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Being owned and ownership

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By *ogamuffin OP   Man
over a year ago

slough

Morning all you sexy fabsters.

Just wanted to hear about your _iews of ownership and being owned.

What exactly does it entail?

What aspects do you like about it?

How do you go about being owned?

What should the partner be feeling, and how to make them feel that way.

I've seen a few pictures whereby the lady has writing across them.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Having seen people post on this subject over the years, I still don't understand it. Each to their own thou..

But I think, my personal opinion and mine alone with no other influence.... but mine alone

I think it's daft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Google it

I loved being owned, a sense of protection, affection and never felt like I was being forced into anything.

Still got my collar and padlocks but no master *sniffles*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am owned in the bedroom but out of it I'm a very independent woman x xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am owned in the bedroom but out of it I'm a very independent woman x xx"

that's how its done..ownership is for cars and houses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am owned in the bedroom but out of it I'm a very independent woman x xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its good to have someone making decisions for you ...as long as you Totally trust them and they respect you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a complex subject for so early in the morning.

In my humble opinion it is about acceptance. In the off site world where a threesome is defined as kinky, the complex interactions of a sub/dom relationship is missed for the Sunday Sport Miss Whiplash headlines.

A good sub will be exercising ultimate control. The trust of a sub has to be earnt. Equally a Dom can only work within the limits dictated by the sub.

As with anything there are limits and levels. I enjoy exercising control, I enjoy being controlled. I also am incapable of causing pain... so a lady asking me to spank them raw is going to be sadly disappointed. But then tgat is only an aspect of some peoples play!

Sorry, what was the question again?

Ah yes. I like a bit of tie and tease with trusted friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why anyone would want to be owned but I guess it's because I'm not that type of person who would thrive on it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nah....not my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our relationship is based on mutual equality and respect.

We discuss everything and make joint decisions. This way neither of us feel we are manipulated into doing things we really dont want or like.

We dont understand or like Sub/Dom inflicting pain or the like but there are many whose boat it floates. Good luck to those.

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By *ogamuffin OP   Man
over a year ago

slough

Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am owned in the bedroom but out of it I'm a very independent woman x xx"

Absolutely this. In the bedroom I have to trust you enough to hand over all control, but when I do it's all yours.

But my day to day self I own myself, my own life and own all my own decisions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular."

I Don't think you do understand the Dom/Sub relationship, they should never be forced into doing something they dont want to do.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask the person themselves because there are different ways of being owned.

My x just wanted me to own him sexually, but another wanted me to tell him how to dress and choose how we spent our time together and asked for permission to do anything, most if them enjoy humiliation and think their master ( in my case mistress or goddess) is perfect who can do no wrong so there is a high degree of responsibility here and exploitation if that could lead to your sub becoming depressed and you have to ensure their needs are met as well as your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen womens profiles stating that they are owned by certain men and mens profiles staing they own certain women,a lot of the time I think its just sexual territory marking and not a proper relationship at all,so I have no respect for them as I would for a couple that have chosen that lifestyle

A few weeks down the line they're usually owned by someone else anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant of and not if in last reply a cpl of times

What I like about it? Being worshipped and treated like I actually matter (as a mum of 4 this is important sometimes). And it's horny as fuck seeing your partner so turned on, my subs tend to be way more expressive than regular meets.

There also has to be a huge amount of trust for me to be able to play this way with someone coz I would feel awful if I messed with anyone's head by accident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have an owner/ owned relationship, we have a dom/ sub relationship which is completely different

Some people get confused between the two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

I Don't think you do understand the Dom/Sub relationship, they should never be forced into doing something they dont want to do.

Gimp "

Maybe missed the point about a sub offering submission, assuming the dom just takes it?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"We don't have an owner/ owned relationship, we have a dom/ sub relationship which is completely different

Some people get confused between the two "

What is the difference in your _iew??

