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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find I add people I really would like to meet to my hotlist then never get up the nerve to message them cause I just think they'll say no _

Anyone else too shy to message their hotlist?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

don't use it so not a problem for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sort of a numbers game. If they say no, move onto the next person?

And there's always new people to add.

Or do you like fantasising about your hotlist people and if they reject you, it'll ruin the fantasy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We add people when we see someone we like and mail them when we get time. What's the worst that can happen- they might say no thank you.

Or they might say yes please...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hate the thought of rejection so takes a while to message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's sort of a numbers game. If they say no, move onto the next person?

And there's always new people to add.

Or do you like fantasising about your hotlist people and if they reject you, it'll ruin the fantasy?"

I don't know it's not so much fantasising it's just they're either very attractive or their profile reads in a way I think they'd be great to meet/we'd really connect and it would be good.

So yeah I suppose there is the issue of once I ask and they say no then it's over.

Normally if I read a profile I like and message them it's fine if rejected ah well if it goes well then that's great. It's just if I'm busy or whatever and I go "ohh I'll add them to hot list so I remember to message them later"

then that's it never end up messaging them lol

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"I find I add people I really would like to meet to my hotlist then never get up the nerve to message them cause I just think they'll say no _

Anyone else too shy to message their hotlist?"

Of course rejection is tough because it hurts our pride. However, what's worse? The pain of rejection or the pain of not knowing/not trying? If you don't shoot, you don't score

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit, my hotlist is not full of people I want to meet....make of that as you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll never no until, you ask!

No is disappointing... But the disappointment will only last up until you spy your next would be victim.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I have about 10 people on my hotlist but some I messaged before anyway and some I won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hotlist is people I am keeping my eye on. It's my stalker list,I don't want to meet any of them. I don't think anyway,I'll go check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i add people who message me and i like the look of them but not got time to get back to them straight away xx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"don't use it so not a problem for me."

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I keep hotties on my hotlist who I would like to meet, sometimes I message them and they move to my friends list and we meet.....sometimes I delete them from the hotlist as I decide it's not meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hotlist is often our pervlist -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hotlist is too long, it's surreal. And i'm not holding my breath on yeses or replies back. I don't message anyone anymore. Don't fit the criteria, especially those who tickle my fancy.

May be calling it a day soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My hotlist is too long, it's surreal. And i'm not holding my breath on yeses or replies back. I don't message anyone anymore. Don't fit the criteria, especially those who tickle my fancy.

May be calling it a day soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find I add people I really would like to meet to my hotlist then never get up the nerve to message them cause I just think they'll say no _

Anyone else too shy to message their hotlist?"

oh yeah i do this all the time there are a few men on here who's profile i look at over and over but i think they would not be interested in me so i never mail them cause i don't want to make a fool of myself so i just keep pervibg from afar lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find I add people I really would like to meet to my hotlist then never get up the nerve to message them cause I just think they'll say no _

Anyone else too shy to message their hotlist?

oh yeah i do this all the time there are a few men on here who's profile i look at over and over but i think they would not be interested in me so i never mail them cause i don't want to make a fool of myself so i just keep pervibg from afar lol"

You're on mine...

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I very rarely message anyone new, in fact I probably haven't for well over a year. However, saying that, if I ever wanted to I wouldn't think twice about it. A no reply or a bugger off weirdo isn't gonna kill me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find I add people I really would like to meet to my hotlist then never get up the nerve to message them cause I just think they'll say no _

Anyone else too shy to message their hotlist?

oh yeah i do this all the time there are a few men on here who's profile i look at over and over but i think they would not be interested in me so i never mail them cause i don't want to make a fool of myself so i just keep pervibg from afar lol

You're on mine..."

aww get outa here didn't think I'd make anyone's hot list that's proper made my day

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don't use the hotlist, every one I want to chat to or keep in touch with is on my friends list

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By *owdoueatyoursMan
over a year ago

Swale


"I will admit, my hotlist is not full of people I want to meet....make of that as you will "

Glad it's not just me!!!!!

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"hotlist is often our pervlist - "

Nothing wrong with a good perv! We tend to perv, then start messaging and then hopefully meet - first next w/e outside of a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hot list is my dream list

Those i perv on a regular basis. Those I would love to meet

But to scared to message them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My hot list is my dream list

Those i perv on a regular basis. Those I would love to meet

But to scared to message them "

Hehe exactly lol

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"My hot list is my dream list

Those i perv on a regular basis. Those I would love to meet

But to scared to message them

Hehe exactly lol"

Same lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will not get too many knock backs u have a great cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive messaged people on my hotlist before,I don't have anyone on it at the moment though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one on my hotlist i dont use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely message anyone new, in fact I probably haven't for well over a year. However, saying that, if I ever wanted to I wouldn't think twice about it. A no reply or a bugger off weirdo isn't gonna kill me. "

I find it odd that people can't take rejection. I can mail 50 profiles and only get a couple of replies. And of those, only one will be interested. Doesn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use mine, I just tend to message someone if I like the profile etc there and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really use my hotlist. I send messages to those that catch my eye anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find I add people I really would like to meet to my hotlist then never get up the nerve to message them cause I just think they'll say no _

Anyone else too shy to message their hotlist?"

I quite like the hotlist. It is useful as a quick reference. When they want a meet it pops up on your feed and it saves time trawling through profiles of the unsuitable.

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