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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

Hope you lovely people can help me! A female friend has asked me for advice on giving oral to her boyfriend, she thinks she's not doing very well in that department........... (and before any of you ask, it is for a friend and not for me, but hey if I can pick up any hints and tips great lol)

So my questions are

for ladies - what do you do that makes it enjoyable for the men?

for men - what do you enjoy that the ladies do?

This is a genuine plea for help as I'd love to help her out the best I can!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whoops sorry Gay or Bi guys, any help you can give too............ much appreciated xx

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Just sharpening my pencil ready to take notes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could do with some pointers too x

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I have no idea what's good as I can't differentiate between

"that feels good, but I'm not asking you what it is because to tell me you'd have to stop"

and

"that feels good in a different way, but I'm not asking you what it is because to tell me you'd have to stop"

To sum up....teeth are bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have no idea what's good as I can't differentiate between

"that feels good, but I'm not asking you what it is because to tell me you'd have to stop"

and

"that feels good in a different way, but I'm not asking you what it is because to tell me you'd have to stop"

To sum up....teeth are bad. "

Well I know she hasn't got false teeth to take out, so will warn her to be careful lol!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"

To sum up....teeth are bad. "

not always - i know a few gys who like teeth

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

To sum up....teeth are bad.

not always - i know a few gys who like teeth"

Oops...another sweeping generalisation is shot down!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

if you wank,lick the helmet,then suck.lick the goolies,repeat the proccess,in every order.soon you will soon know,that is a good blow job.ffs practice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if you wank,lick the helmet,then suck.lick the goolies,repeat the proccess,in every order.soon you will soon know,that is a good blow job.ffs practice. "

Thanks for this, and she knows it's about "practicing", however, when your sexual confidence is low this isn't easy, so any information to help really does help................!!

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

usually find the guys enjoy a firm tongue circling just behind the head of the cock and lots of kisses up and down the shaft...oh and of course deep throat lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks _adcow.......

For those taking notes (lol), and haven't tried it, sucking an extra strong mint whilst giving oral can heighten the sensitivity for guys!!

Sherbert and moondust don't work as well lol!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Thanks _adcow.......

For those taking notes (lol), and haven't tried it, sucking an extra strong mint whilst giving oral can heighten the sensitivity for guys!!

"

That works on ladies also....

...according to a book I read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the only way it can work well is by loving it...it's not something you can fake

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"if you wank,lick the helmet,then suck.lick the goolies,repeat the proccess,in every order.soon you will soon know,that is a good blow job.ffs practice.

Thanks for this, and she knows it's about "practicing", however, when your sexual confidence is low this isn't easy, so any information to help really does help................!!"

confidence,can come from within,but can also be given from others.talk to each other.everybody is different.if you dont say,what yous like,even yous wont know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay Ladies here's what I like but obviously a change is as good as a rest,

Lick the Helmet and suck on it then take as much of the Helmet and Shaft in as you can comfortably while Massaging the Balls, licking up and down the Shaft and then onto the Balls is great whilst you work the Shaft up and down with your Hands and then mix them all up and repeat

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"then onto the Balls is great whilst you work the Shaft up and down with your Hands and then mix them all up and repeat "

Which just goes to show that we're all different, as the last thing I'd want is my shaft and balls being all mixed up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no teeth (sometimes teeth can be used right but it is very rare, normally it is a mood killer)

never just yank the foreskin all the way back and hold it thier, this can hurt! if your going to do this please be gentle

deep throat - never had a women succesfully do it however when i woman gives it ones quick try I do give 20 out of 10 for trying just try the ones though, if you cant the guy should understand

my biggest tip is don't forget the balls! this can be different to each indavidual person but personally i love my balls to be played with, also the bit behind it (I like to call the gooch) stroke it, lick it etc

just thought i would post a few

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By *ixson-BallsMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i met cpl a woman who learnt their technique from watching porn they said....mighty good at it they were

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"no teeth (sometimes teeth can be used right but it is very rare, normally it is a mood killer)

never just yank the foreskin all the way back and hold it thier, this can hurt! if your going to do this please be gentle

deep throat - never had a women succesfully do it however when i woman gives it ones quick try I do give 20 out of 10 for trying just try the ones though, if you cant the guy should understand

my biggest tip is don't forget the balls! this can be different to each indavidual person but personally i love my balls to be played with, also the bit behind it (I like to call the gooch) stroke it, lick it etc

just thought i would post a few "

you know that know when i am going to be giving a bj all I am going to be thinking when I got to that area is "GOOCH" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no teeth (sometimes teeth can be used right but it is very rare, normally it is a mood killer)

never just yank the foreskin all the way back and hold it thier, this can hurt! if your going to do this please be gentle

deep throat - never had a women succesfully do it however when i woman gives it ones quick try I do give 20 out of 10 for trying just try the ones though, if you cant the guy should understand

my biggest tip is don't forget the balls! this can be different to each indavidual person but personally i love my balls to be played with, also the bit behind it (I like to call the gooch) stroke it, lick it etc

just thought i would post a few "

i enjoy grazing my teeth lightly on a hard shaft and its alays appreciated...not where it's too sensitive though, unless its wanted.

