FabSwingers.com forum: Good or Bad Profile?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What makes your profile stand out, what makes a bad profile turn peope away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

annies boobs

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Eerrrmm… being married and cheating on the wife, don’t think that’s considered attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unattractive = People who put NO TIMEWASTERS. What timewaster reads that and says ....Oh! He's right I won't contact him then

Total waste of time in itself.

People who put that stupid warning on their profile about copyrights etc. Shows they haven't really thought things through. Might as well put a picture of the bogeyman up. Hilariously stoopid.

People who KNOW something is likely to offend and yet state it and put 'sorry' after it. They are NOT sorry at all. I don't think they should be sorry. If your gonna say sommat say it ......just don't say 'sorry' and still be offensive and think that sorry makes it okay.

Attractive : = Just to the point. No bragging no if's n buts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice granny - arrogance is seriously unattractive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh now I JUST have to read yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good:-

A combination of pics and script that depicts your character and preferences.

Not so good:-

No pics whatsoever (what are you hiding?).

One line sript (shows a lack of imagination).

Both of which indicate indifference, which is less than inspiring.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Oh don't mess about Granny, what are you trying to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell you what puts me off, as a woman, it's the name some people use. I know it's a little thing, but when I see a name that has sexual connotations, it bugs me and if I were to receive a message from that name, I'd not even read it.

We all have our foibles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell you what puts me off, as a woman, it's the name some people use. I know it's a little thing, but when I see a name that has sexual connotations, it bugs me and if I were to receive a message from that name, I'd not even read it.

We all have our foibles. "

I'm the same, graphic names and names with "69" turn me off.

Single male profiles with other women sucking, holding, straddling their cocks, but no body shots etc of themselves.

Phone numbers - smacks of desperation.

Willing to meet anyone regardless of age, size, race etc...smacks of desperation.

Vague profiles - you have to guess what they want.

Those that say "no bunny boilers" equally "seeking fuck buddy" doesn't do it for me either.

What I do like are informative, funny, confidently written profiles. Body shots, clothed or semi nude is fine.

Honest...oh I look forward to actually seeing a profile that states "want to be fucked bandy by a dominant woman with a strap on"...buy hey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what makes mine good is that it says what i want it to say and attracts the people i want it to

what makes it bad is that it doesnt detract the people i want it to

there's no perfect profile though...or we'd all copy and paste it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what makes it bad is that it doesnt detract the people i want it to"

Now that'd be a good ability to have.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

My profile is honest and to the point. My age and the fact that I'm married (and not playing with the wife) goes against me.

But I have my reasons for wanting to be here. I respect the view of people who don't agree with me. That's life.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Firstly i agree with granny about that stupid fucking message it grates on me when i see it. Secondly no information on profile, no pictures, in general ones that just do not make the effort.

Good profiles, well thought out, giving information about themselves and what their looking for and a good clear face picture either public or in their private gallery.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

We all have our foibles. "

'Foibles' - that would be a brilliant profile name!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

My message to all the married people swinging(if thats what you want to label it as) miost of us call it cheating lying people want to come on here and say oooo look at my profile what do you think dont be surprised when a large amount say well as your a lying chating person then find a lying cheating site and you can all lie anc cheat together.

Gosh, did I sound harsh there....oops.

If was one of those people who were going behind my partners back I wouldnt come on here in open forum and ask people to look at my profile and ask what do you think.

Sorry but that person should really be hiding their head in shame and not standing out shouting look at me.

If it was me I would like to think I would hide and skunk around as a person who cannot sort their life out to include the things they really want in their life, wether that be swinging and have a really passion for it or just looking to get a fuck as maybe their partner doesnt do it for them for whatever reason.

Sorry guys(as you have come on here mentioning your married/attatched and partner doesnt know) but dont be so stupid In my opinion and stand up as people like me who have respect will stand up taller and shoot you down.

Good luck tho x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

excuse all spelling mistakes as on topics like this my fingers start to type flipping fast for some reason, alongised my blood beginnin to boil x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ours must be shite then, coz nobody writes to us

Seriously though, we do ok, because our profile is straight and to the point, a little light hearted with full public recent pics.

I refresh it every few months or so, add bits and take bits out.

We get a good few contacts since we have been active in the forums too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to see a long list of "No's" on a profile

I don't think it stops the "undesirables" from contacting you, and it puts others off, well us anyway.

We like to see face and body pics, clothed or partly clothed preferrably. Action pics or dick and fanny shots do nothing for us.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I don't like to see a long list of "No's" on a profile

I don't think it stops the "undesirables" from contacting you, and it puts others off, well us anyway.

We like to see face and body pics, clothed or partly clothed preferrably. Action pics or dick and fanny shots do nothing for us.

