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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why do women have profiles saying they are looking for couples then after u get chatting and arrange a meet then suddenly say they dont play alone! its frustrating! please to all those who have profiles like that... be honest from the start!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I can understand couples having another profile but agree with you that they should be honest right from the get go! I can imagine it must be quite annoying to expect one thing then all of a sudden the dynamics of the situation changes! Z

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i did mention it earlier in another thread where they were slating single guys posing as couple.... this is no different as far as i am concerned and you are right that in a sense it is deception......

but they are treating differently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

even when we go on the "browse" looking for a women, many times when we look at their profile u find they in fact a couple!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had this about 10 minutes ago lol a single woman profile. chatting great and finding out more and she suddenly says 4of us. we said so your playing as a cpl and she said yes a cpl. very misleading as we dont even know who the guy is ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a single profile and a couples profile with my babe but I am honest in my profile and messages. I know it can be annoying but the reason I keep my single profile on there is because 1) it can be easier making initial contact as a woman if done the right way and 2) because every now and then I like to swing alone although not very often!

The couples profiles where it is only a single male I find more annoying or if you start chatting to a couple and then the male starts coming on strong when you've specified you are only interested in playing with a couple as a couple is the pits!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I don't think there is any difference between a single fem profile that all of a sudden produces a male that will always be around during any play or a single guy thats posing as a couple to get more *hits*

Both are misleading if its not mentioned on the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play, this is not meant to mislead, so although i understand it may be off putting for some if my profile is read properly then there should be no room for misunderstanding

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play"

How does that work then? If a guy takes you for a meal, will your hubby be eating with you or stood outside the restaurant, peering in through the window? The "going out with a single female" experience just wouldn't be the same. Absolutely right it's off-putting. I'd rather you simply said you were a couple and call a threesome a threesome, even if only two take an active part in it.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play

How does that work then? If a guy takes you for a meal, will your hubby be eating with you or stood outside the restaurant, peering in through the window? The "going out with a single female" experience just wouldn't be the same. Absolutely right it's off-putting. I'd rather you simply said you were a couple and call a threesome a threesome, even if only two take an active part in it."

lol - ah this made me laugh! 'Going out with'????? I am sure that some people do go for meals etc (we have in the past) but as this is a swinging site then it's usually meeting up for nsa sex! There are so many different variations as I know of several couples where the lady go go and play on her own and it's no problem - (if you've got to grips with what swinging is that is!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a single profile and a couples profile with my babe but I am honest in my profile and messages. I know it can be annoying but the reason I keep my single profile on there is because 1) it can be easier making initial contact as a woman if done the right way and 2) because every now and then I like to swing alone although not very often!

The couples profiles where it is only a single male I find more annoying or if you start chatting to a couple and then the male starts coming on strong when you've specified you are only interested in playing with a couple as a couple is the pits! "

As Honey said, it is the same thing as what guys posing as couples do, maximising chances of initial contact.

If those profiles annoy you then think about it, you could put off potential meets by annoying others doing the same thing, I mean you look attractive enough in your pics. Now if a we was to be contacted by a single female we'd be like oh cool this single female messaged blah de blah, but then to find it was actually a couple would disappoint,but if that same person was to contact us as a couple then there would be no disappointment as we would be like, cool, this couple have contacted us.

Also let me add, if you make it clear you have a single profile because you sometimes meet that way then surely you have to expect people to ask you to meet alone, as you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play

How does that work then? If a guy takes you for a meal, will your hubby be eating with you or stood outside the restaurant, peering in through the window? The "going out with a single female" experience just wouldn't be the same. Absolutely right it's off-putting. I'd rather you simply said you were a couple and call a threesome a threesome, even if only two take an active part in it.

lol - ah this made me laugh! 'Going out with'????? I am sure that some people do go for meals etc (we have in the past) but as this is a swinging site then it's usually meeting up for nsa sex! There are so many different variations as I know of several couples where the lady go go and play on her own and it's no problem - (if you've got to grips with what swinging is that is!)"

I guess you've not 'swung' as a single then,it's not entirely uncommon for two singles to make it a date with the intention of sex rather than just the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hate single women profiles when they are a couple.

