FabSwingers.com forum: Conservatism

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a wave of conservatism overtaking fab? Your thoughts please

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I've noticed. Do you mean the forums, or the photos, or the attitudes of the people you chat to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not that I've noticed. Do you mean the forums, or the photos, or the attitudes of the people you chat to?"

Forums, in the main. The forums don't seem a fair reflection on what's going on in the mainstream. For example, I recently saw a thread about Socials. To read the Forums, you'd think they were the norm. In reality, they are rare - at least in my and Jane's experience! That's just one example though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a wave of conservatism overtaking fab? Your thoughts please "

No.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

with all the socials .. surely theres an increase of socialism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't actually say it's something that's jumping out of the forums or with my meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not that I've noticed. Do you mean the forums, or the photos, or the attitudes of the people you chat to?

They're not rare at all...I don't really pay that much attention but there's one in York every 2 months, I think the Wakefield one is monthly...Hull has regular ones too...as does Newcastle... not all are necessarily advertised on forums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not that I've noticed. Do you mean the forums, or the photos, or the attitudes of the people you chat to?

And the forum attracts only a very small percentage of members...so couldn't really be seen as a representative sample...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What? Just cuz most people disagree with bareback?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like"

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like"

Yep.

Plenty do just that.

Plenty also just meet for fun with no socials prior to meeting.

Plenty also just meet at clubs.

Plenty also meet at house parties.

There's no rules, no one size fits all and no right or wrong.

Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it's not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't arrange a proper meet (to have sex) without meeting them for a quick coffee social first.

I have to see people in the flesh first before I decide if I'm going to sleep with them, need to see if I'm going to get on with them and also to confirm they are actually the person in their pictures.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?"

Do you feel that's a good or bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

Do you feel that's a good or bad thing?"

It is a surprising, rather than good or bad, thing to find on a swingers site! That said it is invariably the Conservative crowd who fault find too readily and easily with others, which is disappointing

Live and let live is more an attitude you would expect from swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Live and let live is more an attitude you would expect from swingers"

You're joking?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I'm pretty fucking far from being conservative, that being said I won't just have sex with someone for the sake of having sex or just for the experience. I have to find someone attractive for me to be able to sleep with them, I can only make that decision from seeing them in the flesh.

I met someone at a hotel not long back and I'd only messaged and exchanged some pictures, on seeing him in the flesh I didn't fancy him at all. As he'd paid for the hotel and I'd driven pretty far in the dark I felt obliged to stay with him the night but told him that I'd got my period and couldn't do anything sexual!

Now had that been a coffee meet, it wouldn't have been anywhere near as awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?"

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?"

Ah ok, gotcha now. Well I'm one of those who does like to meet someone for coffee or whatever first. That's mainly for me to see if I get on with them enough in real life to want to let my non- conservative side out and fuck them. I'm not sure if that makes me more or less boring and traditional and conservative than someone else but it works for me so I don't particularly care.

I disagree that this is becoming more prevalent though, when I've seen questions about social meets first or not posted there's been a huge range of views expressed. Everyone works out what suits them so I'm sure there'll be people who do things the way you'd prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you meaning conservative with a small c or Conservative? Different things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend"

You only have to read about my barebacking thread to see how conservative attitudes are. Sadly the general condemnation means those who practice it often hide that fact and even tick the 'Safe Sex' option, for fear of being castigated. Just another example

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you meaning conservative with a small c or Conservative? Different things. "

Not wholly unrelated, I would suggest! The two tend to go hand in hand

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

Do you feel that's a good or bad thing?

Live and let live is more an attitude you would expect from swingers"

I understand now.

The point of this thread is because you feel that people have ganged up on you and you are finding myriad ways to point that out.

I'm sorry you feel that way. Best wishes on your fab journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" those who practice it often hide that fact and even tick the 'Safe Sex' option, for fear of being castigated. Just another example "

But that's exactly what you've done? Ticked the safe sex box and then started a thread telling everyone that you preferred bareback sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you meaning conservative with a small c or Conservative? Different things.

Not wholly unrelated, I would suggest! The two tend to go hand in hand "

Not necessarily. Plenty of, for example, old Labour supporters with very traditional social attitudes and values which I'd suggest could be described as conservative.

