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By *orthingcouple OP   Couple
over a year ago

littlehampton

I'm always amased at the number of peope we still get who waaste everyones time.

This past month we have been let down by at least 20 guys on this site and whilst there is a way to verify the genuine players - sadly there is no way you can put an 'x' against anyones profile for not turning up.

WE dont actually bother that much with the let downs - we know how difficult it must be to turn up to a starnge house and meet people for the first time, but come on guys - how about some curtesy and at least text or email to say you cant get there.

All of these guys spent time telephoning the wife and all know after chatting that shes up for meeting so long as she gets along with them on the phone, but to not advise in advance that they were not coming is just plain rude

So should we have a name and shame section on here ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i honestly honestly honestly dont get this whole timewaster thing - are you just agreeing to meet everyone that messages you and then some of them not following through

i have been on here over a year and have had the grand total of 1 timewaster - and he was blocked and forgotten about within 10 mins

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

and no - naming and shaming will never work

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By *ickens CiderMan
over a year ago

taunton

wheres littlehampton? Sadly I'm not Bi but i certainly wouldn't watse your time... I'm at the other end of wasting time... my time... messaging and chatting and not getting anywhere... lol

oh to have a meet on day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have been on here over a year and have had the grand total of 1 timewaster - and he was blocked and forgotten about within 10 mins"

I've had just the one so called timewaster in 7 months however I'm really glad now that I gave him a second chance as I can honestly say he's now one of my fav regular meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Name and Shame, ok, how do you propose to Police it ?

A straight guy mails you tomorrow and asks for a meet, you only meet bisexuals so you say "thanks but no thanks we only meet bisexuals"

He takes the huff and names and shames you as a timewaster.

How do you prove your innocene, where do you post your innocence, whose word do we believe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i honestly honestly honestly dont get this whole timewaster thing - are you just agreeing to meet everyone that messages you and then some of them not following through

i have been on here over a year and have had the grand total of 1 timewaster - and he was blocked and forgotten about within 10 mins"

Your sentiments are the same as mine.

I've been swinging for three years and not once come across a timewaster!!

I always meet socially first, there have been times when I've not followed it up with a sexual meet, contacted by those that kept changing the meeting times and I decided not to bother continuing with, but never has someone agreed to meet and not turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We must have been lucky then,in the past four years i think we have been let down once that was when we started swinging..

It also depends what you think a timewaster is? People are to quick on here to start calling people timewasters because they wont reply to an email or they dont phone when they say they will.

To us timewasters are people who dont turn up for a meet.

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

life is life people and things happen,either to you or to other people however a txt or fone is more friendly than just not bothering to show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been let down loads must be my fat arse lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"i honestly honestly honestly dont get this whole timewaster thing - are you just agreeing to meet everyone that messages you and then some of them not following through

i have been on here over a year and have had the grand total of 1 timewaster - and he was blocked and forgotten about within 10 mins"

in total agreement....

I do sometimes question how the people who have had loads of timewasters go thru there process of selecting how they go about choosing there potential playmates.......

In the years I have been swinging I think I don't think I could count the amount of timewasters I have had on one hand......

without sounding harsh to the OP the common denominator isn't the guys... its the OP and how they choose people.... maybe what they need to get out of it is to possibly change the way they pick and choose.......

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Ive been let down loads must be my fat arse lol "

i very much doubt anyone would let down that ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's something you are doing.

No offence but the chances of getting 20 male timewasters in one month seems incredibly slim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been let down loads must be my fat arse lol "

thats not a fat ass !!! and I should know lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"So should we have a name and shame section on here ?"

But you 2 said you were coming up to mine last night and I waited in for you and sadly you didn't show up. Would have been nice if you had actually sent me a text or called me to say you weren't going to show up!

Of course the above is all made up and has no truth to it whatsoever! But at least you can how easy it is for someone to make whatever they want up about anyone on here!

So to turn your question back onto you - "Should we have a name and shame section on here then?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to live in Littlehampton for many years .. shame I dont now.. 8(

Still visit freinds and family every couple years or so so will have to pop in and say hello.. 8)

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

In the several years that we've been swinging, we haven't had any 'no shows' - not one! Can't understand why someone would have so many - a 'scatter gun' approach may be? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had an evening meet arranged with a couple recently, during the day 2 other couples popped in for a cuppa during the day, during the conversation it turned out that the couple we had arranged to meet had already arranged a meet with one of the couples that had come round and tried to arrange a meet with the other couple, all for that evening, needless to say that they never turned up.

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By *arlot ScarlettWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"We had an evening meet arranged with a couple recently, during the day 2 other couples popped in for a cuppa during the day, during the conversation it turned out that the couple we had arranged to meet had already arranged a meet with one of the couples that had come round and tried to arrange a meet with the other couple, all for that evening, needless to say that they never turned up."

i got quite lost reading that but think i get it now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"We had an evening meet arranged with a couple recently, during the day 2 other couples popped in for a cuppa during the day, during the conversation it turned out that the couple we had arranged to meet had already arranged a meet with one of the couples that had come round and tried to arrange a meet with the other couple, all for that evening, needless to say that they never turned up.

i got quite lost reading that but think i get it now lol"

What bad luck eh? If I was a betting lady I just wonder what the odds would have been on something like that happening its incredible

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"We had an evening meet arranged with a couple recently, during the day 2 other couples popped in for a cuppa during the day, during the conversation it turned out that the couple we had arranged to meet had already arranged a meet with one of the couples that had come round and tried to arrange a meet with the other couple, all for that evening, needless to say that they never turned up.

i got quite lost reading that but think i get it now lol

What bad luck eh? If I was a betting lady I just wonder what the odds would have been on something like that happening its incredible "

It is incredible! I'd be gutted to be a 'just in case' booking!

