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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

What's it like, what does it entail?

What happens if the sub is a bad girl for her dom?

It's a new curiosity of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, I can only really tell you how we are!

My hubby is dom and i am sub. He spanks me if i am naughty or too slow to do as he asks. We do light bondage and so he also witholds stuff that i like if i am bad. If i am good he rewards me with praise and doing the things i love.

Trust is massive! I trust that he wont push me too far, untie me if i ask, always obeys the safe word! Do some google time on net and find out about it. 50 shades of grey book is pretty accurate also, minus the whole stupid story line of course!Hope this helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly do not read 50shades.

You can not be told how it will be for you. If a sub was spanked for being bad... And she likes that.. then to me that becomes a funishment not a punishment.

I suggest you read online but never mention that book to people in fet world...

You need to find what you want.. and go from there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly do not read 50shades.

You can not be told how it will be for you. If a sub was spanked for being bad... And she likes that.. then to me that becomes a funishment not a punishment.

I suggest you read online but never mention that book to people in fet world...

You need to find what you want.. and go from there x"

It also comes down to trust, if you really want to be a sub you have to willing to release control and to do that it has to be someone who you are comfortable allowing to do that.

For us 50 shades is bollocks - mills and boon with a bit of bondage, but if that is what appeals to you then go for it x

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Too late I've read it lol.

I've read a little bit about it online tonight but will keep on looking.

Quite keen to try it

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

I didn't take 50 shades seriously but it did caurse me to jump my hubby ; )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always look on a different website - which I cannot name....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could always look on a different website - which I cannot name.... "

we have sent you a pm

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"What's it like, what does it entail?

What happens if the sub is a bad girl for her dom?

It's a new curiosity of mine "

If you need to ask you may not be a natural dom? I hope that this doesn't seem arrogant, but you tend to find out for yourself and learn boundaries and how to expand them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could always look on a different website - which I cannot name....

we have sent you a pm"

Nothing received....???

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

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By *ewexperience83 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port


"What's it like, what does it entail?

What happens if the sub is a bad girl for her dom?

It's a new curiosity of mine

If you need to ask you may not be a natural dom? I hope that this doesn't seem arrogant, but you tend to find out for yourself and learn boundaries and how to expand them "
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No I'm not a dom at all I'm quite naturally submissive ( J x Fem)

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Firstly do not read 50shades.

You can not be told how it will be for you. If a sub was spanked for being bad... And she likes that.. then to me that becomes a funishment not a punishment.

I suggest you read online but never mention that book to people in fet world...

You need to find what you want.. and go from there x"

Can't agree more, I run a mile at a lady even mentioning Mr grey, alarms go off.... I do love a good bratt though and rope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50 shades the book isn't a good example of a sub/dom relationship.

The film will probably be worse.

And people who've read the book and/or seen the film will say "we're into s&m"

[smh]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sub dom relationship is different for different people, no one can tell you how to be dom or sub as it's a natural way for that person to be. How extreme you take it is entirely down to you.

My submissive side is having my boundaries pushed, but again the person who is domming you has got to know what floats your boat and how far to push you.

Some people like humiliation as a submissive where as that would completely freak me out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a sub Dom relationship with a previous partner and loved it, it was however purely sexual and did not enter to our every day life. Which is the way I liked it. Even now I have moved away from this type of relationship I like to keep both very separate and don't like the pressure of a partner trying to push for things to cross into my daily life I like the two things separate if they don't I will move on simple.

I don't miss the sub Dom relationship now but I do think I will always be naturally submissive ?? Mrs d xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on what you want out of it there are the types of scenarios when it is literally just a bit of slap and tickle as in restraining and a bit of spanking which is purely physical.

But then you can have the relationship that is not just based on purely physical interaction , that is more of a mind set and the Submissive needs the right Dominant to allow the Sub to feel safe enough to give over that control willingly and help her on the journey of figuring out her needs wants and desires and of course limits.

Google is your friend here I would suggest you research all you can and then decide what it is your actually looking for a bit of slap and tickle? or a Sub/Dom relationship. Happy Hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"50 shades the book isn't a good example of a sub/dom relationship.

The film will probably be worse.

And people who've read the book and/or seen the film will say "we're into s&m"

[smh]"

smh??

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

I reckon they are all just jealous of Christians playroom and helicopter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"50 shades the book isn't a good example of a sub/dom relationship.

The film will probably be worse.

And people who've read the book and/or seen the film will say "we're into s&m"

[smh]

smh??"

Shaking my head.

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