Is what your really describing judgemental, rather than conservative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

Oh please...

So 2 threads one on conservatism and one on cliques because a thread on a contentious issue didn't go your way

So people practicing safe sex is conservatism? Seriously most people call it common sense

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

I read it. I didn't see conservatism.

I saw people acknowledging it exists and stating their preferences. Of course it happens. But as was said it's the responsibility of us all to look after ourselves - not others.

I also find it ironic that you are so vocal about your preferences yet do as you accuse others of.

But a tick in a box makes no difference to most. Common sense is a far more useful tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

Do you feel that's a good or bad thing?

Live and let live is more an attitude you would expect from swingers

I understand now.

The point of this thread is because you feel that people have ganged up on you and you are finding myriad ways to point that out.

I'm sorry you feel that way. Best wishes on your fab journey."

(that's assuming I'm allowed to agree with someone else without being accused of ganging up on the OP)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op? do you think that by people on here not wanting blind date bareback meets is far too conservative and not liberal enough for a swinging site?

im off to work now but il bring the popcorn back with me later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I do find the term conservative in any swinging context funny.

I think people forget that any liberal attitude to swinging hwhether swingers or not is still on the far edge of what most people see as liberal.

But swinging does not guided your liberal views. I maybe pro swinging but anti bisexual. So am I liberal or ukip¿

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I agree. The amount of messages I get from Cameron, Portillo, Hague and that dodgy one is unreal. Very unreal in fact.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I agree. The amount of messages I get from Cameron, Portillo, Hague and that dodgy one is unreal. Very unreal in fact.

Is portillo conservative I thought he was into BBC nowadays.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I agree. The amount of messages I get from Cameron, Portillo, Hague and that dodgy one is unreal. Very unreal in fact.

Is portillo conservative I thought he was into BBC nowadays.

Isn't nearly everyone on here into BBC, though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?"

Check my single profile.

And be aware Jane and I will be using condoms at meets.

Is that ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I'm a political know nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

Oh please...

So 2 threads one on conservatism and one on cliques because a thread on a contentious issue didn't go your way

So people practicing safe sex is conservatism? Seriously most people call it common sense"

No. You're wrong. I have been thinking the forum posters were a cliquey lot and quite conservative for quite some time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?

Check my single profile.

And be aware Jane and I will be using condoms at meets.

Is that ok?"

So I take it Jane won't fuck you bareback or swallow your cum seeing as you go bareback when meeting on your single profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?

Check my single profile.

And be aware Jane and I will be using condoms at meets.

Is that ok?

So I take it Jane won't fuck you bareback or swallow your cum seeing as you go bareback when meeting on your single profile?"

What?????? Lol

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I don't know. I'm a political know nothing "

You should run for president of fab then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?

Check my single profile.

And be aware Jane and I will be using condoms at meets.

Is that ok?

So I take it Jane won't fuck you bareback or swallow your cum seeing as you go bareback when meeting on your single profile?

What?????? Lol"

What don't you understand?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

There are so many things.

Black holes.

Why spandex?

Why the square root of -1. Would ever be a useful thing to know.¿

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a wave of conservatism overtaking fab? Your thoughts please "

What do you mean by conservatism? Do you have some examples please?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Is there a wave of conservatism overtaking fab? Your thoughts please

What do you mean by conservatism? Do you have some examples please?"

To many people with glasshouse extensions. Really fucking winds me up too.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Is there a wave of conservatism overtaking fab? Your thoughts please

What do you mean by conservatism? Do you have some examples please?

To many people with glasshouse extensions. Really fucking winds me up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

Oh please...

So 2 threads one on conservatism and one on cliques because a thread on a contentious issue didn't go your way

So people practicing safe sex is conservatism? Seriously most people call it common sense

No. You're wrong. I have been thinking the forum posters were a cliquey lot and quite conservative for quite some time"

Ok so give me some other examples of conservatism? Though I repeat my point that not agreeing with someone is not conservatism

The forum accepts people of all genders all sexual persuasions, let's us talk about all manner of kink and sexual preferences, it allows debate on all manner of topics, little is censored, very little is taboo (unless it's illegal), moderation is almost always linked to behaviour not topic - so how is tge forum conservative?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

Oh please...

