FabSwingers.com forum: Repeat, Repeat, Regular,... Couple-dom

By *habs OP Man
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I guess this has been playing on my mind for longer than I care to admit, but why oh is that in this journey of playing, you meet some people, enjoy the time and choose to meet again (and again, and,... you get the picture)

... and then some people think "Oh, so you're a couple now".

This over time has gotten worse to the point (in my experience) anyone you meet twice is now "in process to becoming a couple". I just think "No genius, I just don't believe in one-offs unless mutually agreed".

Your thoughts?

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

Well I much prefer to have on-going meets (I still occasionally meet the first guy I ever played with almost 2 years ago) and have a "few"

"regulars"...some that I now regard as real friends as well as being playmates (and one who is most definitely my lover xxxx).

I have seem some pretty amazing relationships develop over the last year, some still happily swinging now as a couple...some who have flown the coop all loved up to concentrate on their relationship...and I think it's great...but it's not for me...I like being a swingle too much

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

well we started swinging 6 years ago,and still meet the very first couple we met,its a chemistry thing,some couples wev never met again and others on the odd occasion we will meet a couple after a year of not meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even in this alternative lifestyle Ahab some people like to "romantise" things.

Three of my playmates I've played with for over two years and will continue to do so until we stop enjoying each other,

One playmate is very special, we socialise and swing but we're not a couple, just two people that enjoy each others company in and out of bed and our frequent meets have turned us into very good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think that if you meet again its because it was good last time. It doesn't really matter though if you meet 1 or 20 times if its what you want. What ever you do you will always get people who like to label you so i wouldn't worry and enjoy having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA is what you need.

Friends who understand that's it's a mutual thing. I'm happy to treat the person special when with them, but when we go home, that's it till next time. A text hows things, when you free next is great, but don't think I would like to meet the same person weekly, monthly maybe

But you know, as others will say, you can do what you want, be what you want, if the other doesn't like it move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always played the same way...ongoing long term naughty friendships...suits me physically and emotionally..lol..but dont mind the occasional one off...

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have a few friends only that I have met a number of times but never had anyone express an opinion that we are a couple.

Maybe its someone expressing an opinion that your a couple and then mentioned it to someone else.... then people believe its true maybe...?

I would only ever team up with someone as in a couple if I was in a relationship with them.

Not that interested in meeting fook buddies really as prefer the chemistry of couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truth is some people think Labour are a great political party others think the Conservatives are.

Some people think that those who meet often are getting together for more than fun some don't

We are in the "oh look those two are getting on well" but don't think it's more than fun brigade, until someone tells us otherwise.

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By *habs OP Man
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

All appreciated comments, what really starts to concern me is when, people having seen you at one or two socials with Mr Y (or in my case, Miss X) respond to your offer to play with:

"Oh, but aren't you with Miss X? Shouldn't you be focussing on her?" (ie, they cant play with you now that you're "in a relationship" and shouldn't be playign with anyone else)

Well excuse me for stirring the hornets nest, BUT:

1) Surely its my choice who I choose to focus on at anyone time, as long as not being rude or disrespectful

2) Since when did attending a function with one person mean I'm exclusive to that person?

3) Even married couples play with others - its called swinging.

4) 2 public functions/parties/meets is all it takes?

Geeez!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You already know this but I'll reply anyway. I do prefer to meet the same people again and again. I enjoy building a rapport, getting to know what makes them tick and then making them tick time and time again. I get much more satisfaction out of that than I do meeting different men all the time.

I agree with you. In this scene, attending more than 1 event with the same person doesn't mean there's anything more to it than just two people enjoying each others company and that of others too.

I wonder if someone will accuse you of adultery after this weekend

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I guess this has been playing on my mind for longer than I care to admit, but why oh is that in this journey of playing, you meet some people, enjoy the time and choose to meet again (and again, and,... you get the picture)

... and then some people think "Oh, so you're a couple now".

Your thoughts?

I couldn't agree more. I like to meet people more than once... for me I feel the sex get's better the more you know another person's body and mind.

Yet I keep encountering people who think asking for a second meet either means you are going to stop meeting other people (unless they are in tow) or you are after setting up home together.

And fuck me if you try to actually talk to some of them between asking for a shag, the reactions that can spark

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"All appreciated comments, what really starts to concern me is when, people having seen you at one or two socials with Mr Y (or in my case, Miss X) respond to your offer to play with:

"Oh, but aren't you with Miss X? Shouldn't you be focussing on her?" (ie, they cant play with you now that you're "in a relationship" and shouldn't be playign with anyone else)

Well excuse me for stirring the hornets nest, BUT:

1) Surely its my choice who I choose to focus on at anyone time, as long as not being rude or disrespectful

2) Since when did attending a function with one person mean I'm exclusive to that person?

3) Even married couples play with others - its called swinging.

4) 2 public functions/parties/meets is all it takes?

Geeez!!!"

Oh you mean what others think.... ah fuck 'um.

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By *habs OP Man
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"All appreciated comments, what really starts to concern me is when, people having seen you at one or two socials with Mr Y (or in my case, Miss X) respond to your offer to play with:

"Oh, but aren't you with Miss X? Shouldn't you be focussing on her?" (ie, they cant play with you now that you're "in a relationship" and shouldn't be playign with anyone else)

Well excuse me for stirring the hornets nest, BUT:

1) Surely its my choice who I choose to focus on at anyone time, as long as not being rude or disrespectful

2) Since when did attending a function with one person mean I'm exclusive to that person?

3) Even married couples play with others - its called swinging.

4) 2 public functions/parties/meets is all it takes?

Geeez!!!

Oh you mean what others think.... ah fuck 'um."

I could, if thy didn't think I was loved up

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville

"All appreciated comments, what really starts to concern me is when, people having seen you at one or two socials with Mr Y (or in my case, Miss X) respond to your offer to play with:

"Oh, but aren't you with Miss X? Shouldn't you be focussing on her?" (ie, they cant play with you now that you're "in a relationship" and shouldn't be playign with anyone else)

Well excuse me for stirring the hornets nest, BUT:

1) Surely its my choice who I choose to focus on at anyone time, as long as not being rude or disrespectful

2) Since when did attending a function with one person mean I'm exclusive to that person?

3) Even married couples play with others - its called swinging.

4) 2 public functions/parties/meets is all it takes?

Geeez!!

Oh you mean what others think.... ah fuck 'um.

I could, if thy didn't think I was loved up

Ah but I thought you did love me! xx

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By *habs OP Man
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"All appreciated comments, what really starts to concern me is when, people having seen you at one or two socials with Mr Y (or in my case, Miss X) respond to your offer to play with:

"Oh, but aren't you with Miss X? Shouldn't you be focussing on her?" (ie, they cant play with you now that you're "in a relationship" and shouldn't be playign with anyone else)

Well excuse me for stirring the hornets nest, BUT:

1) Surely its my choice who I choose to focus on at anyone time, as long as not being rude or disrespectful

2) Since when did attending a function with one person mean I'm exclusive to that person?

3) Even married couples play with others - its called swinging.

4) 2 public functions/parties/meets is all it takes?

Geeez!!

Oh you mean what others think.... ah fuck 'um.

I could, if thy didn't think I was loved up

Ah but I thought you did love me! xx

Who says I don't, you sexy minx! xxx

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