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social first or straight into it????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well good evening peeps,hope your all well on this lazy sunday afternoon,now as you can all see im pretty new,now i think a good old natter and a social is very important before we get down to it lol,whats everyone's view on this??

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"Well good evening peeps,hope your all well on this lazy sunday afternoon,now as you can all see im pretty new,now i think a good old natter and a social is very important before we get down to it lol,whats everyone's view on this?? "

I'm with you on this.

I would much rather a social first, but appreciate its not always feasible

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I tend to encourage it, yes.

But I have just gone straight to meets if I've been chatting and messaging with folk before - but it is unusual.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think everyone should do what they're

most comfortable with. For us that's strictly social first for others it isn't. Both ways are fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always prefer a social myself. Very rare for me to 'get straight to it!'

xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've more often than not got straight to it. I think I've only had a couple of social meets

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If they're local I try and go for a social first. If they are not then I am happy to chat over a drink or two then, if we get on, get naked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social. I find getting straight to it a bit clinical. Each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to have the time to meet socially first but bearing in mind I can only really meet once a month there could be months between social meet and play meet....also I rarely meet anyone local. There aren't many guys willing to travel for hours for a quick drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social. I find getting straight to it a bit clinical. Each to their own though. "

Why does it need to be clinical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet in a public place first for a drink and chat but if we get on and both want to take things further I'd sooner play that meet than go home and arrange another time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like meeting for a drink with a view to playing that evening. Although, sometimes I do find some people so appealing that I just want them to take me straight to bed and fuck me. That almost never happens though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like meeting for a drink with a view to playing that evening. Although, sometimes I do find some people so appealing that I just want them to take me straight to bed and fuck me. That almost never happens though. "
omg!!!!!realy lol??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like meeting for a drink with a view to playing that evening. Although, sometimes I do find some people so appealing that I just want them to take me straight to bed and fuck me. That almost never happens though. omg!!!!!realy lol?? "

Yes, really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like meeting for a drink with a view to playing that evening. Although, sometimes I do find some people so appealing that I just want them to take me straight to bed and fuck me. That almost never happens though. omg!!!!!realy lol??

Yes, really. "
good girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find a quick half hour natter to break the ice then dive in, so many people wanna do socials but this isn't Facebook!! Were under no illusions we ain't gonna meet our new best mates on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve done both - but having said that if we play on first meet its after a good old chinwag first and previous to that there will have been messages and the girls have a phone chat xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We find a quick half hour natter to break the ice then dive in, so many people wanna do socials but this isn't Facebook!! Were under no illusions we ain't gonna meet our new best mates on here"
now this is very true, hmmmmm

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Social first. Meeting as a single female, its a safety thing. So a social in a public place, where if someone isn't what they say, then its easy and safe to leave.

Not saying I have never progressed on to play that same night from those socials, but its never to be expected.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

As a single fem, I always meet socially in a neutral place first. Only once have I broken my 'no sex on first meet rule' and I'm relieved to report it was great and I made a regular friend. Safety is my priority but I can see why other folk do things differently

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By *ne Fish Two FishCouple
over a year ago

London

Prefer to just meet,suck and swallow :P

not looking for new fb's etc.

just lots cum in my tummy

x emma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me... "

sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Prefer to just meet,suck and swallow :P

not looking for new fb's etc.

just lots cum in my tummy

x emma"
oooooooo

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

Think social good to break the ice everyone's got to feel comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody is different. I usually have a social first tho recently I have played on the same day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well good evening peeps,hope your all well on this lazy sunday afternoon,now as you can all see im pretty new,now i think a good old natter and a social is very important before we get down to it lol,whats everyone's view on this?? "

I'm assuming you're only looking for social meets when you have a hotel room I'm manchester next month then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...

sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all"
i 100% agree with you on this one,i found this out for myself allready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well good evening peeps,hope your all well on this lazy sunday afternoon,now as you can all see im pretty new,now i think a good old natter and a social is very important before we get down to it lol,whats everyone's view on this??

I'm assuming you're only looking for social meets when you have a hotel room I'm manchester next month then?"

In manchester.....not I'm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...

sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all"

Yeah fair comment, I must have been very lucky over the years then, there's only been one occasion when a lady has gone home empty handed. That was more to do with rushing through my emails and invited the wrong one over. She had the personally of a wilting shrub.. Bye ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...

sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all

Yeah fair comment, I must have been very lucky over the years then, there's only been one occasion when a lady has gone home empty handed. That was more to do with rushing through my emails and invited the wrong one over. She had the personally of a wilting shrub.. Bye ha "

I don't think you've been lucky you've obviously got a system that works. I've been caught out once in 3 years and that was because I rushed into a meet. I've never done it since. It has nothing to do with luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And if its a couple im going to meet its a very good idea to chat to both party's iv'e also been caught out there too lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've unfortunately sent a few home and left places due to not having the connection. I do regret that. I will always social first now, unless I've skyped or spoken on the phone and got to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social. I find getting straight to it a bit clinical. Each to their own though. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social. I find getting straight to it a bit clinical. Each to their own though.

