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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am asking after a chat room discussion.. and I am in the "no one is better than your partner because you know each other so well"

Also is it ever a good thing to tell your partner that actually someone else is better at a sex act than they are.??

ie.. Your good but I have had better..

I may not have worded this quite right.. but I am basically saying that while you may not be the best in the world.. I personally believe that if you are together that the other person is the best for you... Am I right.. wrong.. or something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am asking after a chat room discussion.. and I am in the "no one is better than your partner because you know each other so well"

Also is it ever a good thing to tell your partner that actually someone else is better at a sex act than they are.??

ie.. Your good but I have had better..

I may not have worded this quite right.. but I am basically saying that while you may not be the best in the world.. I personally believe that if you are together that the other person is the best for you... Am I right.. wrong.. or something else "
We make love ,we dont just have sexual acts

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I know what the answer should be, but I am really struggling to answer this from my point of view, as it has been over 15 years since I had good partner sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's this thing called love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I just point out this is a general question.. and thanks to those that are saying tell him how to make it better.. TRUST ME.... I dont think that any guy could be better.. lol

So thanks but I dont think that couples play on here because their partners arent good..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? "

Because there horny fuckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? "

You won't find a better example of misunderstanding than this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? "

for the variety.. Do you really think couples are looking for single guys because their own man isnt good enough???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? "
Hubby does not make a great bisexual female

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? Hubby does not make a great bisexual female "

have you tried.. (tongue in cheek)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it?

Because there horny fuckers "

This is the best answer of the three that quoted me.

The others just aren't taking my question literally, there's nothing wrong in it - was just an obvious statement...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure "

So would you tell your other half.. The person that just joined you was better???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure

So would you tell your other half.. The person that just joined you was better??? "

No because it wouldn't be true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think for us it is more of an adventure for both of us - a sexy adventure

So would you tell your other half.. The person that just joined you was better???

No because it wouldn't be true "

This is my thinking... I got quite annoyed with a guy that suggested he could give me a better time than Lee. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my hubbys a lot older than me, been married for 35 years and people change.

sometimes when I meet men who are about my age and have a nice time it reminds me of what my husband used to be like and it seems like a life time ago.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"I am asking after a chat room discussion.. and I am in the "no one is better than your partner because you know each other so well"

Also is it ever a good thing to tell your partner that actually someone else is better at a sex act than they are.??

ie.. Your good but I have had better..

I may not have worded this quite right.. but I am basically saying that while you may not be the best in the world.. I personally believe that if you are together that the other person is the best for you... Am I right.. wrong.. or something else We make love ,we dont just have sexual acts"

^^^^^This

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By *ndy8goldMan
over a year ago

blackburn

All of us have our own traits etc when it boils down to it. But each of our actions meets a different reaction when we are with other people. So it's an addition to an already fulfilling relationship when people choose to "truly" swing or share their partners.

It's not about replacing it's about understanding n knowing one person doesn't always give you everything you require all of the time n being comfortable with each other to do so.

Great question tho op n will get people talking and am sure everyone has varying opinions. Happy fabbing .

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By *tuAvrCouple
over a year ago

SOUTHAMPTON

My.other struggles with getting bj right on me buy.yet the other night I had an amazing one! I told her that the technique that works for me is one she struggles with, as I injured My todger when young so not very sensitive! But.then she has nerve damage too so my todger is hard to plese her, so we both a bit pants at something lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All of us have our own traits etc when it boils down to it. But each of our actions meets a different reaction when we are with other people. So it's an addition to an already fulfilling relationship when people choose to "truly" swing or share their partners.

It's not about replacing it's about understanding n knowing one person doesn't always give you everything you require all of the time n being comfortable with each other to do so.

Great question tho op n will get people talking and am sure everyone has varying opinions. Happy fabbing . "

thanks.. I would personally feel very inadequate if my partner told me that someone else was better than me... Does it different.. or really good... then fine.. but actually telling me "wow they were loads better than you".. I would want to just pack it all in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it?

