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By *rBallsDeep OP   Man
over a year ago

Near by

Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No.....

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By *rBallsDeep OP   Man
over a year ago

Near by

Just me then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More to do with i dont match ppls certain preferences. Never out of there league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me then lol"

Looks like it

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

Life is a bitch

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Haha ummm No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

I think some guys that message me are and couples x

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

There is no league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no league"

correct answer

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

Perhaps your fixation with cock photos turns some off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

No but some women and couples think they are out of everyone else's league...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't consider anyone on here to be out of my league, if they thought so then they are not the kind of people I would want to meet anyway!

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

No...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's a premier league. I would put myself in division 1

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

I often feel I'm out of a lot of the guys league if I'm honest. Some of the handsome, fit guys who message me leave me thinking they can't actually be serious about meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it sounds a little naïve, but its common in porn to see older, chubbier guys having wild sex with all sorts of toned, tanned and beautiful young women, and whilst obviously both parties are being paid to have sex, those chubbier guys have big cocks, strong technique and buckets of sexual confidence, and the ladies certainly look like they're having a good time, so why shouldn't I message some of the REALLY gorgeous women on here and see if we might just click in the bedroom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sometimes think. Why would they want me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In terms of physical attractiveness I've been surprised by this site to be honest. I've been hit repeatedly with the ugly stick (and then some more again) yet I am having some good private convos with what I would consider way, way, way more attractive than me. Just need to turn that promise of a coffee into a reality and I'll be a very happy boy!

Keep positive OP and hopefully great things will come your way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps it sounds a little naïve, but its common in porn to see older, chubbier guys having wild sex with all sorts of toned, tanned and beautiful young women, and whilst obviously both parties are being paid to have sex, those chubbier guys have big cocks, strong technique and buckets of sexual confidence, and the ladies certainly look like they're having a good time, so why shouldn't I message some of the REALLY gorgeous women on here and see if we might just click in the bedroom?"

If those (paid) ladies didn't look like they were having a good time it would be porn that appealed to a totally different audience!

And you're not chubby!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do sometimes think. Why would they want me "
where do I start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree that it is for want of a better expression a level playing field, it does appear that as women of all shapes, sizes and age get bombarded with messages from men so they can cherry pick and for some, overinflate their egos.

I don't mean this in a mysogynistic way, just that the attention they receive is far far more than a lot would receive on a dating site for example.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Most of the guys are way out of my league on here, I am just grateful to the ones I have met that didn't make me feel like the fat dollop I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

Depends on how you look at it, you're never out of a league, just not their type!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I agree that it is for want of a better expression a level playing field, it does appear that as women of all shapes, sizes and age get bombarded with messages from men so they can cherry pick and for some, overinflate their egos.

I don't mean this in a mysogynistic way, just that the attention they receive is far far more than a lot would receive on a dating site for example."

I don't think it's a case of an over inflated ego for most women on here - it's being bombarded with messages from guys that you know wouldn't look twice at you in real life!

I feel like a lot of the men that message me are totally out of my league!

And I don't meet them simply because I don't want to be a hole thats better than a wank!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have turned people down because they have met some very sexy ladies and I sometimes feel they are taking the micky because why would they want me after meeting them ,even people I have met I still why are they meeting me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not women as i don't meet them but i have had some guys mail me and when I've looked at their pics I've thought WTF have they mailed me for as by just looking at them i can tell no way would they like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have turned people down because they have met some very sexy ladies and I sometimes feel they are taking the micky because why would they want me after meeting them ,even people I have met I still why are they meeting me "

I do that i think a lot of men just mail women randomly in the hope some will reply, I look at some guys and think I wonder if he even realised he had mailed me and if I mailed back would he think.....oh fuck and block me quick I have had some ridiculously good looking guys mail me and I do wonder why when it's obvious they can do better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I agree that it is for want of a better expression a level playing field, it does appear that as women of all shapes, sizes and age get bombarded with messages from men so they can cherry pick and for some, overinflate their egos.

I don't mean this in a mysogynistic way, just that the attention they receive is far far more than a lot would receive on a dating site for example.

I don't think it's a case of an over inflated ego for most women on here - it's being bombarded with messages from guys that you know wouldn't look twice at you in real life!

I feel like a lot of the men that message me are totally out of my league!

And I don't meet them simply because I don't want to be a hole thats better than a wank!