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

In the 4 or 5 years we’ve been in this hobby we’ve had only one no-show and that was in the first few weeks and so we’ve no doubt in hindsight that it was our fault on the basis of a bad choice through lack of experience at the time.

Reality check up… 20 failures in one month, real world you’re not likely to get 20 genuine contacts in one month! No disrespect to the genuine single guys out there, we know for a fact that real players do exist but for every 100 new contacts that drop into our inbox only a small few will be the real deal. And out of those few there is still sexual interests/personality that may or may not match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is one of the problems, the couple who arranged a meet with 3 of us on the same night were new to the scene, yes they were probably just hedging thier bets and they did turn out to be genuine and regularly meet with one of the couples now, we did meet them some time later and they were certainly great social friends but we found ourselves to be incompatible sexually, (fancied Sasha not me who can fault them for that) so in the end nothing lost and was worth the effort because friends are actually hard to find than a nights playmates.

We are more carefull now when arranging meets with newbies because some will not realise just how small the world of swinging can be and do not realise the consequences of arranging meets but holding out for a better offer. Hopefully some will read this and learn from others mistakes including ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i honestly honestly honestly dont get this whole timewaster thing - are you just agreeing to meet everyone that messages you and then some of them not following through

i have been on here over a year and have had the grand total of 1 timewaster - and he was blocked and forgotten about within 10 mins

Your sentiments are the same as mine.

I've been swinging for three years and not once come across a timewaster!!

I always meet socially first, there have been times when I've not followed it up with a sexual meet, contacted by those that kept changing the meeting times and I decided not to bother continuing with, but never has someone agreed to meet and not turn up.

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Ive done the same, i think cancelling 3 times is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last Saturday, we had a meet arranged with a single guy who we'd chatted to on the phone and kept saying what a lovely genuine couple we were. About six in the evening Andy was having a quick look on here and happened to notice he had "looking to meet 10/7 anyone interested". Thought it was strange, so gave him a quick ring and said he was still at work, really tired but if we fancied a quick visit that would be OK. Needless to say we turned his very kind offer down!! He has on his profile "been let down so many times by timewasters". Now decided the only timewaster is him!!

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

I totally agree that the behaviour of some of these people is despicable. What I don’t get is why so many folks find it so surprising! People demanding standards from others that they fail to live up to themselves is commonplace in all walks of life. Double-standards, demanding the best behaviour from others while not having the scruples to live up to it themselves.

This might sound off topic but its not really…

I was in a shop buying something, I handed the girl a £5 note and she gave me change for a £10 note. I said, “Excuse me my dear, but you’ve given me the wrong change!” She was very apologetic no doubt assuming she had short changed me. She was delighted but surprised when I explained the error. But that’s not the point of this story, the shocker for me was the 5 people stood behind me muttering and shaking their heads, “You fool, why didn’t you keep the money?” And so I asked them, “Oh so it would be ok for me to take £5 out of your wage packet would it? Having what you might consider as an excuse for being a thief doesn’t make you any less a thief” at which point I left the shop half expecting to be thumped before I reached my car but no one offered any defence at all!

These same types of people will make solid arrangements with one person/couple and will stand by it… provided they don’t get a better offer. A lot of the so-called single guys will turn up… if the wife lets them out, and so it goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TIMEWASTERS

heres what you do. if you know 2 timewasters you tell them to meet you . you turn up they dont turn up so that means they have let each other down SIMPLES lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been stood up around 4 times by people who we have messaged, chatted to on the phone and so on ,right down to the last half and hour and be stood up, and get really stupid excuses on ocasion ,or none at all, we went to Herne bay the other day to meet a woman wo told us shed be there from 5.30 on and we got stood up, worse is when you go to al lthe trouble of sorting the house, buying in food and drink, getting really dolled up , sorted the kids and get excited ,then let down last minute, its not nice and can cost money too, but..generally on here we have had some great meets mainly and had great phone with great people, sadly some people do this ,I dont know wat kind of a kick they get out of it, as it does not take much to text or call if its a genuine reason ,and is understood. naming and shaming is tempting but as said above can be used wrongly, althogh it would be nice if we had a crystal ball to know beforehand. these people dont deserve to be on the site ,doing this to people, why do it to poeple they do not know or have no reason to do it too?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been let down on here but on other places lots of times, get some strange mail and a few nasty ones but never have any of the ppl on here let me down I must be one of the lucky ones x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody on here has had timewasters at some time.. i suggest u only have contact with peeps who are photo verified. Can't fake that. Lot of fakes on here with ''verified genuine profile''.

No phone call,no cam,no facepic.. not real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everybody on here has had timewasters at some time.. i suggest u only have contact with peeps who are photo verified. Can't fake that. Lot of fakes on here with ''verified genuine profile''.

No phone call,no cam,no facepic.. not real"

We not been photo verified,but been verified genuine,does that mean were not real?

We have been let down once that was a few yrs back.. We seen to have a feeling if people are genuine or not after a couple of emails,and if someone contacts us with no pics they get deleted.

But even going on cam and chatting on phone does not stop timewasters,if people want to mess people around they will.

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

HI

we think alot of the time wasting is couple/ or should say people trying to edge their bets. So they arrange a meet in advnace then if they find someone more to there liking they go with them.

So each to the own. we are starting to swing more in clubs than other ways.

But still life a box of chocolates !!!!.

Know for find a meet for tonight .

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