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"I am asking after a chat room discussion.. and I am in the "no one is better than your partner because you know each other so well" Also is it ever a good thing to tell your partner that actually someone else is better at a sex act than they are.?? ie.. Your good but I have had better.. I may not have worded this quite right.. but I am basically saying that while you may not be the best in the world.. I personally believe that if you are together that the other person is the best for you... Am I right.. wrong.. or something else " We make love ,we dont just have sexual acts | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? " Because there horny fuckers | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? " You won't find a better example of misunderstanding than this. | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? " for the variety.. Do you really think couples are looking for single guys because their own man isnt good enough??? | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? " Hubby does not make a great bisexual female | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? Hubby does not make a great bisexual female " have you tried.. (tongue in cheek) | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? Because there horny fuckers " This is the best answer of the three that quoted me. The others just aren't taking my question literally, there's nothing wrong in it - was just an obvious statement... | |||
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"I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure " So would you tell your other half.. The person that just joined you was better??? | |||
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"I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure So would you tell your other half.. The person that just joined you was better??? " No because it wouldn't be true | |||
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"I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure So would you tell your other half.. The person that just joined you was better??? No because it wouldn't be true " This is my thinking... I got quite annoyed with a guy that suggested he could give me a better time than Lee. xx | |||
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"I am asking after a chat room discussion.. and I am in the "no one is better than your partner because you know each other so well" Also is it ever a good thing to tell your partner that actually someone else is better at a sex act than they are.?? ie.. Your good but I have had better.. I may not have worded this quite right.. but I am basically saying that while you may not be the best in the world.. I personally believe that if you are together that the other person is the best for you... Am I right.. wrong.. or something else We make love ,we dont just have sexual acts" ^^^^^This | |||
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"All of us have our own traits etc when it boils down to it. But each of our actions meets a different reaction when we are with other people. So it's an addition to an already fulfilling relationship when people choose to "truly" swing or share their partners. It's not about replacing it's about understanding n knowing one person doesn't always give you everything you require all of the time n being comfortable with each other to do so. Great question tho op n will get people talking and am sure everyone has varying opinions. Happy fabbing . " thanks.. I would personally feel very inadequate if my partner told me that someone else was better than me... Does it different.. or really good... then fine.. but actually telling me "wow they were loads better than you".. I would want to just pack it all in. | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? You won't find a better example of misunderstanding than this." Exactly this. | |||
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"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works. Mrs. X" That's a good way to look at it I suppose.. but would you be upset if your partner actually said someone else is better? | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? " Do you think that swinging couples are lacking something in their relationship? Are you under the impression that their sex life is lacking and that is why they swing? A very mis judged comment. To answer the ops question, we haven't yet met anyone that's better than either of us sexually, and that's probably due to the fact that we know each other inside out. Would it be best practise to say that a meet is better sexually than your OH? That's a tough one and guess it depends on the relationship you have with your OH. | |||
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"Yep better not to make a comparison. Swinging play is just different to sex with your partner..." I agree with this its not specifically that someone is better than another. In all relationships things can get into routine whereby new situations and swing partners brings back that initial zest and sexcitement and to grow and share this with your partner adds something new to your relationship. | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? Do you think that swinging couples are lacking something in their relationship? Are you under the impression that their sex life is lacking and that is why they swing? A very mis judged comment. To answer the ops question, we haven't yet met anyone that's better than either of us sexually, and that's probably due to the fact that we know each other inside out. Would it be best practise to say that a meet is better sexually than your OH? That's a tough one and guess it depends on the relationship you have with your OH. " See I think like you that when your a couple or play together regular that you know each other so well that its always better... Add emotions and feelings too... And I cant see how its ever going to compare x I always watch how a lady touches her man as she is the expert on him..... | |||
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"Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH! all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better! If that makes sense? " I could be wrong, but I think that was what chesterduke meant by his comment. One person can't be a gangbang or a party or a 4some or many other things. | |||
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"Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH! all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better! If that makes sense? I could be wrong, but I think that was what chesterduke meant by his comment. One person can't be a gangbang or a party or a 4some or many other things. " I think that... I am more meaning that one other person is better than your partner.. And would You or should you tell them that someone is x | |||
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"If your partner finds someone better.. Rather then saying it.. Maybe they could be a little bit more diplomatic and try suggest you try doing it a certain way that might improve things.. No one wants to hear that they are less then perfect at things but we all want to learn.. i wouldnt be offended if a suggestion was made to me how i could improve things.. But to be told by your partner your not as good as someone else is purely spiteful and without thought " This. Pretty shit to say someone else is better. Diplomacy and tact should be used. Unless the other person doesn't give a crap about your feelings. | |||