You won't find a better example of misunderstanding than this."

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works.

Mrs. X

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By *ohnandLucyCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yep better not to make a comparison. Swinging play is just different to sex with your partner...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works.

Mrs. X"

That's a good way to look at it I suppose.. but would you be upset if your partner actually said someone else is better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it? "

Do you think that swinging couples are lacking something in their relationship?

Are you under the impression that their sex life is lacking and that is why they swing?

A very mis judged comment.

To answer the ops question, we haven't yet met anyone that's better than either of us sexually, and that's probably due to the fact that we know each other inside out. Would it be best practise to say that a meet is better sexually than your OH? That's a tough one and guess it depends on the relationship you have with your OH.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"Yep better not to make a comparison. Swinging play is just different to sex with your partner..."

I agree with this its not specifically that someone is better than another. In all relationships things can get into routine whereby new situations and swing partners brings back that initial zest and sexcitement and to grow and share this with your partner adds something new to your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your partner finds someone better.. Rather then saying it.. Maybe they could be a little bit more diplomatic and try suggest you try doing it a certain way that might improve things.. No one wants to hear that they are less then perfect at things but we all want to learn.. i wouldnt be offended if a suggestion was made to me how i could improve things.. But to be told by your partner your not as good as someone else is purely spiteful and without thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it?

Do you think that swinging couples are lacking something in their relationship?

Are you under the impression that their sex life is lacking and that is why they swing?

A very mis judged comment.

To answer the ops question, we haven't yet met anyone that's better than either of us sexually, and that's probably due to the fact that we know each other inside out. Would it be best practise to say that a meet is better sexually than your OH? That's a tough one and guess it depends on the relationship you have with your OH. "

See I think like you that when your a couple or play together regular that you know each other so well that its always better... Add emotions and feelings too... And I cant see how its ever going to compare x

I always watch how a lady touches her man as she is the expert on him.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH!

all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better!

If that makes sense?

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Yes I agree with you, for example I may not give the absolute best blowjob in the world, but, over many years I know what MrB likes, what works for him, how to tease etc, something that someone only meeting for an evening couldn't possibly know.

It also works the other way around, plus, he can give me different sorts of sex, rough ( we can push boundaries, I trust him completely), loving, a quicky (years of research enables us to sort each other out in no time) and experimental, along with many more.

We have had great sex with others, very very enjoyable and we have no problem in telling each other how good it was, I just think trust and knowing each other so well makes it better together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that's one of the many reasons we are together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH!

all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better!

If that makes sense? "

I could be wrong, but I think that was what chesterduke meant by his comment.

One person can't be a gangbang or a party or a 4some or many other things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH!

all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better!

If that makes sense?

I could be wrong, but I think that was what chesterduke meant by his comment.

One person can't be a gangbang or a party or a 4some or many other things. "

I think that... I am more meaning that one other person is better than your partner..

And would You or should you tell them that someone is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your partner finds someone better.. Rather then saying it.. Maybe they could be a little bit more diplomatic and try suggest you try doing it a certain way that might improve things.. No one wants to hear that they are less then perfect at things but we all want to learn.. i wouldnt be offended if a suggestion was made to me how i could improve things.. But to be told by your partner your not as good as someone else is purely spiteful and without thought "

This.

Pretty shit to say someone else is better. Diplomacy and tact should be used. Unless the other person doesn't give a crap about your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex told me that he'd had better at bj's & wanking and I couldn't make him cum, but he said I was best shag/sex he'd ever had but then I found out he was bi and reason I wasn't good at bj's or wanking was because he said men were better! Shag/sex we used to do anal so maybe that had something to do with it too!

Hunky says I'm the best he's ever had though!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also, when your in a 3sum the action is going to be totally different to that you experience from just a one on one meet, so you can't really compare that to sex with your OH!

all our meets have been different and we've both enjoyed them for different reasons, so I would say it's different and not better!

If that makes sense?

I could be wrong, but I think that was what chesterduke meant by his comment.

