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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are looking for your thoughts on this.

Boots just received a text message from an ex, which said 'Hi boots, how's it going', or some such.

Now, nobody knows who Boots is, apart from me, erm, and a few select friends. Not knowing what to do, Boots called this man's number and asked him why he had called, and why he had referred to her as 'Boots'. He evaded the question, and when I took over the conversation,he hung up the phone.

It is obvious that he is a member on here, as there is no other reason to know Boots in any other way.

We wouldn't have asked your opinion, but some months ago, several messages came from this person's phone, suggesting seriously depraved sexual acts. Boots couldn't believe that this person would be responsible, but in the light of today's text, it would be stupid to think it wasn't him

Your thoughts on this would be very welcome.

BootsEnigmatist xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i were you, id block him from your phone

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If i were you, id block him from your phone "

can you block people from your phone??

as far as i know you can only change your number if someone is hassling you - pain in th ass to do because of 1 persns inability to respect your boundaries but if it is affecting her as much as you say it may be the best option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning,speak to your phone company,i have heard of this before and 99.9% sure that you can get number barring to prevent this pain in the arse stuff going on not to mention the concerning side of it!

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

dont know about uk,but in ireland you can block people txting you without the fone company,not sure if this will help or not but try blockit.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some phones will let you bar a number on the handset but all providers will bar a number if you ask 'em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i were you, id block him from your phone

can you block people from your phone??

as far as i know you can only change your number if someone is hassling you - pain in th ass to do because of 1 persns inability to respect your boundaries but if it is affecting her as much as you say it may be the best option"

With some phones it is possible to block numbers, I've known a few samsung phones with this option.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"If i were you, id block him from your phone

can you block people from your phone??

as far as i know you can only change your number if someone is hassling you - pain in th ass to do because of 1 persns inability to respect your boundaries but if it is affecting her as much as you say it may be the best option"

I have changed my number recently because of the incedent that led me to delete my account a couple of weeks ago.it is scary when you get any type of threatening texts or calls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i were you, id block him from your phone

can you block people from your phone??

as far as i know you can only change your number if someone is hassling you - pain in th ass to do because of 1 persns inability to respect your boundaries but if it is affecting her as much as you say it may be the best option"

On mine, ive an old Samsung on orange, as long as i dont save them on my friends list, open the message and view it, down the bottom is block, easy and ive quite a few, there are only 10 spaces so ive had to delete the top ones but i think they would have got the message by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You always have the option of reporting it to the police,too,if you get threatening message...it is a criminal offence after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i were you, id block him from your phone

can you block people from your phone??

as far as i know you can only change your number if someone is hassling you - pain in th ass to do because of 1 persns inability to respect your boundaries but if it is affecting her as much as you say it may be the best option

With some phones it is possible to block numbers, I've known a few samsung phones with this option."

yep mine is one so i think even though its old, i shall keep it forever

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

been yold iv a scary member!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Hmm...the way I read the OP was that a (vanilla) ex of the lady had noticed her on here and made contact via the number he used to use for her.

Now he's (presumably) been put straight by both halves of the couple, he'll hopefully move on to someone else.

Or was there more to this than "hey, my ex is a swinger, I've still got her number...nothing ventured, nothing gained!"?

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Yes you can block people on some makes of phones.

BlackBerry's etc you cant - the only way is to download a programme to help you.

I have had problems in the past and with a Samsung it is very easy.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one ever pesters me ,,,, lol

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

think we would play along with him then arrange a meet and then give him the biggest fright of his life.sure that would stop him bothering you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

easiest thing to do, don't answer the phone to him, dont reply to text messages.

he will get bored tryin to contact you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all.

Sharp Dressed Man was right in thinking that it was a vanilla ex of hers. He does have serious issues, and we think that invoving the police is the only option, should we get any further contact from him.

I do hope he reads this!

Thanks again

Boots and Enigmatist x

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

yep had to do similar with my x recently.also had to get a court order to stop her txting me,as i refused to change my number,cost me 100euro for solicitor,wouldve cost me more to buy new phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now, nobody knows who Boots is, apart from me, erm, and a few select friends.

Then exactly how do you know it was an ex?