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By *ogamuffin OP   Man
over a year ago

slough


"We don't have an owner/ owned relationship, we have a dom/ sub relationship which is completely different

Some people get confused between the two

What is the difference in your _iew??"

Well hence the reason I was saying that boundaries can soon become blurred lines.

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By *ogamuffin OP   Man
over a year ago

slough


"Ask the person themselves because there are different ways of being owned.

My x just wanted me to own him sexually, but another wanted me to tell him how to dress and choose how we spent our time together and asked for permission to do anything, most if them enjoy humiliation and think their master ( in my case mistress or goddess) is perfect who can do no wrong so there is a high degree of responsibility here and exploitation if that could lead to your sub becoming depressed and you have to ensure their needs are met as well as your own."

Absolutely, will be asking explicitly what they want and looking for as to cater for everyones needs.

Its also about ensuring everyone involved is happy as well.

Thanks for the replies guys, keep them coming.

Any more

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"All your base are belong to us"

Ha, you just got pwned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Absolutely, will be asking explicitly what they want and looking for as to cater for everyones needs.

Its also about ensuring everyone involved is happy as well.

Thanks for the replies guys, keep them coming.

Any more"

Also ask if there's anything they don't like or any words they don't like to be used on them, you could use a safety word but if your sub goes into subspace then they will tune out and might forget to use a safety word or do something they never wanted to do (have had this happen with my ex and myself once).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular."

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no."

wouldn't be intrested in being either not for us im afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no."
I agree, the ones that tell you, that you should do as your told, without speaking boundaries, are, plastic and in for self gratification to me.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no.I agree, the ones that tell you, that you should do as your told, without speaking boundaries, are, plastic and in for self gratification to me.

Her"

I hate the men that, after I've told them I have a master "oh I'm your master now", "Erm no you're not, jog on little boy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no.I agree, the ones that tell you, that you should do as your told, without speaking boundaries, are, plastic and in for self gratification to me.

Her

I hate the men that, after I've told them I have a master "oh I'm your master now", "Erm no you're not, jog on little boy" "

we had some dope telling me he owns my wife,never even spoken to him or met him neither had the wife or plan to some ppl are just fucking retarded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no.I agree, the ones that tell you, that you should do as your told, without speaking boundaries, are, plastic and in for self gratification to me.

Her

I hate the men that, after I've told them I have a master "oh I'm your master now", "Erm no you're not, jog on little boy" "
yes they think they are your master, after a few messages, or when when it suits, proberly master to loads, how can you possibly take someone serious when they are like that.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no fucker owns me or ever will and I don't want to own anyone either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no fucker owns me or ever will and I don't want to own anyone either"

We don't want to own you just want to meet you lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no.I agree, the ones that tell you, that you should do as your told, without speaking boundaries, are, plastic and in for self gratification to me.

Her

I hate the men that, after I've told them I have a master "oh I'm your master now", "Erm no you're not, jog on little boy" yes they think they are your master, after a few messages, or when when it suits, proberly master to loads, how can you possibly take someone serious when they are like that.

Her"

Exactly! Absolutely ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies.

I understand about dom/sub relationships, but that's different, cause your effectively forcing someone to do something they don't want to.

But being owned is different, cause its about the person being with me and not there partner surely.

I guess this is where boundaries start to become blurred lines between, master/slave, sub/dom and being owned.

I've been in and experienced master/slave orelationships before, but wanted to know about owning in particular.

You do know a Dom does not force a sub to do anything???? A sub has the right to say no.I agree, the ones that tell you, that you should do as your told, without speaking boundaries, are, plastic and in for self gratification to me.

Her

I hate the men that, after I've told them I have a master "oh I'm your master now", "Erm no you're not, jog on little boy" yes they think they are your master, after a few messages, or when when it suits, proberly master to loads, how can you possibly take someone serious when they are like that.

Her"

Exactly! Absolutely ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no fucker owns me or ever will and I don't want to own anyone either

We don't want to own you just want to meet you lol x"

ooh shucks ty,,maybe waybe,,send a face piccy

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