbish lol.I still get good responses about them .To the other poster im not here to take things personal and i dont think things that seriously about a post where someone is stating their opinion . I dont do personal digs at people .I really dont know what you angle is .All i did was ask a question nothing more. Anything else other than answering the question is straying from the topic. ok, I give up " Can I give up with you too please?? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"hahaha lollo thats funny . Yes but we got to agree with you, most of your profile pictures are shit to be honest LOL, I'm just wondering…. Was it my mum who took them? To be honest here too, your 2 pics on show are not that great either (in my opinion) and before I get the same back I know already my pic on display is rubbish but it was taken for a reason by someone so it stays on my profile and folk on the forums now know me as guiness pants! Others may disagree and say your pics are great, but when you slag off other folks pics then expect people to be critics back on your own, your pics just don't do anything for me personally thats all! No offence meant though! " I wasn’t personally asking for any ones opinion of our profile pictures but then it seems neither was the OP but I offered one anyway albeit with a very light hearted intent. There’s no offence taken by me, and it seems none taken by the OP. I used to be a front-man, lead-singer guitarist in live rock bands. When I first ventured into it, it took a hell of a lot of courage and self-confidence to put myself in such an exposed position in front of perhaps just a few or a couple of hundred strangers. My conclusions from the feedback was… some people thought I was fantastic, most couldn’t give a toss, and some thought I was crap, and a dare say a few more thought I was crap but didn’t have the bollocks or were too polite to say so. Now I think this pretty much applies to everything, your profile pictures for example (which I haven’t looked at) some will think they are fantastic, no doubt most won’t ‘think’ anything about them at all and some will think they are crap. The same applies to our profile pictures and everyone else’s too. Profile pictures are the ‘worm’ or ‘worms on the hook’ to try and catch the fish (swing partners) it’ll work for some and not others. Us as a couple, pictures are not our ‘worm’, we always read first and look after. We’re more interested in personality than looks so we fall into the ‘couldn’t give a toss about profile pictures’ group. After that if personality captures our attention then we’d want to see good mug-shots and a full body shot, typically on profiles we get neither LOL. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lets all go down the pub " That's the BEST suggestion in this whole post so far mind you don't get a beer belly though | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lets all go down the pub " As long as i can stand at the bar, for some strange reason my ass cheeks are now sore and I can't sit down! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"lets all go to chams on sunday lol. " Bloody good idea but can you... wait for it... wait for it.... send us some decent photos first? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"hahaha lollo thats funny . Yes but we got to agree with you, most of your profile pictures are shit to be honest LOL, I'm just wondering…. Was it my mum who took them? To be honest here too, your 2 pics on show are not that great either (in my opinion) and before I get the same back I know already my pic on display is rubbish but it was taken for a reason by someone so it stays on my profile and folk on the forums now know me as guiness pants! Others may disagree and say your pics are great, but when you slag off other folks pics then expect people to be critics back on your own, your pics just don't do anything for me personally thats all! No offence meant though! I wasn’t personally asking for any ones opinion of our profile pictures but then it seems neither was the OP but I offered one anyway albeit with a very light hearted intent. There’s no offence taken by me, and it seems none taken by the OP. I used to be a front-man, lead-singer guitarist in live rock bands. When I first ventured into it, it took a hell of a lot of courage and self-confidence to put myself in such an exposed position in front of perhaps just a few or a couple of hundred strangers. My conclusions from the feedback was… some people thought I was fantastic, most couldn’t give a toss, and some thought I was crap, and a dare say a few more thought I was crap but didn’t have the bollocks or were too polite to say so. Now I think this pretty much applies to everything, your profile pictures for example (which I haven’t looked at) some will think they are fantastic, no doubt most won’t ‘think’ anything about them at all and some will think they are crap. The same applies to our profile pictures and everyone else’s too. Profile pictures are the ‘worm’ or ‘worms on the hook’ to try and catch the fish (swing partners) it’ll work for some and not others. Us as a couple, pictures are not our ‘worm’, we always read first and look after. We’re more interested in personality than looks so we fall into the ‘couldn’t give a toss about profile pictures’ group. After that if personality captures our attention then we’d want to see good mug-shots and a full body shot, typically on profiles we get neither LOL. " Sort of along the lines of what I said in my post (albeit I didn't waffle on so much (waffle isn't a deregatory term by the way, just means you typed more than required to answer my post, in my opinion anyway)) bugger me I am now waffling on too much now too. Right who is buying the first round? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Sort of along the lines of what I said in my post (albeit I didn't waffle on so much (waffle isn't a deregatory term by the way, just means you typed more than required to answer my post, in my opinion anyway)) bugger me I am now waffling on too much now too. Right who is buying the first round? " You’re buying the first round as you’re already stood at the bar and make sure you are there first so we can all give your arse a slap as we walk in. … and who knows, given a bit more practice you might be able to learn to talk as much shit as I do... not that you need much help LOL LOL LOL | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Sort of along the lines of what I said in my post (albeit I didn't waffle on so much (waffle isn't a deregatory term by the way, just means you typed more than required to answer my post, in my opinion anyway)) bugger me I am now waffling on too much now too. Right who is buying the first round? You’re buying the first round as you’re already stood at the bar and make sure you are there first so we can all give your arse a slap as we walk in. … and who knows, given a bit more practice you might be able to learn to talk as much shit as I do... not that you need much help LOL LOL LOL " Cheers on all accounts, I think! Short and sweet answer from me this time. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Post new Message to Thread |
back to top |