Just wondering.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"If i were you, id block him from your phone

can you block people from your phone??

as far as i know you can only change your number if someone is hassling you - pain in th ass to do because of 1 persns inability to respect your boundaries but if it is affecting her as much as you say it may be the best option"

It depends on your phone. Some phones can block certain numbers if you wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a seprate phone for swinging and public phone and then marke the people have met in person so know who am talking too saves the hassle and they cant get me as only have it on certain times and it the only one with pics. but number has only been given out to meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hes sad you can block him tho x

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By *luefish2009Couple
over a year ago

blandford forum

Not sure how it is done on this site, but I would also change your user name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a second old phone for fab and use this if I want to give out a number,

Your phone user will send a message to that number you aske them to block saying if they keep this up it will be reported to the police and then they block the number after that

Best way to sort it out here is make sure newbies non verified and no pics cant mail you so they can change there names or profiles as much as they want

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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I do hope he reads this!

"

Ahhhhh.

Why not text him, just to make sure.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"We are looking for your thoughts on this.

Boots just received a text message from an ex, which said 'Hi boots, how's it going', or some such.

Now, nobody knows who Boots is, apart from me, erm, and a few select friends. Not knowing what to do, Boots called this man's number and asked him why he had called, and why he had referred to her as 'Boots'. He evaded the question, and when I took over the conversation,he hung up the phone.

It is obvious that he is a member on here, as there is no other reason to know Boots in any other way.

We wouldn't have asked your opinion, but some months ago, several messages came from this person's phone, suggesting seriously depraved sexual acts. Boots couldn't believe that this person would be responsible, but in the light of today's text, it would be stupid to think it wasn't him

Your thoughts on this would be very welcome.

BootsEnigmatist xx"

So someone text you and they knew what your play name was...he obviously was given the number however long ago it was?

If you don't want to recieve any other text after recieving ONE up to now, then either block the number from your phone/ phone up the provider and get them to block it ( although normally they want a reason as to why, so you will have to make one up as sending a text is probably not what they would call harrasment) or change your sim card, lots of providers give them away for free now.

I am not sure what the police can do about one text calling you Boots though.

I personally hope he doesn't read this, as unless something else is going on that you havn't said, then the man hasn't doen much to warrant a thread about him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreed

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

What I can't work out, considering you don't show your facial photo in your public profile, is how this 'vanilla' ex boyfriend knew it was you in the first place?

If he is a 'vanilla' why would he be on a site like this in the first place?, but not withstanding this, I don't know what action the police would be expected to take on the strength of a phone text?

Baffled, unless I have misunderstood the situation?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"What I can't work out, considering you don't show your facial photo in your public profile, is how this 'vanilla' ex boyfriend knew it was you in the first place?

If he is a 'vanilla' why would he be on a site like this in the first place?, but not withstanding this, I don't know what action the police would be expected to take on the strength of a phone text?

Baffled, unless I have misunderstood the situation?"

There is one photo if you enlarge it that shows the users face so if he joined this site, searched the area he lives in and they both live in that area then a match would come up and bingo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I can't work out, considering you don't show your facial photo in your public profile, is how this 'vanilla' ex boyfriend knew it was you in the first place?

If he is a 'vanilla' why would he be on a site like this in the first place?, but not withstanding this, I don't know what action the police would be expected to take on the strength of a phone text?

Baffled, unless I have misunderstood the situation?"

It's possible someone told him about the OP being on this site rather than him being a member.

also possible that he's simply assuming every woman here is easy and joined to get a shag.

also possible that he's no longer vanilla.

another possibility is he wants a perv, lol.

I can also see a face picture of the OP.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"What I can't work out, considering you don't show your facial photo in your public profile, is how this 'vanilla' ex boyfriend knew it was you in the first place?

If he is a 'vanilla' why would he be on a site like this in the first place?, but not withstanding this, I don't know what action the police would be expected to take on the strength of a phone text?

Baffled, unless I have misunderstood the situation?

There is one photo if you enlarge it that shows the users face so if he joined this site, searched the area he lives in and they both live in that area then a match would come up and bingo."

That could be it then......thanks

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

People like that get their kicks by scaring and upsetting people. If you totally ignore him he will get no satisfaction from what he is trying to achieve. So all you need to do is NOTHING whatsoever. Any emails, delete without reading, MSN ignore. Phone text, delete without reading. If you do anything else you will effectively be saying ‘your scare game is working’, well it might be working but DON’T let him know that. He’ll soon get fed up with it.

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