It would be ok for Sasha to do it as she plays alone without me needing to be in the house and if I am in the house I make myself scarce and certainly dont want to go in the bedroom and watch but if a partner is going to watch then they are a couple not a fem alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as for the "no sex dates with couples and singles" when I was single I went on holiday with a couple who never used to play with me they were just swinging friends, last week we went to visit a couple we have never played with and never will, we have known them about 4 years and often visit them or them us sometimes going to chameleons together. we have loads of such friends in the scene

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By *L-FuncoupleCouple
over a year ago

East Lothian

We get messaged regularly from a fem, who has never swapped a pic but is trying her damnest to organise a 3 sum between me, the mrs and her FB. If he has fun, she'll get involved at the next meet. I'd report it to admin as a male posing as a female but he would only reregister.

Theres no mention of a male in the profile, claims to be a single female playing alone

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"We get messaged regularly from a fem, who has never swapped a pic but is trying her damnest to organise a 3 sum between me, the mrs and her FB. If he has fun, she'll get involved at the next meet. I'd report it to admin as a male posing as a female but he would only reregister.

Theres no mention of a male in the profile, claims to be a single female playing alone"

REPORT it, I know you say he will just re register, but Admin put certain blocks in place to try and prevent it.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"We get messaged regularly from a fem, who has never swapped a pic but is trying her damnest to organise a 3 sum between me, the mrs and her FB. If he has fun, she'll get involved at the next meet. I'd report it to admin as a male posing as a female but he would only reregister.

Theres no mention of a male in the profile, claims to be a single female playing alone"

Have you not considered blocking them?

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By *ixson-BallsMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

sounds like this is the bain of all swinging sites, people pretending to be one thing to gain what, excitement? a thrill?..who knows but it'll never stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's not just single women that do this single guys put up cpl's profiles and cpls put up singles profiles there is very little way to stop it admin do there best on here in all things but there is only so much they can do.

I do wish there was a name and shame room or forum but hay ho we just need to keep blocking and looking for the real ppl on here xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we also have had the same problem looking for a single fem for are first time and all we get is yes if partner can come along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play

How does that work then? If a guy takes you for a meal, will your hubby be eating with you or stood outside the restaurant, peering in through the window? The "going out with a single female" experience just wouldn't be the same. Absolutely right it's off-putting. I'd rather you simply said you were a couple and call a threesome a threesome, even if only two take an active part in it.

lol - ah this made me laugh! 'Going out with'????? I am sure that some people do go for meals etc (we have in the past) but as this is a swinging site then it's usually meeting up for nsa sex! There are so many different variations as I know of several couples where the lady go go and play on her own and it's no problem - (if you've got to grips with what swinging is that is!)

I guess you've not 'swung' as a single then,it's not entirely uncommon for two singles to make it a date with the intention of sex rather than just the sex."

I quite agree.

I always meet socially first: it ranges from coffee to dinner, trips to the theatre/opera...I've even accompanied one playmate to a wedding!

Naturally, it is different for couples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play

How does that work then? If a guy takes you for a meal, will your hubby be eating with you or stood outside the restaurant, peering in through the window? The "going out with a single female" experience just wouldn't be the same. Absolutely right it's off-putting. I'd rather you simply said you were a couple and call a threesome a threesome, even if only two take an active part in it."

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a single profile and a couples profile with my babe but I am honest in my profile and messages. I know it can be annoying but the reason I keep my single profile on there is because 1) it can be easier making initial contact as a woman if done the right way and 2) because every now and then I like to swing alone although not very often!

The couples profiles where it is only a single male I find more annoying or if you start chatting to a couple and then the male starts coming on strong when you've specified you are only interested in playing with a couple as a couple is the pits!

As Honey said, it is the same thing as what guys posing as couples do, maximising chances of initial contact.

If those profiles annoy you then think about it, you could put off potential meets by annoying others doing the same thing, I mean you look attractive enough in your pics. Now if a we was to be contacted by a single female we'd be like oh cool this single female messaged blah de blah, but then to find it was actually a couple would disappoint,but if that same person was to contact us as a couple then there would be no disappointment as we would be like, cool, this couple have contacted us.

