FabSwingers.com forum: Women's feelings on bareback sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello everyone. I'm looking to find out more about ladies reactions & feelings to the idea of being barebacked on a first meet. This isn't an offer, by the way! Know this goes on & some members (couples, most often it seems) advertise for it. Let's ignore the possible health implications in this thread: I just want to concentrate on why some ladies do it. Does it turn them on, why do they prefer it & the feelings it gives them etc. All contributions welcome! Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Once again for the record: I don't & this 'aint an offer. Just interested in why some folks do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you asked for women's feelings, but my 2p...

Why put yourself and anyone else at risk for the sake of a legover? I wouldn't do bareback with anyone I wasn't in a long term relationship with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find these types of questions odd.

Why do you take sugar in your coffee?

Why do you shave instead of wax?

Why do you wear heels instead of flats?

Since it takes two in a bareback situation your question is applicable to both: and the answer would be because they both enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well obviously when I was married and no wasnt swinging then at all. We made love and always bareback, the most natural thing in the world and it feels so very very good, and when you feel your husband come inside you wow, but that is in a loving and faithful marriage. Not a thing one would do when sleeping around with people who you do not know that well and who are sleeping around as well. hope that answers yr question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i honestly cant feel the difference as long as a guy is as hard as he can be .... ...i know that someguys cant get it up as well with a condom so thats an issue ???im always very wary of the guys "allergic" to them ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good contributions, people. Keep 'em coming. One of the reasons I was curious about this is because a lady with whom I've been corresponding on the site confessed to me that she'd found the idea of bareback a turn-on because - not despite - of the risk involved & I wanted to understand this better.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Good contributions, people. Keep 'em coming. One of the reasons I was curious about this is because a lady with whom I've been corresponding on the site confessed to me that she'd found the idea of bareback a turn-on because - not despite - of the risk involved & I wanted to understand this better."

So for her, it isn't the feeling it's the Russian Roullette factor! They're 2 very different things! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i honestly cant feel the difference as long as a guy is as hard as he can be .... ...i know that someguys cant get it up as well with a condom so thats an issue ???im always very wary of the guys "allergic" to them ..."

I find I am actually allergic to condoms, not sure if it's the spermicide or the latex, but either way I found a way around it and use some rubber condoms, they do the trick.

So you are right to be wary of those that claim to be allergic, where there's a will there's a way, that being the will to find suitable condom or to get away with using one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm latex intolerant myself, but there are plenty latex free condoms so I make sure I have a supply, no guy gets away with saying he's allergic to them with me!

However on the bareback theme, when I was in a relationship I loved bareback, I could feel my partner swell more as he was about to come so used to know just when to contract a little tighter and we'd both have a really intense orgasm. That was before swinging and multi-partners though... it's not something to indulge in now.

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

Doesnt much apply to me as not something i would do with anyone else but my partner EVER.

But havent yet had actual sex with anyone else, but still fully protected.

I loved the feeling of my partner cumming in me when i was on the pill, sadly now its a case of using the withdrawal method ( which works for us) or condoms.

In this day and age would never trust anyone bareback, not worth the risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm

bareback! If it's a health worry how many of you girls & guys use a condom for oral sex???

Any body fluid carries a risk of disease.

We always have a regular check up & prevention is always better than cure.

be safe & enjoy!

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

"Hmm

bareback! If it's a health worry how many of you girls & guys use a condom for oral sex???

Any body fluid carries a risk of disease.

We always have a regular check up & prevention is always better than cure.

be safe & enjoy!

This is true but the risk from oral sex is many, many times lower compared to vaginal or anal sex. The risk is an extremely small one, even though it is there.

We would NEVER bareback with anyone else (or anyone we know indulges) not least for the fact we're trying for a baby right now, apart from the other risks involved! We used condoms until some time after we'd been engaged (and we'd already been together nearly 5 years by then) and then before we ditched them, we both went and got tested at the GUM.

As others have said - prevention before cure. I really think anyone having multiple partners bareback with a blatant disregard for the risks involved to themselves and more importanly, others, deserves anything they catch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello everyone. I'm looking to find out more about ladies reactions & feelings to the idea of being barebacked on a first meet. This isn't an offer, by the way! Know this goes on & some members (couples, most often it seems) advertise for it. Let's ignore the possible health implications in this thread: I just want to concentrate on why some ladies do it. Does it turn them on, why do they prefer it & the feelings it gives them etc. All contributions welcome! Thank you.