One person can't be a gangbang or a party or a 4some or many other things.

I think that... I am more meaning that one other person is better than your partner..

And would You or should you tell them that someone is x "

I wouldn't tell them, no. I think it would be hurtful. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But surely if your sexual needs were all met from one person, then why would you go somewhere else for it?

Because there horny fuckers "

they're.......

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There has been some interesting points on here though about it not being about being better..And to not make comparisons....

Some interesting private thoughts coming in.... Mostly that if your partner was the best you wouldn't have other people... Which to me shows no understanding of what you share

But. Perhaps that is just me.. as I can get a little protective and sensitive ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works.

Mrs. X

That's a good way to look at it I suppose.. but would you be upset if your partner actually said someone else is better? "

That wouldn't happen. We don't view things that way at all. If he found someone he thought was better then there would be more to it than just sex and he would be better off with her.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works.

Mrs. X

That's a good way to look at it I suppose.. but would you be upset if your partner actually said someone else is better?

That wouldn't happen. We don't view things that way at all. If he found someone he thought was better then there would be more to it than just sex and he would be better off with her. "

We agree with this.

For us sure, there has been the odd thing that was new for one or other of us and afterwards we have said 'you know what, I really enjoyed that we should try it'

We don't see how it can be 'better' as a whole thing. Because there is so much that's just not there. That is there with the one you love.

Anyone that tells you they are better than your partner is either on their own ego trip or simply trying to talk you into what they want. Oh and clueless...

And the opinion on couples swinging because they are not getting what they need at home... That is exactly what pisses off so many couples on here. People that just don't understand. That actually you might be here because it IS so good at home and you are comfortable enough to share, have as much fun as you possibly can, while you can, as a couple.

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

No one is better then my OH. When I cum with him it's something that reaches into my soul not just my body.

Other guys we've met have been great, some better than others but most have been worth the effort, however, none of them can make me cum like hubby can. I love being greedy, I love being made to cum over and over, I love the different sizes and techniques but none fill me like hubby does. Does that make sense?

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"Yep better not to make a comparison. Swinging play is just different to sex with your partner..."

I totally agree with you. It's the variety of being with someone else that spices up an already great sex life with your partner. Mmmmm. JB

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No one is better then my OH. When I cum with him it's something that reaches into my soul not just my body.

Other guys we've met have been great, some better than others but most have been worth the effort, however, none of them can make me cum like hubby can. I love being greedy, I love being made to cum over and over, I love the different sizes and techniques but none fill me like hubby does. Does that make sense? "

Yes.. this is exactly what I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I don't see it as a competition. Each partner brings something different so how could any one be better than another? To me that just isn't how it works.

Mrs. X"

That's exactly it. And then I have all the other things with the monkey that I'm simply not interested in with others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer is no, we have slowly gravitated toward a cuckold lifestyle and have been seeing a guy regularly on and off for around two years!

In that time the sex and intimacy has slowly got better and better to the point where I have openly admitted he is a better lover than my hubby!

It took a lot of understanding and trust on both of our parts to openly admit as I didn't want to hurt my hubby's feeling (did at first) but it's something we have worked through together and how we slowly discovered our preference for cuckolding.

The trouble we have is wanting this person in our life more than he is able to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And another thought that just occurred to me...Our sharing with others for me is as much about what I can offer to others sexually as what I can get...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Simple answer is no, we have slowly gravitated toward a cuckold lifestyle and have been seeing a guy regularly on and off for around two years!

In that time the sex and intimacy has slowly got better and better to the point where I have openly admitted he is a better lover than my hubby!

It took a lot of understanding and trust on both of our parts to openly admit as I didn't want to hurt my hubby's feeling (did at first) but it's something we have worked through together and how we slowly discovered our preference for cuckolding.

The trouble we have is wanting this person in our life more than he is able to offer."