and deep throat, the trick is to not just try thrust it in, its like anal, wait for things to relax back there....the throat can stretch to quite a good amount if done right

and the balls are never forgot in my hands! they seem to like a set of nails grazing over them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i enjoy grazing my teeth lightly on a hard shaft and its alays appreciated...not where it's too sensitive though, unless its wanted.

and deep throat, the trick is to not just try thrust it in, its like anal, wait for things to relax back there....the throat can stretch to quite a good amount if done right

and the balls are never forgot in my hands! they seem to like a set of nails grazing over them"

I assume your known for the best blowjob then

plenty off practice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i enjoy grazing my teeth lightly on a hard shaft and its alays appreciated...not where it's too sensitive though, unless its wanted.

and deep throat, the trick is to not just try thrust it in, its like anal, wait for things to relax back there....the throat can stretch to quite a good amount if done right

and the balls are never forgot in my hands! they seem to like a set of nails grazing over them

I assume your known for the best blowjob then

plenty off practice?"

it's just a passion of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think many of the points are valid but the key is Enthusiasm !!

I like a firm grip around mine whilst the mouth,lips and tongue really get to work

To start teasingly long licks ... then the enthusiasm kicks in after.

Personally I am very aware if the pleaser is enjoying,if not,its unlikely I will enjoy...

For enthusiasm I have found that using your toys/my fingers or tongue lol inside you at the same time works well however on this type of site toys are not always necessary ...

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I have no idea what's good as I can't differentiate between

"that feels good, but I'm not asking you what it is because to tell me you'd have to stop"

and

"that feels good in a different way, but I'm not asking you what it is because to tell me you'd have to stop"

To sum up....teeth are bad. "

I'll put a good word in for you with my Granny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All men like deep throat

well ive never met one that dont anyway lol

Spit as well and lots of it, i have found guys like really wet bjs, plus it slides down the throat better when its wet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All men like deep throat

well ive never met one that dont anyway lol

Spit as well and lots of it, i have found guys like really wet bjs, plus it slides down the throat better when its wet lol

"

To be honest, I am not really a fan of receiving oral. Dont get me wrong if its offered then I wont complain, but I can live with out it.

Giving to to a female - now that is totally different, happily spend days/weeks/months.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think the only way it can work well is by loving it...it's not something you can fake"

Have to agree...a woman who genuinely loves sucking cock...and experiments and communicates with the man she is sucking...while she is sucking...you can go too far wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main thing is for the man to let the person giving the bj what is working for him as we are all different, so the only one to blame for a bad bj is the man recieving,

but as said before the person giving the bj must be into it

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

My preference is to have my helmet licked and sucked. Licking from my head down the shaft to my balls is lovely. Sucking *gently* on my balls is nice, but be careful not to such too hard (it gives me the same sensation as being kicked in the balls; doesn't exactly hurt, but is uncomfortable).

Deep throating me, whilst looking good, doesn't actually do anything for me. Now, if someone could take all of me AND lick my balls at the same time - I'd be up for that!

HTH

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By *hane001Man
over a year ago

southampton

Could try different positions laying on a bed can be quite uncomfortable for the lady (and that just wont do!) If you are both comfortable she wont be in a rush to finish or get cramps and aches!!

Try the man standing up and the lady sat down, in front of him.

If the lady uses one or both hands at the base (depending on size!) then if the man has the urge to thrust (and who does'nt at certain points...!) she can control the depth a bit more.

Also with the hands you can rub and move your hand up and down and your mouth (he won't know if he's cumming or going... lol)

Also with standing up the man can look down at the lovely lady performing and have a bit of visual simulation from looking at her and her body. The lady can look into his eyes this is a real turn on.(she will probably just be looking a big smile on his face though..!)

Then if all goes well the lady has a chance to the direct cum to a place of her choice... (if she does'nt like swallowing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The solution:

Get a bi/gay guy to show or mentor.....

Paddy xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love feeling teeth and nails dragged up the shaft, teeth biting just below the head - hard. It's amazing how hard it is to draw blood.

But erm, that's just me.

Failing that, someone who can give good oral, hands free, is talented, to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your friend lack confidence then that will be obvious in the act

However, the best way to give a blowjob, as one or two people have alluded to already, is to do it enthusiastically and enjoy it.

If she's enjoying doing it then thats 90% of the job done

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

This is a very subjective question. You could give one guy a blowjob and he would think he had died and gone to heaven, do the same to the next guy and it wouldnt do anything for him.