Which is a shame. Because Richard and Frances are such a lovely couple.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I was simply trying to contribute to this thread. It was not a look-at-me ploy.

I know some women in a similar situation as myself and would not dream of judging their motives. We are all here for our own reasons.

It wasn't my intention to upset anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was simply trying to contribute to this thread. It was not a look-at-me ploy."

What's wrong with look-at-me ploys?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I was simply trying to contribute to this thread. It was not a look-at-me ploy.

What's wrong with look-at-me ploys?

Nothing. But that is what the profile is for

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

Dont know if mine is good or bad

Honesty is the main thing and dont be to serious it is about having fun

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

What always bemuses me with the ‘married and playing away’ is when its followed up with ‘but at least I’m honest about it’!

Well that’s ok then, I mean if a person is going to be honest with total strangers while lying to their life-partner everything is fine, a true pillar of the community!!!

‘I have my reasons’ Of course they do, don’t think anyone does anything without justifying it one way or another.

Married/full-time partnered people who have come to the swinging scene to get a shag and think it’s ‘ok’ must have a very poor opinion of the rest of us! Makes one wonder why they would want to shag any of us!

‘But I’m very discreet, she/he will never find out’ no, well not until you take an STD home then there will be some explaining to do!

A couple I used to know many years ago, the wife answered a knock at the door one day. It was a woman from a few doors away who said, “Sorry but I think you ought to know, your husband has given me syphilis”. Can anyone begin to imagine how that wife must have felt at that time!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems that the 'married without permission' brigade (which includes me) can't win with some folks.

You're entitled to your opinion. At least we know who to avoid.

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

Some of the single men are genuine and honest and i am one but we all get tarnished by the image of the single man as others on here let us down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play with married men, was married for 24 years, never cheated and I don't think my husband did either.

When married men contact me I delete and block as I do anyone who hasn't bothered to read my profile and contact me when they're not what I'm looking for.

That said, when did we become the moral police and start lecturing people on what they should and shouldn't be doing?

You do realise there are people outside the world of swinging that find the idea of married couples sleeping with strangers abhorrent? There was an article recently where swingers were blamed for the rise in STDs, most of our friends would shun us as deviants for our lifestyle but some how some take the moral high ground and see fit to lecture and berate others for choices we feel are not on our moral compasses.

Block, delete and move on with your lives the way you see fit and leave others to get on with theirs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see how the openly married guys playing as singles are letting other single guys down.

If everyone knows they are married, we have the choice to play with them or not.

We don't dwell on it or lose any sleep over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That said, when did we become the moral police and start lecturing people on what they should and shouldn't be doing?

Block, delete and move on with your lives the way you see fit and leave others to get on with theirs!"

What a fantastic, balanced, sane post!

If everyone adopted this approach then we could all get on with our lives, applying our own personal criteria, preferences and limits with no need for soap boxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like to see a long list of "No's" on a profile

I don't think it stops the "undesirables" from contacting you, and it puts others off, well us anyway.

We like to see face and body pics, clothed or partly clothed preferrably. Action pics or dick and fanny shots do nothing for us.

nothing wrong with your profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, top post by Sassy.

If you don't want to play with us then fine.

Leave us be and most of us will reciprocate.

Can't legislate for any morons who don't read profiles.

Full marks to all those who make it clear in their profiles they won't meet marrieds.

Then we all know where we stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was referring to sassymissuk's post (sorry sassysexyme

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow, thanks everyone for their posts some good some bad, i've read them all some i agree with some idon't but its a forum.

Some good points that i will bear in mind when i update my profile again, but i wont lie on it whether some people think thats wrong i don't really care.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

"Seems that the 'married without permission' brigade (which includes me) can't win with some folks.

You're entitled to your opinion. At least we know who to avoid."

It’s made perfectly clear on our profile that we do not knowingly indulge people betraying a partner.

‘Can’t win’… of course you can, you can get meets with people who don’t care if you are married or not.

One opinion that I do have that will not be changed is that I cannot see that it can ever be ‘right’, ‘ok’, or ‘justifiable’ to betray someone but that’s just my opinion.

Have I done it myself? ‘Yes’, when I was a boy of 20-years, I learned from it and haven’t made the same mistake ever since.

Lie or tell the truth (to selected people), doesn’t really matter, telling the truth or lying doesn’t change the facts.

We don’t loose any sleep about how other people conduct there lives by their own standards, its their right to do so but some things won’t be happening with us that all.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

"Some of the single men are genuine and honest and i am one but we all get tarnished by the image of the single man as others on here let us down

Sorry can’t agree with you there, we do not paint everyone with the same brush. However, judging by our inbox guys like you are in a minority, if you were closer and bi we’d nail your feet to the floor LOL.