"

I didn't mean it as a sweeping generalisation. From the replies here it would seem there are 2 camps, both of which are understandable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no women are out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have turned people down because they have met some very sexy ladies and I sometimes feel they are taking the micky because why would they want me after meeting them ,even people I have met I still why are they meeting me

I do that i think a lot of men just mail women randomly in the hope some will reply, I look at some guys and think I wonder if he even realised he had mailed me and if I mailed back would he think.....oh fuck and block me quick I have had some ridiculously good looking guys mail me and I do wonder why when it's obvious they can do better "
horrid feeling sometimes isn't it....wish they sold confidence in bottles x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messaged by every age and type imaginable. Many are not people that I would choose to have sex with - but not for a minute would I consider them to be 'out of my league'! As someone said earlier - there is no league - just a complete physical and intellectual cross-section of society - which is what makes fab so wonderful!!

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I often feel I'm out of a lot of the guys league if I'm honest. Some of the handsome, fit guys who message me leave me thinking they can't actually be serious about meeting. "

I'm the same. If I do meet them I always feel worse when they aren't interested in seeing me again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do all the time. I'm either too hairy to small or plain and that's fine its true but my biggest gripe is Vwe. Which I'm not. Still I am cuddly lol

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"I have turned people down because they have met some very sexy ladies and I sometimes feel they are taking the micky because why would they want me after meeting them ,even people I have met I still why are they meeting me

I do that i think a lot of men just mail women randomly in the hope some will reply, I look at some guys and think I wonder if he even realised he had mailed me and if I mailed back would he think.....oh fuck and block me quick I have had some ridiculously good looking guys mail me and I do wonder why when it's obvious they can do better horrid feeling sometimes isn't it....wish they sold confidence in bottles x"

Wish I could favourite this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah i think im out of their league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no league tables on a swinging site, just lack of confidence in some people that some hottie wants to meet them

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Am constantly surprised when we are asked to have fun with another couple, can easily see why wiggles is invited, I think I'm just seen as part of package.

Unless lady is a blatant beard lover then it all makes sence again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very arrogant people on fab, there is so obviously differing standards, and when we've been messaged by stick thin size 0 with 6 packed muscle bound fellas who only met similar, we say why?? So we like to stick to people more of a similar build but neither of us think we are ugly, just not the media driven personification of body perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some very arrogant people on fab, there is so obviously differing standards, and when we've been messaged by stick thin size 0 with 6 packed muscle bound fellas who only met similar, we say why?? So we like to stick to people more of a similar build but neither of us think we are ugly, just not the media driven personification of body perfect"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting sick of knocking back so called hottie after hottie, it seems no sooner are they ticked up as most fabbed pics, then they are pestering me for downright dirty sex.

So, back in the real world, I like folk for who they are, and they like me for who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps it sounds a little naïve, but its common in porn to see older, chubbier guys having wild sex with all sorts of toned, tanned and beautiful young women, and whilst obviously both parties are being paid to have sex, those chubbier guys have big cocks, strong technique and buckets of sexual confidence, and the ladies certainly look like they're having a good time, so why shouldn't I message some of the REALLY gorgeous women on here and see if we might just click in the bedroom?

If those (paid) ladies didn't look like they were having a good time it would be porn that appealed to a totally different audience!

And you're not chubby!!

"

I have to disagree, I know that naturally the performers are expected to portray enjoyment of the sex, but when that enjoyment is communicated through staggered heavy breathing, building a sweat, and eyes that keep half opening then closing, it looks rather genuine to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've turned people down because I have got the impression they would be 'settling' and would never give me a second look in a pub or something.

It is tied up with weight and self image and all that other fun stuff. There are some incredible looking women on here, and I've dismissed people based on the fact they've got a verification from meeting them - and I don't want that kind of negative comparison (even if it's only me that's making it).

Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned people down because I have got the impression they would be 'settling' and would never give me a second look in a pub or something.

It is tied up with weight and self image and all that other fun stuff. There are some incredible looking women on here, and I've dismissed people based on the fact they've got a verification from meeting them - and I don't want that kind of negative comparison (even if it's only me that's making it).

Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least. "

I agree with you on that, but though everyone has their individual preferences, I can honestly tell you that you're a very pretty lady x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Not really. Apart from the straight ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least.

I agree with you on that, but though everyone has their individual preferences, I can honestly tell you that you're a very pretty lady x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main thing you have to remember is not everyone sees you how you see yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the main thing you have to remember is not everyone sees you how you see yourself "
I've always said I wish I could see what they see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned people down because I have got the impression they would be 'settling' and would never give me a second look in a pub or something.