Follow the lead from the guy, learn your way around his cock, listen for the changes in breath the wows and the cock twitches and above all ask him if he likes what your doing and what would he like you to do. Communication i think is the key

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course "

If she were on this site I'd suggest it lol!

Would you be first in the queue?

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course

If she were on this site I'd suggest it lol!

Would you be first in the queue?"

you could always intoduce her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, really appreciated.

Think once again it's proved that everyone is different, but that enjoying something and communicating what you like is key to great sex!!

I'm sure she will be pleased with all the hints and tips!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course

If she were on this site I'd suggest it lol!

Would you be first in the queue?

you could always intoduce her "

Soz she's deffo a one guy woman........! Afraid you'll just have to put up with your friends on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think many of the points are valid but the key is Enthusiasm !!

I like a firm grip around mine whilst the mouth,lips and tongue really get to work

To start teasingly long licks ... then the enthusiasm kicks in after.

Personally I am very aware if the pleaser is enjoying,if not,its unlikely I will enjoy...

For enthusiasm I have found that using your toys/my fingers or tongue lol inside you at the same time works well however on this type of site toys are not always necessary ...

"
Totally agree!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course

If she were on this site I'd suggest it lol!

Would you be first in the queue?

you could always intoduce her

Soz she's deffo a one guy woman........! Afraid you'll just have to put up with your friends on here "

thats no hardship

but always happy to help should she change her mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course

If she were on this site I'd suggest it lol!

Would you be first in the queue?

you could always intoduce her

Soz she's deffo a one guy woman........! Afraid you'll just have to put up with your friends on here

thats no hardship

but always happy to help should she change her mind "

Will be sure to tell her lol! :-

Shame I can't print off this thread to give her lol!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I prefer to be laying on my back when I'm being sucked. If I stand upright - I cum too quick for my liking.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"maybe she needs to take a few of us guys in hand (mouth) and we can give her instant feedback .......... all in the casue of science of course

If she were on this site I'd suggest it lol!

Would you be first in the queue?

you could always intoduce her

Soz she's deffo a one guy woman........! Afraid you'll just have to put up with your friends on here

thats no hardship

but always happy to help should she change her mind

Will be sure to tell her lol! :-

Shame I can't print off this thread to give her lol! "

want me to print it and bring it with me next time I'm on the south coast? pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont let the guy feel your teeth.Be sensitive dont suck too hard.I personally love a girl looking at me as she does it.Lick round the rim before popping the helmet into your mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried the extra strong mints nearly bloody

chocked did nothing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Shame I can't print off this thread to give her lol!

want me to print it and bring it with me next time I'm on the south coast? pmsl"

Not a bad idea, just incase there is something I haven't tried

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tried the extra strong mints nearly bloody

chocked did nothing! "

Extra strong mints get the thumbs up from me, but I nearly choked on the moon dust (that stuff that pops in your mouth lol)

x

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"

Shame I can't print off this thread to give her lol!

want me to print it and bring it with me next time I'm on the south coast? pmsl

Not a bad idea, just incase there is something I haven't tried "

I don't think there is much you haven't tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi we have been swinging for over 10 years had many good blow jobs and many rubbish ,you need a nice wet mouth very little or no sucking smooth lips over bell end ,lick all up and dowm shaft mmmm getting hard just thinking x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Shame I can't print off this thread to give her lol!

want me to print it and bring it with me next time I'm on the south coast? pmsl

Not a bad idea, just incase there is something I haven't tried

I don't think there is much you haven't tried "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a very subjective question. You could give one guy a blowjob and he would think he had died and gone to heaven, do the same to the next guy and it wouldnt do anything for him.

Follow the lead from the guy, learn your way around his cock, listen for the changes in breath the wows and the cock twitches and above all ask him if he likes what your doing and what would he like you to do. Communication i think is the key"

i agree; i also find that watching them masturbate can give you a lot of useful tips on how they like it to be handled...who knows better than the guy that owns the cock huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well apparently give very good bjs and never failed to maake them cum if thats what they want i dont think theres any real tricks to do it apart from enjoy doing it yourself and the lad probebly will too

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By *inesawineWoman
over a year ago

fife


"The solution:

Get a bi/gay guy to show or mentor.....

Paddy xxx"

I have to admit to buying some gay porn to watch and learn how guys do it to each other............................

No complaints so far...........

Mines xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres so many different things that can make it good it's difficult to even start!... plus I reckon different guys may like differing things due to varying levels of sensitivity etc etc (sorry if this has been said, only really read the question)

...so to sum up, if she wants to know what's good or not, I'll hapilly lie there and let her experiment and tell her what's good and what isn't, and maybe add a few extra things she could do too

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