FabSwingers.com forum: Cannot accommodate

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem with people that cant accomodate. Everyone has their reasons why they cant and it is not for me to judge them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no reason to question why anyone can't accommodate. Even if I could accommodate I don't think I would. There are perfectly good hotels out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I think that like us they possibly have a house full of needy dogs and rescue cats that would consistently get in the way of sexy fun

Or children, parents or other dependants living with them.....or they share a house with others who do you wish swinger friends in their space - so lots of different reasons why people (including singles) can't accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow."

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Personal choice.

Nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I have no reason to question why anyone can't accommodate. Even if I could accommodate I don't think I would. There are perfectly good hotels out there."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's in the fab secret handbook.

cannot accommodate = cheating basted!

I can't insert smiley on this phone for some reason. so please take #$^&, as a funny smiley lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's in the fab secret handbook.

cannot accommodate = cheating basted!

I can't insert smiley on this phone for some reason. so please take #$^&, as a funny smiley lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem with it

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By *ob_nwMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

"No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow."

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I don't see it as a problem, it's just personal choice to me and others will have a valid reason.

A social on neutral territory is always good, set the tone then decide from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't comment on the single women as don't have much to do with them.

But as far as men are concerned in my experience Cannot Accommodate means married in vast majority of cases. I'd go so far as to say 99% of cases

And a lot of the time Can Accommodate also comes with time restrictions when she'll be home.

I know this to be true, because their first suggestion for a meeting place is never splitting a hotel. Its always a layby or wood somewhere. Because they don't want anything on a bank statement or it showing an unforseen withdrawal of cash, or bumping into someone they know there (which is the best excuse round here)

So the best assumption is married until proved otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accommodate, I'm single but wouldn't have a meet at my house, somewhere public is first choice

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

proven otherwise? How do you prove a negative lol

Any decent guy should agree to at minimum share hotel costs, personally i sort it myself

Id have thought any guy who suggests a layby as 'accommodation' for a meet is going to struggle!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People have their own way of short listing and if, like us, one if the criteria is must accommodate that's up to them really. We don't have to explain why we ask for this any more than they have to explain to us why they can't accom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"proven otherwise? How do you prove a negative lol"

I'm not talking about employing a private detective here! Usually they admit it when trying to sort out a meeting.

"Any decent guy should agree to at minimum share hotel costs, personally i sort it myself"

In the last year, only one guy has suggested a hotel and split costs.

"Id have thought any guy who suggests a layby as 'accommodation' for a meet is going to struggle! "

I can't speak for the ladies, but suspect this may be more of a problem for trannies. But it's the most common suggestion I receive. Outdoors somewhere. In Scotland. In Autumn. Bad enough in the summer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single lady I put it on my profile as I would rather have the option of leaving...or indeed my partner leaving...without any awkwardness. Plus I do not want complete strangers in my homr.

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By *ugarNspicecplCouple
over a year ago

SCUNTHORPE

"No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?"

People who make assumptions are a bit thick really

I have no thoughts about why people can't accommodate,single or couples,they just can't and it has no bearing on whether I'll meet them or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to be able to accom and I do prefer a guy who can but that doesn't mean if a guy can't I think he is married. I used to be able to accom and never had any problems with anyone that came round the same as I've never had any issues if I have been at a guys.

Hotels are fine if neither can accom and then I prefer all nighters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?

People who make assumptions are a bit thick really

I have no thoughts about why people can't accommodate,single or couples,they just can't and it has no bearing on whether I'll meet them or not"

Lol, says she making assumptions about people who make assumptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't accommodate because I have a child plus I live right next door to my curtain twitcher mother. If a guy could accommodate I wouldn't go to his home if it was a first meet, I'd rather a hotel just for safety reasons I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must point out at this point that I don't care if the person is married. I'd still meet them. But I want to know what I'm dealing with up front. And as the majority of men who contact me are married and can't accommodate for that reason, then it's a sensible assumption to make up front on a contact. It's not at all thick when trying to prevent me from wasting my own time with someone who is only free for half an hour every other Tuesday in a carpark somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no reason to question why anyone can't accommodate. Even if I could accommodate I don't think I would. There are perfectly good hotels out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?

People who make assumptions are a bit thick really

I have no thoughts about why people can't accommodate,single or couples,they just can't and it has no bearing on whether I'll meet them or not

Lol, says she making assumptions about people who make assumptions

Haha I was going to reply but the amount of times I would have to type assumptions has put me off

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

It is a matter of choice but, sadly, a lot are very quick to condemn those who can't accomodate as having something to hide - often those who do that can't accomodate either

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By *iking.beardMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Think this must be the case alot of the time as when I could accommodate I could get meets alot easier then niw my living arrangements have changed and I can't ( didn't get marryed)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of reasons for not accommodating and it's nothing to do with partners. A bar then hotel is much better, what if your meet isn't as expected ?? Your then stuck with them at your home, a bar is more public and safer option for both parties. Just daft thinking someone is married because they won't accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a matter of choice but, sadly, a lot are very quick to condemn those who can't accomodate as having something to hide - often those who do that can't accomodate either

I think the problem is similar to the whole bisexual thing.

So many people get all judgemental about someone married having sex outside of it, that it's put a lot of people off being truthful about it for fear of halving their already small potential pool of matches.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was wondering more from a couple point of _iew, on couples that won't accommodate.