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"Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH! all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better! If that makes sense? I could be wrong, but I think that was what chesterduke meant by his comment. One person can't be a gangbang or a party or a 4some or many other things. I think that... I am more meaning that one other person is better than your partner.. And would You or should you tell them that someone is x " I wouldn't tell them, no. I think it would be hurtful. x | |||
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"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? Because there horny fuckers " they're....... Sorry | |||
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"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works. Mrs. X That's a good way to look at it I suppose.. but would you be upset if your partner actually said someone else is better? " That wouldn't happen. We don't view things that way at all. If he found someone he thought was better then there would be more to it than just sex and he would be better off with her. | |||
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"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works. Mrs. X That's a good way to look at it I suppose.. but would you be upset if your partner actually said someone else is better? That wouldn't happen. We don't view things that way at all. If he found someone he thought was better then there would be more to it than just sex and he would be better off with her. " We agree with this. For us sure, there has been the odd thing that was new for one or other of us and afterwards we have said 'you know what, I really enjoyed that we should try it' We don't see how it can be 'better' as a whole thing. Because there is so much that's just not there. That is there with the one you love. Anyone that tells you they are better than your partner is either on their own ego trip or simply trying to talk you into what they want. Oh and clueless... And the opinion on couples swinging because they are not getting what they need at home... That is exactly what pisses off so many couples on here. People that just don't understand. That actually you might be here because it IS so good at home and you are comfortable enough to share, have as much fun as you possibly can, while you can, as a couple. | |||
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"Yep better not to make a comparison. Swinging play is just different to sex with your partner..." I totally agree with you. It's the variety of being with someone else that spices up an already great sex life with your partner. Mmmmm. JB | |||
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"No one is better then my OH. When I cum with him it's something that reaches into my soul not just my body. Other guys we've met have been great, some better than others but most have been worth the effort, however, none of them can make me cum like hubby can. I love being greedy, I love being made to cum over and over, I love the different sizes and techniques but none fill me like hubby does. Does that make sense? " Yes.. this is exactly what I think x | |||
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"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works. Mrs. X" That's exactly it. And then I have all the other things with the monkey that I'm simply not interested in with others... | |||
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"Simple answer is no, we have slowly gravitated toward a cuckold lifestyle and have been seeing a guy regularly on and off for around two years! In that time the sex and intimacy has slowly got better and better to the point where I have openly admitted he is a better lover than my hubby! It took a lot of understanding and trust on both of our parts to openly admit as I didn't want to hurt my hubby's feeling (did at first) but it's something we have worked through together and how we slowly discovered our preference for cuckolding. The trouble we have is wanting this person in our life more than he is able to offer." See yours is perhaps an exception... But.... Is your lover not in a way now hour primary sexual partner.? I guess for me its who I'm closest to sexually... For you the added element of cuckold is what makes it so good.... Although I can not understand telling the person you love they are not the best but I do get that its the principle behind the cuckold... Ie that they aren't as good... Thank you for sharing. So is your regular lover the best for you | |||
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"Simple answer is no, we have slowly gravitated toward a cuckold lifestyle and have been seeing a guy regularly on and off for around two years! In that time the sex and intimacy has slowly got better and better to the point where I have openly admitted he is a better lover than my hubby! It took a lot of understanding and trust on both of our parts to openly admit as I didn't want to hurt my hubby's feeling (did at first) but it's something we have worked through together and how we slowly discovered our preference for cuckolding. The trouble we have is wanting this person in our life more than he is able to offer. See yours is perhaps an exception... But.... Is your lover not in a way now hour primary sexual partner.? I guess for me its who I'm closest to sexually... For you the added element of cuckold is what makes it so good.... Although I can not understand telling the person you love they are not the best but I do get that its the principle behind the cuckold... Ie that they aren't as good... Thank you for sharing. So is your regular lover the best for you" You are correct yes, it does all tie in to the cuckold lifestyle in that the 'lover' should be the primary and indeed be better than my hubby. We have a dilemma in that we want to explore something a lot more regular with the man we see but both his and our personal life don't really allow it. It took some time to openly admit my A was better than my hubby but it was hubby that asked after my first meet alone with A, I truly didn't want to admit it though deep down knew it to be the case and before we set out on this lifestyle together we promised total honesty with each other! We believe sometimes these things can be a self fulfilling prophecy in a way as when hubby and I first met he was a fantastic lover (and still is) but there is just something about being with A that electrocutes me inside, it could just be the fact all three of us are working together at this and without one of the three, it wouldn't work the same?! We are now at a cross roads with how we proceed as both myself and my hubby would like to explore a regular three way relationship with me taking A as my regular primary but as I've said life gets in the way! We go through a roller coaster of emotions after seeing him, both feeding off the experience together only to be let down when our schedules to meet and we can go weeks/months between meets. The trouble have is do we find someone who can offer a regular thing and if we do can we find someone who offers the package!? I can hand on heart day that emotionally no one comes close to what hubby and I share! The cuckolding only reinforces our commitment together and no one can get me off oraly like hubby can | |||
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"Zzzzzzzzzz" Care to share your thoughts on this.. as Do not think you would Dare to share them openly. | |||
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"Zzzzzzzzzz" Sorry is this thread boring you? Or do you have any thoughts on the matter? | |||
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