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What a Waste of Make Up ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have never understood the mentality of the timewaster ...

They are part and parcel of every contact site and out of necessity I have come to accept they are always going to be there ....

However, yesterday they managed to excel all expectations ....

I had arranged a gangbang meet on this site ... according to replies I was expecting over twenty guys, who seemed genuine in their initial message.

To try and out the timewasters I direct them to my partner who gives details .... (and to try and stop anyone engaging in cybersex) ...

These guys contacted my partner and all said they would be there. The instructions were clear ... phone on the morning before 11 so we know you are coming ....

Now I anticipated a call off percentage .... thinking we may get 5-6 guys.

One guy phoned before the time, two guys sent apologies via e-mail in advance and one guy phoned after 12 aparantly on route ....

The rest just vanished ....

What is your worst experience of timewasters?

I'd also like to know if this phenomenon is more prevaillant in Scotland or if it happens everywhere?

SIGH! At least I got to keep my virginity ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they cried of because they didnt speak to you,maybe thinking that you are the timewaster?

In our experiance you need to invite a lot more guys that you want to attend so if you want 10 guys to show we would invite at least 20..

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We had far more than twenty ... who said they were coming.

Not guys who contact me and then take no further action ... they declare they will be there.

The phone number is handed out at that stage to call on the Monday for them to speak and verify it is on.

Unfortunately we don't get to find out what the reasons are .... because they simply don't call ...

It sounds as though you have had more success through the site though ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pitty you live so far away,there is a couple on here who are holding a tv/ts gangbang at Blackpool on wed,ive seen it advertised in the meets forum x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did see that ....

But I assumed it was to gangbang that particular TV ....

We have had parties in the past ... and yes there are always call offs, and always timewasters but this is the first time we have tried using this site and this is by far the biggest disappointment .... given the Seemingly genuine interest expressed in advance ...

Perhaps Scotland is more prone to this ...

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

until very recently we have never had any trouble in arrangeing meets, this last month its seems to be really bad.

We give out phone number - emails etc, and try to avoid the usual pitfalls, however recently its gotten really bad, now we will only meet verified people and have started meeting at ours, so if they dont show at least we havent driven god knows how far!

I dont think it has anything to do with location,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a similar experience, so we are no longer going to advertise for single guys, and now they are blocked from messaging us too.

The last 5 were no shows, or cancelled last minute.

We thought we had selected them carefully too, all were verified, one is a regular poster in here, lol. One guy had been in regular contact with us for over a year, by MSN, email, text, mobile phone, etc, but must have got cold feet at the last minute.

The last single guy we played with though, was a true star, and got together with a mutual lady friend to keep me occupied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly what you mean. It's so annoying for us single guys who really are genuine, and who are prepared to travel long distances to meet a genuine and honest couple, for a social or for fun.

A plea from me....please don't rule out ALL us single guys, as some of us really are genuine and nice guys. Well I know I am. My verifications show I will travel and actually turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been swinging for three years and never had a no show!!

I always meet socially first, one of my social meets was on the morning commute...still makes me tingle he was soooooo nervous, could feel him shaking - lol - !

OP you seem to have done all you can to mitigate timewasters: nothing more you could have done.

Look forward...hopefully better luck next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a noshow.

Here's a thought, maybe you get some becuase men "think" they can deal with a TV/TS etc etc, it's a fantasy, but as it gets closer, it scares them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a couple disappear on me!

Meeting was arranged (I was travelling to the area) several e mails through the site. On the way I had their mobile number changed on me twice. I rang both numbers only for them to go straight to the network answer phone. I even sat in the pub just in case they turned up.

Nothing.

Goes both ways I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt it's just Scotland and I doubt it's you.

I went to a meet where a largeish group was supposed to be turning up - but there was just two of us in the end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were contacted by cpl who wanted to meet us , we arranged time n date . then got message to ring his mobile to confirm . when did he said he knew nothing about us or who we were . later that night we got call to say sorry did'nt realise who we were could we ring them next day. this we did to be told they did'nt know us again . that night call again to say they wanted to meet. just told them not to bother. had another cpl wanted to meet , again time place n date arranged . sent them message to tell what we would be driving n wearing . how would we know them . no reply ,sent again 4 more times wit no reply . so , sent message saying we could not go if they would not tell us how to reconise them . never heard from them again n they still on here . perhaps a hall of shame would stop it .

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By *riapus4uMan
over a year ago

Charlestown, Cornwall

No wonder us genuine guy's on the site have such a hard time here on Fab, when others behave badly & therfore we all get tarred with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry this isnt about post but am sure someone will answer question for me i read a lot of post but never know what OP means i know prob a silly question but its only silly cos i dont know answer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never understood the mentality of the timewaster ...

They are part and parcel of every contact site and out of necessity I have come to accept they are always going to be there ....

However, yesterday they managed to excel all expectations ....

I had arranged a gangbang meet on this site ... according to replies I was expecting over twenty guys, who seemed genuine in their initial message.

To try and out the timewasters I direct them to my partner who gives details .... (and to try and stop anyone engaging in cybersex) ...

These guys contacted my partner and all said they would be there. The instructions were clear ... phone on the morning before 11 so we know you are coming ....

Now I anticipated a call off percentage .... thinking we may get 5-6 guys.

One guy phoned before the time, two guys sent apologies via e-mail in advance and one guy phoned after 12 aparantly on route ....

The rest just vanished ....

What is your worst experience of timewasters?

I'd also like to know if this phenomenon is more prevaillant in Scotland or if it happens everywhere?

