FabSwingers.com forum: wife's sister not getting any sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok didn't know how to word the thread title, long and short is.

Jools was saying her sister and hubby not had some sex for over a year.

We joked saying we should tell her about fabs.

Don't worry we not about to, could get embarrassing should she see our pic's.

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Would anyone be inclined to tell a sis or bro should they be in a loveless, sexless marriage?

Or better to stay the hell out of it?

And before any guy's say invite her to play etc...

Not an option it's jools sister. out of bounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd stay out of it.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I'd stay out of it. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's best to stay out of it. Unless she's really depressed about it. I too am in a sexless relationship, it's not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stay out of it...other than her sister telling her,as she presumably has done, that she'll be there for her..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

stay well clear unless asked then think forty times before becoming involved.

Unless you hear both sides of the story you stand a good chance of making things much, much worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id stay well away. And maybe the hubby is allready on here having a ball

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Nope.

I don't agree with cheating so I wouldn't encourage anyone to, not even a family member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay well clear of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope.

I don't agree with cheating so I wouldn't encourage anyone to, not even a family member."

Very true and Infact we always preaching about the fact that cheating isn't swinging. So 100% right.

It was honestly a hyperthetical question. Telling her sister was never an option we discussed it in passing.

Just thought it was an interesting subject to discuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is one can of worms I would not touch. Stay well out of it.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Their sisters they tell each other things like this who else would she tell. Maybe jools could suggest ways to reignite the fire between her sister and her hubbie candle lit dinner when he comes home herself dressed to impress u know what I mean dirty weekend a marriage takes effort

Yes I am married on here as a single and no not a sexless marriage we have our own reasons why I playaway

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

Do you know if they have spoken to a councilor? Maybe you could get some info together through good old google that your wife could discreetly pass on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She has tried everything. He does not want to know, they lead pretty much separate lives.

Tbh think the marriage is over and has been for years she just scared to start all over again.

Pretty sad really not her being scared just sad when a marriage ends.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok didn't know how to word the thread title, long and short is.

Jools was saying her sister and hubby not had some sex for over a year.

We joked saying we should tell her about fabs.

Don't worry we not about to, could get embarrassing should she see our pic's.

However

Would anyone be inclined to tell a sis or bro should they be in a loveless, sexless marriage?

Or better to stay the hell out of it?

And before any guy's say invite her to play etc...

Not an option it's jools sister. out of bounds. "

I'd mine my own business!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She has tried everything. He does not want to know, they lead pretty much separate lives.

Tbh think the marriage is over and has been for years she just scared to start all over again.

Pretty sad really not her being scared just sad when a marriage ends. "

but still you're only hearing her side of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True. And you are right they are both as bad as each other.

I usually don't make a comment on the matter.

Like I said an interesting discussion point, one that must strike a cord with lots on here.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"I'd stay out of it. "

Yup stay well away lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always be here for my sister to talk to but i would never give advice to leave or cheat as that's not my place, adults can make their own minds up

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Incrediblyly sad. The thought of starting again is scary but in my own experience being single much better than being in an unhappy relationship. I hope she finds a way to resolve this

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I'd stay out of it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere"

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?"

Well im making a couple of assumptions but, im thinkin if shes still young and pretty then she must get alot of attention and offers and she must get tempted!

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I was in a sexless relationship for almost 3 years till I eventually woke up one day and thought 'fuck this I'm off' and I left the same day! I didn't want sex with him but I wanted sex! Perhaps I should have played away but I didn't . I'm certainly trying to make up for it now tho

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?

Well im making a couple of assumptions but, im thinkin if shes still young and pretty then she must get alot of attention and offers and she must get tempted!"

This poor lady, you don't know her but you're saying she is going behind her husbands back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?

Well im making a couple of assumptions but, im thinkin if shes still young and pretty then she must get alot of attention and offers and she must get tempted!

This poor lady, you don't know her but you're saying she is going behind her husbands back

Lol im not saying she is for definate, im only assuming....maybe her hubby is cheating too?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?

Well im making a couple of assumptions but, im thinkin if shes still young and pretty then she must get alot of attention and offers and she must get tempted!

This poor lady, you don't know her but you're saying she is going behind her husbands back

Lol im not saying she is for definate, im only assuming....maybe her hubby is cheating too?!"

who knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister and I always tell each other the shit we can't tell anyone else. . its the way we are. .

I would always seek to advise her as she is my sister, if she chooses to take that advise is her decision. . in fairness . . I would never take my brother in law sides, even when I know she is in the wrong. . she has always had a rough ride and no matter what she needs to know I will always be there for her. . as she has been for me. .

The problem we have now is the Atlantic Ocean between us. . I miss her and would always have her back. .

Family in my book always stick together xx

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By *roncoverssereneCouple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

"stay well clear unless asked then think forty times before becoming involved.

Unless you hear both sides of the story you stand a good chance of making things much, much worse. "

This.

If out comes within the family huddle bubble it'll cause mucho trouble. Impartial is the road, however empathy and understanding bring them into reaching nirvana. All the Best

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By *roncoverssereneCouple
over a year ago

NearYouVille

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?

Well im making a couple of assumptions but, im thinkin if shes still young and pretty then she must get alot of attention and offers and she must get tempted!"
if the situation was yours, would you knowingly have wished for that scenario...?

No assumption can 100%.

Best giving them some space, got to be difficult, now matter the time of life...true?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon shes getting sex elsewhere

do you? How do you come to that conclusion?

Well im making a couple of assumptions but, im thinkin if shes still young and pretty then she must get alot of attention and offers and she must get tempted! if the situation was yours, would you knowingly have wished for that scenario...?

No assumption can 100%.

Best giving them some space, got to be difficult, now matter the time of life...true?"

Wouldnt wish for that scenario if i was in their shoes, but i would wonder if it was happening

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If someone asks for advice I'll give it. But my advice would be to resolve there current relationship first.

If they decide to split then when ready I'd let them know about fab if they are unsure of finding their own fun.

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

Well if she's half as hot as Jools then it's gotta be tempting though lol .

"Ok didn't know how to word the thread title, long and short is.

Jools was saying her sister and hubby not had some sex for over a year.

We joked saying we should tell her about fabs.

Don't worry we not about to, could get embarrassing should she see our pic's.

However

Would anyone be inclined to tell a sis or bro should they be in a loveless, sexless marriage?

Or better to stay the hell out of it?

And before any guy's say invite her to play etc...

Not an option it's jools sister. out of bounds. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay out of it 100% or risk sounding like you're a) hitting on them b) one of those sex maniac people (come on we've all been called something like that) or c) planly offending because they think it's none of your business

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Maybe she should have the conversation that i had with my ex when we were still married:

Me: is sex important in our relationship?

Her: no not really.

Me: so it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then?

Her: now that you've put it like that yes it is important

Me: ok so why don't we have it more often then?

Result: she took me upstairs and ssagged my brains out! (The marriage didn't last though. )

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

Your wife needs to talk to her see if she is happy when cpl start meet men lots break up mate

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Maybe she should have the conversation that i had with my ex when we were still married:

Me: is sex important in our relationship?

Her: no not really.

Me: so it doesn't matter if I get it somewhere else then?

Her: now that you've put it like that yes it is important

Me: ok so why don't we have it more often then?

Result: she took me upstairs and ssagged my brains out! (The marriage didn't last though. )"

This thread aside that is a very succinct way of putting it.

I think if more people had that conversation it might make people realise just how important sex is even if they themselves claim it isn't.

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