I haven't read all the replies. I might do later.

You say to ignore the health complications for the purpose of this thread ....that's fine. SO ..........

Why are you asking why women would enjoy bareback ? Has the world gone so stupid that condoms are seen as the natural feel now and bareback something alien ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the whole point of condoms is to stop you catching anything so how can you reply to this question while ignoring the possible health implications? is we ignored them we'd all be having bareback sex lmao

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I suppose there is the question why would a guy want to risk his favourite toy and best friend by having bareback sex as well?

Lots of vanilla folks go out and have unprotected sex for various reasons and the figures for STD's continue rising. Swingers do tend to be a bit more responsible than most, but its personal choice.

Without a condom you too are having sex with the 100 people I've been with, the 100 they've met and so on. Do you know them that well?

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

i think it can feel better, and its more natural and intimate, and free flowing aswell, plus its very naughty

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Of course it feels better bare. There is more real contact and the chemicals contained in the lubricating fluids from both partners enhance the feeling even more. It is the natural way and is designed like that so it works and feels right.

Any more questions ?

Jane x

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Could mean a trip to the pox clinic..or..the undertakers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to their own...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst it feels incredible I would have to question the motivation of anyone who seeks BB sex from strangers (i.e. sensation vrs russian roulette). I don't really see how one can separate the issue of health and the use of condoms.

Those who say 'each to their own'- that view point is fine if you have private health insurance- otherwise it is an example of feckless disregard for other people and society as a whole. The anti-virals for hiv cost approx 135,000 euro p/year.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

I am going back into hiding in my air raid shelter again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We personally don't have bareback sex with anyone except each other. This way we both know we are 100% clear of any infections. But i have noticed a lot of people do quite freely give a BJ and the guy does not wear a condom (yes in past i have been guilty of this), I think most people associate an std to just involve gentiles, but the std's survive in the mouth as well and can therefore be passed on this way as well. So even if your a woman going down on another woman you can still catch something.

Even in the sex/porn industry men & women have to have regular sexual health checks approx every 3 weeks, this ensures theres n others well being. So i guess the best way to carry on having fun is to always use condoms and have regular health checks, and don't have too many sexual partners.

Those who take risks really are as others say playing russian roulette and you can't always tell if someone has something.

Well thats my rant over with lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We personally don't have bareback sex with anyone except each other. This way we both know we are 100% clear of any infections. But i have noticed a lot of people do quite freely give a BJ and the guy does not wear a condom (yes in past i have been guilty of this), I think most people associate an std to just involve gentiles, but the std's survive in the mouth as well and can therefore be passed on this way as well. So even if your a woman going down on another woman you can still catch something.

Those who take risks really are as others say playing russian roulette and you can't always tell if someone has something.

Well thats my rant over with lol

Jo"

Condoms for oral???? Hang on, just off to suck a Dunlop tyre! Same great taste!!! Mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst it feels incredible I would have to question the motivation of anyone who seeks BB sex from strangers (i.e. sensation vrs russian roulette). I don't really see how one can separate the issue of health and the use of condoms.

I really don't care what the cost is.

Tell drivers to stop killing on the roads.

Tell people to stop smoking , drinking and sneezing,

If someone has HIV stop moralising and treat them.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Granny...your profile..as mch as we loved anagrams, we cant work it out..post up the answers please!..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never get anyone admitting to doing bare back on the open forum, the whole site would linch them, block them and block everyone on their verfication list lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To tell you the truth we're always suspicious of the motives of any guy asking this sort of question.

No responsible swinger would consider bareback with anyone other than their own long term partner anyway.

So do the women who post positive responses to these questions go on the Hotlist for future reference or what?

XXXX

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

100% protected or no way,dont really see too much bb where we play and all the guys seem to have a condom to hand knowing full well the conseqeunces of not having them,its the only option when playing for sure !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one has ever really managed to explain to me how much less of a risk oral sex is.