See yours is perhaps an exception... But.... Is your lover not in a way now hour primary sexual partner.? I guess for me its who I'm closest to sexually... For you the added element of cuckold is what makes it so good.... Although I can not understand telling the person you love they are not the best but I do get that its the principle behind the cuckold... Ie that they aren't as good...

Thank you for sharing. So is your regular lover the best for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple answer is no, we have slowly gravitated toward a cuckold lifestyle and have been seeing a guy regularly on and off for around two years!

In that time the sex and intimacy has slowly got better and better to the point where I have openly admitted he is a better lover than my hubby!

It took a lot of understanding and trust on both of our parts to openly admit as I didn't want to hurt my hubby's feeling (did at first) but it's something we have worked through together and how we slowly discovered our preference for cuckolding.

The trouble we have is wanting this person in our life more than he is able to offer.

See yours is perhaps an exception... But.... Is your lover not in a way now hour primary sexual partner.? I guess for me its who I'm closest to sexually... For you the added element of cuckold is what makes it so good.... Although I can not understand telling the person you love they are not the best but I do get that its the principle behind the cuckold... Ie that they aren't as good...

Thank you for sharing. So is your regular lover the best for you"

You are correct yes, it does all tie in to the cuckold lifestyle in that the 'lover' should be the primary and indeed be better than my hubby. We have a dilemma in that we want to explore something a lot more regular with the man we see but both his and our personal life don't really allow it.

It took some time to openly admit my A was better than my hubby but it was hubby that asked after my first meet alone with A, I truly didn't want to admit it though deep down knew it to be the case and before we set out on this lifestyle together we promised total honesty with each other!

We believe sometimes these things can be a self fulfilling prophecy in a way as when hubby and I first met he was a fantastic lover (and still is) but there is just something about being with A that electrocutes me inside, it could just be the fact all three of us are working together at this and without one of the three, it wouldn't work the same?!

We are now at a cross roads with how we proceed as both myself and my hubby would like to explore a regular three way relationship with me taking A as my regular primary but as I've said life gets in the way! We go through a roller coaster of emotions after seeing him, both feeding off the experience together only to be let down when our schedules to meet and we can go weeks/months between meets.

The trouble have is do we find someone who can offer a regular thing and if we do can we find someone who offers the package!?

I can hand on heart day that emotionally no one comes close to what hubby and I share! The cuckolding only reinforces our commitment together and no one can get me off oraly like hubby can

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for those that have shared..

and to a certain few that prefer to send horrible messages about how its obvious we cant keep our partners happy..

you have no idea on swinging.. and as to you can see why my man would need other women.. Grow up lol

these sorts of comments are from people that have no place on swinging sites as you dont have a clue what it is about and leave it to the grown ups.

Its been interesting actually and a few comments have made me think about other ways of looking at things..

as while this stems from a convo on chat amongst friends.. I am guilty of asking if someone is better than me.. SO to look at it that to be honest they arent better its just different.. is a good thing.

Also of course seeing it from the cuckold perspective... That was really good to read and I always enjoy to see and read how others think and feel.

So thank you..

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By *ngel_38Woman
over a year ago

Staffs

Zzzzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Zzzzzzzzzz"

Care to share your thoughts on this.. as Do not think you would Dare to share them openly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Zzzzzzzzzz"

Sorry is this thread boring you? Or do you have any thoughts on the matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never swung as a couple - and not sure if I ever will - but have many swinging couples who are great friends!

From an outsiders point of view it seems fairly simple. What you get in a couple is sex for love - when you explore swinging together (if you can both cope with it emotionally) you get sex for fun and friendship - the icing on an already great cake!

The two are worlds apart but can compliment each other perfectly if it's what you both want - thus there shouldn't be conflict between the two. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main difference for us is we make love, ok so sometimes we do want to try something new and that usually is a pleasurable fuck.

On the whole I have not met anyone yet who is as good as Morrigan in bed she is loving and sweet, adventurous and willing to do something new but more important to me is the level of intimacy that is there.

Other women may have a few more tricks up their sleves but on the whole I wouldn't trade Mo in for anything. I love her.

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