Probably best answered by 'some will some won't'.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I can't accommodate now (I used to be able to but my living circumstances have changed) but if I was meeting someone regular I wouldn't have a problem bringing them here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was wondering more from a couple point of _iew, on couples that won't accommodate.

Probably best answered by 'some will some won't'.

Probably best to assume the couple is married. Not necessarily to each other though!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?

People who make assumptions are a bit thick really

I have no thoughts about why people can't accommodate,single or couples,they just can't and it has no bearing on whether I'll meet them or not

Lol, says she making assumptions about people who make assumptions

Haha I was going to reply but the amount of times I would have to type assumptions has put me off

You were going to say that I am making assumptions about you making assumptions about people making assumptions weren't you?

Well at least that's what I assume

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I forgot to add...I am very single, no hidden agenda, nothing to hide, I just wouldn't invite anyone to my home now unless it was going to be a regular thing and they weren't a screamer ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accommodate, I'm single but wouldn't have a meet at my house, somewhere public is first choice

Ironic you being from cork. I just popped my cork looking at your pics lol. As for me, I have a house full of lodgers so accommodating is out for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?"

Couples that can't accom? They are often married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?

Couples that can't accom? They are often married

Bastards eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am part of a couple, we are married to each other, we dont accomadate ever but we do prefer to meet guys who can accomadate and the reason for that is cus in our experience if they cant accomadate then they are married and the meet is very limited to where and when and thats not what we want, we arnt bothered that they are married we just dont want to limit the meet time etc

Generally we meet at a club but cant do that easily at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was wondering more from a couple point of _iew, on couples that won't accommodate.

Probably best answered by 'some will some won't'.

Probably best to assume the couple is married. Not necessarily to each other though!

That's a good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our reasons for not accommodating but, it's never been an issue for me as,I would never go to their home anyway!!...yes, im here for fun but, my safety is paramount. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have our reasons for not accommodating but, it's never been an issue for me as,I would never go to their home anyway!!...yes, im here for fun but, my safety is paramount. x"

From bitter experience safety is why I only meet in clubs now.

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

We can't accomodate at home as we have grown up kids who still live with us, and they're always in and out!

We had a meet once with a female friend of ours and were getting steamy on the sofa when we saw car headlights in the drive!!!

Queue my good lady and our friend both running upstairs naked, clothes in hand to get dressed while i had to opt for the kitchen!!!!

We'd never meet again at home after that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i can accomadate but choose not to most of the time .

simply cos ive a teenage son living with me and secondly cos id prefer my home to be my home .

And hotels are so cheap nowadays and u dont have to wash the bedding either !

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow."

I feel the same but not being able to get to clubs or able to share hotel costs very often makes it quite difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get asked a lot if I'm married. When I explain who I live with I then get asked if I ever have a free house. Doesn't matter what you put people will want reassurance. I ask every man if he is in a relationship regardless of his accommodation

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

We do not assume that not accommodating means cheating, however in our experience here, more often than not it does.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I can't accommodate because I'm a postgrad student...so sharing my living space. Mmmmmm sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We put down we can't but we have for people we know and trust but as a rule no

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I remember seeing a post from a couple who had discovered their live at home son was on here. They weren't put out by this, but were put out by the fact he could accommodate, whereas they'd had to say they couldn't because he lived at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember seeing a post from a couple who had discovered their live at home son was on here. They weren't put out by this, but were put out by the fact he could accommodate, whereas they'd had to say they couldn't because he lived at home.

Do you reckon the son got in touch with them with a _iew to meet? "I'd love to fuck your missus while you watch!"

That'd have a psychologist clearing his schedule for the rest of the month!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We do not assume that not accommodating means cheating, however in our experience here, more often than not it does."

Absolutely spot on. Sad but true.

We fully understand there are lots of reasons not to accommodate, we won't either, but sadly you are very accurate with your above comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have our reasons for not accommodating but, it's never been an issue for me as,I would never go to their home anyway!!...yes, im here for fun but, my safety is paramount. x

From bitter experience safety is why I only meet in clubs now. "

Very sorry to hear that xx

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

Its not an assumption. We realize that there are plenty of legitimate reasons people can't accommodate. The problem is personal experience. Most of the guys who have messaged us who could not accommodate turned out to be married or attached. That has been our experience on the site thus far. So when someone says the can't accommodate, we dont assume they are cheating, but it certainly throws up a red flag and causes us to focus in on it. That is not our fault and we dont feel bad for doing so. The problem is the number of people who lie about their situations, not the people who are cautious enough to try and make sure they get what they really want and dont care to enter into or add to the drama of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No way I'm having strangers in my house. I'd rather be on neutral territory anyhow."

simple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its not an assumption. We realize that there are plenty of legitimate reasons people can't accommodate. The problem is personal experience. Most of the guys who have messaged us who could not accommodate turned out to be married or attached. That has been our experience on the site thus far. So when someone says the can't accommodate, we dont assume they are cheating, but it certainly throws up a red flag and causes us to focus in on it. That is not our fault and we dont feel bad for doing so. The problem is the number of people who lie about their situations, not the people who are cautious enough to try and make sure they get what they really want and dont care to enter into or add to the drama of others. "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Why do people automatically assume this means singles are really married?

What do people think of couples that can't accom?"

We don't assume that....there are quite a few reasons why someone can't or chooses not to accomodate.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I used to accommodate a lot, it is the only thing I regret in my swinging life.

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