So 2 threads one on conservatism and one on cliques because a thread on a contentious issue didn't go your way

So people practicing safe sex is conservatism? Seriously most people call it common sense

No. You're wrong. I have been thinking the forum posters were a cliquey lot and quite conservative for quite some time

Ok so give me some other examples of conservatism? Though I repeat my point that not agreeing with someone is not conservatism

Thought you didn't want to talk to me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?

Check my single profile.

And be aware Jane and I will be using condoms at meets.

Is that ok?

So I take it Jane won't fuck you bareback or swallow your cum seeing as you go bareback when meeting on your single profile?

What?????? Lol

What don't you understand?"

Why you think Jane won't let me fuck her bareback???

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we should all be barebacking and avoid socials as we are not real swingers otherwise. Personally I'll run my profile for me just like you run yours for you.

Incidentally still no mention of barebacking on your profile and still lists safe sex as an interest. Will your next thread be about dishonest profiles?

Check my single profile.

And be aware Jane and I will be using condoms at meets.

Is that ok?

So I take it Jane won't fuck you bareback or swallow your cum seeing as you go bareback when meeting on your single profile?

What?????? Lol

What don't you understand?

Why you think Jane won't let me fuck her bareback??? "

Because you've just said you will both be wearing condoms at meets yet she lets you fuck her after going bareback with other women? Now why would she do that? Whats the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm friends with a Conservative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

I think you find people conservative because they do not do barebacking.

I think that is unfair, people weigh up the risks and decide that it isn't for them, either through experience or just general advice.

Because they do not agree with your mindset does not make them 'squares'

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Are you meaning conservative with a small c or Conservative? Different things.

Not wholly unrelated, I would suggest! The two tend to go hand in hand "

Not at all in my opinion...Conservative and pretty uninhibited here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

I think you find people conservative because they do not do barebacking.

I think that is unfair, people weigh up the risks and decide that it isn't for them, either through experience or just general advice.

Because they do not agree with your mindset does not make them 'squares'

You're wrong. It is their right to use protection and that's fair enough. It's conservative because of the castigation of those that bb. That simply means those that bb are loath to admit it.

For example, my post asked for people to admit they bb when swinging.

How many did? Count them!

They were put off by the above attitudes. Simple as that

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I'm friends with a Conservative.

Throw her out? Where is my pitch fork?

You can never get a good mob when you need one.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

I think you find people conservative because they do not do barebacking.

I think that is unfair, people weigh up the risks and decide that it isn't for them, either through experience or just general advice.

Because they do not agree with your mindset does not make them 'squares'

You're wrong. It is their right to use protection and that's fair enough. It's conservative because of the castigation of those that bb. That simply means those that bb are loath to admit it.

For example, my post asked for people to admit they bb when swinging.

How many did? Count them!

They were put off by the above attitudes. Simple as that "

Or they in fact don't!

Simple as that too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

Oh please...

So 2 threads one on conservatism and one on cliques because a thread on a contentious issue didn't go your way

So people practicing safe sex is conservatism? Seriously most people call it common sense

No. You're wrong. I have been thinking the forum posters were a cliquey lot and quite conservative for quite some time

Ok so give me some other examples of conservatism? Though I repeat my point that not agreeing with someone is not conservatism

Thought you didn't want to talk to me?"

Not at all. Happy to discuss anything publicly in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like

We hope this isn't the case .

We are well known round here for not doing socials !

Plenty of other sites for meeting up for a coffee !

Precisely!

Yet many were saying they had to meet for a coffee, chat etc for a first meet then meet again another time.

Conservative, I'd suggest?

People doing things differently to you isn't 'conservatism'

And one weak example is hardly indicative of a trend

I think you find people conservative because they do not do barebacking.

I think that is unfair, people weigh up the risks and decide that it isn't for them, either through experience or just general advice.

Because they do not agree with your mindset does not make them 'squares'

You're wrong. It is their right to use protection and that's fair enough. It's conservative because of the castigation of those that bb. That simply means those that bb are loath to admit it.