Why does it need to be clinical?"

Mine are far from clinical lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to it it's a swinging site not a dating site all here for one thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first for me too. Although I have broken my rules on occasion and got down and dirty on the first meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Straight to it it's a swinging site not a dating site all here for one thing "
very very true,but i think we all need to think about who we are about to meet,safety comes first in my book,and im a lion lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not too fussed about a social, some people I am hoping to meet I love talking too but sometimes I just want a fuck and inviting someone over for only that is all I want, am sure a social meet would just piss me off at these times. In fact anyone who implies they wanna fuck me and doesn't do it pisses me off and I'm figuring out who are the time wasters and who aren't now.

I don't mean socials are time wasters, just like some people say they wanna meet when really they only want to cam or trade pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight to it it's a swinging site not a dating site all here for one thing very very true,but i think we all need to think about who we are about to meet,safety comes first in my book,and im a lion lol "

I only meet with verified people or at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first definitely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Straight to it it's a swinging site not a dating site all here for one thing very very true,but i think we all need to think about who we are about to meet,safety comes first in my book,and im a lion lol

I only meet with verified people or at clubs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first generally but there have been notable exceptions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first generally but there have been notable exceptions "
any exceptions here lol??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social. I find getting straight to it a bit clinical. Each to their own though.

Why does it need to be clinical?

Mine are far from clinical lol "

That was exactly my point. Those if us that don't meet socially first are always made to feel that we aren't selective, that we will fuck anyone but actually I think we are probably more likely to get it right and take our time, and be more vigilante than those that social first. And it really pisses me off how judgemental some can be with their comments. And another thing....nah, I'm done!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We count the 10-30 minutes or so chatting before we all get naked as our social

Obviously because we meet as a couple I am very relaxed that I can meet this way. If I were a single woman I would be only meeting in clubs or in a public place for safety reasons.

In this lifestyle everyone will find their own way to meet and I do think that all views are valid and acceptable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found through swinging that most real single women have been left on the shelf for a very good reason, best not get to "social" or its boiled bunny time! Fuck ' em , forget 'em, move on. Or just stick to normal people. Men! No offence you nutters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done both...it depends on who I'm meeting and in what circumstances!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first (and only meet off here) was a drink in town, then he invited me to his where we got naughty. Was bloody nice though xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My first (and only meet off here) was a drink in town, then he invited me to his where we got naughty. Was bloody nice though xx"
can i take you for a drink lok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have found through swinging that most real single women have been left on the shelf for a very good reason, best not get to "social" or its boiled bunny time! Fuck ' em , forget 'em, move on. Or just stick to normal people. Men! No offence you nutters! "

That's a pretty insulting response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet locally and always meet socially first for many reasons. I have met in hotels and gone straight to the room but a couple of meets I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me it was that bad. Some people look nothing like their pics having used old ones when they were younger or slimmer etc and if I don't click or feel comfortable then I wouldn't go further. Having said that, if both parties are happy, I'd play after although most we organise a play meet for another time.

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

Prefer a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A drink or several before getting down to it. Nothing like a bit of alcohol to ratchet up the anticipation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With single men 99% of the time it's straight in. With couples, usually a social and second meet to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first & then if you don't click it's easy just to have a drink & go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first & then if you don't click it's easy just to have a drink & go."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first & then if you don't click it's easy just to have a drink & go."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, cos no matter how much you get along with a person via text there maybe no chemistry on the meet...

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By *ackandruinCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Always social first to make sure we all get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're both social people so that's how we roll.

We tried a spur of the moment play meet once and just didn't like it. It felt cold and mechanical, no real spark as we were into the swing so to speak.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Done both...it depends on who I'm meeting and in what circumstances!"

This

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By *ptowncoupleCouple
over a year ago

Sutton


"We find a quick half hour natter to break the ice then dive in, so many people wanna do socials but this isn't Facebook!! Were under no illusions we ain't gonna meet our new best mates on herenow this is very true, hmmmmm "

We agree with this. Also don't get enough opportunities to play so definetly no time for socials. Only one disappointment and that was because we didn't spend enough time chatting on cam as it was a short notice meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're both social people so that's how we roll.

We tried a spur of the moment play meet once and just didn't like it. It felt cold and mechanical, no real spark as we were into the swing so to speak."

Just because someone doesn't do social meets it doesn't mean they are spur of the moment meets with random people. Why is this so difficult for people to understand????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well good evening peeps,hope your all well on this lazy sunday afternoon,now as you can all see im pretty new,now i think a good old natter and a social is very important before we get down to it lol,whats everyone's view on this?? "

a club bit of chat then bang into it

if i reply to a meet listing the same

or its social maybe play or social no play

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Social first for me....I have to really feel the mutual attraction.

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