It’s a funny thing, guys who are married and either admit it or not complaining they can’t get or don’t get many meetings, it actually works both ways. If we didn’t bar married guys we could have ten new shags a night!

So when it whittles down to the few genuinely single males, the criteria on both sides has to match, geography also plays a part as well as availability. Get all those boxes ticked and all three still have to fancy each other… it’s quite a tall order.

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By *t.Should.Be.FunCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We like to see some information about likes and dislikes just to see that they have made an effort and know what they want and it makes it easier to know who you might like to know more about

Having a long profile won't put us off at all and I think it just gives the impression that they'd rather get a fraction of the messages/invites but those they do are from more compatible people ..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Angieandmrman - I fairly new on here. But even though I'm married I haven't moaned about not getting meets - or certainly not because I am married.

I accept that my status will exclude me from a significant section of the community on here.

But for those who are still receptive I am definitely going to be open about it so there is no misunderstanding.

I know that makes me a hypocrite and a cheat. I don't know what else I can do other than leave my wife and/or slink off into a hole and hide for the rest of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, top post by Sassy.

If you don't want to play with us then fine.

Leave us be and most of us will reciprocate.

Can't legislate for any morons who don't read profiles.

Full marks to all those who make it clear in their profiles they won't meet marrieds.

Then we all know where we stand."

Just a shame we have to go back to the moan about people who dont read profiles really as it says quite clearly on mine that im not interested in helping a guy cheat on his wife and still i get messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Angieandmrman - I fairly new on here. But even though I'm married I haven't moaned about not getting meets - or certainly not because I am married.

I accept that my status will exclude me from a significant section of the community on here.

But for those who are still receptive I am definitely going to be open about it so there is no misunderstanding.

I know that makes me a hypocrite and a cheat. I don't know what else I can do other than leave my wife and/or slink off into a hole and hide for the rest of my life."

Leave your wife

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Angieandmrman - I fairly new on here. But even though I'm married I haven't moaned about not getting meets - or certainly not because I am married.

I accept that my status will exclude me from a significant section of the community on here.

But for those who are still receptive I am definitely going to be open about it so there is no misunderstanding.

I know that makes me a hypocrite and a cheat. I don't know what else I can do other than leave my wife and/or slink off into a hole and hide for the rest of my life.

Leave your wife"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I get the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a good profile for us is something that has all the details but isnt a essay some good pics which dont have to be filthy and something in the text that shows a sense of humour,a bad profile for us is no information or a essay and pics where it looks like the person in them hasnt bothered as your supposed to be showing yourselfs proud not up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, top post by Sassy.

If you don't want to play with us then fine.

Leave us be and most of us will reciprocate.

Can't legislate for any morons who don't read profiles.

Full marks to all those who make it clear in their profiles they won't meet marrieds.

Then we all know where we stand.

Same here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well its always nice to have a few pics to look at (personally tho we hate the profiles with lots of pics of gangbangs etc, just our choice)...

much nicer to read a profile aswell, can tell a person has gone to alot of effort in their profile....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My message to all the married people swinging(if thats what you want to label it as) miost of us call it cheating lying people want to come on here and say oooo look at my profile what do you think dont be surprised when a large amount say well as your a lying chating person then find a lying cheating site and you can all lie anc cheat together.

Gosh, did I sound harsh there....oops.

If was one of those people who were going behind my partners back I wouldnt come on here in open forum and ask people to look at my profile and ask what do you think.

Sorry but that person should really be hiding their head in shame and not standing out shouting look at me.

Good luck tho x"

In my opinion (great forum get our clause that one)...yawn!!! Way to hijack a thread with some pointless off-subject rant about morality!! No one was on here asking to have their profile looked at! No one asked your opinion on whether being married and swinging was a good thing or not.

I'm surprised some people can get on their soap-box, its that bloody high!

What bastion of morality are you to say you're bigger than someone else and have the right to 'shoot them down'?

Good luck though! x

Back on-topic...

A nice natural face pic is a really attractive thing on a profile along with a nice positive vibe telling a little bit about themselves and what they're looking for from a guy/girl/couple.

I can't abide negative profiles. The kind that have 15 things they don't want before saying...'I'm actually really nice so if all that hasn't put you off, get in touch'. Errrrmmmmmmm...no!

I don't have any problem with pictures of cocks or tits or whatever but having 10 pics of the same hard cock or the same pair of tits in a bra seems pointless to me.

Also, makes me laugh when the only pics guys have are three or four pics of them fucking a woman and you can't see face or bodies, just a cock in a pussy!

Ladies (predominantly), enough with taking photos from 2 feet above your head to show off your tits and get rid of the double chin!! We all know why you do it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

liveforthemoment, thank you for putting things intosome order, started this off with a simple question never asked for people to judge my profile or morals but some did, thanks mate john obarr123

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