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By *LGERNONSENCE OP   Man
over a year ago

YATE BRISTOL

I honestly wonder were I'm going wrong. I am polite and reasonable and I don't think too bad looking, or too extreme in my sexual tastes. I'm a decent guy, but I have next to no luck on this site. Is it me? Or am I just living in an alternate universe where the social graciousness I try to live by is not operating here? On the whole, I find using this site to be a horribly negative experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are u only looking for Ff or F profiles?...then u will indeed have a limited choice.

perhaps you should try socials,clubs?

you have a couple of glowing verifies...I think u should ease up on the complaining to be honest...and status's like yours will not, I repeat will NOT attract hot attention.

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By *LGERNONSENCE OP   Man
over a year ago

YATE BRISTOL

Thankyou for responding. Your advice is honestly appreciated : )

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


" On the whole, I find using this site to be a horribly negative experience.

"

Whenever I see comments like this the first question that pops into my head is why use the site then?

Having a profile on a contact site entitles people to nothing.

Expecting that it does, or that it will be a means to an end will usually end in disappointment.

If being on site results in nothing but frustration and unhappiness then there is a simple solution. Don't log on!

The number of people who sign up thinking that it is a simple question of join, post a few words and some pics and that in doing so they will find no shortage of interest and company appears to be on the increase.

Nobody is entitled to anything.

If using a site doesn't work - try other methods. Real life, clubs, anything other than putting all your eggs in one basket and relying on an internet site.

Swinging (or casual sex for those that don't choose to class themselves as swingers!) should be an addition to someone's normal sex life - not they're entire sex life!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

This place should be fun, if its not then maybe you're in the wrong place?

Your profile seems ok to me, you have face pics, you are even smiling!

Just my personal opinion, but the 'taboo role play' thing would put me off, in my mind it conjures up thoughts of incest etc which I don't find a turn on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I honestly wonder were I'm going wrong. I am polite and reasonable and I don't think too bad looking, or too extreme in my sexual tastes. I'm a decent guy, but I have next to no luck on this site. Is it me? Or am I just living in an alternate universe where the social graciousness I try to live by is not operating here? On the whole, I find using this site to be a horribly negative experience.

"

And by your words here you have labelled the rest of us, or at least the people you've communicated with as graceless. Does some of this sense of your social superiority, intentional or otherwise, come across in your interaction with others?

If your experience of the site is a negative one maybe it's time to reevaluate.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I honestly wonder were I'm going wrong. I am polite and reasonable and I don't think too bad looking, or too extreme in my sexual tastes. I'm a decent guy, but I have next to no luck on this site. Is it me? Or am I just living in an alternate universe where the social graciousness I try to live by is not operating here? On the whole, I find using this site to be a horribly negative experience.

"

Just because YOU think those things about yourself doesnt mean others will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly wonder were I'm going wrong. I am polite and reasonable and I don't think too bad looking, or too extreme in my sexual tastes. I'm a decent guy, but I have next to no luck on this site. Is it me? Or am I just living in an alternate universe where the social graciousness I try to live by is not operating here? On the whole, I find using this site to be a horribly negative experience.

"

You say you are not too extreme in your sexual tastes but there's a line or two in your profile that suggests otherwise.

As others have said, if it is causing that much anguish then hide/delete your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land


"Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through "

And don't treat the site as a sex site. . Take it as it comes and have fun

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through "

This is a side of Fab that we don't see possibly because we're a couple and only contact other couples or single men.

Do you mean a lot of women and couples are guilty of being egotistical dross?

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES


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You say you are not too extreme in your sexual tastes but there's a line or two in your profile that suggests otherwise.

"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you aren't having fun find it else where.This site owes you nothing. I have meet quite a few single men in clubs recently who arent on fab, aren't whinging and are having the time of their lives. They are out there doing what they love, not just putting up a profile and expecting the women to come running.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through

This is a side of Fab that we don't see possibly because we're a couple and only contact other couples or single men.

Do you mean a lot of women and couples are guilty of being egotistical dross?"

Oh yes, quite a few females on here get really insulted if I turn them down, I'm always polite, but I'm not going to fuck someone I'm not attracted to.

However, they seem so used to desperate guys that would stuff their cock in anything with a pulse, that I think it comes as something of a shock to them when someone is not totally overwhelmed with gratitude for the opportunity to shag them.

Don't get me wrong, there are some wonderful and beautiful people on here, many of whom I class as friends.

Its the egotistical moose's who act like every man is beholden to them and should be grateful for an offer that spoil it. Sadly, there a quite a few of these.

Also the timewasting primadonnas who have no intention of meeting, but seem to get some reward from acting like real women. Fortunately, I have my porn queen wannabe sensors going full time, so I can usually spot them a mile off.