Also let me add, if you make it clear you have a single profile because you sometimes meet that way then surely you have to expect people to ask you to meet alone, as you do."

Totally understand what you are saying but I would never mislead anyone into thinking I was looking for something I wasn't. If I contact a single person or a couple I make it clear if I'm looking to meet them either on my own or as part of a couple, whichever is true at the time of contact.

If people want to contact me to see if I want to play on my own at this moment in time the answer is a polite no as I'm enjoying playing with my partner too much at the moment and have no desire to leave him out. This may change in the future though.

Should I hide my profile in the meantime? Personally I don't think so but appreciate your feedback

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No, no need to hide it, but if you are playing as a couple then you need a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thought it was only us having the problem!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv been missin out on a free meal??? gutted!!!!

a wee bit of honesty goes a long long way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very wary of this...often have the same thing...girls mailing for one on one...then at arranging a meet they produce a boyfriend ..who needs to transport them as they dont drive...but its okey he will just sit in the room and watch....LMFAO...do these "couples" really think this strategy will work...I'm BAFFLED...!!!!!!!!!

It really does insult peeps...to think anyone will fall for it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a couple mail me on my old profile, their profile stated they dont meet single mails but the lady said she would be interested in meeting on her own as a new thing.

we exchanged mails and pics and built up a rapport, then she suddenly said she would only meet with her partner, i politely asked if there was a reason for the change (worried it was something to do with me). then her partner got involved and said i'd blown it with her for questioning the way they do things.

i just left them to it after that as dont need the hassle, but i did feel like he was making me out to be a predatory male or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iv been missin out on a free meal??? gutted!!!!

a wee bit of honesty goes a long long way xx"

Hey, nobody said it has to be the guy only that pays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men do it too. they pose as single men, and then ask you to join in with female partner and if you are Bi. Even if you put on your profile you don't want to have sex with a female!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, no need to hide it, but if you are playing as a couple then you need a couples profile."

Which we have and which it states on my profile! Thanks again for the feedback!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have both a couples profile and a single profile.

On my single profile it states that my hubby will be present although he will not play

How does that work then? If a guy takes you for a meal, will your hubby be eating with you or stood outside the restaurant, peering in through the window? The "going out with a single female" experience just wouldn't be the same. Absolutely right it's off-putting. I'd rather you simply said you were a couple and call a threesome a threesome, even if only two take an active part in it.

lol - ah this made me laugh! 'Going out with'????? I am sure that some people do go for meals etc (we have in the past) but as this is a swinging site then it's usually meeting up for nsa sex! There are so many different variations as I know of several couples where the lady go go and play on her own and it's no problem - (if you've got to grips with what swinging is that is!)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any tech heads out there that could make an app called red alert to remind you when your partner is about to come on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did mention it earlier in another thread where they were slating single guys posing as couple.... this is no different as far as i am concerned and you are right that in a sense it is deception......

but they are treating differently

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well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a chatted to a hot chick all for arranging meet then she sprung her b/f on me to tag along and join in as hes more into a cd for meet a single profile she had no mention of him at all .. just last minute right b4 meet was arranged

i declined as i felt misled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely loath single girl profike where it's really a couple and the partner suddenly get introduced into the equation, it's more of a deception than single guys pretending to be couples/ladies

Also do not get and have heard all the ridiculous justifications on couples that have single profiles too but don't meet separately

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I have a couple and a single fem account. I meet women alone on my single account. We use the couple account to make arrangements to meet at clubs and my partner uses his single male account to get single meets too. I kept my single fem account when we got together for just that reason ... I want to meet single females, not couples on that account and I get really annoyed if they message me and a man pops up out of nowhere. I could do that too, but I don't. I want to meet as a single fem and I assume the other single fem does too. I would have expected admin to pick up more of these type accounts as they initially made my single fem account into a couple one because I mentioned my partner on it, even though it was clear from the text and verifications that I meet alone. I think its fine to have different accounts if they are from different things .... sometimes I go to the restaurant alone, sometimes I go with my partner. When I go alone, I enjoy different dishes than those we share.

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