SIGH! At least I got to keep my virginity ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx"

i know where your coming from, ive always fancied an arranged gang bang, ive done a few in clubs but i never seem to relax and enjoy them in clubs as im to busy keeping an eye out for whos joining in and saying no to guys i dont like, cant have one at home because im a single mother and i just think its wise to be handing my address out to loads of guys on sex site

Anyway met a guy off here who after talking and saying what we liked etc told me i could hold a gang bang at his place and that he would help arrange it bingo i thought lol so we settled on asking around 15 guys knowing some wouldnt come, put up the thread, went thro the replys, went thro pics, mailed everyone back, called those i have chosen etc

And on the day 2 turned up and out of the other 13 only 1 bothered to get in touch to say he wasnt coming now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry this isnt about post but am sure someone will answer question for me i read a lot of post but never know what OP means i know prob a silly question but its only silly cos i dont know answer lol"

Original Poster,person who started the thread x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never understood the mentality of the timewaster ...

They are part and parcel of every contact site and out of necessity I have come to accept they are always going to be there ....

However, yesterday they managed to excel all expectations ....

I had arranged a gangbang meet on this site ... according to replies I was expecting over twenty guys, who seemed genuine in their initial message.

To try and out the timewasters I direct them to my partner who gives details .... (and to try and stop anyone engaging in cybersex) ...

These guys contacted my partner and all said they would be there. The instructions were clear ... phone on the morning before 11 so we know you are coming ....

Now I anticipated a call off percentage .... thinking we may get 5-6 guys.

One guy phoned before the time, two guys sent apologies via e-mail in advance and one guy phoned after 12 aparantly on route ....

The rest just vanished ....

What is your worst experience of timewasters?

I'd also like to know if this phenomenon is more prevaillant in Scotland or if it happens everywhere?

SIGH! At least I got to keep my virginity ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

i know where your coming from, ive always fancied an arranged gang bang, ive done a few in clubs but i never seem to relax and enjoy them in clubs as im to busy keeping an eye out for whos joining in and saying no to guys i dont like, cant have one at home because im a single mother and i just think its wise to be handing my address out to loads of guys on sex site

Anyway met a guy off here who after talking and saying what we liked etc told me i could hold a gang bang at his place and that he would help arrange it bingo i thought lol so we settled on asking around 15 guys knowing some wouldnt come, put up the thread, went thro the replys, went thro pics, mailed everyone back, called those i have chosen etc

And on the day 2 turned up and out of the other 13 only 1 bothered to get in touch to say he wasnt coming now "

There are a few gangbang groups in the NW we have met so would say to the OP maybe have a look see if there are any closer to you,there will be one guy who organises it,you tell him what you will or wont do and numbers he gets the guys,this way the guys all know each other and they will turn up x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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i know where your coming from, ive always fancied an arranged gang bang, ive done a few in clubs but i never seem to relax and enjoy them in clubs as im to busy keeping an eye out for whos joining in and saying no to guys i dont like, cant have one at home because im a single mother and i just think its wise to be handing my address out to loads of guys on sex site

Anyway met a guy off here who after talking and saying what we liked etc told me i could hold a gang bang at his place and that he would help arrange it bingo i thought lol so we settled on asking around 15 guys knowing some wouldnt come, put up the thread, went thro the replys, went thro pics, mailed everyone back, called those i have chosen etc

And on the day 2 turned up and out of the other 13 only 1 bothered to get in touch to say he wasnt coming now "

Well perhaps this is part of it ....

It's true many guys may get excited at a meet ...

being a T-girl as suggested may be part of the reason that they suddenly realise they don't want to go through with ....

and from your story it sounds like a gangbang has the same effect ... guys like the idea but perhaps realising they will be in a room full of other guys sets in and they get scared.

I suppose I am asking them to put the two together ....

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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There are a few gangbang groups in the NW we have met so would say to the OP maybe have a look see if there are any closer to you,there will be one guy who organises it,you tell him what you will or wont do and numbers he gets the guys,this way the guys all know each other and they will turn up x"

Now this sounds like a plan ...

Without wishing to seem like a total plum ... where does one start looking to find such a person ...

Other than perhaps a message in these forums .... ?

Kirsty

xxx xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For most guys I have found they like the idea of it and the chase but when it comes to actually doing the deed they bottle it. And this really pisses me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put an add up in meets section see what happens,we were approached by these guys and its so much easier having someone else orgainise it and you are guarenteed the guys will actually turn up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For most guys I have found they like the idea of it and the chase but when it comes to actually doing the deed they bottle it. And this really pisses me off."

That winds me up too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For most guys I have found they like the idea of it and the chase but when it comes to actually doing the deed they bottle it. And this really pisses me off."

thats just part of swinging generally, not just gang bangs i think, a lot of men (and i can only speak for men as i only meet men tho im sure women and couples do it too) just like the idea of it, talking about it, the chase etc but when it comes to the meeting they bottle it, i have has so many last min cancellations for just 1 on 1 meets, a lot cant even go thro with that

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

to someone who asked what op is, opening post or poster

I guess the t girl thing, and the guys thinking they will be loads of other guys is pretty scary for some, hence the dropping out.

I dont think gang bangs are my thing, so i dont say im going to go to one, same with t girls

last girl i met up with wanted to pull out cos it was raining, ofcourse by the time we actully met it was dry :D

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


"For most guys I have found they like the idea of it and the chase but when it comes to actually doing the deed they bottle it. And this really pisses me off.

thats just part of swinging generally, not just gang bangs i think, a lot of men (and i can only speak for men as i only meet men tho im sure women and couples do it too) just like the idea of it, talking about it, the chase etc but when it comes to the meeting they bottle it, i have has so many last min cancellations for just 1 on 1 meets, a lot cant even go thro with that "

I recently did a porn shoot with a lady a couple of years older than me. She has trouble getting men to turn up for shoots too, especially if it`s a group thing with more than one guy attaending. She also does escorting but has little trouble with no-shows when escorting!

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