Anyhow, I'm having a great time and, providing you don't get sucked into the desperation stakes, there are beautiful and very very sexy ladies on here.

I said on another thread, you've got to wade through the 'shallows' to find anything 'deep and worthwhile' lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through

This is a side of Fab that we don't see possibly because we're a couple and only contact other couples or single men.

Do you mean a lot of women and couples are guilty of being egotistical dross?

Oh yes, quite a few females on here get really insulted if I turn them down, I'm always polite, but I'm not going to fuck someone I'm not attracted to.

However, they seem so used to desperate guys that would stuff their cock in anything with a pulse, that I think it comes as something of a shock to them when someone is not totally overwhelmed with gratitude for the opportunity to shag them.

Don't get me wrong, there are some wonderful and beautiful people on here, many of whom I class as friends.

Its the egotistical moose's who act like every man is beholden to them and should be grateful for an offer that spoil it. Sadly, there a quite a few of these.

Also the timewasting primadonnas who have no intention of meeting, but seem to get some reward from acting like real women. Fortunately, I have my porn queen wannabe sensors going full time, so I can usually spot them a mile off.

Anyhow, I'm having a great time and, providing you don't get sucked into the desperation stakes, there are beautiful and very very sexy ladies on here.

I said on another thread, you've got to wade through the 'shallows' to find anything 'deep and worthwhile' lol "

I think we'd agree with your last sentence .

I can see how the constant sycophancy might make some women like that and possibly some couples, I've seen some hideously arrogant couple's profile text.

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


" I find using this site to be a horribly negative experience.

"

not sure its you at all mate, can't say we find the site to be negative but some people on it are for us...

I will pass on the advice we have been given, get proactive and out there, try clubs etc. seems we have been foolish thinking it would bump into us, so now we are trying anew approach see how we get along..

just keep going mate, you've nowt to lose have you?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A horrible, horrible alternative Universe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through

This is a side of Fab that we don't see possibly because we're a couple and only contact other couples or single men.

Do you mean a lot of women and couples are guilty of being egotistical dross?

Oh yes, quite a few females on here get really insulted if I turn them down, I'm always polite, but I'm not going to fuck someone I'm not attracted to.

However, they seem so used to desperate guys that would stuff their cock in anything with a pulse, that I think it comes as something of a shock to them when someone is not totally overwhelmed with gratitude for the opportunity to shag them.

Don't get me wrong, there are some wonderful and beautiful people on here, many of whom I class as friends.

Its the egotistical moose's who act like every man is beholden to them and should be grateful for an offer that spoil it. Sadly, there a quite a few of these.

Also the timewasting primadonnas who have no intention of meeting, but seem to get some reward from acting like real women. Fortunately, I have my porn queen wannabe sensors going full time, so I can usually spot them a mile off.

Anyhow, I'm having a great time and, providing you don't get sucked into the desperation stakes, there are beautiful and very very sexy ladies on here.

I said on another thread, you've got to wade through the 'shallows' to find anything 'deep and worthwhile' lol "

This doesn't only apply to the women on Fab!

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I like ur pics and profile. Fab smile... but too far away for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't take it seriously my friend, it's just a bit of fun, with the ratio of men to women on here, the girls have it all their own way so the odds are stacked up. Dig deep and be patient and you come across the good ones, there's a lot of egotistical dross to wade through

This is a side of Fab that we don't see possibly because we're a couple and only contact other couples or single men.

Do you mean a lot of women and couples are guilty of being egotistical dross?

Oh yes, quite a few females on here get really insulted if I turn them down, I'm always polite, but I'm not going to fuck someone I'm not attracted to.

However, they seem so used to desperate guys that would stuff their cock in anything with a pulse, that I think it comes as something of a shock to them when someone is not totally overwhelmed with gratitude for the opportunity to shag them.

Don't get me wrong, there are some wonderful and beautiful people on here, many of whom I class as friends.

Its the egotistical moose's who act like every man is beholden to them and should be grateful for an offer that spoil it. Sadly, there a quite a few of these.

Also the timewasting primadonnas who have no intention of meeting, but seem to get some reward from acting like real women. Fortunately, I have my porn queen wannabe sensors going full time, so I can usually spot them a mile off.

Anyhow, I'm having a great time and, providing you don't get sucked into the desperation stakes, there are beautiful and very very sexy ladies on here.

I said on another thread, you've got to wade through the 'shallows' to find anything 'deep and worthwhile' lol

This doesn't only apply to the women on Fab! "

I couldn't comment on that, I only swing one way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Just my personal opinion, but the 'taboo role play' thing would put me off, in my mind it conjures up thoughts of incest etc which I don't find a turn on. "

Instant turn off for me too!

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