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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've all seen it a guy puts a post up and comes out that he's cheating or something like that and at that moment he's committed fabicide and the whole forum descends on him. A woman posts something similar yet the reaction sometimes the complete opposite.

I think I have an answer for why this happens which probably completely wrong but would like to hear others thoughts first

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Men and women get exactly the same response from me, and its usually the case with other posts. Its only white-knighter men who support women whatever they do and say.

Actually, if the guy is good looking and has a huge wang I might let him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it all depends if the wolves have been fed, and how the op comes across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a newcomer to the forums I would say that the regular posters are pretty even handed about.

If the person is against it for men they tend to hold the same opinion for women. Others are and ambivalent and think that it is a personal issue for the man/woman and their partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone on here is using the site to cheat then that is their business not mine. Male or female. I just stay out of the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't see any difference what ever the sex the person is we do find it amusing though how different some peoples reaction is and even more amusing when the hyenas jump in once someone has started the blood bath.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

nope... i am equal ops on the subject... its not a men or a woman playing away... its a person playing away.....

the only reason it may look that way is that women are smarter as to not really come on here so much with the "oh woe is me" routine.....

but they get the same treatment from me.... i am proud that is the case

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"We've all seen it a guy puts a post up and comes out that he's cheating or something like that and at that moment he's committed fabicide and the whole forum descends on him. A woman posts something similar yet the reaction sometimes the complete opposite.

I think I have an answer for why this happens which probably completely wrong but would like to hear others thoughts first"

I wish I had someone I could cheat on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't see any difference what ever the sex the person is we do find it amusing though how different some peoples reaction is and even more amusing when the hyenas jump in once someone has started the blood bath. "

see that's the mob mentality probably in action there.

The reason I asked about this was because of a post the other week where a woman had lost her fb but seemed like she was cheating on her husband. Quite a few people were offering her sympathy but pretty sure if had been a guy things would have been different.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I don't judge what anyone is up to. No one knows what's going on at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't see any difference what ever the sex the person is we do find it amusing though how different some peoples reaction is and even more amusing when the hyenas jump in once someone has started the blood bath.

see that's the mob mentality probably in action there.

The reason I asked about this was because of a post the other week where a woman had lost her fb but seemed like she was cheating on her husband. Quite a few people were offering her sympathy but pretty sure if had been a guy things would have been different."

That was indeed a very interesting thread!!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"

I wish I had someone I could cheat on "

I'm not sure that's quite the attitude to win one over

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne


"If someone on here is using the site to cheat then that is their business not mine. Male or female. I just stay out of the conversation. "
and its a ditto from me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"We don't see any difference what ever the sex the person is we do find it amusing though how different some peoples reaction is and even more amusing when the hyenas jump in once someone has started the blood bath.

see that's the mob mentality probably in action there.

The reason I asked about this was because of a post the other week where a woman had lost her fb but seemed like she was cheating on her husband. Quite a few people were offering her sympathy but pretty sure if had been a guy things would have been different."

I think it took a while for people to cotton on that she was indeed attached. I tend not to check profiles of the people who post so can be caught out that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that married women get the same response as married men - it's just that they don't start 5 threads a day banging on about it, so it seems like they don't.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"

I wish I had someone I could cheat on

I'm not sure that's quite the attitude to win one over "

Nothing else has ever worked, so I thought this might

OK guys, who wants a wife/gf who will cheat on them? I am very 'cheatable'

Nope, that didn't work either; will rethink stragegy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I wish I had someone I could cheat on

I'm not sure that's quite the attitude to win one over

Nothing else has ever worked, so I thought this might

OK guys, who wants a wife/gf who will cheat on them? I am very 'cheatable'

Nope, that didn't work either; will rethink stragegy "

I've seen posts from single guys wanting to be cuckolded. Sounds like the ideal situation

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

A vagina on here is like the combination to Fort Knox to some........

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"

I wish I had someone I could cheat on

I'm not sure that's quite the attitude to win one over

Nothing else has ever worked, so I thought this might

OK guys, who wants a wife/gf who will cheat on them? I am very 'cheatable'

Nope, that didn't work either; will rethink stragegy

I've seen posts from single guys wanting to be cuckolded. Sounds like the ideal situation "

I'd rather keep gathering dust on the shelf

but each to their own; xxx

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"A vagina on here is like the combination to Fort Knox to some........"

555111

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"A vagina on here is like the combination to Fort Knox to some........

555111 "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone on here is using the site to cheat then that is their business not mine. Male or female. I just stay out of the conversation. "

me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men and women get exactly the same response from me, and its usually the case with other posts. Its only white-knighter men who support women whatever they do and say.

Actually, if the guy is good looking and has a huge wang I might let him off. "

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

So come on OP, what's your theory?

Our theory is that it's caused by the different ways people respond to a cheating partner.

Generally a bloke that is cheated on will blame his partner, a woman will blame whoever he cheated with. That's when you get some bunny boiler banging on the door screaming that you shagged her husband.

Who needs shit like that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well call it cynical but loads of "single" men of this site compared to "single" women. Reducing the competition while showing yourself to be whiter than white could be a great tactic to enhance their chance of getting a meet yet commenting on a female's post detrimental to their goals.

As said before and considering the responses so far I could be completely wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its simple

She has a fanny and they're in demand on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its simple

She has a fanny and they're in demand on here"

Supply and demand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god OP

U dont mean guys on here Arn't treated equally ??

Gosh who'd of thought tat !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some men wont treat the same, in case it ruins the chances they may have.

They would rather play the white knight.

Her

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By *ountry girl1980Woman
over a year ago

Hyde

I'm not bothered about somebody cheating what does get to me is when they lie about it and you find yourself in a situation you weren't prepared for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of "singles" we have chatted to or met are in relationships and it doesn't bother us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of the ladies ive met are married and im not bothered atall !

Just servicing needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's often to the way the post is written. From threads I've read read by cheats the men who post are usually trying to justify their actions in some way, as Fabio said play the 'woe is me, my wife doesn't understand me' line and think they'll get understanding, whereas the women tend to be a bit more accepting of responsibility for their own actions. I know that is a very general and sweeping statement and there are exceptions to it but in the main that's what I find and is probably why men get berated that bit more, they often set themselves up for it.

Personally I just try to avoid cheats, and usually cheating related threads, because there's too much drama involved for my liking

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