It is tied up with weight and self image and all that other fun stuff. There are some incredible looking women on here, and I've dismissed people based on the fact they've got a verification from meeting them - and I don't want that kind of negative comparison (even if it's only me that's making it).

Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least. "

It's the age old thing though about personal taste isn't it?

You may think that all the other women you refer to are much better looking because that's your perception of beauty.

They might be there thinking exactly the same about you if you are their perception of beauty!

My personal preference is for attractive, pretty curvy women who are grounded, down to earth and friendly.

Some other guy might like someone who is the polar opposite - the old cliche that beauty is in the eye of the beholder is so true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the main thing you have to remember is not everyone sees you how you see yourself I've always said I wish I could see what they see "
you would see a beautiful lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More to do with i dont match ppls certain preferences. Never out of there league "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the main thing you have to remember is not everyone sees you how you see yourself I've always said I wish I could see what they see you would see a beautiful lady "
thank you

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Do you ever get the feeling that most women on this site out of your league?"

Nope but then again I'm not the premiership and i don't out anyone in a 'league' bracket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the main thing you have to remember is not everyone sees you how you see yourself I've always said I wish I could see what they see you would see a beautiful lady thank you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I agree that it is for want of a better expression a level playing field, it does appear that as women of all shapes, sizes and age get bombarded with messages from men so they can cherry pick and for some, overinflate their egos.

I don't mean this in a mysogynistic way, just that the attention they receive is far far more than a lot would receive on a dating site for example."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no-one dares to shag a hottie because they think they are 'settling' for someone below their league... why aren't all the 'not-very-hot' guys drowning in pussy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If no-one dares to shag a hottie because they think they are 'settling' for someone below their league... why aren't all the 'not-very-hot' guys drowning in pussy?"

Numbers. Plain and simple

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I get messaged by every age and type imaginable. Many are not people that I would choose to have sex with - but not for a minute would I consider them to be 'out of my league'! As someone said earlier - there is no league ...... "

Exactly so, no one is out of my league, if gorgeous men want to hit on me who am I to argue? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If no-one dares to shag a hottie because they think they are 'settling' for someone below their league... why aren't all the 'not-very-hot' guys drowning in pussy?"

Drowning in pussy.....

The perfect death...no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned people down because I have got the impression they would be 'settling' and would never give me a second look in a pub or something.

It is tied up with weight and self image and all that other fun stuff. There are some incredible looking women on here, and I've dismissed people based on the fact they've got a verification from meeting them - and I don't want that kind of negative comparison (even if it's only me that's making it).

Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least. "

I personally find you incredibly attractive.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol


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I  have had some ridiculously good looking guys mail me and I do wonder why when it's obvious they can do better "

you really do baffle me why you continously run yourself down ...you are one seriously hot lady that also comes across as a very kind and sincere person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leagues are designed to have winners and loosers and personally I don't think this translates into fab. (F)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps it sounds a little naïve, but its common in porn to see older, chubbier guys having wild sex with all sorts of toned, tanned and beautiful young women, and whilst obviously both parties are being paid to have sex, those chubbier guys have big cocks, strong technique and buckets of sexual confidence, and the ladies certainly look like they're having a good time, so why shouldn't I message some of the REALLY gorgeous women on here and see if we might just click in the bedroom?

If those (paid) ladies didn't look like they were having a good time it would be porn that appealed to a totally different audience!

And you're not chubby!!

I have to disagree, I know that naturally the performers are expected to portray enjoyment of the sex, but when that enjoyment is communicated through staggered heavy breathing, building a sweat, and eyes that keep half opening then closing, it looks rather genuine to me."

Then we will have to agree to disagree. Perhaps I am watching the wrong porn but I have yet to see any that does not look contrived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I  have had some ridiculously good looking guys mail me and I do wonder why when it's obvious they can do better

you really do baffle me why you continously run yourself down ...you are one seriously hot lady that also comes across as a very kind and sincere person "

(I had a look to see who you'd quoted.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned people down because I have got the impression they would be 'settling' and would never give me a second look in a pub or something.

It is tied up with weight and self image and all that other fun stuff. There are some incredible looking women on here, and I've dismissed people based on the fact they've got a verification from meeting them - and I don't want that kind of negative comparison (even if it's only me that's making it).

Leagues are alive and well, in my brain at least. "

Anna - from what I can tell from your pics sweetheart - you are one of those incredible looking women of which you speak! Xx

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