For example, my post asked for people to admit they bb when swinging.

How many did? Count them!

They were put off by the above attitudes. Simple as that "

Put off by the attitudes? Or simply don't bareback?

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over a year ago

" For example, my post asked for people to admit they bb when swinging.

How many did? Count them!

They were put off by the above attitudes. Simple as that

Put off by the attitudes? Or simply don't bareback?"

This is where the problem arose [pardon the pun] but the OP point blank refused to accept when people said they didn't/no longer have bareback sex

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over a year ago

"Are you meaning conservative with a small c or Conservative? Different things.

Not wholly unrelated, I would suggest! The two tend to go hand in hand

Not at all in my opinion...Conservative and pretty uninhibited here

You're not alone either, in my experience

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

what about those who on here are sometimes referred to as being members of the 'pc brigade'..

pinko lefty sandal wearing soft on crime do gooding liberals is another one..

who also disagree with the OP..?

its bloody exclusion I tells ya..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"what about those who on here are sometimes referred to as being members of the 'pc brigade'..

pinko lefty sandal wearing soft on crime do gooding liberals is another one..

who also disagree with the OP..?

its bloody exclusion I tells ya..

That's how my other half describes me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm friends with a Conservative.

Throw her out? Where is my pitch fork?

You can never get a good mob when you need one."

She fancies Jeremy Clarkson too....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"what about those who on here are sometimes referred to as being members of the 'pc brigade'..

pinko lefty sandal wearing soft on crime do gooding liberals is another one..

who also disagree with the OP..?

its bloody exclusion I tells ya..

That's how my other half describes me!

tell him ty for the 'badge of honour'..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I'm friends with a Conservative.

Throw her out? Where is my pitch fork?

You can never get a good mob when you need one.

She fancies Jeremy Clarkson too....

fuck she needs help..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh bollox

Has that David cameron got a MM profile with george osborne !

Some big pussies on there pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say the forums are alot more liberal than conservative!

Anytime theres any juicy debate the thread gets closed !

Were all adults let us debate

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over a year ago

"I think you find people conservative because they do not do barebacking.

I think that is unfair, people weigh up the risks and decide that it isn't for them, either through experience or just general advice.

Because they do not agree with your mindset does not make them 'squares'

You're wrong. It is their right to use protection and that's fair enough. It's conservative because of the castigation of those that bb. That simply means those that bb are loath to admit it.

For example, my post asked for people to admit they bb when swinging.

How many did? Count them!

They were put off by the above attitudes. Simple as that "

No I am not wrong, people do not agree with you so you call them names. It's the equivalent of a man telling everyone a woman is frigid for not sleeping with him.

You use the point that no one will openly admit that they bareback. People do not have to tell you the truth, it is their business, same as it's yours if you go bare. No one in their right mind is going to shout their private business just to support your viewpoint and you can not expect them too????

You need to understand that it is not socially acceptable to go bareback, same as it is not socially acceptable to smoke or use a phone when driving. By understanding this you show you respect someones right to make that decision, same as most will respect your right to live your sex life how you want.

But again we are social animals, just because you have the right to live your sex life how you want doesn't mean that society will not judge you.

But how do you not be judged...oh yes by keeping your private life private which feeds back to my point in the first paragraph.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a wave of conservatism overtaking fab? Your thoughts please

What do you mean by conservatism? Do you have some examples please?"

No reply OP?

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over a year ago

"I'm friends with a Conservative.

Throw her out? Where is my pitch fork?

You can never get a good mob when you need one.

She fancies Jeremy Clarkson too....

fuck she needs help.."

Yup!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I wouldn't arrange a proper meet (to have sex) without meeting them for a quick coffee social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't arrange a proper meet (to have sex) without meeting them for a quick coffee social first.

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By *ountry girl1980Woman
over a year ago

Hyde

I've had many social meets for coffee ect some I've decided to go for it on the next meet one or two I've pounced on them right there !!!! Always like to meet somebody 1st though without the pressure of it having to go somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meant socials as in individual meets. People meeting for coffee and the like"

We always have socials first...maybe it's about what you ask for from people?

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over a year ago

I still don't really understand how a social meet is the action of a Conservative or even a conservative...

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