FabSwingers.com forum: a single guy whinge with a difference...

By *xstephbxx OP Couple
over a year ago

hyde

a little thought occurred to me this morn, would i still swing if i were single ..answer is no..

Why ?, cause the thought of being a single guy on here or entering any club would terrify the hell out of me !!

So, honestly now, how many married /attached guys out there would swing on this site, or in any other part of the scene if they were single ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did, inbetween wives.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"a little thought occurred to me this morn, would i still swing if i were single ..answer is no..

Why ?, cause the thought of being a single guy on here or entering any club would terrify the hell out of me !!

So, honestly now, how many married /attached guys out there would swing on this site, or in any other part of the scene if they were single ..."

answering as a single man about the club thing I always say this....

if you are big, brave and ugly enough to come on a site like this, they why are you not big, brave and ugly enough to walk into a club by yourself??

there are probably too many single guys in the scene that think if there were to step into a club they want there money's worth (i.e a guarenteed shag)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said this many times myself. I wouldn't have the self confidence to play as a single guy. I feel that, if it wasn't for Kate, I wouldn't get a shag

However, we have gone to parties, split up and played seperately

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im not a single guy (well not when i last looked) but i think it depends on the individual. To swing as a single male or female you have to be outgoing and friendly and a good conversationalist and no how to conduct yourself. The reason some single guys complain is they dont possess the above attributes.

I know many single guys on here that get good regular meets and also go to clubs on there own. I believe its personality (but thats just my opinion)

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

"I've said this many times myself. I wouldn't have the self confidence to play as a single guy. I feel that, if it wasn't for Kate, I wouldn't get a shag

However, we have gone to parties, split up and played seperately

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Hey Jack for you to say that surprises the hell out of me. I applaud your style of profile as many other cpl profiles seem to feature heavily on the female with her being the focus of the main picture. Take confidence from the fun you have at parties as many of we single guys do not get alot of action in those settings. The OP raises a great point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to swing as a single female, wouldn't say i'm out going or confident but I absolutely loved going to clubs just to relax and check the talent out...(if there ever was any lol oj)

The atmosphere put me at ease

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By *undebigaryMan
over a year ago

dundee

"a little thought occurred to me this morn, would i still swing if i were single ..answer is no..

Why ?, cause the thought of being a single guy on here or entering any club would terrify the hell out of me !!

So, honestly now, how many married /attached guys out there would swing on this site, or in any other part of the scene if they were single ..."
Well i was half of a couple who used to swing.but then i got made single again.lol.and cos i knew what to expect i got into it again on my own.dont think i would have had the bottle to just get into it on my own tho if i hadnt experienced it in a relationship tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a little thought occurred to me this morn, would i still swing if i were single ..answer is no..

Why ?, cause the thought of being a single guy on here or entering any club would terrify the hell out of me !!

So, honestly now, how many married /attached guys out there would swing on this site, or in any other part of the scene if they were single ..."

i started swinging as a cpl , but we split up long time ago , my job takes me all over uk and i found swinging more fun and easier to meet people than clubbing , tho my workmates thot i was a gek going to as many art gallery,s and museams as i did , lol, if only they knew , lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's not easy....but it's worth it!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It's not easy....but it's worth it!"

absolutely!!!!!

time, effort, patience and getting yaself known for all the right reasons.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've said this many times myself. I wouldn't have the self confidence to play as a single guy. I feel that, if it wasn't for Kate, I wouldn't get a shag

However, we have gone to parties, split up and played seperately

Hey Jack for you to say that surprises the hell out of me. I applaud your style of profile as many other cpl profiles seem to feature heavily on the female with her being the focus of the main picture. Take confidence from the fun you have at parties as many of we single guys do not get alot of action in those settings. The OP raises a great point."

I'm ok writing here in the forums, and I'm ok speaking on the phone. When we meet people as a couple, Kate leads the way, lol. I am socialble, and I do join in the conversation, but if I find myself sometimes drifting out of the chat, I struggle to get back in, lol. If I was playing as a single that could be a problem

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"It's not easy....but it's worth it!

absolutely!!!!!

time, effort, patience and getting yaself known for all the right reasons....."

Oh, is that what we're supposed to be doing? oops...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I am socialble, and I do join in the conversation, but if I find myself sometimes drifting out of the chat, I struggle to get back in, lol. If I was playing as a single that could be a problem

It does feel awkward standing just oustide the conversation, effectively waiting for a moment to say nothing insightful...

"2 rite, lol - agree with U 100% hunny"

...or something equally desperate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was part of a couple for 6 years, my ex was extremely attractive, a size 8 with hair stretching to her bottom oh and 17-23 years old (obviously she aged during our 6 years together)

When we split up I still went to Chameleons and other clubs and I remained a member here.

I found I actually got more invites to play when I became single, now I am in a relationship again but still we don't get as many invites to play as I used to when I was alone.

I believe this is down to a number of factors

Yes there are thousands of single guys on here, but a great % have no chance whatsoever because they make no effort whatsoever with reading profiles, thier own profiles, the mails they send.

I am an older guy and some couples in my age group feel more comfortable with a guy of a similar age.

Younger guys who are in a relationship do not see me as a threat to thier relationship (not just because I have total respect for thier relationship) but because of my age

And the biggest factor, I am straight, therefore only the female has to find me sexually attractive whilst the male only needs to find me easy to get on with and respectfull to both him and his partner.

When couples seek couples, most of the women are bisexual and therefore need to find a couple they find both sexually attractive, the male only needs to find the females sexually attractive and the male socially sound and respectfull.

For Bi couples it is even harder as all 4 have to find each other sexually attractive.

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