On my last check up visit I asked the doctor and she basically confirmed you can catch most of the same things from oral, although the risks are "less". I told her that I've never met anyone who uses protection for oral sex, to gauge the reaction, but she stuck to the message, oral sex isn't safe sex.

So my view is it's not using condoms v. BB which is the question if you also do oral. I love oral, but it would be pointless using a dental dam or condom.

Your risk factor is how many partners you have, how many they have and how often you all get checked! Not just using a condom.

Remember guys, if a woman sucks your cock and she's done the same to 10 other guys that month, you just shared all those other guys with her - and all those guys other partners too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember guys, if a woman sucks your cock and she's done the same to 10 other guys that month, you just shared all those other guys with her - and all those guys other partners too...

Seems a little selfish not to share properly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one has ever really managed to explain to me how much less of a risk oral sex is.

So my view is it's not using condoms v. BB which is the question if you also do oral. I love oral, but it would be pointless using a dental dam or condom.

Your risk factor is how many partners you have, how many they have and how often you all get checked! Not just using a condom.

Remember guys, if a woman sucks your cock and she's done the same to 10 other guys that month, you just shared all those other guys with her - and all those guys other partners too...

Ive been swinging about 10 years now and ive never used condoms to give a bj, i protect myself the best i feel i need to and i can honestly say in 10 years i have never cought anything, and i go for checks up, always have, i used to go every 3 to 6 months but ive gone every month for the past year since they opened the STI clinic at chams

So tho there is a risk it must be pretty low as ive sucked a hell of a lot of cocks in 10 years lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on your oral hygene if you have cold sores, bleeding gums ulcers and so on. Now I always play as safe as possible but I just cant suck with a condom on. Now I just have had a scare this weekend a guy who I was playing with me a few weeks ago at chams has informed me that he has contracted gonorreah while he was playing at chams he played with 4 girls including me so one of them passed it on through oral as he used a condom with all of us. I have my check ups every 12 weeks without fail. And had to go for a check last friday so am waiting for results and so nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To put it another way, some people may have a false sense of security from using condoms for sex and forget they are still at risk from oral sex.

Bareback with the right person could be safer than oral with the wrong person.

Now that sexual health clinics are more friendly and accessible, best policy is to have check-ups and be the right person!

Reading stuff on the internet about these things is likely to make you paranoid, but the worrying thing is that if you have gonorrhea in your throat you are unlikely to have symptoms, secondly the tests may not pick it up, so you can pass it on without knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i honestly cant feel the difference as long as a guy is as hard as he can be ..."

i can if they use ribbed :0)

no interest in bareback at all.....that would be like having sex naked ffs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And when you go to a clinic dont be scared to be honest and tell them everything as they have heard it all before and ps friday I had my first throat swab aswell as all the regular blood tests and vaginal swabs.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"No one has ever really managed to explain to me how much less of a risk oral sex is.

So my view is it's not using condoms v. BB which is the question if you also do oral. I love oral, but it would be pointless using a dental dam or condom.

Your risk factor is how many partners you have, how many they have and how often you all get checked! Not just using a condom.

Remember guys, if a woman sucks your cock and she's done the same to 10 other guys that month, you just shared all those other guys with her - and all those guys other partners too...

Good advice there...to be honest I couldnt get aroused knowing that all those risks were out there..just waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does feel amazing, intimate and naughty... so I can understand the fantasy. We are animals designed to procreate at the end of the day, and it's a natural urge surely! But, I keep it as a fantasy (outside of a loving and committed relationship of course). I have some self-restraint! Not when it comes to cakes however

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmmm cakes and sex...... what a combination.....yummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm... now you're talking!

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"I find these types of questions odd.

Why do you take sugar in your coffee?

Why do you shave instead of wax?

Why do you wear heels instead of flats?

Since it takes two in a bareback situation your question is applicable to both: and the answer would be because they both enjoy it!

i prefer a sweet taste

low pain thresh hold

make my legs look slender

oops! secrets out!

lol

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

i am allergic to latex but you can buy the non-latex condoms, i suppose it is down to the individual or couple to decide what they want to do, i dont think anyone would admit outright that they prefer bareback but in our experience a lot of the women say they like it. As i say , its down to the couple

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