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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

During a first meet, should a guy wait to be invited for a bit of backdoor action or test the waters with a gentle nudge? I've always waited to be asked but would like to know what others do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wait to be invited....not something i like to be suprised by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that anal, along with everything else, should be discussed before meeting someone. That way there's no confusion, disappointment or embarrassment during and after the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait to be invited other wise you may have to hold on for the ride of your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gentle nudge might get you a not so gentle nudge out the front door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A dig in the kidneys to open er oop works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During a first meet, should a guy wait to be invited for a bit of backdoor action or test the waters with a gentle nudge? I've always waited to be asked but would like to know what others do. "

If you were talking anel that'd be a different story...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait for an invite, that has to be a trusted pleasure, not just after a little while.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any kind of more elaborate than usual sexual practice should ideally be discussed beforehand rather than attempted on the fly - and by virtue on the fact that shit comes out of the anus, it's probably best for both parties if thorough preparation is exercised beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!"

Damn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!"

Yeah but a lot of people say that they go with the flow during a meet. Nothing wrong with either as long as everyone is happy.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

When I analize a guy OR girl, I always check that they are ready,or if they want some lube, a finger , a tongue..

and if wanting anal..PLEASE DOUCHE

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think has has be to agreed before the meet.

You need to have cleaned your butt out in order to fully enjoy in and that is less likely to have been done adequately if you just 'give a nudge' lol.

I'd always wait to be asked if not previously discussed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!

Yeah but a lot of people say that they go with the flow during a meet. Nothing wrong with either as long as everyone is happy. "

Very true but as others have said, there is a certain amount of preparation required. I love anal with the right person, someone I know and trust, never a first meet and if a first meet gave me a gentle nudge without having any discussion about it then there wouldn't be another meet that's for sure.

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

As I hate anal you would get thrown out if you had just assumed I'd want it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I hate anal you would get thrown out if you had just assumed I'd want it"

Like it or not, its the assumption that I'd find a little pushy and disrespectful.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

Its definitely something that should be discussed beforehand - don't assume anything, people have boundaries that need respecting

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I only do anal when asked, I'd much rather have the front door than the rear

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!"

Laughed out loud at the thought of a guys response to that if he wasn't expecting it ha ha !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who your meeting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YEs take the first step and fuck her up the shitter, gently then harder, the more she moans the more she enjoys it

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

Has happened on meets. Be polite ask. If yes then enjoy if no then OK go back to giving v orgasms. Big big point is swap condoms with diff holes. Don't want to cause infection from cross contamination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak! Ask them and then listen and comply with the reply. Simples.

I think ladies could get quite disturbed by some guy keep trying things on. A little piss miss? a little smack mam? a little anal Mable? a little nipple tweak Sarah? etc etc. She will NEVER relax!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it a right good rimmin, then yal know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no women has let me try it as much as i ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speak! Ask them and then listen and comply with the reply. Simples.

I think ladies could get quite disturbed by some guy keep trying things on. A little piss miss? a little smack mam? a little anal Mable? a little nipple tweak Sarah? etc etc. She will NEVER relax!

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!"

Sulking now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given that you are bi....are you asking this of a woman or another guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its something that needs to be discussed before a meet, limits, boundaries, likes and dislikes etc. I wouldn't dream of giving a guy a gentle nudge with my strap on!!!"

love it!!

Guess he wasn't expecting that, nice shout!!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

I would NOT be impressed if a guy tried to sneak it in there with no previous discussion....there would definitely be no repeat meet as I would see this behaviour as disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't recommend it as your opening move

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

A gentle nudge annoys the he'll out of me. It smacks while you're arse up in the air I just test the boundaries. Nooo. Open your gob before and ask! !

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Tell them to brace themselves, take a run up and bang your in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would NOT be impressed if a guy tried to sneak it in there with no previous discussion....there would definitely be no repeat meet as I would see this behaviour as disrespectful

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

I always think it is important to find out about the people I meet before meeting. To know likes and dislikes and boundaries. Certainly to know what turns them on. My first aim is always to please them. It may be they want you in a dominant role and to push boundaries but that is something that really needs discussing very carefully. There is a huge difference between an erotic pushing of boundaries and an unwanted forcing into something!

Communication I say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any kind of more elaborate than usual sexual practice should ideally be discussed beforehand rather than attempted on the fly - and by virtue on the fact that shit comes out of the anus, it's probably best for both parties if thorough preparation is exercised beforehand."

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I always think it is important to find out about the people I meet before meeting. To know likes and dislikes and boundaries. Certainly to know what turns them on. My first aim is always to please them. It may be they want you in a dominant role and to push boundaries but that is something that really needs discussing very carefully. There is a huge difference between an erotic pushing of boundaries and an unwanted forcing into something!

Communication I say!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be annoyed if someone tried that but loads do try lol

Not happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that anal, along with everything else, should be discussed before meeting someone. That way there's no confusion, disappointment or embarrassment during and after the meet."

This.

Anal is something I only do with my hubby. And its not often. Maybe every now and then in a threesome. But I think its important to go through the donts before you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I like anal I will always state beforehand that it's a possibility it could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all part of getting to know what are a person's likes or dislikes. Some people don't enjoy oral, for instance (crazy people!!), I guess if you're both clear and respectful then a polite no would help you if you tried a lubed finger or tongue, prior to actual anal.

No big deal as long as it's not a total surprise and your partner detests the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its listed in their interests, they won't have a problem with you asking, prior to meeting, if its on the cards. To wait till the meet is bad planning. Ask for another meet to tick off some more of your mutual interests.

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